Bina Shah August 25, 2005
#266 Posted by imransuhail on April 19, 2007 5:57:48 am
how do you see a connection between ``honor killings, forced marriages, and domestic violence`` and islam??
arent these becuse we are a declined third world country? and whose fault is that? islam which never took part in this country or the capitalist west, whose feet our rulers have licked tirelessly for the past 60 years ????
arent these becuse we are a declined third world country? and whose fault is that? islam which never took part in this country or the capitalist west, whose feet our rulers have licked tirelessly for the past 60 years ????
#265 Posted by rsridhar on September 16, 2005 5:36:37 pm
re: Mushy`s remark about Paki women getting raped for money
I thought Paki women would want to known what their dictator thinks of them.
They say: a picture speaks a thousand words. Here are some:
http://www.sulekha.com/news/nhc.aspx?cid=434360
http://www.sulekha.com/news/nhc.aspx?cid=434358
Sridhar
I thought Paki women would want to known what their dictator thinks of them.
They say: a picture speaks a thousand words. Here are some:
http://www.sulekha.com/news/nhc.aspx?cid=434360
http://www.sulekha.com/news/nhc.aspx?cid=434358
Sridhar
#263 Posted by harish_hyd on September 1, 2005 12:00:41 am
#262 by hamidm2
[now if you can cure romair i will accept you as my guru ......]
I remember an old dialog from Amitabh Bachchan`s movie Laawaris and I think it applies just perfectly to Romair. Excuse the Hindi spellings.
``Hum uss kuttay ki dum hain jo baarah saal nali mein rahein, nali tedhi ho gayi, magar hum seedhe nahin huen``.
[now if you can cure romair i will accept you as my guru ......]
I remember an old dialog from Amitabh Bachchan`s movie Laawaris and I think it applies just perfectly to Romair. Excuse the Hindi spellings.
``Hum uss kuttay ki dum hain jo baarah saal nali mein rahein, nali tedhi ho gayi, magar hum seedhe nahin huen``.
#262 Posted by hamidm2 on August 31, 2005 1:35:26 pm
Re: # 254
shankar,
........ thanks for the your professional opinion - i agree with most of it .......... you are a wise man indeed .......... now if you can cure romair i will accept you as my guru ......
....... rgds and my fish thank you
shankar,
........ thanks for the your professional opinion - i agree with most of it .......... you are a wise man indeed .......... now if you can cure romair i will accept you as my guru ......
....... rgds and my fish thank you
#261 Posted by ZahraJ on August 30, 2005 8:15:21 pm
Re: # 254
Shankar: I understand that Hamidm has his own eccentricities but what did he do now to deserve a succinct response like this ?
Just for your kind information, we are in 2005.
Please wake up.
Polite Wishes.
Shankar: I understand that Hamidm has his own eccentricities but what did he do now to deserve a succinct response like this ?
Just for your kind information, we are in 2005.
Please wake up.
Polite Wishes.
#260 Posted by nefertiti on August 30, 2005 7:43:24 pm
Bina,
Great stuff! Written with such incisive honesty and understanding, not to mention keen observation of negative nuances in even the most mundane seeming situations in daily life which are the result of deeply ingrained injustice against women. You make me glad that I am a Chowk member; more power to your pen, Bina, you keep going, girl!!
Great stuff! Written with such incisive honesty and understanding, not to mention keen observation of negative nuances in even the most mundane seeming situations in daily life which are the result of deeply ingrained injustice against women. You make me glad that I am a Chowk member; more power to your pen, Bina, you keep going, girl!!
#259 Posted by teshah on August 30, 2005 6:49:39 pm
Re: # 255
That is the tragedy! Women want equal rights with humans but don`t behave like civilised human beings. They can`t do so due to their contradictory mindset; their desire to be liked and loved by the opposite sex and also to make a show off their `pak bazi` and `ismat naaki`.
This has made the Hijab women mentally abnormal in a Talibani culture, be it India or Pakistan. I saw even a woman of about 80 objecting to a young boy sitting with her in a bus in the Pak land.
That is the tragedy! Women want equal rights with humans but don`t behave like civilised human beings. They can`t do so due to their contradictory mindset; their desire to be liked and loved by the opposite sex and also to make a show off their `pak bazi` and `ismat naaki`.
This has made the Hijab women mentally abnormal in a Talibani culture, be it India or Pakistan. I saw even a woman of about 80 objecting to a young boy sitting with her in a bus in the Pak land.
#258 Posted by teshah on August 30, 2005 6:28:20 pm
Re: # 253
It would not have been so bad on earth of course but for Adam having failed to call Hawa as sister or beti as actually she was having been born out of his rib as the story goes. And now:
Yoon nah tha mein ne faqat chaha thayoon ho jaae
Aur bhi dukh hein zamaane mein mohabbat ke siva
Thanks and regards.
It would not have been so bad on earth of course but for Adam having failed to call Hawa as sister or beti as actually she was having been born out of his rib as the story goes. And now:
Yoon nah tha mein ne faqat chaha thayoon ho jaae
Aur bhi dukh hein zamaane mein mohabbat ke siva
Thanks and regards.
#256 Posted by BeeJay on August 30, 2005 3:43:56 am
#254 SSS (Shrunk shrink Shankar)
Dear S3,
You need to stop playing tweedle-dee versus tweedle-dum with Hamidm!
This routine is OLD! He makes an outrageous statement – and YOU (Lord almighty!) show up as the “reasonable” counterpoint. I believe you should stick to fish (not physically, though).
If I may suggest to you, a supposed shrink, your interactions over the years reveal a deeply disturbed persona – someone who came to this chowk world wearing a thin veneer of civility and tried to maintain it for a while – until the sands of time kept grating and exposing more and more of the inner core – till it all came out – the gook, the bad, and the ugly!
Your wholesale generalization and trashing of a people (Biharis, in this case) is beyond comparison. It won’t surprise me if as a child you were traumatized by your Bihari milkman – or perhaps a Bihari school bully – at the head of a long line of bullies taking their respective turns at you. Are you sure that in your heart YOU are not a Bihari? Perhaps just a wanna-be?
Also, the way you keep harping on this “Muslim” theme (like my dear Hamidm does), may I remind you – THERE IS NO UMMAH – it’s all fictitious! These are people like you and me – perhaps some of their forefathers were yours, too!
[Men ....``in general`` are told (& bought up) to be the ``stronger sex``...its true in most cultures... Ofcourse, some cultures are more male-dominated than others (thats true of hindus too)...warriors, leaders, generals, statesmen, artists, poets are predominantly men.]
Such views are archaic and most reasonable thinkers have thrown them out of the window.
[Women are told (& bought up) that their first & foremost duty is to procreate...& raise their fertilised ova....to ``nest``...Its a ``hang-up`` that women deal with all the time.. ]
Obviously, a lot of wishful thinking! May I remind you that it takes TWO to procreate – a fact that may not have dawned upon your shrunk ness!
[One of the reasons my female patients, who have careers, are totally ``stressed out``....is because ….]
What a silly hypothesis! Of course your patients would be stressed out – they are YOUR patients, aren’t they? (Female or otherwise!)
[their ``conciense`` feels that somehow they arent doing their sociological duty (as it were) for putting their careers over children...they hate to admit it....its OTHER women that make them feel guilty...& it PISS*S them off...(kinda like Bina`s example...when the woman who was conservatively dressed...made the ``secular`` or ``modern`` muslim woman feel guilty.) ]
That’s great – spread the “guilt” brush widely – and keep those 50-minute checks rolling in! I have seen some poppycock on this site – but this takes the cake!
[..I see it in my wife too...``am I a good mother?`` is a question very frequently asked by career women...esp when they try and discipline kids!:) ]
And the reason you will NEVER tell her this crap in person is that you will get “disciplined” yourself faster than lightning!
[Yes...EDUCATION..is the KEY...it is EDUCATION that makes humans QUESTION & DEFY anachronistic attitudes of a culture ...or a nation...or a religion...]
But it does not always work – and YOU – my dear, are the namoona!
[If youre culture represses sex...you have very very wieeeerrrrd ideas about it...kinda like what every schoolboy (in Bombay..atleast) learns...ahem... ``one drop of semen =32 drops of blood``...or ``if a guy masterbates, he gets zits...or worse yet, a hernia``!!
If schoolboys in liberal Bombay (who interact with girls all the time...even way back in the 70s) learn that kinda crap....I wonder aloud what schoolboys in Waziristan or Gilgit or Jeddah learn about such...er...``blasphemous`` issues?!...the more repressed you are... the more confused (& perverted) you get....worse than that.... I wonder what GIRLS are told about such things in conservative societies?!]
I think I am finally getting a clear idea of why people from Bombay are considered such hopeless cases by so many!
[One of my patients was a very bright ``secular`` Bangladeshi college student..born & raised in a strict, conservative Islamic upbringing...I was extremely surprised that her parents had never/ever discussed sex with her...like it was some kind of sinful taboo...even to talk about it!]
Dear doc, that trend is not confined to Bangladesh – if you wake up a little and look outside your city cocoon, it holds true of most of rural India too. Also, sexuality and secularity are different animals – one rules your member while the other your mind (although in some cases – like yours – there may be clear confusion regarding the roles of the two).
[Freud`s daughter ..Anna Freud... in her seminal thesis ``Ego & the mechanisms of Defense``...said that when humans feel angry ...they ESP men) ``act-out`` their anger]
May I remind you that Freud died centuries ago. You shrinks have been treating him like your own “Allah-tala” for every little thing. Come up with some new stuff, would you?
#255 Posted by muqaddam on August 30, 2005 1:53:02 am
The other day on returning to India from Europe, I landed at Mumbai. We have these minibuses plying from Mumbai airport to Pune. I purchased a ticket for a ride to Pune. When I entered the bus, I found all window seats taken, so there was nothing to do but share a seat. I reached for a seat and was about to sit down, when the person sitting on the seat by the window stopped me from sitting, pointed to another seat and said ``why dont you sit there? there is a man sitting there``. The person was a woman wearing a hijab but not covering her face. I was shocked speechless, for this sort of thing just does not happen in India. The next available seat had another girl sitting by the window who readily made room for me. The hijab wearing so-and so had probably come fresh from Saudi Arabia or Pakistan after indoctrination. The conclusion is , many people visiting these countries are so brainwashed that they would like spread the retrograde thinking even to their motherland if they can help it, so if these things happen in Pakistan, Talibanisation of that society is a question of not ``if`` but ``when``
#254 Posted by shankar on August 29, 2005 9:53:31 pm
Re: # 238
Hamid_m,
{{....... of course this is just a layman`s opinion ........ maybe shankar can give us the real scoop from a professional viewpoint ........}}
Are you quite sure you want a ``rational`` conversation from a Bihari?...he ``collects`` grudges!:))
{{- the majority of muslim men - and that includes unwashed abdul, who shares his tent with his camel or goat - suffer from an impotent rage ........ they have been bested by other men in every field of human endeavor - science, industry, technology, sports and sex}}
I cant tell you specifically about ``muslim men in Pakistan`` or in the ``ummah``...you know better than I do, cos you grew up in that microcosm.
