Letting go of an argument

It is much better to let go of an argument when it is clear that there will be no solution. Whatever we do, we do for some positive outcome, but if there is no positive outcome there is no point continuing our struggle. Being determined is good but it simply does not make sense if it could damage a relationship, after all that wasn’t the objective of the determination.

An excerpt from an article at BeliefNet.com:

"In my self-righteous fury, I could see that I was indulging in the same kind of judgment I was condemning in others. ...The game of tug-of-war involves two sides pulling on a rope as hard as they can, with each side trying to topple the other. To win, you can either pull the rope hard enough to drag your opponent over to your side—or you can let go of the rope at the peak of the contest, when both sides are straining as hard as they can in opposite directions. Then your opponent goes flying, because your resistance was what was holding him up. ...My struggle doesn’t weaken my opponent’s position—it supports it."