Good Girls and Bad Postures

I don`t know about you guys but I have started to believe in evolution. The girls in our family are born slouching and we all accept them as they are. May be years of preaching by our ancestors has built it in their genes.

However, to put the record straight, havent seen this preaching recently. I have seen so many up-standing, chest jumping, and hip swaying girls recently in other families` weddings and parties, I think times have changed. people have accepted the changes that are taking place. We, however, come to expect it.

I only go to those Mehndi`s where I know there will be a lot of hip swaying dances by family women (I mean the other families). Mine is still the conservative type.

The slouching, embarassed girls are only found in Khwateen Digest and the like magazines where this girl who is simple and does not actively participates in the function turns out to be the cinderella winning the heart of the prospective mother in law and her son. All the beauty and hip swaying efforts of the other girls go waste.

In the winter of 1997 on a particularly boring day at work someone sent me a link to this article. I had no idea what chowk was till then but I realized after reading this piece that I would be hooked. I read this article/memoir by bad girl, which still strikes a chord, still rings true, almost seven years later. So well written, such mastery over the language, bad girl why don`t you write on here any more?

Jawahara

Jiyo- Bad Girl!

We need bold Pakistani women to come out and be confident of their bodies and their sexuality.

I salute you.

an excellent article! i commend the writer on her courage to talk so freely about a dilemma that every girl goes through...it is time atleast the upcoming mothers learn that they r to teach their daughters to be proud of their bodies and not ashamed of their sexuality! ofcourse that is not to say that they should flaunt it in public but they should stop feeling embarrassed about their bodies and learn to love them..after all, men do, so y cant women?

Good article...Its about time that girls in our culture are made to feel proud of their bodies & not the other way around. I hope young parents get to read this article.

excellent piece....well written. by the was ur mother really that harsh on you ? :)
cheers
raza

brilliant article but a few points.

in a family full of women, a young boy will feel as much ashamed of the way his organ behaves early in the morning, albeit unwillingly. he will stay in bed for as long as it takes.

in certain advertising offices in karachi, with women bosses and lots of female employees, dressed up to meet international standards, u will have guys who sit with legs crossed, speak politely and keep there distance while the women come on too strongly.

the shame young women feel bcoz of the way men`s eyes scan them in public wud be and is easily reciprocated in a situation where women are more in number and more powerful. interest in the opposite gender`s body is natural but to do it openly or shamelessly is a trait that will come with social dominance.

and bcoz most places in the world including pakistan are male dominated, all ills have to be their doing.

This is SUPER COOL!

Thank God and I should thank you for not being a sheep.

GO! GO! GO! You`ll bash `em all...!

Bilal