A Suitable Boy

dear nyda
u go gurl!!tho it was a little mean what u did u had every right to.but did u think abt ur mom?what humiliation she must have gone thru saying `no` to them?i suggest u go upto her and apologize and tell her u love her!
it always helps ;)
urs till the cookie crumbles
bubbles

couldn`t agree more with # 55 by Irfan :)

Give the fattie our love! ;)

Howdy Nyda,

You have every right to reject someone based on whatever criteria you have (e.g. fatness), just as someone else may have every right to dismiss you based on their criteria (e.g. crooked nose and child bearing hips). It`s your life - not other people`s (fcuk - did I, Umer M, just say that?). You have to spend your life with him, not other people. And just as one may lose weight (as some people are saying), you can reply back with the fact that people can also change their characteristics.

Best wishes for your writing ambitions.

Umer M.

# 75
How absurd! This is getting ridiculous. May we be spared the internal conflict of two mutually jilted friends.

*sigh* sajid has read the article and isn`t all that pleased! he isn`t talking to me anymore. says the only way i can `achieve redemption` (his words!) is by posting this message here so here goes:
ladies sajid is not fat, he`s `lovably plump` ( whatever the hell that means!) and is a stud at that!
*sadly shakes her head*

saminasha hehe! it`s people like you that make it all worth while! and hey if u`ve written anything do let me know, i`d love to read it. and thanx for all the encouragement arthur it means a lot. one of my bosses has read the piece omar, haven`t been able to gauge his response yet

even though u didnt like my article it seemed to have made enough of an impact on u for u to have read my profile and quoted from it! i`m not going to say i don`t care what critics say because no one likes to have thier writings scrutinized and analyzed to death but then i hope it makes me stronger and more resolute. when an article is appraised ingratiating and denigration are just part and parcel of the deal
echoboom in the words of woody allen `go be fruitful and multiply. not necessarily in the same order`

A sharp and lively piece, Nyda! Looking forward to reading more of your work :)

I had a girl like this in my class, all she ever did was talk about her problems with getting married. Part of the reason/motivation was the attention she so craved, the other of course being netting potential husbands, if they were the type who listenend to her. This article reeks of the same stench. I`m sorry if I make it seem as if thats all women really do, i.e. ensnare men to marry them, very narrow generalisation I know, but that is the intent sometimes, to snap the man with that winning combination of money and looks first, and only money second. Sometimes, men do the same, sometimes.......

Personally, I think parents go a long way in determining a persons phobia about marriage. If they are harshly critical and judgemental incessantly, then come the ripe age, the quest of finding a suitor makes the seeker predominantly self aware. It starts with first identifying the boundaries of acceptance (referred to by some as standards), which are constantly modified and mutated over the course of time. All those who find themselves at a crossroad in this search, ask yourself, how much variation has occured from the original standards that you had set for yourself?

who is this loser echoboom by the way -- u guys should see the rubbish he has written on interact boards of other articles -- nyda, did your boss/co-workers at the ad agency you apparently work at read this piece -- if so, what did they say

How brave to have critiqued our society and your own family so and after recieving the worst insults still be standing.

Surely you must be stronger now even though you may not feel that way now.

Such writing, such attitudes, such guts ought to be encouraged and nourished and nurtured no matter the flaws, no matter the youth, no matter the vulnerability no matter what the intensity of anticipated attacks.

What an explosive topic to have picked :) good work. The more reactions I read to this article the more certain I become that this is good, that this writer ought to write more and ought to continue to keep her innocence and her humanity.

How flattering to the good looking men? That after I have looked after myself there is someone who cares. That after all the hours in the gym, all the men`s grooming products, all the careful diet there is a girl who will not lie and say ``I really don`t care about your looks``.

The ugly bearded, pot bellied Mullahs be damned. The nerds and geeks with huge arses, weak eye sight and poor hygiene may cringe. Those who strive for intellectual excellence as well as physical and sensory fulfillment will inherit the world :)

What is wrong with women seeking a man with financial stability or at least some hope of it? What is wrong with men or women choosing each other on the basis of looks? It this really a point of contention between the two genders?

As for Nyda`s case: it stretches long and twisted like Shaitan ki aant. To learn that she has another man in her life who is ALSO shattering her fragile self-confidence (which, it seems, is at the mercy of anyone - ranging from the fatso with a mexican girlfriend to the editors of Chowkdotcom) - i think this is becoming soap-worthy. I am no longer sure what is the exact purpose and thrust of this article except perhaps to share the case of one rishta a girl didn`t like. (Initially I imagined it shed some light on the general problems of nubile women, but NO!)

Some of the interactions are very entertaining.
BTW Chowk must be some kind of potential mating ground for some. Good going!

#55 by irfanhamid.

You`re da man!

What a refreshing post. Please add my name too among those who would love to be called a male-chauvinist-pig. I can afford it.

Panjab-Zulu is so right. In fact your ``confession`` could be the voice of many a men--real men.

Women are meant to be loved and looked after. non-mcp type men supposed to be reduced in numbers by mcp-type men (our type) so as to retain more women for themselves.

Package it anyway you want. The truth is inside; from antiquity till eternity.

Smart men never pay attention to philosophers--they would rather do things which would generate more work-load for philosophers and bookbugs.

nyda ahmad
my name is nyda. please publish my article for the sake of my sanity and my self-confidence!!

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For those who missed it, the above is the writer`s self-introduction.
looking at the picture and posts of her under the name ``babelicious`` (if that IS the writers picture) one can safely say that either she will beg or market her way to a ``suitable`` boy.
It is another story that such phonies do not have a stable shelf-life.

Nature is really very realistic ( or cruel). She knows how to halt the continuation..she plants the illusive idea in the mind that one is modern foreign-looking.

#55 by irfanhamid,

You go Guy!

But I`d say what you write applies to city bred girls. Living in dense populated close spaces with intense competition makes one like that.

Going by my family statistics, too many small town girls (with college degrees) are falling for lookers these days it seems. Several of my neices are becoming a major pain for their rich dads and moms. Turn down every rishta...`waiting` for their 10th class fail romeo from across the fields.