Men ....``in general`` are told (& bought up) to be the ``stronger sex``...its true in most cultures... Ofcourse, some cultures are more male-dominated than others (thats true of hindus too)...warriors, leaders, generals, statesmen, artists, poets are predominantly men.
OTOH, women encounter a glass ceiling...its an amalgam of national..cultural..religious...& sociological attitudes of their microcosm. Women are told (& bought up) that their first & foremost duty is to procreate...& raise their fertilised ova....to ``nest``...Its a ``hang-up`` that women deal with all the time..
One of the reasons my female patients, who have careers, are totally ``stressed out``....is because their ``conciense`` feels that somehow they arent doing their sociological duty (as it were) for putting their careers over children...they hate to admit it....its OTHER women that make them feel guilty...& it PISS*S them off...(kinda like Bina`s example...when the woman who was conservatively dressed...made the ``secular`` or ``modern`` muslim woman feel guilty.)
..I see it in my wife too...``am I a good mother?`` is a question very frequently asked by career women...esp when they try and discipline kids!:)
I realise sweeping generalisations are just that ...a little too ``sweeping``...but a large part of a man`s ``self-esteem`` is based on what he DOES (ie...do I bring home ``most of`` the bacon? ...am I a productive human being?)....a large part of a woman`s ``self-esteem`` comes from how she LOOKS..(70 yr old ladies go to hairdressers every week...do you see a 70 yr old man do that?)....whether she is a good ``mistress`` of the household or not?...
Ofcourse..my personal/professional impression is based upon ``peering into human minds``, since 82...first in NY & then in MI...in the AMERICAN microcosm...
Yes...EDUCATION..is the KEY...it is EDUCATION that makes humans QUESTION & DEFY anachronistic attitudes of a culture ...or a nation...or a religion...
if you dont educate women as assiduously as you educate men...you WILL subdugate them (no matter how ``arrogantly`` & ``piously`` ones says..we PROTECT our women...in our ``perfect`` culture)...thats why western feminists despise cultures like Saudi Arabia...& educated muslim women in Pakistan are more vociferous about the crap that goes on in the name of ``Islaaaam!`` & ``Allah``...
Alas, IMHO, Islam has been hijacked by a bunch of blasphemers who have converted ``Allah`` into ``Shaitaan`` in the eyes of the non-Islamic world...
They have used words/phrases like ``the Holy Prophet``, ``Jihad``, ``Islaam`` to justify their brutality...
These people want a billion muslims to step off the train & GO BACK to a ``perfect`` time...where there was/is ``perfect`` laws...into the frikkin` 6 th century...
Why do you think a Southern Plantation owner not want to educate slaves?...cos an educated human is more AWARE of the bs hypocrisy thats going around him/her....& is more likely to ``rebel``...
Are ``conservative`` societies (read misogynistic) better?!..you be the judge...IMHO any culture that ``regresses`` back to an anachronistic era.... is in a deep pile of do-do...no matter how much you couch it as being ``pious`` or ``holy`` or ``Islamic``...
((Now...just because I`m critical of ``muslims`` (NOT Islam)...those of you who are purple in the face...better not tell me...but..but..what about us evil hindooos?...the issue here is about muslims...not hindus...if you want to know our faults, let me kindly refer you to Her Highness FV`s numerous articles..))
{{......... yes, sex ...... inspite of being allowed the luxury of having multiple women, muslim men, because of their misogynistic upbringing, cannot keep their women happy - i base my conclusion on the scientific observation that muslim women rarely smile and the fact that muhammad ata did not want women tattling at his funeral ..........}}
If youre culture represses sex...you have very very wieeeerrrrd ideas about it...kinda like what every schoolboy (in Bombay..atleast) learns...ahem... ``one drop of semen =32 drops of blood``...or ``if a guy masterbates, he gets zits...or worse yet, a hernia``!!
If schoolboys in liberal Bombay (who interact with girls all the time...even way back in the 70s) learn that kinda crap....I wonder aloud what schoolboys in Waziristan or Gilgit or Jeddah learn about such...er...``blasphemous`` issues?!...the more repressed you are... the more confused (& perverted) you get....worse than that.... I wonder what GIRLS are told about such things in conservative societies?!
One of my patients was a very bright ``secular`` Bangladeshi college student..born & raised in a strict, conservative Islamic upbringing...I was extremely surprised that her parents had never/ever discussed sex with her...like it was some kind of sinful taboo...even to talk about it!
{{ but women are a little bit more tricky, specially if they get a little education, discover foreplay and demand the right to vote ..........this drives the poor man nuts ......... hence the impotent rage as characterized by our dear friend ntsyed .............. }}
Yup! I agree...it makes men feel more insecure...& more ``impotent``...Freud`s daughter ..Anna Freud... in her seminal thesis ``Ego & the mechanisms of Defense``...said that when humans feel angry ...they ESP men) ``act-out`` their anger
violence or terrorism...
...if the dont ``act-out``...
the more ``civil-ised`` ones will use...
DENIAL...``it CANT be the Al-Qeeda that caused 911....its an Israeli conspiracy``..
RATIONALISATION...its the fault of the West, Israelis & Hindus that my cohorts are acting the way they are...
INTELLECTUALISATION...``so & so scholar Ibn Ibn Whateveri`` said so & so ..so jihad is justified...or...since its in a frikkin ``hadith`` (whatever THAT means)...or...if someting/something is said in the Koran...then it must be holy!
etc etc
Frau Anna Freud was very polite when she refered to the above as ``IMMATURE`` defense mechanisms...
thats what happens if a society starts regressing...they circle their wagons...& act like ``victims`` & blame everybody else for their problems...
Islam is a great religion...the Prophet Mohammed (pbuh) was one of the greatest men to walk upon the face of this earth...
Islam`s biggest BADNASEEB was her disciples turned out to be muslims...esp muslim MEN...
Who will save Rapunzel from her tower?!:(
Khuda Hafiz
Hamid_m,
{{....... of course this is just a layman`s opinion ........ maybe shankar can give us the real scoop from a professional viewpoint ........}}
Are you quite sure you want a ``rational`` conversation from a Bihari?...he ``collects`` grudges!:))
{{- the majority of muslim men - and that includes unwashed abdul, who shares his tent with his camel or goat - suffer from an impotent rage ........ they have been bested by other men in every field of human endeavor - science, industry, technology, sports and sex}}
I cant tell you specifically about ``muslim men in Pakistan`` or in the ``ummah``...you know better than I do, cos you grew up in that microcosm.
Men ....``in general`` are told (& bought up) to be the ``stronger sex``...its true in most cultures... Ofcourse, some cultures are more male-dominated than others (thats true of hindus too)...warriors, leaders, generals, statesmen, artists, poets are predominantly men.
OTOH, women encounter a glass ceiling...its an amalgam of national..cultural..religious...& sociological attitudes of their microcosm. Women are told (& bought up) that their first & foremost duty is to procreate...& raise their fertilised ova....to ``nest``...Its a ``hang-up`` that women deal with all the time..
One of the reasons my female patients, who have careers, are totally ``stressed out``....is because their ``conciense`` feels that somehow they arent doing their sociological duty (as it were) for putting their careers over children...they hate to admit it....its OTHER women that make them feel guilty...& it PISS*S them off...(kinda like Bina`s example...when the woman who was conservatively dressed...made the ``secular`` or ``modern`` muslim woman feel guilty.)
..I see it in my wife too...``am I a good mother?`` is a question very frequently asked by career women...esp when they try and discipline kids!:)
I realise sweeping generalisations are just that ...a little too ``sweeping``...but a large part of a man`s ``self-esteem`` is based on what he DOES (ie...do I bring home ``most of`` the bacon? ...am I a productive human being?)....a large part of a woman`s ``self-esteem`` comes from how she LOOKS..(70 yr old ladies go to hairdressers every week...do you see a 70 yr old man do that?)....whether she is a good ``mistress`` of the household or not?...
Ofcourse..my personal/professional impression is based upon ``peering into human minds``, since 82...first in NY & then in MI...in the AMERICAN microcosm...
Yes...EDUCATION..is the KEY...it is EDUCATION that makes humans QUESTION & DEFY anachronistic attitudes of a culture ...or a nation...or a religion...
if you dont educate women as assiduously as you educate men...you WILL subdugate them (no matter how ``arrogantly`` & ``piously`` ones says..we PROTECT our women...in our ``perfect`` culture)...thats why western feminists despise cultures like Saudi Arabia...& educated muslim women in Pakistan are more vociferous about the crap that goes on in the name of ``Islaaaam!`` & ``Allah``...
Alas, IMHO, Islam has been hijacked by a bunch of blasphemers who have converted ``Allah`` into ``Shaitaan`` in the eyes of the non-Islamic world...
They have used words/phrases like ``the Holy Prophet``, ``Jihad``, ``Islaam`` to justify their brutality...
These people want a billion muslims to step off the train & GO BACK to a ``perfect`` time...where there was/is ``perfect`` laws...into the frikkin` 6 th century...
Why do you think a Southern Plantation owner not want to educate slaves?...cos an educated human is more AWARE of the bs hypocrisy thats going around him/her....& is more likely to ``rebel``...
Are ``conservative`` societies (read misogynistic) better?!..you be the judge...IMHO any culture that ``regresses`` back to an anachronistic era.... is in a deep pile of do-do...no matter how much you couch it as being ``pious`` or ``holy`` or ``Islamic``...
((Now...just because I`m critical of ``muslims`` (NOT Islam)...those of you who are purple in the face...better not tell me...but..but..what about us evil hindooos?...the issue here is about muslims...not hindus...if you want to know our faults, let me kindly refer you to Her Highness FV`s numerous articles..))
{{......... yes, sex ...... inspite of being allowed the luxury of having multiple women, muslim men, because of their misogynistic upbringing, cannot keep their women happy - i base my conclusion on the scientific observation that muslim women rarely smile and the fact that muhammad ata did not want women tattling at his funeral ..........}}
If youre culture represses sex...you have very very wieeeerrrrd ideas about it...kinda like what every schoolboy (in Bombay..atleast) learns...ahem... ``one drop of semen =32 drops of blood``...or ``if a guy masterbates, he gets zits...or worse yet, a hernia``!!
If schoolboys in liberal Bombay (who interact with girls all the time...even way back in the 70s) learn that kinda crap....I wonder aloud what schoolboys in Waziristan or Gilgit or Jeddah learn about such...er...``blasphemous`` issues?!...the more repressed you are... the more confused (& perverted) you get....worse than that.... I wonder what GIRLS are told about such things in conservative societies?!
One of my patients was a very bright ``secular`` Bangladeshi college student..born & raised in a strict, conservative Islamic upbringing...I was extremely surprised that her parents had never/ever discussed sex with her...like it was some kind of sinful taboo...even to talk about it!
