Taking the Lid off Sexual Fantasies

Re: # 56
Dear Dehliwala....SYBIL was an example of Multiple Personalities. It is not my area of

interest but I have met a few who had that diagnosis.

Thuaday dost dullabhatti di khwahish hay kay sadi dosti ho jaiy. tusi donon toronto aao

te mera ghar zaroor aana....

sincerely sohail

Re: # 58
Dear Atif 2...I feel after the discovery of contraceptive pill sex got dicvided in three groups

3 Rs...1...Reproductive...2....Relational (love)...3....Recreational

I feel each person is free to give meaning to his / her sexual behaviour. There are so many

slangs about sex that it is sometimes hard to know what someone means. For example in

English language when people say...sleeping together....last thing they do is sleep...smiles

sincerely sohail

Re: # 60

Dear Samanasha....I am sorry I did not understand your abbreviation...sincerely sohail

Re: # 59
dear kashmakash...thank you for being so honest. maybe you are one of the exceptions.

Obviously it depends upon what kind of females you encountered in your intimate life and

how ithey affected your fantasy life. You seem to have romantic nostalgia.

I just wanted to highlight that the fantasy life changes in immigrants after they move to

another culture. sincerely sohail

Re: # 52

rotfl

dakter saib, dakter saib, when I was in desi lands, my fantasies revolved around blondes wearing skirts. After coming to gora world and dating to dull skinned goris, i have wet dreams of brown skinned, completely dressed desi ladies. It is exactly opposite to what you mentioned? Any explanations...

Urstruly # 32 ``In this case, theoretically, if a boy is kept from any and all sexual stimulants, he should not have wet dreams.``

I second that theory. I have observed that the frequency of my wet dreams is directly proportional to the frequency of Catherine Zeta-Jones appearences on my TV.

Dr. Sahib, on a different note, is it healthy to find meanings in sex? Also, why is losing virginity defined as having sex that involves at least one other person?

Sohail ji, iss sardaar(dilliwale) nu tusi apna mareez...err....I mean mureed bana lao.:-)

Re: # 55
Good Point.

Do you ever work patients such as Sally Fields in a movie called ``SYBIL``?

Re: # 53

Dear dehliwala....I read Ayn Rand`s books a long time ago. I was new in Canada and I

found her writings quite interesting. If I remember correctly one of her books was

THE VIRTUEOF SELFISHNESS

and was promoting anarchist ideas. My article on human fantasies

applies to females as well as males. One difference I found was men`s fantasies were more

sexual and erotic while women`s fantasies were more about loving relationships. There was

more caring and nurturing and cuddling...than just sex.....as much foreplay and afterplay

as play. I suggest to my male patients to focus on candlelight dinners and dances alongside

the actual sexual act to win their sweetheart`s heart.... sincerely sohail

Re: # 52
Dr Sohail,
Actually I find you to be extremely interesting person.
Tussey pehle Pakistani ho jehnu es majmoon te doctoriayat karde hoye dekhya hai.

Sarrey tuahnu Tharkee akhdey si te mai kehnda si ke eho hi ek layak daakatar je.
Tussey Khamkahwa nu assistant le leyo, he is dying to be with you and check out your patient`s fantasies.

Re: # 52Have you Ayn Rand`s books Mr Sohail?

Also, why did you only focus on male fantasys, what about woman`s?

Re: # 50

sardar ji...tusi bohut interesting aadmi lagday o.

dear dehliwala!

You sound quite an interesting man. I do not feel comfortable discussing your personal

fantasies and dreams publicly. Thanks for reading my article and making your comments.

sincerely sohail

Re: # 50
Daktar babu,
why r u ignoring me?

Re: # 49
Dr Sohail,
I often fantasize about water-surfing with a Dog in front of people in Florida.
Is there anything wrong with that kind of fantasy?

Truth is that once I rented Water Jet Skis in Toledo, OH and I fell down real bad in Maumi river. At that time I did not even know how to swim. But then I learned how to swim and I tried the Jet Ski and I fell again. But I dont want to give up.
One Hindoo dream analyst told me that till I can master this art I would keep on fantasizing about it.

Any comments?

Re: # 48
dear urstruly.....you have an interesting question. It has been my observation that those

people who lead frustrating lives in reality have a tendency to compensate in their fantasy.

Last week someone shared with me that since he broke up with his girlfriend he has a ritual

of fantasizing and masturbating every night before he goes to sleep. My impression is that

when people have a healthy balance in their lives then the `addictive behaviour` takes a

healthy turn. Sometimes people need professional help but in many cases life experiences

can guide people back on the right track. Thanks for engaging in exciting dialogue. It is

unfortunate that many people are still uncomfortable with the subject and cannot discuss

such issues with their lovers and spouses.

sincerely sohail