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Farzana,

I just read the heading of the article along with the brief teaser on the main page. You are hilarious!!! :)

Farzana, an unusual topic and as such, a welcome distraction from all the geopolitical, religious stuff. Still, this IS a political topic - men (many that i know) don`t like to wear a condom since it does reduce the sensation. Flavored condoms? Must be the product of the fervid imagination of a female somewhere! It can only be a novel item. Japanese condoms are the priced items.
Condoms are usually in the men`s toiletry section, along with shaving items and such, at drug stores in the US. I haven`t looked in the female health section but will do so now that you mention it. There also are female condoms that the developers hope will put the control back in the woman`s lap in this age of AIDS.

So are you saying that women dont enjoy it with condoms/????!!!

Hey Farzana,

You are forgetting that a lot of men are also very anxious about avoiding unwanted pregnancy and STDs. In the US there are legally enforceable child support payments for 18 years. In fact, they can garnish it from your paycheck. I don`t know the situation in India for single guys who get their girlfriends pregnant. In addition, most men are not into playing russian roulette with STDs, whether it is HIV or anything else. In the US, STDs like herpes is very common and you don`t have to visit a prostitute to get infected. Even an ordinary girl whom you have met and started dating may have it. So you have to be really dumb not to use a condom with your partner if you are not married.

Even for married people who are monogamous, there is the natural anxiety about avoiding an unplanned kid. So, if someone feels very potent about having unprotected sex and getting a girl pregnant, that person is either very reckless or a total moron.

My personal experience is that condoms enhance your sexual experience. Primarily it is because your partner can relax without the stress of getting pregnant or catching a disease. So they can get into the mood and enjoy it more. A high quality condom reduces the sensations only somewhat, so it is a good tradeoff. Also some of the ribbed condoms are very pleasuarable to a woman. Often my wife cannot handle the intensity when I use these condoms.

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Very witty & informative. Water carrier! Roof top!

Some very good ideas for the family planning creative writing wallas for their add campaigns.

NHK

Thanks Farzana.

I think one more use for the condom was/is to give yung men about to embark on the journey of life to acquire decent speaking and debating skills, with chemist shops as podiums to practice on.

I think most men, (and quite a few women too?) will have fairly interesting tales on the art of purchasing condoms.

Or has the world changed?

good effort.

you are gifted of making a cloth out of a lint. enjoyed reading it but frankly, could get the message of the whole effort.

and who has stopped women from seeking animals in themselves. the society taboo thing is at times overbeaten, i feel.

Women need to insist ``no condom no sex``

Farzana,

We don`t think that deep, a condom is just that, a condom. Atleast I don`t think of it as an enemy that prohibits me from sowing my seed in unexplored fields, I just think of it as something that helps me get laid.

Regards,
Irfan.

Jeez Farzana,

I`m sure you`re a lovely person but I`d hate to make you a meal. You`d end up dissecting the evolutionary processes working behind the round shape of a frozen pea. Way too much dissection, girl.

`Due to the delicate nature of a woman’s psychology and hormonal mood swings, the onus of safe sex does lie with the men`

I can smell something…Cake? Coffee? Tuna...No, BULLSHIT! Come, on, you can’t have your cake and eat it. Being an equal means you take on equal responsibilities. Magar Vaisey, you have to be a very sick person to have an STD such as AIDS and have unprotected sex with someone. We had a few cases here in London.

But thanks for the chuckle.

Umer M.

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unfortunately people learn to use condoms the hard way, but at that point it is usually too late...the indian govt needs to stop worrying about offending people and start advertising about the 1001 STDs to scare the fcuk out of people...

It is interesting to learn about condom usage in India. Put it on or not!

This article would have been even more interesting if the writer had expanded on her concept of “safe sex”.

“No wonder that 75 per cent of the sexually-active Indians who should be using condoms for safe sex are instead putting it to other use.”

I find it amazing that 75% of Indian should be using condoms.
For centuries the same 75% never used condoms and all of a sudden they need to wear condoms. I think this argument comes from the author’s narrow elucidation of the safe sex. In India, most or rather overwhelming numbers of the 75% are having sex within their marriages. Most of the Indians, by customs or by socio-religious environments, never have sex outside of their marriage.
A very small percentage, in some sections of the society, may have sex outside of the marriage but a majority of the 75% never does. If a couple is having sex within their marriage and most likely never had sex before the marriage, likelihood of infection via sex goes down considerably. Hence, the concept of mass distribution of protection ends up in polishing zari gota like the author aptly described.

If the concept of Safe sex is to ensure that husbands and wives don’t just keep on reproducing for 2 minutes of fun then the distribution of condoms makes sense.

Is condom the only form of birth control? Clearly not, pills, snip, and knowing when to have sex also helps out. That knowledge along with condom should be distributed.

I have known a Catholic community in suburban Wash, DC; Gaithersburg to be more precise, that opposed any kind of artificial way of birth control. Yet they educated members on when to have sex to ensure that no reproduction takes place. This community abhorred any sex outside of marriage. On a personal note, I attended their church often as I was seeing somebody then who had relations in the community. I never had interaction with such a large group of adult white virgins and that was a pleasant surprise.

It is not uncommon for guys, who do lots of bar hopping or frequent pickup joints to carry protection in their wallet. For one night stand, it is better to be safe than sorry. What about when you are in a steady date situation? There are still lots of unprotected sex going on between couples that are dating.
99% of the sexually active girls have some kind of protection from unwanted pregnancy. Normally couples that are involved in unprotected sex, have known each other for sometime and have discussed the infection aspect of the sex.

It was fashionable in the 80s for young girls to have babies. Though the infection was not a major factor then but smart guys knew they could be tricked into kid support and often would avoid getting into those situation.
While discussing safe sex, we may also have to keep in mind that a good majority of infections don’t come from sex. There are several other reasons. In Indian context, the author may be on the right track.

It is not a bad idea to sex up condoms for sex!

``Or has the world changed?``

Little Johnny to Little Paul: Hey Paul, I found a condom in the verandah!
Little Paul: What is a verandah?