Good Girls and Bad Postures

One can only ask why a society chooses to anchor its better half under the weight of ``Sharam`` or Shame (aimed at specifically the female anatomy) while the ``Besharmy`` or the open shamelessness of various social injustices daily rule our society?
This ``Bad Girl`` has done a great job of
exposing some of the dilemmas faced by the ``Good Girls`` of Pakistan who I hope will continue to express themselves and educate us in such forums.

Ras Siddiqui

oops, typo. was *not * one of their problems.

sorry for the clutter people.

rotflmao.

Funny thing is, most of my friends would probably have been the ``bad girls`` of your memory. Whilst no doubt they had their own problems, the kind of angst you describe was one of them.

As a matter of fact, one once told me ``You expect all women to walk around in this heightened state of arousal, perpetually aware of their breasts or glutei (not the word she actually used), but when was the last time you were walking along and actively thought ``gosh I`m bald``?``. Clearly her body wasn`t as significant to her.

This just brought a fascinating thought to mind. I wonder how much of what we read on Chowk is ``good girls`` thinking ``Damn! maybe I should have broken a few rules back then.``

If so, more power to you, and its never too late.

Ending on a cliche:
Among the ways to bisect humanity, is between those who make rules, and those who follow them.

This was very funny and very well said. Somehow it is the womans `fault` that she is found desirable by men.

I think the article is great! I found myself not only laughing out aloud at the various (sad) antics of the social circus in Pakistan but also being confronted with the hypocricies of even the ``liberal`` and ``progressive`` men among us.

dear bad girl

i have not enjoyed any article as i did this one in a long time. with tears of sheer pleasure and laughter , i infact had to rundown to the ladies toilette to get some paper to wipe the tears of laughter running down my face. but then its funny only in retrospect. i know while going through an earlier than normal puberty cycle myself, i felt just the same if not worse!!

u know i actually understand completely yet don`t understand this article. My own maammi is always telling my cousin`s (she has 3 daughters and mayeb that`s why) to ``stand correctly`` and to ``fix theid duputtas`` when I ask my mother what in the world she is talking about my mother just sighs and says that is the villager conception of how girls should be hunched. Yet now when my cousin`s are 16 and 13 they talk loud, their body moves uncontrollably, and they freely talk with boys ( even though their mother has a stroke every time) and i see that this is a result of sojme sort of rebellion. I on the other hand when little had excellent posture and when i grew up my mother would say don`t take that duputta like a old lady fix it ( in quite the opposite way)I IN TURN have developed a slouch and this i thought was b/c of studying but maybe this is my way of rebelling against my mom i dont` know but i know this topic all to well in our family in a twisted sort of way, i who was never really pressured to act like something eventually did become it b/c of men`s filthy looks

It`s a shame that it an article like this to make us realise what we do. ``Bad Girl`` your point is well made and even better expressed. I mean no ill will when I say that if you had erm....the balls to write the article, you could have put your name with it. After all, I would be proud of a piece of work like that, and prouder still if my sister - or any woman - had courage enough for her convictions.

On another note: The name of religion is oft used to legitmise slouching. Our girls ``simply don`t behave like that`` in Pakistan. However, a subtle distinction should be drawn between religion and custom (though I don`t want to get into debate about defining such a line - it`s good enough to know which side of you are on). When the distinction can be seen, the behavior can be explained (though in NO case condoned). The results are surprising.

Again, well done.

Rafay Alam