Lover and spouse related guilt.If you loved me"guilt is one way to manipulate a lover.the tactic is particularly when one wants to punish a partner for some particular behavior.asif love were contingent upon the right kind of behavior.whenever one person does’t measure up,guilt can be used to get him back in to the fold,He must feel guilty having not loved the other.grudges,long silances,hurtful looks are useful methods to engendering guilt.’i am not talking to you,that’s fix you" or don"t come near me,how do you expect me to be loving after what you have done?’This is a commonaly applied tactic in the case of straying behvior onthe part on e partner.
After ,years of an incident,an action is recalled to to help the other person to choose present-moment guilt"but don"t forget what you did in 1951’"how could i ever trust you again,when you let me down before?’in this way one partner manipulate other"s present with referrances to the past.if partner has forgetten it,other can periodically bring it up to keep the guilt feeling about the past behavior current.
Guilt is useful in making a love partner conform to the other’s demands and standared of behavior.’ifyou were responsible,you would have called me’ it"s the third time i have to empty the garbage",i guess you you just refus e to do ur share"the goal?getting one partner to do what other wants him to .the method guilt.
so chowies be aware ,let not ur partner produced guilt in you.
you should know how to foil the attempts.