How to kill your Wife (Unedited)

Samina:

``So if your wife made more money than you two did, you`d stay at home, raise the family, keep the house and have noooooo problemo with it, right``

I totally would have a problem. But that is my choice. If a woman chooses to stay home and raise family as opposed to working, she should not be blamed/criticized for doing so.

ZahraJ:

``If someone is a house-wife, it`s their prerogative to have a coffee party or milad or any other social event at their place. How can you dictate anyone on that? Isn`t that what a home is meant for?``

The point I am making is of division of labor. If the husband and wife both work, both are supposed to contribute to housework as well. Similarly, if a woman chooses to stay home, she should assume responsibility for housework. They can have coffee parties etc in their spare time, as long as they show some productivity as well.

Waiting 4 ``Mummy Returns!``

``...You tell me Sain, if one Khar does something wrong, should the entire Khar tribe be labeled bad?” (last line of the Author`s latest article in TFT.)

ZahraJ # 37

What is inconsistency in my arguments?

Anyway recently I read a book by Ann Crittenden titled ``The Price of Motherhood`` and I realized that I never appreciated my mother enough, ever the way I should have been. Women in households do a tremendous job which is thankless, and unpaid. Now I bebelive that mothers do have heaven under their feet. Before, I only knew that, but now I believe that.

Stuka, Pakfin,

So if your wife made more money than you two did, you`d stay at home, raise the family, keep the house and have noooooo problemo with it, right?

I wish Urstruly is consistent in his interpretation of arguments. I wish Urstruly jots this down in his navy blue book vs. the black one!

No one is belittling the housewives. In fact, it`s a woman`s prerogative whether she wants to work or stay home. At times, some have the option and some don`t.

Pakfin`s comments were more on the lines of sharing responsibilities vs condemning what women want to do in their spare time. But Pakfin`s comments are also applicable to a certain % of women vs. being applicable to all and sundry. What is the % of working women in the East ?

I partly disagree with post 34`s argument. If someone is a house-wife, it`s their prerogative to have a coffee party or milad or any other social event at their place. How can you dictate anyone on that? Isn`t that what a home is meant for? A place where you have the freedom to walk upside down nangae paon or look like a clown with a clay/mud mask on your face and hair tied in a hot towel with fragranced oil for deep conditioning treatment.

The main point is if a 100% housewife expects her spouse to pitch in the household chores then she needs to be fair. If one person is working 100% outside, and the other person is 100% staying at home then things need to be balanced out. It`s the same thing, if a woman has a full time job that does not mean that she is living in a hotel kind of an environment. She still believes in maintaining a nice and cosy place and would like her spouse to share that responsibility. Well, if that does not happen then it can be very frustrating. And, one person may say well I am better off living on my own than baby sitting the other person. The guy may not think that way since hopefully he would have read Rumi and his poignant thoughts on women 100 times. In case of women, they can get really ticked off by the aloofness of men in the household matters. I strongly feel, if the couple can afford, they need to get help ``maid-service`` specially if there is a leaning towards perfectionism. If both are working and they cannot take care of their basic comforts then that money is not worth it! But, it`s all on individuals and their leanings.

Most of the Paksitani women ..even in UK and Australia donot go out to work.
Their Indian counterparts not only go out for a decent job but also do most of the household work. And I have heard some of them saying jokingly: ``Wish we were like the Paki women..jo din bhar palang tortee hain``
Of course they don`t ever want their wish to come true..they would rather go out..otherwise their kids would not be proud of them and start comparing them to other `smart mums` who have a career..

Absolutely.
Someone`s gotta stay at the house and at least pretend it`s house if they are unable to make it one.
TO THE KITCHEN THEN! ; )

Pakfin says the truth. There is nothing wrong or deranged with staying home and looking after the house. But to stay home and go for kitty parties is useless.

I wish that people stop disrespecting stay home moms and stop belittling the value of the household work they do.

The writing is fairly middle of the road and tbe sarcasm may work in the writer`s head but on paper it`s quite colourless and bland. I wonder if it`s even sarcasm.
I couldn`t care less about the name if I dont know the guy. Saleem Elvis, Johnny Khan or Michael Khar (Hmmm...Herr is similar to Khar) whatever.

After all....all blackbirds are birds but not all birds are blackbirds.

The writing I can judge. It`s fairly mediocre. Has no beginning, middle, end or point. That may work if you`re one charming dogf*cker.
But you`re not.

It also has the scent of misogynism. For men like myself, misogynism is forgivable if, again you`re one charming dogf*cker or can mask your primitiveness with a biting sense of humour or black wit. Or have a point to make. I mean you`re no Sam Peckinpah or Dave Sim...let`s leave it that.

pakfin #27 spoken like a true slob.

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Pakfin,

A typical South Asian Woman``with the features you have identified`` is as deranged as a typical South Asian Man. And, I think they deserve each other - nothing less and nothing more. And, yes, I 75% concur with your analysis.

#24 by Saminasha on May 28, 2003 7:55am PT
``Btw, help your wife with the housework and stop complaining. ``

A lot of Asian women end up in the West and start complaining about their husbands not helping out with the housework. However, they forget that a major diference between them and western women is that the typical western woman works while the typical South Asian does not. As long as the wife is helping out in meeting household expenses, she can demand that the husband helps out with household chores. But on the other hand if she wakes up at noon and watches TV or chats on the phone all day long and then expects her husband to come back at 7 pm and help out with housework, then she is sadly mistaken. No wonder people are writing articles like this one.