Fauzia’s Rejection

Kabuliwallah,

Most ABCD women I know have bought themselves cars, houses and have big accounts, thanks to their professional careers.

MiriamK,

Thanks!

Some of my cousins and friends have lovely husbands who are extremely supportive, encouraging, dont buy into the looks/color nonsense and are a lot of fun. They exist. :)

I`ve noticed that the females of the in-laws household are more vicious towards brides and prospective brides.

ha! ha! The revenge of the Pakistani females. This is indeed the way to teach these paki-boys and their ``my son is a royal prince``.

Here is another one (from real life): my friend, (lets call him Pervez) was tall, handsome and a genius. went to Oxford, UK. gave inferiority complexes to the rest of us. came back to pakistan to get a bride. mama took him to oodles of homes, and he did not care for anyone of them. he never married.

a couple of decades passed. then he declared himself to be gay, moved in with his european pal. Pervez and Joe lived happily ever after.

Terranova:
#9

I don’t think it’s as simple as “Pakistani men are Jerks”; a generalization I would never presume to make. I think the writer’s lament is about the system; in that it’s a systemic problem. You say: “rather than even try to change her society”. Sigh….if only it were that easy :).

I am an educated desi woman living in the West and haven’t even been able to make much of a difference in the values of the local Pakistani community. So, how does a Pakistani woman (living in Pakistan) with considerably less opportunities and education try to change an entire country? And quite honestly T, changing a society when it is firmly entrenched on certain issues can be hard on the spirit :).

terranova: this is not a case of avoiding reality. this is creating a new reality. one that is another step towards the liberation of pakistani women from the chains of a primitive culture. a reality that pakistani men have to deal with.

PS: Meera goes to bollywood. Fauzia goes to UK. Paki-boys are left with one another and the chicken next door. ha! ha!

Re: # 21

hamidm, thank you for posting my pic...i`ve been looking for it everywhere while you`ve been holding it all along...shame on you for that one.

But you may have caused the non-mehram ladies (for me) to commit a visual sin with my beautiful sh`er al-leyha; the impressive left profile, etc.

Lastly, kindly do not impose the farangi title on me. I still have 3 slots open (lobbied by the children, #1 is almost ready to welcome 2, 3, & 4), and the ninja ladies may not appreciate the Mr. with my name.

apnay chances to kho chukay aap Amerika mein baith k; meray chances kis chakkar mein dubana chahtay ho bhai? :-)~~

......anouzobillah !.......what is the world coming to - women want to be treated like people?....... what is next`` ........ children want to be heard ?.......... verily, these are the signs of the day of reckoning ..........

........ i wonder what he has to say about all this ???.........

mr. ntsyed

you go kabuli.. its high time desi girls started kissing some toads and other critters.

Our culture is the best. The west is sick and perverted (Couples kissing and holding hands is considered quite acceptable there. I have seen it on TV). We have always been morally superior to them and will continue to be till the end of the world. Do not say anything against our culture. Warna main tumnhe daikh loonga.

I think you people are barking up the wrong tree.

First, if you look at it logically, a girl who is unable to find a suitable mate under arranged setting is most likely not to find a mate in unarranged setting either. An adjustment of exepcted standards by girl may help in this case; even though the statistics suggests that probability of success increases with the increase in the number of attempts girl makes to contact opposite sex, but the facts support the different outcome. In those societies where geneder mixing is common the probablity of a woman getting married is down right abyssmal.

Second, it is a myth that dark complexion equals being unattractive. That is the reason every pubescent boy in our school was in love with Noreen. Boys usually referred to her as ``kaali sexy`` in whispers and in public her code name was ``kaali BMW``. (I hope people here know what the acronym BMW stands for).

A. Bismil Sahib,
i read the teaser and it was very reminiscent of a similar scene written by that one hit wonder Roy in God of blah.. (ms. one-hit-wonder also had some toothbrush action going on in the mirror-scene.. )

very very short story with ``messages`` - prolly would amount to a Bismil on many supposedly ``controversial`` subjects ..

cheers.

#24 by Urstruly

bmw are like headlights? ursy, its not that these boys dont have lascivious thoughts, about a dusky gal, the problem is the mother thinks that the progeny will be dark, which everyone knows to be an indicator of hindu-blood. the boy in our society is so dependent (financially and/or emotionally) that he may ``lick his chops`` but wont go against sound counsel from mom and the aunties.

UrsTruly:
talking of high-school. You remind me of one of my punjabi class-fellows who was the biggest male chauvinist i have ever come across - he was also very religously into Burrhuks (punjabi term for boasting).
You on the other hand, guess, has mistaken Burrhuk-ing as an artform.

Judging by the story and the interacts here, it appears that folks just don’t get married in Pakistan. The way the system is in Pakistan, the girls that are rejected, also reject other girls when they look for match for their own brothers. So, what goes around comes around. It is like job interview how many get an offer from the first Interview?
Successful people work in the system and not outside of it. Pakistani marriage institution still works because it is part of the system in the society. There are going to be some failures, there is going to be some obnoxious people to deal with but overall success ratio is 90%, and that is what matters. System works.

How many Pakistani girls are married so some Joe Gora in the US? I know one and she always had eyes for cute Pakistani guys. I think she would nail someone and show the Joe Gora out.

Urstruly,
It is just a story don`t get too excited!

HP,

There is NO way you can prove conclusively that the Pakistani marriage institute is overwhelmingly successful. That would entail exhaustive study-and you havent done it.