Heidi Fleiss and Shahrukh Khan – Spot the Difference!

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#58,59,60,61,62 and 63...;))

LOL...was wondering how long Salim the Mouse`s lovefest with Editor-in-Chief would last!

Not too long, as it turned out.

And what the hell...the one post where I say something nice about Pakis gets filtered out? FV must be a closet Hindutvawadi after all...

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Brilliant!

Vikash

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Two bits of news that make one wonder how alone people really are.I am putting this up here because it has some relevance to how single women cope...

Hindi cinema`s veteran actress Nadira died a lonely woman. She essayed mainly strong characters -- they call those vamps, don`t they? -- and smoked and took the initiative with men on screen. For her time, she seemed way ahead.

She lived pretty much on her own terms. Or did she? She had an independent mind, but how often she spoke about her craving for a normal life.

Her brusque words may have hurt, but they were probably her only defence against a world that insinuates and sneaks up to you, and then tries to overwhelm you -- only to leave you stranded.

She did not complain. Even when she cried when prodded with questions in interviews, there was a silent strength in those tears. It takes courage to open yourself to such scrutiny.

She lived to be 74 despite all the daily battles she had to face, mainly with herself. That is bravery in my book.

Just when this news had sunk in, I read about TV actress Kuljeet Randhawa committing suicide. I have probably seen her face in commercials, but I cannot remember her in any serial.

She left a note saying that she could not take the pressures of life anymore. She lived alone in Mumbai and they say that she was always very exuberant on the sets; others in the building where she lived say she was a recluse.

Again, two different persona. She has blamed no one for her death. She was over four decades younger than Nadira -- she probably fought her battles too, like all of us do. And one day she picked up a dupatta and hung herself from the ceiling fan.

I know very little about her. Had she dragged on her life for 40 more years would she have found happiness, companionship, love, success? Would she then be called brave by the likes of me? Does anyone know how to measure uncertainty?

ajiib daastaa.n hai ye
kahaa.N shuruu kahaa.N khatam
ye ma.nzile.n hai kaun sii
na voh samajh sake na ham

ye roshanii ke saath kyo.n
dhuaa.N uThaa chiraag se
ye Kvaab dekhatii huu.N mai.n
ke jag pa.Dii huu.N Kvaab se

kisiikaa pyaar leke tum
nayaa jahaa.n basaaoge
ye shaam jab bhii aaegii
tum hamako yaad aaoge
ajiib daastaa.n...

mubaarake.n tumhe.n ke tum
kisiike nuur ho gae
kisiike itane paas ho
ke sabase duur ho gae

ajiib daastaa.n hai ye
kahaa.N shuruu kahaa.N khatam

the strenght of characters is the key re#76. I lived life to the full (within her terms) and faced the consequences, the other could not take it any more. One led a full life within her terms and didnot blame anyone for it, the other lived her life (from what you say) on her terms but the death appears to balme the world for her inability to cope.

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[This article reeks of ``men are from Mars and women are from Venus`` syndrome, with a few well chosen bandages for the men.]

I do not subscribe to such pat definitions and destinations hardly ever direct you to a person`s thinking. However, there are certain vital differences between the genders and sexuality is one of them. Yes, I do ask too many questions because embedded in them are the answers -- and each one finds their own.

Re. your post #77, I do not want to get into details I have read about the suicide case, but even earlier a young model had killed herself. That case is in the courts because it was said that she did it due to a failed relationship.

Again, I will not sit in judgement, but men too have failed relationships. The reponses are invariably different. Men commit crimes of passion; women rarely, if ever, do. Men commit suicide when there are finanical problems or failure in job/education. (Girls too do so in the latter case because `tests` of any kind extract a huge premium.)

A woman who ends her life may not blame anyone, but does the environment not affect us, bludgeon us, force us into following rules?

Believe me, a daily battle is a war within oneself and very draining.

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