{{ but women are a little bit more tricky, specially if they get a little education, discover foreplay and demand the right to vote ..........this drives the poor man nuts ......... hence the impotent rage as characterized by our dear friend ntsyed .............. }}
Yup! I agree...it makes men feel more insecure...& more ``impotent``...Freud`s daughter ..Anna Freud... in her seminal thesis ``Ego & the mechanisms of Defense``...said that when humans feel angry ...they ESP men) ``act-out`` their anger
violence or terrorism...
...if the dont ``act-out``...
the more ``civil-ised`` ones will use...
DENIAL...``it CANT be the Al-Qeeda that caused 911....its an Israeli conspiracy``..
RATIONALISATION...its the fault of the West, Israelis & Hindus that my cohorts are acting the way they are...
INTELLECTUALISATION...``so & so scholar Ibn Ibn Whateveri`` said so & so ..so jihad is justified...or...since its in a frikkin ``hadith`` (whatever THAT means)...or...if someting/something is said in the Koran...then it must be holy!
etc etc
Frau Anna Freud was very polite when she refered to the above as ``IMMATURE`` defense mechanisms...
thats what happens if a society starts regressing...they circle their wagons...& act like ``victims`` & blame everybody else for their problems...
Islam is a great religion...the Prophet Mohammed (pbuh) was one of the greatest men to walk upon the face of this earth...
Islam`s biggest BADNASEEB was her disciples turned out to be muslims...esp muslim MEN...
Who will save Rapunzel from her tower?!:(
Khuda Hafiz
#253 Posted by hamidm2 on August 29, 2005 8:29:34 pm
Re: # 252
teshah sahib,
..... you don`t have much use for women, do you ?.......... still mad at them for getting us thrown out of eden ? .....let bygones be bygones - life is not too bad on earth either .......
teshah sahib,
..... you don`t have much use for women, do you ?.......... still mad at them for getting us thrown out of eden ? .....let bygones be bygones - life is not too bad on earth either .......
#252 Posted by teshah on August 29, 2005 6:57:04 pm
Re: # 223
``Equal rights?``
But what about `Naan Nufqah` which the women are using as a handle to get their husbands sent to jail through corrupt family courts of Pakistan? Why the man should be held responsible for supporting his wife even when she becomes his worst
enemy? Is it not worse than prostitution, in fact, virtual rape of the man?
``Equal rights?``
But what about `Naan Nufqah` which the women are using as a handle to get their husbands sent to jail through corrupt family courts of Pakistan? Why the man should be held responsible for supporting his wife even when she becomes his worst
enemy? Is it not worse than prostitution, in fact, virtual rape of the man?
#251 Posted by mannu404 on August 29, 2005 1:47:21 pm
#250, Gujju,
Thanks, yaar. Again, I am eternally indebted to you for exposing this hypocrite. I really appreciate your honesty in putting him in in his place.
He pontificates so much about profanity and abuse, yet is AWOL when it comes to accountability, honesty, truthfulness, and fairness.
Now you understand why we have Mulla problems in Pakistan? These self-sanctimonious padres of morality and one-sided critique are everywhere.
Thanks,
Salim
Thanks, yaar. Again, I am eternally indebted to you for exposing this hypocrite. I really appreciate your honesty in putting him in in his place.
He pontificates so much about profanity and abuse, yet is AWOL when it comes to accountability, honesty, truthfulness, and fairness.
Now you understand why we have Mulla problems in Pakistan? These self-sanctimonious padres of morality and one-sided critique are everywhere.
Thanks,
Salim
#250 Posted by Ranger on August 29, 2005 1:33:05 pm
Salim...I just read yours and Godot`s merciless massacre of temporal in another thread - was hilarious as hell :()
#249 Posted by mannu404 on August 29, 2005 1:26:51 pm
#248, Gujju, you may not realize it, but you are responsible for the downfall of this ``brahmin`` of Chowk from his high horse. :)
Salim
Salim
#248 Posted by Ranger on August 29, 2005 12:24:23 pm
Hah....any person fretting and fuming so much over the supposed credibility of an anonymous internet poster is :
A. ) A Loser
B. ) A Fool
C. ) Unemployed
D. ) All of the above....
A. ) A Loser
B. ) A Fool
C. ) Unemployed
D. ) All of the above....
#247 Posted by mannu404 on August 29, 2005 9:35:49 am
Mr. Temporal,
Did you attend University of Colorado in Fort Collins, Colorado or Colorado State University in Boulder, Colorado?
This question is very relevant to your credibility. :)
Next time, before you accuse others, check out your facts.
Also, next time, before you post erroneous nonsense on FP, please check out your facts.
Your credibility is nosediving fast. :)
Salim
Did you attend University of Colorado in Fort Collins, Colorado or Colorado State University in Boulder, Colorado?
This question is very relevant to your credibility. :)
Next time, before you accuse others, check out your facts.
Also, next time, before you post erroneous nonsense on FP, please check out your facts.
Your credibility is nosediving fast. :)
Salim
#246 Posted by mannu404 on August 29, 2005 9:16:26 am
Mr. Temporal,
I must respond to you here, because on UP my responses are receiving the usual one-sided censorship treatment.
You stated about me; {``from exchanging passwrods to nicks, to hallucinating about ‘experimenting’ with us here.. being married…being a professor or teacher of some sort…indulging in experimenting with his group of friends…claiming to be a pakistani…married….managing a whore house…or was it some other joint…his hallucinations and delusions and blatant lies are sufficient for anyone to join me in saying he has no credibility``}
For a man well-advanced in years, you are expressing an unnaturally excessive interest in me, my ethnic origins, my nationality, my marital status, my educational background, my prior occupation,, and truthfulness. Please act according to your age and your gender. There are cyber trangressions that are considered much worse than profane rebuttals.
For someone who doesn`t check his facts (accusing others of actions they did not commit as confirmed by volunatry confessions of Good Samaritans, stating erroneous locations of well-known educational institutions in a Front Page article for crying out loud!), you are the last person to pontificate about CREDIBILITY.
Hopefully old age and senility will soon do you and us a huge favor. :)
Salim
I must respond to you here, because on UP my responses are receiving the usual one-sided censorship treatment.
You stated about me; {``from exchanging passwrods to nicks, to hallucinating about ‘experimenting’ with us here.. being married…being a professor or teacher of some sort…indulging in experimenting with his group of friends…claiming to be a pakistani…married….managing a whore house…or was it some other joint…his hallucinations and delusions and blatant lies are sufficient for anyone to join me in saying he has no credibility``}
For a man well-advanced in years, you are expressing an unnaturally excessive interest in me, my ethnic origins, my nationality, my marital status, my educational background, my prior occupation,, and truthfulness. Please act according to your age and your gender. There are cyber trangressions that are considered much worse than profane rebuttals.
For someone who doesn`t check his facts (accusing others of actions they did not commit as confirmed by volunatry confessions of Good Samaritans, stating erroneous locations of well-known educational institutions in a Front Page article for crying out loud!), you are the last person to pontificate about CREDIBILITY.
Hopefully old age and senility will soon do you and us a huge favor. :)
Salim
#245 Posted by mannu404 on August 29, 2005 7:56:59 am
#243, {``what is UP and why are people going there ? ``}
Hamindm Sahib, Do Number Walley,
UP stands for many things:
Utter Pradish - nothing to do will mooli or any other subji
United Provinces - before they created Uttar Anchal. :)
Upper Peninsula - the part of Michigan normally known as Uppa US. :)
Unplugged - a contolled environment on Chowk, where serious debate about who is who, nicwise, latest advances in cosmetics, constant whining about unemployment, low-paying jobs in caffeine merchandising, concern over the manhood of certain opponents, what to do about uncontrolled flatulence, and jealousy over other interactors` ilogs are the burning issues of the day. Debates are won by favorites by intercession with their friends on Chowk Staff. Profanity is abundant and tolerated for the ``brahmins of Chowk.`` Such is the state of affair of this site, which could be renamed as UP - Uniquely Paki. :)
Salim
Hamindm Sahib, Do Number Walley,
UP stands for many things:
Utter Pradish - nothing to do will mooli or any other subji
United Provinces - before they created Uttar Anchal. :)
Upper Peninsula - the part of Michigan normally known as Uppa US. :)
Unplugged - a contolled environment on Chowk, where serious debate about who is who, nicwise, latest advances in cosmetics, constant whining about unemployment, low-paying jobs in caffeine merchandising, concern over the manhood of certain opponents, what to do about uncontrolled flatulence, and jealousy over other interactors` ilogs are the burning issues of the day. Debates are won by favorites by intercession with their friends on Chowk Staff. Profanity is abundant and tolerated for the ``brahmins of Chowk.`` Such is the state of affair of this site, which could be renamed as UP - Uniquely Paki. :)
Salim
#244 Posted by mannu404 on August 29, 2005 7:49:30 am
#242, DM Sahib,
Thanks for clarifying that. I learned something. :)
Salim
Thanks for clarifying that. I learned something. :)
Salim
#243 Posted by hamidm2 on August 29, 2005 7:48:22 am
what is UP and why are people going there ? ....... am i missing something ? ........ it sounds like some kind of an s&m site visited by people who are not satisfied by the abuse they get on the fp ......... is that where romair is hiding ?
#242 Posted by dost_mittar on August 29, 2005 7:44:42 am
manu404#240:
````Pooch kiye`` just doesn`t sound very Urduesque``
``PoochA kiye`` was commonly used in urdu poetry. It just means ``asked``.
````Pooch kiye`` just doesn`t sound very Urduesque``
``PoochA kiye`` was commonly used in urdu poetry. It just means ``asked``.
#241 Posted by mannu404 on August 29, 2005 7:32:08 am
Mr. Temporal,
I know that my response to your unprovoked assault on UP will be erased. So I must ensure that you have a chance to read it.
After having been caught red-handed on FP in your attempt to falsely accuse me of things that I did not do, you are now resorting to slander in this forum. Sir, you are the last person to talk about credibility - Mr. Ranger (young Gujju) taught you a well-deserved lesson about the necessity to be truthful.
You said: {``but i will say categorically this that every single time it happend on chowk the said multi nick has been guilty of instigating and starting it off...``}
Again, in your usually exaggerated manner, you said: {``every single time!`` }
There you go again. You will never learn will you? :)
Do you wish to be proven wrong again?
Again, you spoke with forked tongue: {``yet he turns back and foul mouths me and family…no credibility ``}
Again, you are lying. Please don`t confuse me with others. :) There are several people who foul mouth your family - I am not one of them. [-X
The reason for multiple nics is very clear. Your friends at Chowk see fit to erase messages, delete threads, filter my posts, even when the content is perfectly polite and rational. This selective censorship encourages resorting to multiple nics and evasive action. No doubt this message will be erased, while your one-sided, biased, and opinionated commentary will stay intact. Is it any wonder that some young people find you hypocritical and totally untustworthy? :)
Salim
I know that my response to your unprovoked assault on UP will be erased. So I must ensure that you have a chance to read it.
After having been caught red-handed on FP in your attempt to falsely accuse me of things that I did not do, you are now resorting to slander in this forum. Sir, you are the last person to talk about credibility - Mr. Ranger (young Gujju) taught you a well-deserved lesson about the necessity to be truthful.
