Life Long Commitment vs. Singledom

Marriage is what you make it-in all it's honesty, love, authenticity, honor, desire, support, etc. Meet the right person, and I'll expect another kind of article from you B)

Re: # 14

Criminals are present in every society. Irrespective of age, gender, caste, sex or religion. It is useless debating which one has more.

Having said that, it should be recognised that marriages are failing too. Most people, irrespective of sex, are unable to live together in marriage. Again, this is irrespective of nation or religion.

There used to be a time when females got the better of the work - doing household chores, while the male sweated it out on the fields. In todays more posh world, the female again wants to do the easier of the work - in BPO jobs, for eg., while the male has to earn for her even AFTER divorce!

Pakistani women may be biased against, but this is not the case in India, where anti-male laws are passed with gay abandon.

It will be easier to understand the problem if this 'confusion' is cleared.

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/3053664.cms

http:/ /timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/3054631.cms

"#4 Posted by sheandher338 on February 9, 2008 10:25:34 pm
if you read the article carefully.. that's what it said.. there is no such thing as love at first sight. the story has nothing to do about love.. just mere attraction."



Sheander(author of Feb 9 article and same Kiran 'Whats love got to do with it', Farooque

Person like you are gold digger.while faking everything dig gold from naive gullible rich man like me!

kiran,

.... i think you are on the right track .... as zeemax points out, most moslem men think of women as kanezzes anyway - the chances of a meaningful relationship are slim unless you are a wealthy businesswoman who can fund a new religion ........

Parthab,

you should read the following article on CHOWK which was published number of years ago "Oppression in Women in Pakistan: Myth or Fact"

http://www.chowk.com/articles/4951

Re: # 6

My reply relates to the unfair disadvantage MALES face at divorce, which many are unaware off.

Males rights is a bad word at the moment, and only remotely related to marriage (through gender bised laws), but the sooner they understand the concept, the better it is for them.

Re: # 10
"Chowk is a man's place -- no unmanly women-bashers welcome here"

There IS no woman bashing in my post. How can 'protesting' against UNFAIR woman-biased Indian laws, be the same as 'woman bashing'? Please familiarise yourself with the new gender-biased laws in India. www.498a.org

Gentelmen no more discussion on this repeatedly repeated hackneyed subject posted narcisstically time and over.Just ignore

Re: # 2

"Unfortunately, my previous post was deleted but, I will try to say again what I wanted to. Todays males face a lot more problems with marriage...."(Pathetic Parthaab).

Why have you become such a cry baby -- "Fortunately" they deleted your previous post -- but you still keep coming back complaining about the women......Chowk is a man's place -- no unmanly women-bashers welcome here...:)

Kiran don't mind the islamofascist kuttay. Marriage (and hookers) are the only way they can get laid (T)

Interesting Kiranji ..How old are you ?Rejection?Fear?'Old'Brides maid


From some of Kirans subscribed biases from met Blog

http://rabayl.wordpress.com/2008/04/17/protofeminism-blame-oil-not-islam /


OLD COW/NEW COW he he he he



Posted by rabayl on April 25, 2008

Many moons ago, a dear friend of mine suggested I watch the movie Someone Like You because ‘it told the story of my life’. Admittedly, it isn’t the most unique of stories but when I watched it, it rang a thousand bells inside me! The main character in the movie, Ashley Judd, always finds herself in flawed relationships and after some drunken contemplation devises the Old Cow/New Cow theory.

The Old Cow/New Cow theory says that once a bull mates with a cow, it will not go back to it again. First, a bull was presented with a cow. They mated. The next day, the bull was presented with the same cow. The bull wasn’t interested. He wanted new cow, and this was old cow. Curious to see if they could trick the bull, the scientists came up with an ingenious ploy. The old cow was smeared with new cow scent. But he was no fool.

Ridiculous though that analogy sounds, I was hysterics today when I came across a research that claimed that anthropologically, the theory is right! I hate to reduce love to a simple biological imperative, but the study noted that what we suckers call love is actually the “mating call of the wild”, and that the head over heels feeling that we associate with love is a hormonal response that lasts approximately 18 months - long enough to get laid, get pregnant, have the Neanderthals around long enough to protect us while we are waddling around, and nursing our newborn. Then he (and us too) lose interest and look around for another cave dweller.

