a confident you

What’s the most important thing after all your basic amenities… when you’ve got everything you’ve ever wanted, there’s just one thing that keeps you going.. Confidence!
Ideally all textbooks mention and strongly recommend the need for confidence in our daily lives. It’s only recently that we’ve associated it with every aspect of our lifestyles. Confidence at work for example deals with you stringently hanging in there with your morals and be persistent at it! While we’ve noticed that there are a number of people who understand that you need diplomacy in every field that you are in; boosting your confidence levels is one thing that is equally important.

Confidence and Change
Accepting the routines and the professional jealousy that we have to combat in our lives at work, it’s equally important to note that our seniors have this knack of superseding your existence, and shaking your morale. If you’ve ever noticed, you’ll find that every working person while climbing the professional ladder is placed with responsibilities and additional responsibilities as you climb higher! Most text books invite managers to take the rough path in demeaning their subordinates.

You’d notice that secretaries often feel low and there is a higher case of burn out in their jobs as along with the pay package, they seem to get lost in the crowd of their seniors. Of course the times have changed and managers understand that IQ is equally important as is EQ, but there is little that they can do.

Most seniors are dumped with responsibilities that they cannot manage. With a view to make them feel that their positions are solidified, they are given ample powers so that they don’t recognize the immense pressure that they are into. What keeps them going is just one pill; Confidence.

In the search for the perfect job, one often realizes that to make your life less miserable that it already is, its important that we take the garb of being confident. What may seem as a stoic exterior may be a shattering soul inside, but the only way to keep yourself alive in this situation, is to maintain your cool and feel confident. It’s interesting to note that many of the presentations made by experts in their fields, are painstakingly rehearsed time and again and the minute they reach the platform, they excel in everything, except that scarce confidence.

Accepting the new demands in your job can jitter you initially, but what really keeps you going is the belief in yourself that you can make it happen. This belief comes to the fore when you are confident. Most classes, especially public speaking classes make you memorize two things. One that you need to learn to relax, and the other; keep repeating to yourself that "You Can"!

Optimism at work also helps. An easier way around maintaining optimism is to have friends who are largely liked by many around the organization. Developing a hobby and perhaps pursuing it religiously also enhances your confidence. Most working people don’t have the time to develop their hobbies. Observing someone who has makes them appreciative of you, thereby making you feel great and confident that you have an edge over most people.

Try and learn from your past experiences; both good and bad! While most of us tend to brood over spilt milk, its better to analyze them again and try to develop confidence in oneself that you have come through with the knowledge that makes you stronger. It’s a lot easier said than done, I agree but its best if you could make an attempt. Remember avoiding challenges and situations are signs of poor confidence levels.
Some factors of poor confidence can be enlisted as follows:

* Thinking negatively can act as the foremost barrier in our success. You need to dream to make your dream come true. By the fear of failure, you only thrash the dream before even beginning to achieve it. Perish the negative thoughts that you are likely to succumb to!

* Most cases of attitude and pride emerge from a low self esteem. Feeling jealous of someone especially those that have so far succeeded can make one’s esteem really lo and can cause serious connotations. Suicide cases erupt from the fear of rejection.

* Start early in life.
Begin with getting up early. You might feel it’s a silly thing to do, but you’ll realize that you can achieve so much and plan well in advance. This planning may include what you wish to do in life or even planning the day. Once your plans are made, all you need is to implement them. To be a perfectionist and therefore successful, all you need is to be a great planner.

Remember; in any situation, be the first to attack and hit hard. A simple self defense principle like this one can be your mantra for life. You might not feel all that good and might have this hindering fear for being the worst, but the pretensions that everything will be to your liking; the perseverance and belief that you will excel, is what makes you confident and a winner all the way!