A Wedding Night in Boston...

atif

someone recommended your ilogs and they are fantastic. the one about jogging on the charles is a booker prize winner. your writing is absolutely juvenile (i mean it as a compliment) and i am afraid, may vanish upon getting married. untill then, its all in your own hands ;-) so write wantonly.

hey Atif !
great work..like always ...
I think people like you have the gift of taking any topic or event and by putting your `magic` words and emotions into it can turn it into simple pleasure...
I had a cake yesterday which was called...`chocolate Lava`...I microwaved it for 15 seconds before eating it and the pleasure was increased 20 fold. Your article somehow gave the same kind of pleasure.

Hi Atif!

Congrats on your friend`s wedding. I`ve had a very good friend of mine get married too.

And when a friend of yours gets married, yes, it feels very weird [but good =)] You see all those aunties or uncles greeting them on their weddings, with endless duas and once they`d be done you`d ask your friend who that was only to discover your friend was meeting them either for the first time or (maximum) the fifth yet the way those guests were expressing their duas, it seemed as though no one else in the world was happier that them. You might feel bad, because these strangers continuously come and go, all with smiles and prayers for your friend while you, who`s one of the very best friends of the groom or bride is sitting there joking about their confused facial expressions and making the formalities of the day even harder for them. Shouldn`t you wish them a happy life because you really know they deserve it? Shouldn`t you at least tell them how thrilled you are? After all, you are way happier about it than the millions of aunties out there concerned about getting their jewelry noticed.

That`s when you realize your prayers for them are too deep to come out in words so you just get up and hug them because you know that no words can express how you feel.

Besides, no matter how elegant they look in their extremely magnificent dresses, to you they`re the same old friends who`d accidentaly snort while laughing with you on jokes your parents would kill you to share.

Enjoyed this highly readable and well written piece immensely!

tahmed32:

A misshapen overweight, over jewelled overdressed woman remains a misshapen overweight overjewelled overdressed woman regardless of the color of her hair. Thankfully, most Pakistani women are not like that of course.

hunh?

i would have spilled that cup of coffee/green tea had i been drinking one reading these two contradictory statements...the first one i agree fully...the second one, taken contextually (meaning we are considering the wedding scene)...i would humbly disagree...

…less than a decade into marriage they display ...no make that visibly display the ill effects of rich food, compounded by bad posture, poor dress coordination, herd mentality…and a less than desirable fashion sense...

caveat: the above general observation does not include M nor mrs tahmed;)...akhar shaam ko hum dOno ko ghar bhee jana hay;)...also it does not apply to some sensible chowkies who are either there... or getting there...

rgds,

t


digression on the fashion scene: to be fair as my friend kat says the designer scene in pakistan does owe to the well heeled aunties…without their patronage faiza samee, who almost single handedly rescued the art of zardozi handiwork and is to be showcased at bridal asia (india) 2004, imrana ahmad of body focus, sana and safinaz, nilofer shahid of meeras ammara ahmad, shayaane, and host of others would be wringing their hands and probably be raising brats or writing poems…(don’t know which is worse, probably the latter!)……complimenting their creations the up and coming accessory maker amna kardar….thud!thud! (sound of one hand slapping the other)...ok, i stop...

Buhat Acha ;) specially

``..virginity like a disease and found a cure for it as soon as they could``

n

``He asked my opinion. I told him flat out that she was too good to be his wife.``

n

``... God will look the other way. ``

:)

Twas a solid write-up. Solid. Well done Atif!

Atif, I am looking forward to reading more from your side. Please write more often.

Atif, Hi,

This was really a lot of fun. Spontaneous humour rather than contrived.

I also loved the absolute honest way you write about being thankful to the Almighty for the existence of pretty girls! How many youngsters would actually be caught saying it in public! Good for you.

Do keep up the writing - hope to see more of it on chowk.

We can all do with some smiles in our lives - a fact that sometimes seems to escape more erudite and intellectual minds. :-)

Cheers

this is great

atif

I watched some Pakistanis doing bhangra at a wedding once and it was hilarious. They looked like spastics having an epilepsy. Your article made me roar with laughter at the memories. Pakistanis really shouldnt try to dance. Thanks man ;-)

Ataf, I mean Atif: Nice piece. I notice they have started stretching out these wedding festivities into multi-day events - particularly, instead of one dholki, now every friend of the mother of the girl has to do the dholki (and thank god they havent started inviting men to the dholki). The blonde-brunette is OK I guess (to each his own). Personally, I think it makes no difference whether or not they dye their hair - what is important is how well she keeps herself in terms of figure and taste in dressing up. A misshapen overweight, over jewelled overdressed woman remains a misshapen overweight overjewelled overdressed woman regardless of the color of her hair. Thankfully, most Pakistani women are not like that of course.

hi atif -

that was beautiful. straight from the heart. unpretentious. your frequent mentioning of Boston in your ilogs has glamorized that city for me :) I should make plans to visit it someday.

on a side note, i just want to say that Sobia is a nice girl. a very nice girl. actually, come to think of it, she is a very very nice girl. and so is Succubus. she is nice too. oh what the heck, scout is nice too. they are all nice. and i am just a `fly on the wall`. visit the unplugged and you will know what i mean.

give my regards to Tabish and `A`. in case they are reading it themsleves, just want to let both of you know that we think that atif is a nice boy. a very nice boy. actually, now that I think about it, he is a very very nice boy.

Atif:

trust me you can do even better and better you should.

you are gifted and dont let this slip by.

luv,

mubs

good job atif2, hope you write about your wedding jab tumharay haath peelay hongay.

atif: I also see a lot of other `non-writers` who show so much talent in their interacts and ilogs - Salim, Sobia, Rakaposh, romair to name a few.

oye, isspeak faar yaarself..i have been published on chowk a few times...kahan say aa jaatay hain! :P