My Life Story

Rightly said Nadz, yes I too believe that the fault lies with both parties not one. In this case it was the central charachter in the story that was too giving too indecisive and too unsure of her own worth. For whatever reasons she had given up on life.And that is always a loser approach and always wrong.

I really believe that the fault lies with the women themselves.They always let thmselves be taken for granted and usualy stand up only wen its too late.Like in ur case,U took too long to end ur bitter life with ur huisband.And u suffered in silnce all this time.I think tht women shud not wait for themselves to get old and thn take a decision.But nonetheless,As they say better late then never...
I wish u Gud luck with a new start.

Beautiful ! . But we r taught the same by our parents here. And considered the same when we raise our voice for justice.
Arbab...

NICE
GOOD LUCK
PRAYERS

This’s a nice public service essay.

Now that you are no longer in a miserable relationship, go out and make up for the years that you have lost. Go, have fun, meet new people. Surely, you are still young enough to have a fresh start.

It’s important to have a courtship and live-in with someone one intends to spend the rest of his/her life with. It shouldn’t take 18 years to find out if one’s spouse is a jerk. I think blaming the entire Asfundiar clan is not fair, as they are not responsible for the jerkness of your ex-husband, nor are the other women in that family. Your relationship with your ex-husband has nothing to do with how other women fare in that clan.

Best wishes to you for a fresh start and a better future. This time try not settling for a “Desi”, expand your pool of possiblities.

Some men can be poisonous and toxic to the health of there partener like plague ....unfortunately you wee victim and contracted this disese

Amazing!!!!

...Indeed where are those mothers and where are we headed?.This story is not meant to be a hate-filled message, its just one of those life- stories you learn from.It is not about one mother or one daughter, its about our whole cultural set-up that needs to be changed.We need to come of age and become aware and responsible as individuals. So that a lot of injustices going on around us can be nipped right in the bud.

Life is meant to be a test --a test, befitting our ability to face the challenge. Although in our desi societies it is the women that tend to suffer the wrath of a bent out of shape patriarchal system, the buck does not stop at men. Every corner that one turns to, one finds a relationship gone sour, individual rights being abused, and people taking advantage of one another. Just like the wheelbarrow that has one wheel, but has two handles, the handles keep the wheelbarrow balanced and moving forward, women in our societies have a role to play. Yes we do have a messed up patriarchal system ran by men fallen from grace. Women in our culture might be suppressed as daughters! They might be abused as wives! But as mothers they do get their way in many ways. It is the mother that shapes and nurtures the children – especially the boys of our khandans. Ms. Fariha where are those mothers?

Fariha, this is the story of a countless number of girls in our male-dominated society that persistently stereotyes women as objects of desire and refuses to acknowledge their worth as intelligent, capable human beings.

Many men, though not all, continue to exact a toll for their own insecurities from women they have control over. One can only stand up to abuse when one is confident of one's worth as a person.

Thank you for sharing this story. It holds a profound lesson for many women just embarking on the journey. We can only hope they will be wiser than the central character of this story and reject inhuman treatment outright. When all else is lost, the future still remains.

Excellent introspective piece.