You said: {``but i will say categorically this that every single time it happend on chowk the said multi nick has been guilty of instigating and starting it off...``}
Again, in your usually exaggerated manner, you said: {``every single time!`` }
There you go again. You will never learn will you? :)
Do you wish to be proven wrong again?
Again, you spoke with forked tongue: {``yet he turns back and foul mouths me and family…no credibility ``}
Again, you are lying. Please don`t confuse me with others. :) There are several people who foul mouth your family - I am not one of them. [-X
The reason for multiple nics is very clear. Your friends at Chowk see fit to erase messages, delete threads, filter my posts, even when the content is perfectly polite and rational. This selective censorship encourages resorting to multiple nics and evasive action. No doubt this message will be erased, while your one-sided, biased, and opinionated commentary will stay intact. Is it any wonder that some young people find you hypocritical and totally untustworthy? :)
Salim
#240 Posted by mannu404 on August 29, 2005 7:19:47 am
#239, {``hum se bhi sub poocha kiye``}
``Pooch kiye`` just doesn`t sound very Urduesque.
Perhaps Poochtey or Pooch rahey. :)
Salim
``Pooch kiye`` just doesn`t sound very Urduesque.
Perhaps Poochtey or Pooch rahey. :)
Salim
#239 Posted by khamkhwa. on August 29, 2005 7:15:22 am
Re: # 236
hmmmmm....
hum bhi wahan maujood thay, hum se bhi sub poocha kiye
hum chup rahay, hum haNs diye manzoor tha purdah tera
hmmmmm....
hum bhi wahan maujood thay, hum se bhi sub poocha kiye
hum chup rahay, hum haNs diye manzoor tha purdah tera
#238 Posted by hamidm2 on August 29, 2005 7:03:48 am
beejay,
``Hamidm, you definitely go too far when you extend your gross and sweeping generalizations to “all” Muslims `` .......
........ no, beejay, i am serious - the majority of muslim men - and that includes unwashed abdul, who shares his tent with his camel or goat - suffer from an impotent rage ........ they have been bested by other men in every field of human endeavor - science, industry, technology, sports and sex ......... yes, sex ...... inspite of being allowed the luxury of having multiple women, muslim men, because of their misogynistic upbringing, cannot keep their women happy - i base my conclusion on the scientific observation that muslim women rarely smile and the fact that muhammad ata did not want women tattling at his funeral ..........
....... the only things that a good momin has control over are his women and camels ........ the camel, he can hobble with that silly thing he wears on his head, but women are a little bit more tricky, specially if they get a little education, discover foreplay and demand the right to vote ..........this drives the poor man nuts ......... hence the impotent rage as characterized by our dear friend ntsyed ..............
....... of course this is just a layman`s opinion ........ maybe shankar can give us the real scoop from a professional viewpoint ........
``Hamidm, you definitely go too far when you extend your gross and sweeping generalizations to “all” Muslims `` .......
........ no, beejay, i am serious - the majority of muslim men - and that includes unwashed abdul, who shares his tent with his camel or goat - suffer from an impotent rage ........ they have been bested by other men in every field of human endeavor - science, industry, technology, sports and sex ......... yes, sex ...... inspite of being allowed the luxury of having multiple women, muslim men, because of their misogynistic upbringing, cannot keep their women happy - i base my conclusion on the scientific observation that muslim women rarely smile and the fact that muhammad ata did not want women tattling at his funeral ..........
....... the only things that a good momin has control over are his women and camels ........ the camel, he can hobble with that silly thing he wears on his head, but women are a little bit more tricky, specially if they get a little education, discover foreplay and demand the right to vote ..........this drives the poor man nuts ......... hence the impotent rage as characterized by our dear friend ntsyed ..............
....... of course this is just a layman`s opinion ........ maybe shankar can give us the real scoop from a professional viewpoint ........
#237 Posted by arjun_m on August 29, 2005 6:56:22 am
#217 by teshah on August 28, 2005 7:06pm PT
What a subjct; Woman versus Man! As the story goes, Adam got bored in heaven and cried for a companion. Got gifted him with the woman.
That`s not how it went down....Adam got bored so god let his watch His TV...Adam kept hogging the remote so god created Eve to get back at Adam...
Hence the biblical quote: Take that beeyatch....Over the years it`s been corrupted to ``take that, beeyatch``...the comma kinda changes the tone....
What a subjct; Woman versus Man! As the story goes, Adam got bored in heaven and cried for a companion. Got gifted him with the woman.
That`s not how it went down....Adam got bored so god let his watch His TV...Adam kept hogging the remote so god created Eve to get back at Adam...
Hence the biblical quote: Take that beeyatch....Over the years it`s been corrupted to ``take that, beeyatch``...the comma kinda changes the tone....
#236 Posted by trmntr_x on August 29, 2005 6:50:30 am
Shankar Sahib,
``...& why do you thing I exist?!...ya dope ya!..``
Oye, doktor sahb, I dont do dope-that is a pathani or bhangi type behavior. I am just a brotha trying to survive, dekh? Also, this shrinkage is not good for my family motis, if you are seeing my point. And I have it from a very pukka source that this shrinkage is a conspiracy against the muslim world to cause havoc in the muslim family. I know very well that you cant have the apple and the apple pie. Fatso Bibi tried to get me to submit to this gora touchy feely ``rap`` business...I said, abey fatso, I am a BROWN man, not a kaaka...I dont play basketball and I dont know how to rap! Then she said it was about ``dialoguing``...such gora words for talking! Then she said maybe we see a couples counsellor! I know where this donkey cart is heading, hain!
``...& why do you thing I exist?!...ya dope ya!..``
Oye, doktor sahb, I dont do dope-that is a pathani or bhangi type behavior. I am just a brotha trying to survive, dekh? Also, this shrinkage is not good for my family motis, if you are seeing my point. And I have it from a very pukka source that this shrinkage is a conspiracy against the muslim world to cause havoc in the muslim family. I know very well that you cant have the apple and the apple pie. Fatso Bibi tried to get me to submit to this gora touchy feely ``rap`` business...I said, abey fatso, I am a BROWN man, not a kaaka...I dont play basketball and I dont know how to rap! Then she said it was about ``dialoguing``...such gora words for talking! Then she said maybe we see a couples counsellor! I know where this donkey cart is heading, hain!
#235 Posted by mannu404 on August 29, 2005 6:34:37 am
Chowk Staff,
All the evidence regarding abusive language, sexual harassment of young males by a middle-aged ``female`` pedophile, and rampant profanity with sexual innuendos is being compiled against this notoriously abusive interactor. All this will come in handy during an eventual litigation.
Thanks,
Salim
All the evidence regarding abusive language, sexual harassment of young males by a middle-aged ``female`` pedophile, and rampant profanity with sexual innuendos is being compiled against this notoriously abusive interactor. All this will come in handy during an eventual litigation.
Thanks,
Salim
#234 Posted by Saminasha on August 29, 2005 6:28:34 am
Re: # 232
Correction: ``hysterical and hypocritical rodent Salim``
Correction: ``hysterical and hypocritical rodent Salim``
#233 Posted by mannu404 on August 29, 2005 6:27:51 am
Chowk Staff,
The notoriously profane interactor has said the same obscenities in BOTH posts #230 and #231. She is guilty of repeatedly profane behavior.
Please be fair.
Thanks,
Salim
The notoriously profane interactor has said the same obscenities in BOTH posts #230 and #231. She is guilty of repeatedly profane behavior.
Please be fair.
Thanks,
Salim
#232 Posted by mannu404 on August 29, 2005 6:22:39 am
Chowk Staff,
Please pay attention to your own policies. I would not have interfered had it not been for the abusive language used against me by this notorious interactor in her post #231 below.
Please note the use of objectionable language here. It certainly smacks of sexual perversion, harassment, and pure profanity.
{``NyetBeeyatch, your citing sodomy jokes just dont make it so..``}.
{``...and that hysterical rodent Salim on the concept....``}
{``women and bears-which of course is gay talk for a burly and manly homosexual``}
{``Secondly, you dont KNOW me, beeyatch.``}
{``But nice extended farting-must have been some nihari dawaat you attended last night.``}
You have censored, warned, and banned other interactors for saying far less.
If you have noticed, I have refrained from responding to profanity with more profanity. Please acknowledge this positive approach.
Thanks,
Salim
Please pay attention to your own policies. I would not have interfered had it not been for the abusive language used against me by this notorious interactor in her post #231 below.
Please note the use of objectionable language here. It certainly smacks of sexual perversion, harassment, and pure profanity.
{``NyetBeeyatch, your citing sodomy jokes just dont make it so..``}.
{``...and that hysterical rodent Salim on the concept....``}
{``women and bears-which of course is gay talk for a burly and manly homosexual``}
{``Secondly, you dont KNOW me, beeyatch.``}
{``But nice extended farting-must have been some nihari dawaat you attended last night.``}
You have censored, warned, and banned other interactors for saying far less.
If you have noticed, I have refrained from responding to profanity with more profanity. Please acknowledge this positive approach.
Thanks,
Salim
#231 Posted by Saminasha on August 29, 2005 6:10:47 am
NyetSahib,
Yet another tangential post attempting damage control? NyetBeeyatch, your citing sodomy jokes just dont make it so...perhaps Shankarji can work with you and that hysterical rodent Salim on the concept....it seems endemic to the insecure males species- their wishing makes something so...In other works NyetSahib, your repressed desires of being overcome sexually (need I point out your ``dominatrix fantasy`` in a previous and pervious post) by women and bears-which of course is gay talk for a burly and manly homosexual-is working against you BIG TIME.
Secondly, you dont KNOW me, beeyatch. What I am thinking about viz Islam is none of your business. Quite frankly, you dont seem to have the intelligence to understand what I am developing. But nice extended farting-must have been some nihari dawaat you attended last night.
Thirdly, NO ONE has forgotten that intellectual quagmire you yourself stepped into after lifting the hem of that silk robe. LABOR, WOMEN and MUSLIM countries. You had NO ANSWER. Now, kindly, stop wasting my time.
Yet another tangential post attempting damage control? NyetBeeyatch, your citing sodomy jokes just dont make it so...perhaps Shankarji can work with you and that hysterical rodent Salim on the concept....it seems endemic to the insecure males species- their wishing makes something so...In other works NyetSahib, your repressed desires of being overcome sexually (need I point out your ``dominatrix fantasy`` in a previous and pervious post) by women and bears-which of course is gay talk for a burly and manly homosexual-is working against you BIG TIME.
Secondly, you dont KNOW me, beeyatch. What I am thinking about viz Islam is none of your business. Quite frankly, you dont seem to have the intelligence to understand what I am developing. But nice extended farting-must have been some nihari dawaat you attended last night.
Thirdly, NO ONE has forgotten that intellectual quagmire you yourself stepped into after lifting the hem of that silk robe. LABOR, WOMEN and MUSLIM countries. You had NO ANSWER. Now, kindly, stop wasting my time.
