A Suitable Boy

regarding your rejection of the guy because he was fat:

Was it cruel? Maybe.
Is it more cruel than marrying a girl just for her beauty? Definitely Not

Nyda - you are 22. You deserve a fair chance of finding someone you can really love.

You indicated that you like Mathew Perry. Now that gets me worried :) If you are going for looks, you might as well go all the way. Since we are talking phyically, you might want to consider older men too. Ever noticed how nice a couple Catherine Zeta-Jones and Michael Douglas make? :)

# 48:

If you have a hard time to contribute anything to the said discussion then just refrain from making a fool of yourself. It`s fine to be immature, but it`s not essential to prove that.
Ok!

Well, let me remind u how lucky u girls are out there. You are educated, well fed, loved and not buried alive by your families...hehe. The point is, women are being empowered especially when they have as good an education as you ppl who come around here, and so they can fight their own cause.

Nyda I doubt what you did was wrong. If you don`t feel right about it, say now. Afterall, marriages are supposed to be based on love. Btw you cud`ve tried Atkin`s diet with that guy who proposed, JUST MIGHT HAVE WORKED :P

your right. At my cousin`s wedding party, my sister reminded be that I was ``next.`` I was barely 19 years old. I joking and trying to get the topic off of me said ``but I have fair skin`` and my sibling quickly agreed with me, stating I had plenty of time since I did have fair skin and dropped the subject. I was truly disappointed in my sister that day. And more disappointed that somehow society hand enforced these strange standards of beauty on to another generation.

first timer--nik

Hello Nyda Sahiba

Just out of curiosity and courtesy, is it ok if I start a matrimonial thread for you on unplugged. You know just to give all the single, desperados a chance :) Maybe there is someone who you might find suitable:) I am guessing quite a few cats have been killed by now due to your pic inthe profile.
I am just kidding. Woman, enjoy life and dont let your relatives instill that ``fear of life without marriage = misery`` in you. And do explore greener pastures, you might find someone worthy enough;) And Matthew Perry is not really what many would call handsome, you need to raise your standards:)
Good luck and focus on other things, hope to read more from you. Take care.

In the end we all curl up and die. I could go ahead and make a generalization about women (God knows the women here have been making not too few about men), and that generalization would be: more often than not, women will not consider a man who is not rich enough a not unsuitable mate. Yes, men DO look for beautiful women as wives, and we ADMIT it. I am the first one to say that I would rather marry a beautiful woman than an ugly one (all other, or make that most other, points being equal). Women, on the other hand, will go blue in the face saying ``no no I really don`t care how much money he has, he should be nice, caring, generous, sensitive and remember to put the toilet seat down``, YEAH RIGHT.

I used to work in Pakistan. Went out with friends alot, most of whom come from middle-class backgrounds, so modest automobiles. Never once did it happen that me or any of my other friends would get any female attention. But whenever I would go out with this one friend of mine who has a very expensive car, WOW! All we had to do was stop at a red light, and we would get admiring glances left, right and center. If it were only from teenybopper girlies I would write it off to immaturity and move on. But here even aunties would glance at us approvingly, as if we had passed a certain alpha male test by driving the aforementioned vehicle, not to mention the early to mid 20s bracket of ladies who would give us sweet little smiles.

Like someone said in a post here a while back, the charm of good looks wears off after a while, after that, it`s the personality that matters. I say, womens` motto should be, the charm of good looks wears off, after that, it`s the bank balance that matters. Which reminds me of a joke that goes like this:

``A woman wants animals. A Jaguar in the porch, a mink in the closet, a tiger in the bedroom and an ass to pay for it all.``

So all you ladies on your high horses looking down at us like we are scum; pray, do come off your prancing steeds and take your rightful place ALONGSIDE us as the shallow, opportunistic, lecherous, and greedy species that we all are. Come stand by me and soil your pristine white garments in the cesspool that is humanity.

Regards,
Irfan Hamid.

PS: If you are going to reply to this and tell me I am a male chauvinist pig, don`t bother, I know that already.

PPS: Babelicious (some women think this is a liberating nick, wonder what those same women would say, or think, if my nick was ``hungstud``), I advise you drop Matthew Perry and find yourself a Bill Gates.

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Re : Article
Nyda loved the article. I left India when I was about to turn seventeen and married an Italian. I really missed out on the whole arraigned marriage thing, or going back home and lining up the chicks as my friends call it.

Regards,

Faruk

irfanhamid: hahha..that was funny..and quite true!

then u were one of the lucky ones faruk, faiza hehe i never quite know if u`re being nice or just plain sarcastic. and irfan i agree girls are pretty shallow too and i just maybe the shallowest of the bunch! nkhtghs tell me about it! all the ppl who tell u beauty is only skin deep LIE!! dimitri i really didnt have the time or the patience to put him on an atkin`s diet. huma who said im not into older men? malik hear hear! finally a guy who agrees it`s cruel to judge a girl by her physical appearance! you my friend are going to go places in life!

irfanhamid No 55;

You win the award for best post of the week I reckon.

:-)

Nyda you wrote: ``malik hear hear! finally a guy who agrees it`s cruel to judge a girl by her physical appearance! you my friend are going to go places in life! ``

thanks!

I should add that a girl should be judged by her father`s bank balance and his contacts in the pakistani elite. These things have a longer life span than girl`s beauty.

Thanks alot babe.....i think you didnt even bother to read my post...johnny bravo might be a male chauvanistic pig...but johnny_bravvo isnt....go through the post again...all of it...after the nick that is...i wrote some lines below it too..pray read those too...*rolls eyes*
Good Luck with the Brad Pitt....hope you are a Jennifer Aniston yourself too..otherwise some of the male chauvanism in your Brad might jump out..and he might not find you quite so `babelicious` after sometime...

the last post was by me too, i`d just signed in from another account to boost the ratings on my profile! *grin* so now u know my dirty dark secret

i guess i was a little unfair in my response since u WERE on my side. btw just so u know i dont really like brad pitt alll that much