Teasing or Torture?

Nawaid:

From what I have read and sometimes heard, its a big problem in India too. The extent varies by place. Delhi is worst and Bombay and Calcutta are much better in terms of femal assertiveness. Rural areas that I have been to are much better, largely because everyone knows everyone and no such acts can be hidden from parents and other relatives.

In upper middle class and upper class areas, overt hararssment is less prevalent compared to other parts, as the females are more assertive and confident. However in buses and other crowded places, cupping a feel by frustrated teenagers and older men is not common. And some of them dont spare guys too.

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Isnt this is the case of most of the socities in the region

[After fantasizing and daydreaming about Madhuri, Angelina, Karishma, Jennifer, }

what about the society of Maduri? is Madhuri not harrased......any indian bro/sis want to highlight the situation in India where Madhuri, Karishma seen most?

Jennifer. Angelina...what about their society......r things better there?

Banning cable TV or foreign channel is the soloution? agian just an inquiry as this is a big issue. Do we have to make more strict laws on eve teasing.....what about their implementation.? is proper literacy and education going to help it........?

btw very nice written piece. very true.

Harrassment spreads to all levels in Pakistan. Girls have lost top positions because tehy refused to marry teachers, and class fellows of mine, used to be stalked all the way home by guys trying to get their attention (you see NO..means yes in Pakistan)

On the flip side, some girls know how to use their gender to ensure they pass and to ensure their domination in class organisations in University. I am speaking from personal experince as a guy lol..

[... After fantasizing and daydreaming about Madhuri, Angelina, Karishma, Jennifer, who else are they going to take it out on but poor Sana, Khalida, Naila, and countless others walking down the streets, riding in buses, shopping in the malls? ...]

So are you blaming the media for this? One gets the impression that somewhere deep down inside you`re giving a silent nod to MMA`s decision to ban cable TV.

P.S. This is a serious inquiry, not sarcasm.

Bina...
Speaking as someone who has been sexually harrassed in Pakistan, I really appreciate you having written this article.
The deeper malaise in our society has actually existed for eons...and what t. refers to as the sub-surface cultural and religious contradictions have been coming to the fore for a long time, if they haven`t arrived by now. And this doesn`t just happen to college girls and working women...it happens to little girls, and those reaching the age of adolescence, both outside and within the chardewari--I know only too well. It is a source of great shame, and you`re absolutely right--both men and women are equal losers when it comes to sexual harassment in our country.
Thank you!
love, noor

``Decent behaviour`` - well, yes, the problem is that society in Pakistan has lost it`s consensus as to what ``decent`` is. A deeper malaise? cultrual contradiction? Our society is in transition, it may not seem so, but it is. It`s paraochial worldview clashes every second with cultures alien to it, this clash itself reoders priorities, turning the cosmos of the parochial pakistani on it`s head; therefore confusion and the lack of consensus as to what constitutes ``decent behaviour``. Must we ``muddle`` through it - what other choice have we?

As usual, Bina, you`ve written a great article. Never heart the term ``Eve-teasing``. It sounds extremely derogatory; one could say PLAYFUL even, when it is actually harassment.
Its sad to say, but this happens all the time in Pakistan.
Anyhow, great article!

Great Insights. I have expereinced eve teasing in its worse form and ive tried dressing absolutely ``nunnishly`` if I could use or rather coin the term. Its just pointless to think our average male will think twice before having a leering fit or nudging any woman in the butt very non chalantly as if its a very normal thing to do. The absloultely terrifying thing is the fact that it doesn`t just stop there. Its just tragic, sad and absolutely hopeless to ever wish for less overly sexualy inclined men with too many frustarations let alone those which could be classified as remotely gentelmenly. Some things just don`t change or won`t...great article Beena but too bad the person who is supposed to read it is hanging out of the open door of a public bus just to get a glimpse of a perfectly head to toe covered female who happens to have what God made every other woman have ....Tits!

Bina-
loved the article...loved the topic...and you know what? I`ve never even heard the phrase ``eve-teasing`` before...here it`s just harassment. And when I visited last time I was 16 years old and the attention I received was so horrific that I walked in a burka during my 4 weeks in Karachi.

sara

bina:

thanks for this write up…the eve teasing is no simple chaiRchaaR...it is a symbol of a deeper malaise in our society…the sub-surface cultural and religious contradictions are coming to the fore…and in the absence of real education and abundance of intolerance this will continue to grow…sorry, know no short-cut of inculcating decent behaviour…

lve,

t