#230 Posted by Saminasha on August 29, 2005 6:10:17 am
NyetSahib,
Yet another tangential post attempting damage control? NyetBeeyatch, your citing sodomy jokes just dont make it so...perhaps Shankarji can work with you and that hysterical rodent Salim on the concept....it seems endemic to the insecure males species- their wishing makes something so...In other works NyetSahib, your repressed desires of being overcome sexually (need I point out your ``dominatrix fantasy`` in a previous and pervious post) by women and bears-which of course is gay talk for a burly and manly homosexual-is working against you BIG TIME.
Secondly, you dont KNOW me, beeyatch. What I am thinking about viz Islam is none of your business. Quite frankly, you dont seem to have the intelligence to understand what I am developing. But nice extended farting-must have been some nihari dawaat you attended last night.
Thirdly, NO ONE has forgotten that intellectual quagmire you yourself stepped into after lifting the hem of that silk robe. LABOR, WOMEN and MUSLIM countries. You had NO ANSWER. Now, kindly, stop wasting my time.
Yet another tangential post attempting damage control? NyetBeeyatch, your citing sodomy jokes just dont make it so...perhaps Shankarji can work with you and that hysterical rodent Salim on the concept....it seems endemic to the insecure males species- their wishing makes something so...In other works NyetSahib, your repressed desires of being overcome sexually (need I point out your ``dominatrix fantasy`` in a previous and pervious post) by women and bears-which of course is gay talk for a burly and manly homosexual-is working against you BIG TIME.
Secondly, you dont KNOW me, beeyatch. What I am thinking about viz Islam is none of your business. Quite frankly, you dont seem to have the intelligence to understand what I am developing. But nice extended farting-must have been some nihari dawaat you attended last night.
Thirdly, NO ONE has forgotten that intellectual quagmire you yourself stepped into after lifting the hem of that silk robe. LABOR, WOMEN and MUSLIM countries. You had NO ANSWER. Now, kindly, stop wasting my time.
#229 Posted by mannu404 on August 29, 2005 5:57:44 am
ntsyed #222 {``What did the bear say to its captured hunter, whom the bear had sodomized in the last two similar incidents? ``You`re not here for bear hunting, are you?`` LOL..... ``}
Syed Sahib,
I am glad that you are putting my hunter/bear anecdote to good use. Good for you. I have never laughed so hard in such a long time. You, sir, are truly talented in showing people the right path - I could learn a lot from your excellent command of humor, wit, and calm behavior under fire.
Good Luck,
Salim
Syed Sahib,
I am glad that you are putting my hunter/bear anecdote to good use. Good for you. I have never laughed so hard in such a long time. You, sir, are truly talented in showing people the right path - I could learn a lot from your excellent command of humor, wit, and calm behavior under fire.
Good Luck,
Salim
#228 Posted by shankar on August 29, 2005 4:16:09 am
Re: # 218
{{If you marry me I promise I won`t act like that.}}
OK..Bina..when i read your article I was thinking...ki...if pakistani women get real power, we indians would be in a deep pile of do-do....
but NOW...i`m not so sure...
{{If you marry me I promise I won`t act like that.}}
OK..Bina..when i read your article I was thinking...ki...if pakistani women get real power, we indians would be in a deep pile of do-do....
but NOW...i`m not so sure...
#227 Posted by shankar on August 29, 2005 4:13:13 am
Re: # 211
{{...... you will be glad to know that my fish are doing fine - six african cichlids}}
See...Ay-tol`-yah!...when you`ve done with the rest... you come to the best:)...
{{....... by the way do you know how to tell a male from a female ?..........}}
The males are the ones who act like Pathans...dumb..good looking...territorial & very pugnacious mofos...
..if you wanted a ``peaceful`` cichlid tank...you should have stuck to wimpy angels & discus..
{{ also, why is it that all of them are ganging up on one poor thing that is clinging to the filter thingy in a vertical position ?}}
I hope you now realise how my cousin Romair feels...or OUGHT to feel.... when he spews his well spun bs on Chowk...the guy is identified as the ``biggest chut`` in that microcosm by his buddies...
now...be a good boy & give him real Azaadi...and...GET HIM OUTA THERE!!!...before he meets his maker!...
The fish...I mean...not Romair...
{{(reminds me of mr ntsyed) ............ and why does one of them keep on digging up the rocks ? (reminds me of the diligent ms saminasha) ............ is it a male making a nest to entice a female, or is a female doing her own thing to lay eggs ?...........}}
Not bad..not bad...you picked up on THAT... too, eh?! lol!!!
Weell actually ...the male digs a pit to ``establish a territory``...kinda like a Pathan does...
{{........ to be honest, i find what is happening in the aquarium a more interesting than the happenings on chowk ......... mrs hamidm also watches them more than she watches the tv - the kids think that we are going nuts in our middle age and think we should ``get a life`` ?.......... what is your opinion as a professional shrink and fishkeeper ?}}
I hate to tell you this...but I agree with your kids...you & your mrs need to get a life!!
{{...... you will be glad to know that my fish are doing fine - six african cichlids}}
See...Ay-tol`-yah!...when you`ve done with the rest... you come to the best:)...
{{....... by the way do you know how to tell a male from a female ?..........}}
The males are the ones who act like Pathans...dumb..good looking...territorial & very pugnacious mofos...
..if you wanted a ``peaceful`` cichlid tank...you should have stuck to wimpy angels & discus..
{{ also, why is it that all of them are ganging up on one poor thing that is clinging to the filter thingy in a vertical position ?}}
I hope you now realise how my cousin Romair feels...or OUGHT to feel.... when he spews his well spun bs on Chowk...the guy is identified as the ``biggest chut`` in that microcosm by his buddies...
now...be a good boy & give him real Azaadi...and...GET HIM OUTA THERE!!!...before he meets his maker!...
The fish...I mean...not Romair...
{{(reminds me of mr ntsyed) ............ and why does one of them keep on digging up the rocks ? (reminds me of the diligent ms saminasha) ............ is it a male making a nest to entice a female, or is a female doing her own thing to lay eggs ?...........}}
Not bad..not bad...you picked up on THAT... too, eh?! lol!!!
Weell actually ...the male digs a pit to ``establish a territory``...kinda like a Pathan does...
{{........ to be honest, i find what is happening in the aquarium a more interesting than the happenings on chowk ......... mrs hamidm also watches them more than she watches the tv - the kids think that we are going nuts in our middle age and think we should ``get a life`` ?.......... what is your opinion as a professional shrink and fishkeeper ?}}
I hate to tell you this...but I agree with your kids...you & your mrs need to get a life!!
#226 Posted by shankar on August 29, 2005 3:52:06 am
Re: # 205
{{Listen, if Allah wanted us to see head doctors, he would have invented them!}}
BINGO!!!
...& why do you thing I exist?!...ya dope ya!..
{{Listen, if Allah wanted us to see head doctors, he would have invented them!}}
BINGO!!!
...& why do you thing I exist?!...ya dope ya!..
#225 Posted by shankar on August 29, 2005 3:50:28 am
Re: # 222
Er...folks...its none of my business...but there is such an ``issue`` called ``subconcious sexual attraction`` between the 2 of you....now be good & sleep with your respective partners...OK? ...fantasise all you want...but not about each other...Ok...Allah is watching....not that that is any of my business, ofcourse...but ...then again I could be wrong:()...but then again...who knows ?
Er...folks...its none of my business...but there is such an ``issue`` called ``subconcious sexual attraction`` between the 2 of you....now be good & sleep with your respective partners...OK? ...fantasise all you want...but not about each other...Ok...Allah is watching....not that that is any of my business, ofcourse...but ...then again I could be wrong:()...but then again...who knows ?
#224 Posted by shankar on August 29, 2005 3:44:02 am
Re: # 207
{{with the exception of this shrunk shrink Shankar (SSS, or S3), with whom I intend to deal in my own sweet time}}
O Jesus kaali maa!...mujhe bachaooo!!...
the Bihari`s tongue was ``got`` by the proverbial cat....
I know what hydrocoel-head is going to do....call Lallooo up & conspire about me...maybe then Lalloo will declare war on Amrika & I will be taken as PoW & sent to Guantanamo Bay Resort...& then Rabri will torture me by giving me a lap-dance...ugh...I`d rather deal with a German Shepard thingy...than be subjected to THAT!!!
{{with the exception of this shrunk shrink Shankar (SSS, or S3), with whom I intend to deal in my own sweet time}}
O Jesus kaali maa!...mujhe bachaooo!!...
the Bihari`s tongue was ``got`` by the proverbial cat....
I know what hydrocoel-head is going to do....call Lallooo up & conspire about me...maybe then Lalloo will declare war on Amrika & I will be taken as PoW & sent to Guantanamo Bay Resort...& then Rabri will torture me by giving me a lap-dance...ugh...I`d rather deal with a German Shepard thingy...than be subjected to THAT!!!
#223 Posted by samirfs on August 29, 2005 12:16:36 am
``And for women are rights over men similar to those of men over women.`` Al Quran(2:226)
``there shall be no compulsion in religion`` Al Quran(2:256)
#222 Posted by ntsyed on August 28, 2005 11:05:06 pm
Re: # 207
Thank you BeeJay! I admire your civility.
Cheers :-)~~
Thank you BeeJay! I admire your civility.
Cheers :-)~~
#222 Posted by ntsyed on August 28, 2005 11:05:07 pm
Re: # 208
Semi-nasha punches the keyboard: ``Nyetsyed Beeyatch``....
LOL.....LOL.....ROTFL. Looks like the ``ineffectual threat`` achieved it first objective of psyching you out. I must say though, the result came about even faster than I had expected.
``(and this should be some indication that this post is not going to go well for you)``
Care to retract or revise that???? LOL
hmmm....``frothing and yelping like the proverbial Pavlovian dog to the electrified bone``....``sexualized body parts``....
What did the bear say to its captured hunter, whom the bear had sodomized in the last two similar incidents? ``You`re not here for bear hunting, are you?`` LOL.....
Semi-nasha, you`re not here for intellectual discussions to destroy Islam and Muslims, are you?
``you know your metaphor from your *....if your post is any proof, you havent seen either in ages....``
May be you`re right, but it`s enough comfort for me that you`ve seen and hang on to my (*) for your dear life. Keep holding on to it as long as you wish...it won`t break like your fragile proud post-graduate ego and let you fall in the pits of your own depravity. I`m glad to be of help in anyway I can.
To paraphrase Dan Ackroyd, NyetSahib, you ignorant beeyatch.
ROTFL...would you like some ointment to soothe the persistent burning sensation you`re dying with?
``And so, as you brought up labor and how Islam systematically addresses labor and gender inequity, it is up to you, dear ignorant beeyatch, to explain how.
No dear baby girl, it`s not my job to explain anything to anyone. My role ends after giving y`all, ASSpecially the doctors and doctoral candidates, a topic to do your research. Investing my time in explaing the ABCs would be a wasted investment on my part and a disservice to your diminishing intelligence. Like I said in one of the earlier posts, you`re welcome to pretend to be a `female` worker in Saudi and experience all they experience that you ask about here. Then not only you`ll see the weight in my arguments, you`ll also be able to destroy Islam & Muslims single-handedly. But apparently you`re not up for glory, are you baby girl? You just need intellectual hand-outs and lollipops to keep your hands & mouth look busy, aye? No problemo...chowk is the place for you.