The theory is that this biological programming would allow enough different genetic material to be swapped around to have a nice healthy Neanderthal tribe.

18 months; average age of all my relationships.

Interesting? I didn’t think so either!

Eddie: It’s over. Why can’t you just let it go?
Jane: I can’t.
Eddie: Why?
Jane: Because I was happy. Because if this theory is wrong, men don’t leave all women, Eddie, they leave me.
Eddie: I know it hurts. I know. It’s so hard to believe that something that wonderful can ever happen to us again

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Protofeminism: Blame Oil, Not Islam
Posted by rabayl on April 17, 2008

The curse of oil, not the ways of Islam, may explain the poor status of women in parts of the Middle East and North Africa. In a new study reviewing four decades of data from 169 countries, UCLA political scientist Michael Ross finds that oil money clogs the paths that have allowed women to advance in other developing societies, from India to Morocco. Typically, women enter the work force in manufacturing jobs, then independent income allows them influence in the home. They also rise in politics, as factory settings give them a place to organize and governments recognize their growing economic clout.

Not so in oil states, where petrodollars raise the value of local currency, making imports cheap and stifling local production. As oil wealth drives up wages, there’s also less pressure for women to earn a second income.

Islamic countries tend to have high occupational segregation and lower rates of female education, but oil sharpens the divide. Compared with petrol states like Saudi Arabia and Qatar, oil-poor nations like Syria and Djibouti have a greater share of women in the work force (30 percent vs. 5 percent) and Parliament (9 percent vs. 3 percent). The contrast becomes clearer in culturally similar neighbors with discrepant levels of oil income per capita, like Algeria ($937 per capita, with 6 percent of parliamentary seats held by women) and Tunisia ($61 and 22 percent). As Ross writes, “Petroleum perpetuates patriarchy.”
—Katie Baker

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Now what may I add beta Kiran? I hope you grow up soon. Your profile says it all. In fact, too much.

Rememeber you had parents, so why be afraid of marrying or turning off others with your nightmares?

It is horrible leaving all your wealth (earned through giving advice to others) to a charity or to the cats, with nobody left to remember you or ask for the forgiveness of your sins.

Think about this as you puff on that 'shisha'.

Buy a mirror intead.

Affectionately.

But how is the issue of men's rights relevant to this piece?

Re: # 4

It is nt funny really. Each time I try to write any comment on mens rights, it is simply deleted, or ignored at best. Wonder what strikes you as 'funny'.

@2&3
Wasnt this a funny piece

Divorces in India are no easy affair for the male. Gender-biased laws have been made since recently by Renuka, a notoriously feminist minister. When a woman is angry at a man and wants a divorce, she usually lies, and makes false charges to have him and his family jailed, without appeal or bail. Domestic Violence is hyped by feminist groups internationally, but this too is not borne out by studies, which attribute equal violence to the female too. Blackmail is norm - alongwith the emotional trauma of undergoing a divorce. In a corrupt system like India , that means a pot of money, and social ostracisation too – mind you, for a young, growing, citizen of the country. Divorces should surely be made easier and simpler than this?

Alimony causes even more financial commitment on the young male – whatever for? For the ‘crime' of divorcing? Some say that alimony could be an invitation for a female to divorce – and even marry in the first place! Alimony is surely a thing for the past generation of divorces?

A word on feminism here may be in order. Feminists take media sympathy from ‘facts’ that are controversial really. For eg., let us take female feticide. In reality, four times more adult men actually commit than women! Is it because women cannot bear to see their daughters grow up anything short of a princess? And the gender ratios that are quoted in India , cannot explain the widespreadedness of feticide, because in some countries, the proportion of males is actually less! And yet, feminists continue to use the media to gain sympathy – sometimes using genuine reasons ( like minority female literacy for eg.), to get unreasonable gains.

To counter the menace of feminism, we hardly have a Male Right Movement going in India yet. In addition, it is not fashionable to the media yet. Male Rights in western countries have gained some momentum in the past few years, though.

www.498a.org