My Ode to Rishtay

Excellent article. Empathized with you and your rishta-ites (R1 through R8) all the way. Maybe you should put your picture on Chowk. The one with the long hair.

Ms. Khan,

A very entertaining article!.

``The young man arrived in snuggly fit black jeans and an even snugger red T-shirt, with sleeves neatly rolled up. The only thing he was missing was a pack of cigarettes in the rolls of his sleeves... He told jokes and sher in a level of Urdu that was beyond me``.

The above really cracked me up. I actually know of a similar character in real life.

temporal: I don NOT agree with your opinion. I don`t believe the writer was hiding anything.

An interesting piece of writing. A good topic for the education of both parents and children, particularly in foreign (not to many young men and women) countries. Parents and children are living in two different worlds. They need to come close to each other. Arshiya Khan: Why didn`t you write more about the feelings and reactions of your parents?

Good luck, Bilal Ahmad

arshiya:

much better than `lavishly citrus`. i dont think you can call it a learning experience. because i think most of us know what is going on out there. i personally don`t think there is anything wrong for either sex to find equivalent.

but just a reminder (if u know urdu or hindi !)

har kisi ko mukamal jahan nahin milta

kahin zameen to kahin aasman nahin milta

Arisha: Shouldn`t the title have been `desi men r absolute village idiots`? But we all know this already, thanks to similar expositions, not to discourage anyone from narrating theirs in a humerous vein. Do you think its because we are desis, or because we are men, or is it the combo? Whats your thesis statement on that? But you know what, somehow, womyn manage to put up with us ... don`t ask me to explain why or how. Go figure.

Better luck next time in the bakra mandi. But even if bakris do get the final yes or no, the final outcome is still the same! Don`t mean to depress ya or anything, just an observation. An amusing piece overall, but the topic virtually guaranteed that.

regards,

Omar

``In credit all the above-mentioned men, I have to say that it`s been a learning experience. I would not be a step closer to figuring out what I`m looking for if it weren`t for them. So, perhaps, I should be thanking them for giving me the opportunity to meet them and know that they weren`t right for, and I for them.``

AK:

I feel the above passage was very appropriate analysis. And just to assure you that is quite common with all. Some realize that and are well aware of what is right for them whereas some never learn.

Take Care

Hey, as a happily married desi guy, might I just add that while men may start off as pigs they do eventually evolve into higher life forms capable of conversing with -- and even entertaining -- women. The problem is that we desi men have no practice in actually talking to ``women`` (excluding sisters, mothers etc) and we are not taught how to by our popular culture (so when did you see Amitabh Bachan ever having a soulful discussion?). The point is -- give people time to evolve. Otherwise, best of luck in your search for the perfect rishta.

Arshia bibi:

Welcome to the Chowk! Must warn you to beware of the fallout. Do not be discouraged. Having said that............

Restrained. Too restrained. Somehow the element of spontaneity was missing. Perhaps you should have used a pseudonym and let the real feelings come out. Hope you do not mind. Keep writing.

regards

I really liked it. And, (no offense to Kamran) I enjoyed it more than lavishly citrus. I could see the characters that you met... very clearly, and distinct of one another. The subtle humor that emerges from the balancing act between what your

``Ummy`` says, what`s expected, and you... very well done.

Congrats on your first writing experience. Hope your others are just as successful.

-Uzma

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