``Your backside (and this is to borrow the metaphor that seems to be the defining trope for you) had a alot to say,
ROTFL...you`re killing me. Please stop it...it hurts to laugh anymore...excuse me....gotta relieve myself....ROTFL.
ahem...I`m back...boy, that was what we call relief. May be a physician here can shed some light on why excessive laughing causes the bladder to overflow.
Anyway...no wonder everything I said went over and past your proud-post-graduate head. You had your ears and nose stuck to my backside. Sorry about Lahori chaanay I had last night...absolutely delicious they were. And that`s all my backside was saying: ``Lahori chanay were delicious``
Do you think any woman worth her mettle takes a beeyatch like you seriously?..........ROTFL.
I don`t know about ``any woman worth her mettle``, but with your numerous provocative posts addressed to me, I know YOU take this `beeyatch` more seriously than others.
Go home and cry........ROTFL
would you stop already?!?....how am I supposed to cry when you keep making me laugh so hard, although I guess I did get some tears from laughing so hard.
#209 by Saminasha on August 28, 2005 3:16pm PT
And NyetSahib,
Notice how I dont need a bunch of mediocre netwits cheering me on. So telling that you do....
Thank you AphraBehen for lending support to your beleaguered doctor here. But unfortunately as ungrateful as she is, you`re nothing but a `mediocre netwit` for her. I, on the other hand, still appreciate your support for her
Cheers all....I`m gonna vanish for sometime again (Semi-nasha, you breath easy now ... hehehe)
;-)~~
Semi-nasha punches the keyboard: ``Nyetsyed Beeyatch``....
LOL.....LOL.....ROTFL. Looks like the ``ineffectual threat`` achieved it first objective of psyching you out. I must say though, the result came about even faster than I had expected.
``(and this should be some indication that this post is not going to go well for you)``
Care to retract or revise that???? LOL
hmmm....``frothing and yelping like the proverbial Pavlovian dog to the electrified bone``....``sexualized body parts``....
What did the bear say to its captured hunter, whom the bear had sodomized in the last two similar incidents? ``You`re not here for bear hunting, are you?`` LOL.....
Semi-nasha, you`re not here for intellectual discussions to destroy Islam and Muslims, are you?
``you know your metaphor from your *....if your post is any proof, you havent seen either in ages....``
May be you`re right, but it`s enough comfort for me that you`ve seen and hang on to my (*) for your dear life. Keep holding on to it as long as you wish...it won`t break like your fragile proud post-graduate ego and let you fall in the pits of your own depravity. I`m glad to be of help in anyway I can.
To paraphrase Dan Ackroyd, NyetSahib, you ignorant beeyatch.
ROTFL...would you like some ointment to soothe the persistent burning sensation you`re dying with?
``And so, as you brought up labor and how Islam systematically addresses labor and gender inequity, it is up to you, dear ignorant beeyatch, to explain how.
No dear baby girl, it`s not my job to explain anything to anyone. My role ends after giving y`all, ASSpecially the doctors and doctoral candidates, a topic to do your research. Investing my time in explaing the ABCs would be a wasted investment on my part and a disservice to your diminishing intelligence. Like I said in one of the earlier posts, you`re welcome to pretend to be a `female` worker in Saudi and experience all they experience that you ask about here. Then not only you`ll see the weight in my arguments, you`ll also be able to destroy Islam & Muslims single-handedly. But apparently you`re not up for glory, are you baby girl? You just need intellectual hand-outs and lollipops to keep your hands & mouth look busy, aye? No problemo...chowk is the place for you.
``Your backside (and this is to borrow the metaphor that seems to be the defining trope for you) had a alot to say,
ROTFL...you`re killing me. Please stop it...it hurts to laugh anymore...excuse me....gotta relieve myself....ROTFL.
ahem...I`m back...boy, that was what we call relief. May be a physician here can shed some light on why excessive laughing causes the bladder to overflow.
Anyway...no wonder everything I said went over and past your proud-post-graduate head. You had your ears and nose stuck to my backside. Sorry about Lahori chaanay I had last night...absolutely delicious they were. And that`s all my backside was saying: ``Lahori chanay were delicious``
Do you think any woman worth her mettle takes a beeyatch like you seriously?..........ROTFL.
I don`t know about ``any woman worth her mettle``, but with your numerous provocative posts addressed to me, I know YOU take this `beeyatch` more seriously than others.
Go home and cry........ROTFL
would you stop already?!?....how am I supposed to cry when you keep making me laugh so hard, although I guess I did get some tears from laughing so hard.
#209 by Saminasha on August 28, 2005 3:16pm PT
And NyetSahib,
Notice how I dont need a bunch of mediocre netwits cheering me on. So telling that you do....
Thank you AphraBehen for lending support to your beleaguered doctor here. But unfortunately as ungrateful as she is, you`re nothing but a `mediocre netwit` for her. I, on the other hand, still appreciate your support for her
Cheers all....I`m gonna vanish for sometime again (Semi-nasha, you breath easy now ... hehehe)
;-)~~
#221 Posted by BeeJay on August 28, 2005 10:36:52 pm
#220 Hamidm2
Okay hamidm, you forced the truth out of me!
I hope Shamina sahiba is not mad at me. The piece on culture was not mine – it was from her (from her “Dude” piece). I was only giving it back to her – in a manner of speaking!
However my dear Hamidm, you definitely go too far when you extend your gross and sweeping generalizations to “all” Muslims (that won’t include YOU by any chance?) You may mean it in jest – but how are simple folks (like me) to tell?
For instance, I know MANY Muslim friends who have canine housemates – no metaphor intended – and there is nothing “fishy” about how much they are attached to those pets!
Regarding you choking your hapless fish – didn’t I already warn you against listening to shrunk shrink Shankar (SSS, or S3). This is terrible, you start out getting your feet wet with the fish and before one knows it – you will be trying that stunt on humans!
Disclaimer: The word “shrunk” in intended to refer to narrowness of thought, limited vocabulary, and an inherent inability amounting to a debilitating disability to rise above cuss-words. Any resemblance with real or fictitious bodily appendages of the object in question is purely coincidental – unless it is real!
Okay hamidm, you forced the truth out of me!
I hope Shamina sahiba is not mad at me. The piece on culture was not mine – it was from her (from her “Dude” piece). I was only giving it back to her – in a manner of speaking!
However my dear Hamidm, you definitely go too far when you extend your gross and sweeping generalizations to “all” Muslims (that won’t include YOU by any chance?) You may mean it in jest – but how are simple folks (like me) to tell?
For instance, I know MANY Muslim friends who have canine housemates – no metaphor intended – and there is nothing “fishy” about how much they are attached to those pets!
Regarding you choking your hapless fish – didn’t I already warn you against listening to shrunk shrink Shankar (SSS, or S3). This is terrible, you start out getting your feet wet with the fish and before one knows it – you will be trying that stunt on humans!
Disclaimer: The word “shrunk” in intended to refer to narrowness of thought, limited vocabulary, and an inherent inability amounting to a debilitating disability to rise above cuss-words. Any resemblance with real or fictitious bodily appendages of the object in question is purely coincidental – unless it is real!
#220 Posted by hamidm2 on August 28, 2005 9:33:20 pm
Re: # 219
beejay,
....thanks for enlightening us on the nuances of culture, a commodity that is in short supply on chowk since it has been taken over by bad poets and uncivilized folks .......... and you are right, ntsyed is in a class by himself - so let`s thank god for small favors .........
......... but i do think the muslim man is overly occupied with women`s affairs because his home and his woman are the only thing he controls ........ in every other field of endevour he has been beaten badly by the infidel men .(and women !).............. it would have been a lot easier if he could come home and kick the dog, but unfortunately islam does not allow us to keep dogs as pets ........... the other day i tried to choke my fish but it was slippery and got away ............
beejay,
....thanks for enlightening us on the nuances of culture, a commodity that is in short supply on chowk since it has been taken over by bad poets and uncivilized folks .......... and you are right, ntsyed is in a class by himself - so let`s thank god for small favors .........
......... but i do think the muslim man is overly occupied with women`s affairs because his home and his woman are the only thing he controls ........ in every other field of endevour he has been beaten badly by the infidel men .(and women !).............. it would have been a lot easier if he could come home and kick the dog, but unfortunately islam does not allow us to keep dogs as pets ........... the other day i tried to choke my fish but it was slippery and got away ............
#219 Posted by BeeJay on August 28, 2005 8:37:32 pm
#208 Saminasha
Although I sincerely do not have any intention of descending to the depths of dreary dialogue being doggedly dropped and devoured in this disgusting den of dames and demons, I must respectfully disagree with your wanton attack on NTSyed sahib – a gem who shines with a glitter all his own – unlike anyone else’s – among the few denizens of the chowk world who can hold their own no matter who the enemy – man, woman, child, dog, whatever. I must also respectfully point out to you that it is against our CULTURE to throw insults left and right at people who have the seniority of years (if not the advantage of ears) over us – among the very few true gems of this site whom I feel honored to welcome in bright red letters. In our CULTURE, this is simply not done! Alas!
Cultural Studies
Definition
Cultural studies combines sociology, literary theory, film/video studies, and cultural anthropology to study cultural phenomena in industrial societies. Cultural studies researchers often concentrate on how a particular phenomenon relates to matters of ideology, race, social class, and/or gender.
Cultural studies concerns itself with the meaning and practices of everyday life. Cultural practices comprise the ways people do particular things (such as watching television, or eating out) in a given culture. -- http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cultural_studies [Jul 2004]
Cultural studies developed in the late 20th century, in part through the reintroduction of Marxist thought in sociology, and in part through the articulation of sociology and other academic disciplines such as literary criticism, in order to focus on the analysis of subcultures in capitalist societies. Following the non-anthropological tradition, cultural studies generally focus on the study of consumption goods (such as fashion, art, and literature). Because the 18th and 19th century distinction between ``high`` and ``low`` culture is not appropriate to the mass-produced and mass-marketed consumption goods with which cultural studies is concerned, these scholars refer instead to popular culture. -- http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cultural_studies
Culture theory [...]
Centre for Contemporary Cultural Studies (CCCS) [...]
In 1964, Richard Hoggart established the Centre for Contemporary Cultural Studies at Birmingham. Hoggart was followed by Stuart Hall, Richard Johnson and Jorge Larrain. The CCCS launched the study of subcultures. In 2002 the CCCS was closed. --jahsonic, 2004
Frankfurt - Paris - Birmingham
Perhaps the most influential British approach, dominated by the work of the CCCS, is more properly referred to as cultural studies, since the tendency is to see the mass media, as well as audiences as part of broader social and cultural practices. Unlike the Frankfurt School, whose `critical theorists` tended to celebrate the emancipatory potential of high modernist art and dismiss the products of the culture industries as debased and inauthentic, the British students of culture paid a great deal of attention to the products of `popular culture`, though it should be said that they too were, certainly in the early years, also suspicious of the mass produced products of popular culture, though they were prepared to engage with them, rather than simply dismiss them. Since the British owed much to the French research in semiotics, psychoanalytic theory and social theory, it became common to speak of the Birmingham - Paris axis in cultural studies. --http://www.cultsock.ndirect.co.uk/MUHome/cshtml/media/marxuk.html [Jul 2004]
Why Does Contemporary Cultural Studies Now Ignore Youth Culture? [...]
