Haseena and Jannat (on earth)

I wish our society wasn`t as disgusting as this.

But women are to be blamed for a LOT that is happening ......... why do the mother and sisters in law turn a blind eye ??? And why aren`t women raising more humane sons ???? And why do women treat their sons better than their daughters and why do they keep making excuses for the bloody pigs ?????

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What such articles and the NGOs do is give hope to the masses suffering similar brutalities in rural areas, and also in urban areas. Everytime a ruckus is created by such situations, the NGOs run to offer assistance, their aim being to save the poor victim; her liberation being their aim, which also is the comparitively easier part; the difficult part: Making sure that they have a secure future.

Let us take the case of Hasina. She will have to work as a domestic servant. Everyday, she will be made to feel naked in the street. Her sahib will try to get jiggy with her; keeping her beauty in retrospect, which now becomes a liability. And keeping her unlucky existence in mind, she will probably have a bitchy, slave-driver Begum sahiba, who will continuously blame her for trying to woo Sahib jee. Then she gets fired. And from one house to the next, she moves on. Her kids grow up to become street urchins, as no longer do we have reliable street lights under which genius can prosper. In the end, she will be equally worse off as she had been in her village.

I do not mean to belittle the effort of NGOs. All I want to say is that something ought to be done for the future well-being of such women.

Cheers.

Disturbing.

When I was a kid I usd to think this happened in socities like ours. However I find that things are depressingly same everywhere only the frequency is lesser.

I know a lady named(now you wont belive this) Mona she seemed to slip frequently and get injuries. Frequently she spoke of her son(Robert, spelt raabert) and her ex husband and some times refered to Raaberts dad as living with her now(as if I wasnt confused enough with the maritial relations of Americans). Finally after having seen Mona not turning up at times and then coming with some visible injuries I logged on to the womens grapevine.

Mona was married and divorced(because of a abusive husband). She was living for 12 years on her own and since last year husband after loosing several jobs in succession came searching for her and their son. He appealed her to let him live in her home. Now he lives downstairs and Mona and son live upstairs. Raaberts dad is suppossed to be giving some kind of nominal rent to Mona(My guess is that this must never come). So Mona runs out of the home early in the morning (as early as 6 am) and whiles away time till the kids needs to be dropped (to avoid meeting the rentier husband) and returns home early and sleeps by 7-8pm again to avoid the husband. In between there are times where she suddenly disappears for a day and has bruises on her body and takes great pain in explaning how clumsy she has become.

The more the things seem to have changed the more they are the same.

This is nothing new. Those of us who grew up in Pakistan have been reading these stories in She, Women`s Own and various other women magazines along with browsing through women fashions, jewelry and horoscopes from our late teen days. In the West, women magazines like Cosmopolitan and Glamour have been capturing even worse episodes of some interior parts of Pakistan, India, Bangladesh and other South Asian countries.

The most important point that the writer overlooked while providing this coverage was demanding certain rights for women in a clear cut manner. And, she may have done that but it is not very obvious. There may be 100s of other stories like that. What next? Such issues ought to be taken to the next level by demanding the legal infrastructure to provide security to each and every resident of Pakistan. Men and for that matter women are not going to change. If they are evil they will stay evil. If they are angel they will be one for all times to come. In the absence of any concrete action, do not be surprised to find the US Soldiers landing in colored parachutes to save the distressed ones pretty soon. Then we will hear the interviews on FM 99.5 of Muslim Women. This is what happened in Afghanistan and this is what`s happening in Iraq.

Point to ponder.

how can they allow this vicious cycle to continue? i blame the mother-in-law and the girls` parents for putting up wid this cruelty wid a shrug of helplessness. the mother-in-law most probably was beaten herself, as was the girls` mother. so if they were beaten, does it make it ok for the son to mete out cruelty too?

and where does it end? haseena`s son was victim of brutality too...this is vat he learned from his `mentors` and `role models` as a kid. this is the only way he will know how to behave, ie. lash out cruelly if something displeases. keep the womenfolk grovelling at your feet as that is where they should be kept.
this is so frustrating.

lets suppose the wives have no power to control their husbands or to reason wid them to stop the beatings. but they can damn well control their sons cant they? cant they punish their sons as kids from mistreating his sisters? im sure the wives aren`t the only recipients of this treatment. the sisters (and maybe even the mother sometimes) get it first...until the sons get a very convenient `punch bag` which has no rights, which cant talk back, who has no one to inquire after its well-being.

if the people around the maniac condemn his behaviour...would he dare to continue to perpetrate and flaunt such basic laws of showing kindness to fellow beings?

im sorry if im reiterating vat has been said already...as i just read this and didnt check all the replies.

Re: #16 by Tipu


1- Those are some awesome designs! Its always a pleasure to see good artwork. Thanx for sharing the link.

2- Its the liberty that offends you, the fact that some women in Pakistan actually have the right to be models and get their pictures taken. Its their independance that you don`t like, the fact that they choose what they want to do. I, and many others like me find these pictues to be an extremely positive influence for the society for the same reasons.

3- Complexed deprivd and desperate losers spend hours on the Internet trying to find pictures of Pakistani celebrities with even the slightest hint of a clevage or bare midriff, then they look at those pictures every day and say, ``Toba toba! Pakistan ka mahol bohot kharaab ho gya hai!`

Very Very Sad, but well-written. Thanks for the reality check.

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June 22, 5 p.m.
Milpitas Library Community Hall


SPEAKERS

Tayyab Mahmud
Professor of Law
Cleveland State University

David Pinault
Associate Professor of Religious Studies
Santa Clara University


Also featuring testimonies from individuals who were victims of persecution,
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BACKGROUND
The Ahmadiyya faith was founded as an offshoot of the Sunni Muslim community
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The Ahmadis (as people of the Ahmadiyya sect are called) have been targets
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of Comparative Law, Legal History, and Human Rights, including a detailed
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reference below).

David Pinault is Associate Professor of Religious Studies at Santa Clara
University. Books he has written include The Shiites: Ritual and Popular
Piety in a Muslim Community (NY: St Martin`s Press, 1992) and Horse of Karbala:
Muslim Devotional Life in India (NY: Palgrave, 2001). In 2002 alone he made
two trips to Pakistan, during which he spoke with Pakistani Christians and
Ahmadis in addition to his focus on the Shia communities in Lahore and
Peshawar. Speak on his experiences with members of minority communities
in Pakistan.

RESOURCES

Tayyab Mahmud, ``Freedom of Religion & Religious Minorities in Pakistan:
A Study of Judicial Practice,`` 19 Fordham International Law Review 40-100
(1995).
Tayyab Mahmud, ``Protecting Religious Minorities: The Courts` Abdication``,
in Chapter Six of ``Pakistan: 1995`` (eds. Charles H. Kennedy & Rasul Bakhsh
Rais) Westview Press: Boulder (1995).
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Urstruly,

re: 18

Is that how it works in your little bubble?

i had to force myself to read halfway through this myself, especially since some of this hits close to home. and i`ll have to come back to this later, but i have to say this....a society which allows this to happen, and does nothing to change or stop it, is not a society worth living in. no one should have to go through what haseena and jannat did, what countless women go through, and be made to feel that it is part of their life. being abused does NOT HAVE to be a part of anyone`s life.
thank you for sharing this with us shandana!
~ana

The irony is that those who beat up their wives can`t read this article, and those who can read this article get beat up by their wives.

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