Faraz

May he rest in peace! Ameen!

Some peole are plain suicidal and when when that realisation dawns on a close friend/relative/etc, they should not leave him/her alone.it had to happen and so it did, and no one can bring Faraz back, but, i really want to know, if his parents ever contacted a psychiatrist when Faraz`s behaviour could not be comprehended by them? did they seek help?

People like Faraz need help which can be provided only by near & dear ones. As rightly said by another interactor he ought to be listened to...and never make the person feel neglected

Xari, did you ever `listen` to your `friend` faraz?.If not, then promise to do so to the next person you befriend.

Xari:

The story is painfully disturbing and I am not able to get the idea why Faraz acted like he didn`t belong to the circumstances. What was threatning him from which he tried so much to escape to death. A real haunting depression could be cured. I feel he was felt only not treated deeply tobe heeled. If there been personal losses then I think the family should keep an account of care to make him feel posses the harmony and expand his strengths.
From your description it appears him a sadist who confines his feeling to develop his innerself. And its not thoroughly clear of the background he belonged to, or what teased him the most, what social insecurites he couldn`t handle.

Your personal loss of a friend is very distressing and may be it had made no difference if you wrote the real loops of scorn which shattered his endurance.


mere Khudaa mujhe itanaa to mo`atabar kar de
mai.n jis makaan me.n rahataa huu.N us ko ghar kar de

ye raushanii ke ta`aqub me.n bhaagataa huaa din
jo thak gayaa hai to ab is ko muKhtasar kar de

mai.n zindagii kii duaa maa.Ngane lagaa huu.N bahut
jo ho sake to duaao.n ko beasar kar de

sitaaraa-e-saharii Duubane ko aayaa hai
zaraa ko_ii mere suuraj ko baa-Khabar kar de

qabiilaa vaar kamaane.n ka.Dakane vaalii hai.n
mere lahuu kii gavaahii mujhe niDar kar de

merii zamii.n meraa aaKhirii havaalaa hai
so mai.n rahuu.N na rahuu.N us ko baaravar kar de

mai.n apane Khvaab se kaT kar jiyuu.N to meraa Khudaa
ujaa.D de merii muTThii ko dar-ba-dar kar de

-Iftikhar Arif.

Hum tairay doast hain Faraz magar,
Yuun na uljhanoun main daal hamain...
-Ahmed Faraz

Sad story. Sorry to here about your friend. (For a long time whilst reading your essay I was under the false impression you were talking about Ahmed Faraz, the poet...)

Xari:

this is not a good piece of writing

the story is sad

manic and bi-polar disorder is a treatable and controllable sickness

rgds

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Jaun Aliya:

ham to jaise yahaa.N ke the hii nahii.n


ham to jaise yahaa.N ke the hii nahii.n
dhuup the saayabaa.N ke the hii nahii.n

raaste kaaravaa.N ke saath rahe
marhale kaaravaa.N ke the hii nahii.n

ab hamaaraa makaan kis kaa hai
ham to apane makaa.N ke the hii nahii.n

in ko aa.Ndhi me.n hii bikharanaa thaa
baal-o-par yahaa.N ke the hii nahii.n

us galii ne ye sun ke sabr kiyaa
jaane vaale yahaa.N ke the hii nahii.n

ho terii Khaak-e-aastaa.N pe salaam
ham tere aastaa.N ke the hii nahii.n



Really really sad! :S

Growing up in the US, i had a misconceived notion that it was only westerners that were batty. Indians/south asians were more grounded is what i thought.Ever since my love affair with India and my subsequent moving here, i have changed my view.Indians/south asians are as screwed up as any other group of people.The difference is more than half of us hide our inadequacies and pretend.Some fall off the wagon.Faraz is one of them.I guess he didn`t listen to `advice` `cause we don`t advice.We lecture.We don`t listen.Did anyone listen to Faraz instead of trying to advice him?.