Am I Insane?

Dear Emma,

You have a pretty name. It seems you have gone through alot in just little time after Biggest decision of life. But it looks to me you have been very much rational thinker to save the marriage and don`t let others get any harm. Despite of your parents support to come back you are staying there. And its your clearness about life and relationships that has made you think, raise and argue about the problem with sensibility of solving them as well.

It seems you got married much after your brother wed to your Bhabi. So that would be a definite period in which your in-laws might had judged you too to be part of them and their son proposed you. So might be that some frustrations of their side and some stagnant phase of your life which is problemizing now...Hope that its over soon.

But if your in-laws are not supporting you else blaming you then you should make your parents invlove to have them a proper meeting about these issues considering their son`s attitude. Other people should also carry the burden of panic as you are to solve the situation.

But its your life and do what makes you satisfied .

I hope things get fine and you enjoy with your husband everything you wish for...

Cheers,

Emma, I was hoping this was not a true tale when I read it but I guess it is. I think you need to put yourself first here. You cannot hold yourself hostage because someone else might do something...in this case your brother leaving his wife and kids. I`m sorry but apart from your husband being questionable your brother seems to be blackmailing you into staying in a marriage that neither you nor your husband want to be in any more. Everyone needs to handle this like adults. This seems like a horrible time for you. Hope you look after yourself and stay strong....for yourself.

Emma,

It seems like your life is full of immature people who do not care for you. Your husband is totally immature about how to deal with a real woman, as he visits Amsterdam and other places for questionable activities. Your brother also seems to be very immature in that he is willing to leave his wife just because your marriage did not work out. In a way your brother is forcing you to remain trapped in a loveless marriage where there is risk to your health and life, especially if he is visiting prostitutes in Amsterdam.

I suggest that it is high time that you forget about everyone else and just think about what is good for you. You should get out of this mess and face whatever consequences that results in.

emma,
u seem to be in quite the dilemma. my advice is u shud leave him. if all what u describe of him is true, i would not trust him. whether it ends up breaking ur brothers marriage is irrelevant. u cannot and should not continue living in the conditions. good luck and may god be with u.

emma:

a quick welcome and cyber hugs!

more later....you may be agitated and confused and things may have improved or gotten worse...hopefully in the ensuing discussion you will find something helpful...am in a rush...more later

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