Life Beyond Chores

Dawa ......i get your drift

dear married sisters...


we have made some boom in eceonmy by letting 50 % of population in "action"...

we have made some growth by letting women in "practical" field......

we have increased our some assets by leeting women to exercisre thier skills.....

but beleive me !!!!!!

we have ruined our generations......!!!!!!

the economy-loss can be recovered in 2 or 3 years........

but the loss of generation will take "generations"....!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


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come on the streets.....shouting for"rights" ...and "equality"...LOL...women want equality although they have a higher place then men in every aspect( do not talk about "utopia" Pakistan ...if women are not treated well it has nothing to do with religion and islam...it has to do with 1000 years living with indians and other factions and adopting thier norms and behaviours toward women )...... let all women be fooled by our "industrial" slogans....let our factories be lighted day and nights...let our companies have tripple shift...go hell the instituion of house...go hell the shattering of bond between family...Paisa zindabad...rokra paindabad !!!!!!!

make women...the thing which is painted on hoarding boards and postrs on the streets that every men while going look upon them...these black money owners...only need money...where it comes from...how it comes from...no matter....this is industrial era...let all work "toghether"...we as West are already drowned...this little muslim ummah still firmly hold thier institution of house...so let us break this so that no one will dare to challenge our culture..let all be in one colur and same clothes.....just push aside the saying of Napaleon that give me good mothers and i will give you good nation....go the hell Napoleon...!!!!!! make them fool by the slogans of equality of women(they poor not know in islam men and women are not equal..women are at top !!!!)...

But "modern" West ..says...forget about the institution of house...forget about whether it breaks or constructed...let all women come out of house ...let all potentials be united...let men and women "equally" share to our "economy....these blood-suckers...industrialist...only think about how thier factory's output increased by 15 % yearly....these money-makers...only care about to make women as show-piece ......as a to all world so that there products demands increase drastically......"aurat bator hatiar" ...there formula.....even in a add of a razor blade cannot be completed without a women...make them out of house...give them the briht sparkling neon sign of "rights"... self-independence".......fund the NGO's for this...break the muslim institution of house ..... make them all move toghther in a society...blind them with the shine of money.......

But you see in"modern" times ..everything is changed...the women are now "independent" .....they earn thier own money...they have thier own pays...this kind of "self realization prestige and pride" have created such things which are poorly damaging the society ...... "i cannot live with your mother and sister... i cannot hear to your mother and nand "chikh chick " all the day... i come home a 6 pm...and your mother start giving her lecture...that i should take care of children...they are also your responsibility...... i do not bring them from "maikay"....arrange me a seperate home....i want new bank leased car....i want new furniture......the husband becomes hot..." I cannot afford your fazool kharchiyay" at this point....respect my moher..she is rue....the wife get furious......" i damn care about your mother... i earn my "own" .... i can arrange new furniture.... i do not "rely upon you"...mugh ko apni torhi si tankha ka tana mat do... i also have the same pay......now husband become out of control..."look..if you give your pay-reference in future... i will .........!!!!!

the fight goes on which at the end of months and years resulted in talaq... i am not saying thats the only reason..but let me say...one major big reason......thats why in recent years...the talaq-rates have grown exponentially.........due to this "self-pride" of pay !!!!!!!!

thats why the unique poet of history ..iqbal writes in persian...i do not know persian so i quote in urdu......

A muslim aurat ..apnay aap ko ghairmahram ki nigah sai mahfooz rakh to teri goad mai hussain(ra) paida ho ga !!!!!

a muslim aurat apni awaz ko quran sai jila bakhs kyoukai issi awaz nai khattabkai baitay umar(ra) ki taqdeer badal dee thee.....

jews went on one extreme and christians on other but both lose.....in islam...there is middle-way...your half deen is completed on marrying ...marriage is very pious bond...and after that there is a seperation of works between spouses....mothers do the interior works and fathers do the exterior..as fatima(ra) did the cleaning of house.....grnd flour...and look upon husnain(ra) ..and ali(ra) worked in garden as a peasent to earn livelihood......this is the way that dated from pre-historic times.......

in Talmud it is written...when jews became out of control..they started every bad habbit..drinking..adultry..killing pious people etc.... in most houses of Jerusalem.....drinking and adultery is taken as anormal daily life work.....whenchristianity came...it saw all this...it went to other exreme ......thier great saints 40 40 years did not see a woman...if someone's mother came to meet him..he turned his face...in deserts nf jungles they went..."rahbaniat"...tarq-e-dunya.....nuns and priest forbidden to marry....now this is also against the laws of Nature that men and women are for each other ..you cannot live without that...so the result was that in all chuches there is graveyard behind or below in a secret place where all infantschildren from nuns and priests were burried so that common people could not know about that !!!!!!!

she..poor wife is also human..she is not machine..she need rest..she need love from her children..she need affection of her husband...but nobody is satisfied ....all have thier own points..all have thier own comments.....

the children are unhappy...the husband is unhappy...the wife is "most" unhappy...but only one thing is happy......your purse....which is jingling with coins and pennies !!!!!!!!

what the use of this amount if you have no satisfaction and contetment of heart !!!!!!!!!!!!!

actually the children are psycho because their mother do not give time to them !!!!!

the husband is psycho because when he come after long working hours..wife is either absent due to job or so tired due to her job that she do not give attention to her husband...!!!!

the wife is herself psycho because when she come home.."most" of the cases she has to cook food...look after house hold works....take care of children.....and other thousands of things...she has to double work..first in 8 hours on office and then at home......

These husbands want that we should remain "dependant" on them through whole life .......

they want us to remain in home... press thier clothes..cook food.. produce childs ...and thats all.....

we have no life.......we have no "freedom"....we have no "independence".... we have no "rights"......

we are educated ..we are highly skilled ...but these husbands do not like that we should exercise these qualities in practical fields......

they like that we should be put behind "bars" in homes and never ever think of a "independence".......

these are the typical responses of my dear married sisters who want to show thier educational skills in action in their future life..for better living..for good standard of life ..... but """"""MOSTLY"""" for a jubilious feelings of "independence" ... ..yes we are independent..we never look upon our husbands for Rs......we have our own pays...we have our own "bank-leased" mehran and cultus...we never missed the latest shoes design of Stylo ....we time and again visit the Bareeze for latest chicken pieces...whenever we have a mood...we just place a order for KFC and Mirchi etc...for delicious hot chunky dinner on a cell call...yes we have money......we have our pay...we have our "own" earnings...we do not "depend" on our spouses...we are "free" ......etc etc....

but just wait for a minute.......

no one is restricting women in houses..but the most important institution of child begins at house... he learns from mother..he or she idealized her.. the roots of a child developed there...the blue print of this this impact remains on his nuerons for the rest of his whole life... but unfortunately ..in "modern" times..we have broken this greatest "institution" at home... mothers are eager to test thier qualities of education in a practical field.. fathers are are too outside home...and the next generation..which have to pillar the future of country .. now in hands of "aya" or some maid servant...thus shattering the whole concept of lap of mother is child's first school.....we have lost this school which is even better than Berkeley or Harvard or Stanford......!!!!!!!!!!!!