Contemporary cultural studies virtually ignores contemporary dance culture and contemporary dance music. For evidence that this is the case one need only glance at cultural studies’ most comprehensive publication concerning youth culture. Containing 55 essays, Ken Gelder and Sarah Thornton’s The Subcultures Reader contains only one essay that deals explicitly with contemporary dance culture (see Gelder and Thornton, 1997). This is at a time when dance culture and dance music appear to have an almost hegemonic grip upon contemporary British youth, with dance culture’s opposition to state regulation and control, and the massive commercial success of dance music, the most significant developments since the rise of youth culture in the 1950s.
One need only look at the statistical evidence to see that this is the case. Social Trends suggest that dance club attendance over a three month period in 1995 was approximately 14 million. In 1996 Mintel Marketing Intelligence stated that 18% of all adults attended a nightclub at least once every three months, with 4% of all adults visiting a nightclub one or more times a week (see Mintel Leisure Intelligence, 1996)1. That makes an average weekend’s attendance (the majority of nightclubs are shut during the week) of over one million, with the Henley Centre, market analysts, estimating that the dance scene is worth £1.8 billion a year (cited in Collin and Godfrey, 1997, p.264), and therefore of a similar size to the newspaper industry. If one compares the amount of time spent by contemporary cultural studies analysing the production, distribution and consumption of newspapers with that spent analysing dance music, then there is practically a void at the heart of the discipline.
Whichever way you look at these statistics, and no matter how flawed the method used to obtain them, we are still left with a massively popular cultural activity that is severely under-represented in academia. To understand why this is the case we need to examine how and why contemporary cultural studies’ interest in youth culture collapsed in the late 1970s. --http://www.staff.livjm.ac.uk/mccsbort/thesis/ch2.html [Jul 2004]
Text [...]
In the context of cultural studies, the idea of a text not only includes written language, but also films, photographs, fashion or hairstyles: the texts of cultural studies comprise all the meaningful artifacts of culture. Similarly, the discipline widens the concept of ``culture``. ``Culture`` for a cultural studies researcher not only includes the traditional high arts and popular arts, but also everyday meanings and practices. The last two, in fact, have become the main focus of cultural studies. --http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cultural_studies [Jul 2004]
United Kingdom vs United States
Scholars in the United Kingdom and the United States developed somewhat different versions of cultural studies after the field`s inception in the late 1970s. The British version of cultural studies often promulgated overtly politically leftist views and criticisms of capitalist mass culture; it absorbed some of the ideas of the Frankfurt School critique of the ``culture industry`` (i.e. mass culture). This emerges in the writings of early British cultural-studies scholars and their influences: see the work of (for example) Raymond Williams and Paul Gilroy. -- http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cultural_studies [Jul 2004]
Culture [...]
What is culture?
Cultural Criticism [...]
Cultural critics and commentators contribute powerfully to the vitality of market art. Critics put artistic consumers in touch with artistic producers, and help us separate the wheat from the chaff. They support the process of taste refinement. Listeners who take a sudden interest in classical music do not have to sort through the entire eighteenth century repertoire, but can listen to Mozart and Haydn. Clement Rosenberg and Harold Greenberg helped the American Abstract Expressionist painters find a public audience and win their way into museums. Pauline Kael directs our attention to the best of recent film. I hope my own commentary - in the form of this book - boosts the interest in contemporary art and music. These forms of professional cultural criticism, all relatively new professions, owe their thanks to capitalist wealth. The modern world can support many thousands of intellectuals who specialize in arguing the merits of artistic products. -- Tyler Cowen [...]
Raymond Williams [...]
Raymond Williams was an early pioneer in the field of ``cultural studies`` -- in fact, he was doing cultural studies before the term was even coined. This excerpt is from an essay Williams wrote in 1958, entitled ``Culture is Ordinary.`` According to one of his editors, Williams here ``forced the first important shift into a new way of thinking about the symbolic dimensions of our lives. Thus, `culture` is wrested from that privileged space of artistic production and specialist knowledge [eg. ``high culture``] , into the lived experience of the everyday`` (Gray and McGuigan 1).
United Kingdom vs United States
Scholars in the United Kingdom and the United States developed somewhat different versions of cultural studies after the field`s inception in the late 1970s. The British version of cultural studies often promulgated overtly politically leftist views and criticisms of capitalist mass culture; it absorbed some of the ideas of the Frankfurt School critique of the ``culture industry`` (i.e. mass culture). This emerges in the writings of early British cultural-studies scholars and their influences: see the work of (for example) Raymond Williams and Paul Gilroy. -- http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cultural_studies [Jul 2004]
Cultural Critics and Schools
Frankfurt School, Birmingham School, French Schools
Mark Dery, Camille Paglia, Walter Benjamin, Kodwo Eshun, Steven Shaviro, James Gleick, Dick Hebdige, Simon During
Subculture [...]
Culturele Studies
www.culturelestudies.be
Cultural Studies in Belgium, I found their site while looking for info on Guy Rombouts
Dick Hebdige [...]
Dick Hebdige is a cultural critic and scholar who has written extensively on popular culture and design issues, the anthropology of consumption, and media and critical theory. He has published three books - Subculture: The Meaning of Style (Routledge 1979 [translated into 9 languages]), Cut `n Mix: Culture, Identity and Caribbean Music (Routledge, 1987) and Hiding In the Light. On Images and Things (Routledge, 1988). He has also published extensively in a wide range of journals including Art & Text, Art Forum, Block, Blueprint, Borderlines, Cultural Studies, London Time Out, New Formations, New Statesman and Society and Ten.8. His current research interests include the place of autobiographical and fiction writing in cultural studies; and issues in contemporary visual art. In addition, he has given a number of mixed-media presentations which set out to integrate an explicitly performative element into the lecture format. Hebdige has taught at universities and arts colleges throughout Western Europe, the United States and Canada. From 1984 till 1992 he was Reader in Communications at the Department of Media and Communications, Goldsmithsí College, University of London. He is currently Dean of the School of Critical Studies and Director of the Writing Program at California Institute of the Arts, Valencia, California. --School of the Art Institute of Chicago
Popular Culture Studies: A Background
``Popular culture studies`` is the scholarly investigation of expressive forms widely disseminated in society. These materials include but are not restricted to products of mass media such as television, film, print, and recording. Thus, popular culture studies may focus on media genres such as situation comedies, film noir, best-selling novels, or rap music. Other, non-mediated aspects of popular culture would include such things as clothing styles, fads, holidays and celebrations, amusement parks, both amateur and professional sports, and so forth. Ideally, the study of these or any other popular materials should be done holistically, viewing them both aesthetically and also within the social and cultural contexts in which the materials are created, disseminated, interpreted, and used. In this way the study of popular culture involves the use of methodologies from both the humanities and the social sciences in the effort to interpret expressive cultural forms, specifically those that are widely disseminated in a group (that is, that are popular) as part of dynamic social intercourse.
Popular culture scholars study these created, expressive and artistic materials as their primary data, much as literary scholars take the novel or the sonnet as their primary data. In this way, popular culture studies is within the tradition of the humanities. However, popular culture studies differs from traditional humanities studies in that it recognizes the existence of alternative systems of aesthetics which guide the creation of popular materials and the evaluation of those materials by an audience. Albert Lord, in his important work The Singer of Tales (1960), identified the ways singers of epics in Eastern Europe learn their art orally and how they compose as they perform. He suggests that these performances and the poems themselves be judged according to the specific goals of the artists and the audiences, and be judged according to an understanding of the problems unique to an oral poet. In other words, oral poetry is a different genre than written poetry. Each has its own aesthetic standards, and it is misguided to judge one by the standards of the other. Popular culture scholars recognize this principle and extend it to the popular arts such as television programs, popular films, popular music, best-selling novels, genre fiction such as mysteries or romances, and so on.
Each medium or genre has an audience that can and does make evaluations according to aesthetic criteria. These criteria are usually unarticulated, but they are no less real because of it. People regularly make choices as to which book to read or movie to see, and just as regularly evaluate the experience: this was a good thriller, this is a great party song. Because these aesthetic criteria are generally unarticulated, it is the task of the researcher to identify them through ethnographic methods such as interviews and participant observation, as well as humanities techniques such as textual analysis. The term ethnography refers to the cultural description of any event or artifact, usually as expressed and perceived by those people who are participants in the event, producers, consumers or users of the artifact, or members of the cultural group in question. After these insider (or native) perceptions and categories are documented, the researcher may undertake the scholarly analysis of the materials as components of a dynamic social and cultural field of behavior. These methods enable the popular culture scholar to situate the discussion of any aspect of popular culture within the larger context of the meanings and values of the society within which it exists; to determine, as Clifford Geertz has suggested, what we need to know in order to make sense of something (1984). In this way, the scholarly discipline of popular culture studies employs methodologies from both the humanities and the social sciences. Social science methodologies enable the popular culture scholar to root an expressive form in its social context and to uncover the aesthetic system upon which it is judged. Humanities approaches provide models for the appreciation of aesthetic forms and enable the scholar to apply theories of genre and make comparative analytical statements. As social science and humanities methodologies are combined in the study of artistic forms of expression that are broadly based in society, scholars can begin to provide an understanding of the social and cultural significance of these artistic forms, and begin to determine the aesthetic, social, commercial, and technological considerations that underlie their creation, distribution, and reception.
The Discipline of Popular Culture
Although the study of popular culture -- expressive forms widely disseminated in society -- has a long history, scholars disagree about the origins of the study of popular culture. This disagreement reflects a more fundamental debate over the essential nature of popular materials themselves. Some scholars, such as Russell Nye (1970) and Herbert Gans (1974), equate the materials of popular culture to the mass media, and therefore maintain that popular culture did not exist prior to the Industrial Revolution, the rise of a large middle-class segment of society, and the concomitant rise of rapid printing. Gans accepts the tripartite model of culture as folk, popular, and elite, describing pre-industrial Europe as largely a folk culture ruled by a small elite group. Other scholars, most notably social historians such as Emmanuel Leroy Ladurie (1979), Natalie Z. Davis (1983), and Peter Burke (1978) use the term ``popular culture`` to refer to the expressive materials of any group, large or small, pre-industrial or post-industrial. By this definition, popular culture scholarship includes work that focuses on pre-industrial expressive forms. Indeed, one might argue that the study of popular culture as a scholarly discipline can be traced back at least as far as the writings of Giambattista Vico, who anticipated today`s cultural studies programs as he attempted to discover the ``principles of humanity`` in his New Science of 1775 (Feldman and Richardson, 1972: 50-61). Whatever their position on these issues, however, scholars agree that the last fifteen to twenty years has seen a significant movement among scholars of all backgrounds toward an awareness of a large body of cultural expression that has fallen outside of most research prior to that time.
