Speechless

'When women move on, they are looking for fragments of the first man they really fell in love with in other men. And the rest is just survival tactics!'

That is so true!

And dont mention Abee, questions allow us to understand things better. Any ways, would definitely watch that movie :)

Re: # 39 Arshia

I think women are all hopeless romantics at heart, atleast most of us are. When we fall in love with this one man who just clicks, we fail to see his failings and start convincing ourselves that he will never betray our love. Unfortunately, men seem to be far more pragmatic and move on much quickly. When women move on, they are looking for fragments of the first man they really fell in love with in other men. And the rest is just survival tactics! When men move on, they just go, no baggage, no feelings.
I just watched the movie " He's not that much into you" Funny and then very true in many relationship cliches. We have been programmed to have faith in men who cannot deliver, and those who love us ardently, we treat them like dirt. Thanks for reading. You gave me something to think about:)
Regards,
A

Re: # 39 Arshia

I think women are all hopeless romantics at heart, atleast most of us are. When we fall in love with this one man who just clicks, we fail to see his failings and start convincing ourselves that he will never betray our love. Unfortunately, men seem to be far more pragmatic and move on much quickly. When women move on, they are looking for fragments of the first man they really fell in love with in other men. And the rest is just survival tactics! When men move on, they just go, no baggage, no feelings.
I just watched the movie " He's not that much into you" Funny and then very true in many relationship cliches. We have been programmed to have faith in men who cannot deliver, and those who love us ardently, we treat them like dirt. Thanks for reading. You gave me something to think about:)
Regards,
A

Re: # 39 Arshia

I think women are all hopeless romantics at heart, atleast most of us are. When we fall in love with this one man who just clicks, we fail to see his failings and start convincing ourselves that he will never betray our love. Unfortunately, men seem to be far more pragmatic and move on much quickly. When women move on, they are looking for fragments of the first man they really fell in love with in other men. And the rest is just survival tactics! When men move on, they just go, no baggage, no feelings.
I just watched the movie " He's not that much into you" Funny and then very true in many relationship cliches. We have been programmed to have faith in men who cannot deliver, and those who love us ardently, we treat them like dirt. Thanks for reading. You gave me something to think about:)
Regards,
A

Re: # 39 Arshia

I think women are all hopeless romantics at heart, atleast most of us are. When we fall in love with this one man who just clicks, we fail to see his failings and start convincing ourselves that he will never betray our love. Unfortunately, men seem to be far more pragmatic and move on much quickly. When women move on, they are looking for fragments of the first man they really fell in love with in other men. And the rest is just survival tactics! When men move on, they just go, no baggage, no feelings.
I just watched the movie " He's not that much into you" Funny and then very true in many relationship cliches. We have been programmed to have faith in men who cannot deliver, and those who love us ardently, we treat them like dirt. Thanks for reading. You gave me something to think about:)
Regards,
A

A piece that can definitely be related to,especially by women....is it the same with men too? Do they feel the same sort of emptiness and numbness?
I am of the belief that there are two kinds of women (regarding this situation), those who will come back and stay and those who would think it's time to leave - I deliberately didn't say 'move on' because that would mean looking around for a new 'man' ....but then again, how can she move on and be fooled by another man yet again ? She, in any case believes men don't understand women, then who does ? :)

this is funny...kind of speechless again.i googled up for'khudkushi'and here im again

Re: # 36 Speechless
You are right to some extent, but then any keen observer can notice the intricate details without actual experience. I'm sure by the time we've been through two or three decades of our lives we have a good indepth understanding of human relations in almost all forms. The media, books, etc add more layers to that wisdom. With all that vast background knowledge and a fairly good grasp of a language one can come up with powerful literature.

But then, this is not by any means a denial to having any experience at all. That is practically impossible in today's world. the idea is to share a feeling or a thought that may have been experienced in a more subtle manner and has been exaggerated in narration. And pain is truly a very subjective feeling. It depends on how sensitive one is. I would consider it as my strongest drive and yet, i am very blessed in all worldly ways. So there are no hard and fast rules.

P.S i love the fact that when i write people associate the stories with my person. That is a compliment to me. It reminds me of "Sherlock Holmes, the greatest detective who never lived" Maybe someday i will have a small slot in the world of literature besides the big literary giants. Fingers crossed:)

hmmm. i cant believe that the transition of feelings into words so well could take place without experiencing them first...it takes wisdom to understand wisdom....same in the case of pain

Congrats! should i assume that you r on a mission to make men speechless?

Re: # 33
Thank you for reading. If it made you speechless, i can sit back and relax. Mission accomplished!

made me simply 'speechless'; thank you!

Re: # 31
Thank you for reading. Another is in Chowk pipelines. now people will think i had a fresh breakup:)
Sigh... celebs have no privacy!

I think I liked this 'Its over...' better. Though found the length of the other more appropriate.

You do write well.

We are waiting for the changes in the Milky Way!

Re: # 28
Soon my picture in the PROFILE (of the Milky Way) will be replaced by something more appropriate.

Meri Urdu hun mukk gai....

Re: # 27

haha..yeh kom kisi haal mein khush nahin. adliya bahal karo to naraz aur na karo to khafa. kahani mein mirch masala daalne se pehle thori si baat hoti hai, aur baad mein afsana ban jaata hai. Bas iss kahani ka bhi yehi hua. Zara si baat ka afsana bana liya.. issi bahaney doston sey izhaar e khayal kar liya... werna ittni si umer mein itney barey paharh kahan se uthaney hai mein ne:)

p.s kya aap justice iftikhaar nahin?

Re: # 22
"yeh faisla aap pe chora"

Saray Chowq kay faislay kia maiN nay karna haiN? Kia maiN Justice Iftikhar Chaudhry hooN?

:)

Re: # 24
Thank you Mishi,

I am grateful to god for being able to feel the pain without being hurt myself. Sometimes i wonder how people live after parting. Its truly heartbreaking.

A

Re: # 23
Dear Leenah,

Thank God that i have not experienced the feeling in the narrated extent, but i can imagine the pain and suffering of loving someone who is not worth holding on to. Especially when the head part knows its time to move on and the heart has not come to terms with this decision.

I think staying because of the humanity would have resulted in complete apathy a couple of years down the road. That is what happens to so many couples who stay together "because of the children" and in later years their only communication is sarcasm through their kids. And that is immensely sad. So i guess one should either stay with goodwill forever or leave quietly with minimum damage.

Then again how would i know until i experience a real relationship:) Do remember me in your prayers.

Fond Regards,
A

I wish Amber that wouldn't be your own....and Allah may never put you in a trial....
It was heart touching, human desires are never selfless which wonderly bother every single person.

Very well written Amber! Very well conveyed!
If its not an experience, I pray that it never becomes one, ameen; and if it is, I pray that your spirit regains its vigor soon, ameen.

Delivering the extent of numbness has been remarkable, but there was a shift of style, which someone has pointed out here earlier as well, a transition from symbolic to narrative. Had that slight phasal shift not been there, I think it could have been even better.
Just wondering, what would the story have been if inspite of all that numbness of a soul hanging in vacuum, your humanity would have asked you to stay?

Re: # 20
Kya kahein Tahir? "kuch keh bhi nahin saktey, chup reh bhi nahin saktey"
Eik purani behas yaad aa gaye eik dost ke saath. Ager mein inkaar karun to woh such samjhay ga aur ager ikrar karun to bhi...insaan karey to kya karey?? Xhalein faisla aap pe chor daitey hain. ager sacchi hai to bhi dil dukhaney waali aur ager afsana hai to bhi dilsoz... aap parhain zaroor, chahey acchi kahani samajh ke ya phir kisi becharey dil ki roodad. yeh faisla aap pe chora:)
regards,
A

Re: # 19
Hahaha! Mission accomplished!

AB (how obvious!)

Only a bad cook will cook up fake stories?

I'll assume all of it is true.

yeh dou dafaa bus! keh kar aap ney hUmeiN bay-bus kr diyaa..
vallah aankhoan meiN tasveer cee khinch Gaee.

khabhee kabhee thorRa muskuraanay meiN aur kisi ko hUnsaana dainay meiN kyaa hUrj hai?..

hUm koh-i-quaaf zaroor jaaenGay aur Gulfaam kaa pata laGaengay....filhaal app diloaN ko toarRnay joarRnay kaa shaghal jaaree rakhiyay.

Re: # 17
hahah...uff AJ...yar woh puraney doston key sawalon ka jawab hai jee... aap bhi na bas! likha hai khat. parh leejiay ga. har baat har kisi ko nahin batai jaati, hai na? aur dost hota nahin har haath milaney waala!
P.S quadruple isliyey keh eik woh aur teen humarey:) aap bhi na bas!hahaha

kyaa kitabi-chehray pay jo likhha hai voh fact hai yaa fiction?

aur hUm say yeh ighmaaz?

"baat kehnay kee naheeN too bhee toa hurjaee hai.

p.s: aur voh bhee quadruple! kyaa teen pehlay hee haiN?

Re: # 11, 12 & 13
Beautiful verses Ali. Love the flow and the thought content. Rumi is rumi. eloquent and wise.

Re : #13
Thanks for the comliments Delirium.

Re: # 9
I agree human desires are very hard to understand and reason with. The quote comes to mind "There are two tragedies in life, one is not to get your heart's desire and the other is to get it" I guess one is never satisfied either way. So it must be peace that we are looking for and not happiness.

Thanks for sharing.

Re: # 8
Dear Sunil,
I am still working on my strength in etching characters but i had to share the thought so chose the monologue format...more of a soliloquy. It kind of leaves room to embed thoughts and feelings with the narration. But really appreciate the tip.
Regards,
A

A beautiful write-up laced with touching and flowing expression.

so cheer up, dear writer :))
prepare ur self for even innovative daybreak

Pain is a treasure for it contains mercies;
the kernel is soft when the rind is scraped off,
the place of darkness and cold
is the fountain of Life and the Cup of Ecstasy
so also is endurance of pain and sickness and disease
for from abasement proceeds exaltation,
the spring seasons are hidden in the autumns
and the autumns are charged with springs

sorrow prepares you for joy.it violently sweeps everything out of your house, so that new joy can find space to enter.it shakes the yellow leaves from the bough of your heart, so that fresh green leaves can grow in their place.it pulls up the rotten roots, so that new roots hidden beneath have room to grow.whatever sorrow shakes from your heart, far better things will take their place.
.....so this end, in it veils a new dawn......

It's hard to explain human desires. Just follow your heart and look for satisfaction in whatever it is that you do.

very well written but monologue format can not etch out distinct characters,you have to adopt dialogue format

Thank you for reading Eklavya, Banjara and Tabo. The fact that you took some time to share your views makes a world of difference.
Regards,
A

Dear write;

A very good insight into women's parodox of emotion in a relationship and man's inabilty to understand it.But from a litrary point of view there was a very poor transition from symbolic expression to a narration.

After 2-3 paragraphs it sounds more like a "teen aurtain teen kahanian" kinda thing than a symbolic expression of emotions.

Be well.

wowwwwwwwwwwww...super!...
u hav described the agony n numbness so beautifully that it is romantic within itself....great..

Re: # 1
Bohot khoobsoorat nazm hai. Acchi lagi. Sab sey pehley to yeh ke aap ki baat ka bura mana nahin jaa sakta aur mein aap sey mutaffik hun iss maumley mein keh jis afsaney ka koi anjaam na ho usko kisi haseen mor per chor daina chahiye.
And yes, my muse needs new inspiration. Unfortunately, my mind is still playing with sour feelings. Hopefully soon enough the "happy times" will affect my flow of thoughts as well.
Aap parhtey rahein to mujh mein likhney ka hosla baki rahey ga. Thanks for sharing.
regards,
A

stunning! i hope its a dream.

Amber, your speechlessness is well earned. You have said all that was to be said. Time to move on. And be at peace. Then new words will come.

Best.

raat bhur jaaGtay rehtay haiN duukaanoaN kay charagh
dil voh suunsaan jazeera, kay bujhha rehta hai
laikin iss bUnd jazeeray kay kisi goashay meiN
zaat kaa baab-i talismaat khuulaa rehtaa hai
Upnee hee zaat meiN pUstee kay khanDar miltay haiN
Upnee hee zaat meiN ik koh-inida rehtaa hai
sirf iss koh kay daaman meiN mayaasar hai nijaat
aadmi vrnaa Unaasir meiN ghiraa rehtaa hai

aur jUb in say bhhee ghabraa kay Uuthata hai nazar
Upnay Allah ki, aur Upnay khuuda kee jaanib

Ayya-al naas! Chalo kohi-nidaa ki jaanib


P.S: your soliloquay is getting scarier by the day. Ironically, Your muse is your biggest nemesis as well.

Voh afsana jisay anjaam tUk laana naa ho mumkin
Usay ik khoobsoorat moarR dai kar chhorRna achchaa.

Might sound a bit cruel, but I'm being so to be kind. Pls. understand and appreciate.