In recent years the study of popular culture has become an area of interest in many disciplines. Social and cultural historians, for instance, attempt to recover aspects of everyday life of the past that have frequently been left out of the historical record. In doing so, many historians have focused on popular festivals, carnivals, rituals, and celebrations, such as Emmanuel Leroy Ladurie`s Carnival in Romans (1979); Natalie Zemon Davis`s Culture and Society in Early Modern France; and Robert Darnton`s The Great Cat Massacre (1984).
American studies scholars also are increasingly investigating popular culture. For instance, recent issues of American Quarterly, the journal of the American Studies Association, have featured articles such as George Lipsitz`s, ``Listening to Learn and Learning to Listen: Popular Culture, Cultural Theory, and American Studies`` (42:4, 615-636). Broadly speaking, within the discipline of American studies, research has tended to view popular culture as being coterminous with the mass media.
Popular culture has become increasingly visible in the fields of anthropology, ethnomusicology and folklore as well. Anthropologists have been turning to the ethnographic study of contemporary culture for some time; this is especially apparent in the study of popular music (see for instance, Christopher A. Waterman, Juju: A Social History and Ethnography of an African Popular Music (1990), or Naomi Ware, ``Popular Music and African Identity in Freetown, Sierra Leone`` in Bruno Nettl, ed., Eight Urban Musical Cultures, 1978). It should be noted that both of these examples are African, which demonstrates that popular culture is not restricted to American materials.
Folklorists often study the popular use of mass culture, as in for instance Angus Gillespie`s book Looking for America on the New Jersey Turnpike(1990), or in ethnographic studies of movie fans who view a particular film repeatedly (Bacon-Smith 1991). Also, many folklorists research traditional aspects of popular music (Ferris 1977, Titon 1978, Santino 1982).
Even more recently, the rise of cultural studies and contemporary culture theory perspectives is very much centered on popular cultural materials. The emerging field of cultural studies often places popular culture within the perspective of the economic production of culture as set forth in Raymond Williams`s The Sociology of Culture (1982). Todd Gitlin`s study of the television industry, Inside Prime Time (1983), is an example. (See also ``Cultural Studies: Eclectic and Controversial Mix of Research Sparks Growing Movement,`` The Chronicle of Higher Education, Jan. 31, 1990, p. A5) Much of this work is being done in Britain on popular music; an important early effort is sociologist Simon Frith`s Sound Effects: Youth, Leisure, and the Politics of Rock `n` Roll, (New York: Pantheon, 1981).
The Department of Popular Culture at Bowling Green State University recognizes the historical and methodological importance of all of the above paradigms for the study of popular culture. The proposed Ph.D. program will provide students with the in-depth study of each of these, as well as provide the critical skills necessary for their scholarly critique, primarily in the two-sequence introductory courses, PCS 597: Methods and Materials and PCS 598: Contemporary Culture Theory. However, the proposed program espouses no single methodological or theoretical point of view. Indeed, the faculty as presently constituted, and as envisioned for the future, is representative of several different but complementary scholarly disciplines. These include literature, history, music, theology, American studies, folklore and folklife, and interpersonal communication. In addition, we intend to add a cultural anthropologist to the faculty to increase our strengths in the popular culture of other nations.
Nevertheless, despite the diversity of disciplinary backgrounds, members of the faculty approach the study of popular culture with certain shared points of view. These include the conviction that materials which are genuinely popular, whether we ourselves approve of or enjoy any particular item or genre, are socially and possibly aesthetically significant. Indeed, the ongoing controversies over censorship, rock music lyrics, and the content of music videos suggest the extent to which people in our society themselves recognize the impact and significance of these and other popular forms. --http://www.bgsu.edu/departments/popc/bkgrnd.html
Books
Cultural Studies - Lawrence Grossberg (Editor), Cary Nelson (Editor), Paula A. Treichler (Editor) [Amazon US] [FR] [DE] [UK]
``Cultural Studies`` is a broadly international collection aiming to help shape research and teaching through the 1990s and beyond. The book investigates contemporary commitments of the field: its historical and intellectual positions, political and scholarly preoccupations, and the kinds of interventions it aims for now and in the future. ``Cultural Studies`` offers a number of specific cultural analyses while simultaneously defining and debating the common body of assumptions, questions and concerns that have helped create the field. Topics addressed include race and minority discourses; ethnicity and post-colonialism; post-modernism; feminism; cultural policy; the place of history in cultural studies; the politics of representation; popular culture; aesthetics; ethics; and technology. At the same time, ``Cultural Studies`` explores such diverse forms of cultural phenomena as rock music, Chicano art, detective novels, African-American writing, architecture, reproductive freedom, ``sati``, Star Trek fandom, and New Age technology. Contributors interrogate their own theoretical and methodological commitments. This book should be of interest to undergraduates, postgraduates and academics in the field of cultural studies. --amazon.co.uk
``...the publication of Cultural Studies is an event no serious (or curious) reader can afford to ignore. Make no mistake: in American intellectual life, the ``undisciplines`` of cultural studies will very likely be the single most controversial and contested terrain of the 1990s, and Cultural Studies the most capacious text in the fray.`` -via amazon.com
About the Author
Lawrence Grossberg, Cary Nelson, and Paula Treichler are all well known for their extensive publications on modern culture.
Featuring new essays by such prominent cultural theorists as Tony Bennett, Homi Bhaba, Donna Haraway, bell hooks, Constance Penley, Janice Radway, Andrew Ross, and Cornel West, Cultural Studies offers numerous specific cultural analyses while simultaneously defining and debating the common body of assumptions, questions, and concerns that have helped create the field. --Book Description via amazon.com
Sexual Personae: Art and Decadence from Nefertiti to Emily Dickinson - Camille Paglia [1 book, Amazon US]
From ancient Egypt through the nineteenth century, Sexual Personae explores the provocative connections between art and pagan ritual; between Emily Dickinson and the Marquis de Sade; between Lord Byron and Elvis Presley. It ultimately challenges the cultural assumptions of both conservatives and traditional liberals. 47 photographs.
Greil Marcus - Lipstick Traces, a Secret History of 20th Century [1 book, Amazon US]
... In the 1989 ‘Lipstick Traces - A Secret History of the Twentieth Century’ Greil Marcus traces a subliminal trajectory where nearly-invisible connections arc across punk, the Situationists of 1968, Dada in 1916, the Enrages of the French Revolution and heretical millenarianism in medieval times. He isn’t describing the direct causal link of past and present but suggesting a more opaque entanglement. “Is history simply a matter of events that leave behind those things that can be weighed and measured - new institutions, new maps, new rulers - or is it also the result of moments that seem to leave nothing behind, nothing but the mystery of spectral connections between people long separated by place and time, but somehow speaking the same language?....If the language they are speaking, the impulse they are voicing, has it’s own history, might it not tell a very different story from the one we’ve been hearing all our lives?” [...]
The Cultural Studies Reader - Simon During [Amazon US]
The first edition of The Cultural Studies Reader [Simon During] established itself as the leader in the field, providing the ideal introduction to this exciting and influential discipline. This expanded second edition offers a wider selection of essays covering every major cultural studies method and theory, and takes account of recent changes in the field. There are added articles on new areas such as technology and science, globalization, postcolonialism and cultural policy, making The Cultural Studies Reader essential reading for anyone wanting to know how cultural studies developed, where it is now, and its future directions.
Contributors: Ackbar Abbas, Theodor Adorno, Arjun Appadurai, Roland Barthes, Tony Bennett, Lauren Berlant, Homi K. Bhabha, Pierre Bourdieu, Judith Butler, Rey Chow, James Clifford, Michel de Certeau, Teresa de Lauretis, Richard Dyer, David Forgacs, Michel Foucault, Nancy Fraser, Nicholas Garnham, Stuart Hall, Donna Haraway, Dick Hebdige, bell hooks, Max Horkheimer, Eric Lott, Jean Francois Lyotard, Angela McRobbie, Meaghan Morris, Hamid Naficy, Janice Radway, Andrew Ross, Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick, Edward Soja, Gayatri Spivak, Peter Stallybrass, Carolyn Steedman, Will Straw, Michael Warner, Cornel West, Allon White, Raymond Williams.
Cultural Studies and the Study of Popular Culture: Theories and Methods - John Storey [Amazon US] [FR] [DE] [UK]
I am using ``Cultural Studies and the Study of Popular Culture`` as the primary textbook in an ``Introduction to Popular Culture`` class. Now, on the one hand it is clear John Storey`s book is not written at an introductory level, which would have been a reason for me not to select it for my class. But this volume has two strengths that overcome that particular liability. The first is that Storey looks at six types of cultural texts: Television, Fiction, Films, Magazines & Newspapers, Popular Music, and Consumption (a.k.a. shopping). That pretty much covers everything you would want to look at in an introduction pop culture class so that students can get excited (relatively speaking) about analyzing their favorite television show or CD. The second strength is that each chapter focuses on two or three key concepts/theories. For example, with television Storey looks at Hall`s notions of encoding/decoding television discourse, how television represents the ideology of mass culture, and how there are competing economies of television. So even if the writing level is for the advances student (quality), students being introduced to cultural studies are being presented with only a few concepts to absorb (quantity). Even if he is writing chapters rather than providing essays, each chapter does offer a specific case study (e.g., James Bond novels) that will facilitate student comprehension of the concepts, which they, in turn, should be able to apply in their own papers. Storey does have another volume that is specifically ``An Introduction to Cultural Theory and Popular Culture,`` but it is structured by theories (culturalism, structuralism, Marxism, etc.). Ideally I would like to be working with a book from Storey that had the structure of the book I am using with the writing style of the other, but clearly you have a choice here as to which way you can go given both your preferences and the level of your course. Storey does a nice job of explicating these concepts without rendering personal judgments, which I think is important when you are trying to get students to actually use such analytical tools. Final note: Storey`s ``Cultural Theory & Popular Culture: A Reader`` is intended as a companion volume for his ``Introduction`` text and not this one. -- Lawrance M. Bernabo for amazon.com
Fashionable Nonsense: Postmodern Intellectuals` Abuse of Science - Alan D. Sokal, Jean Bricmont [Amazon US]
In 1996, an article entitled ``Transgressing the Boundaries: Toward a Transformative Hermeneutics of Quantum Gravity`` was published in the cultural studies journal Social Text. Packed with recherché quotations from ``postmodern`` literary theorists and sociologists of science, and bristling with imposing theorems of mathematical physics, the article addressed the cultural and political implications of the theory of quantum gravity. Later, to the embarrassment of the editors, the author revealed that the essay was a hoax, interweaving absurd pronouncements from eminent intellectuals about mathematics and physics with laudatory--but fatuous--prose. [...]
Subculture: The Meaning of Style (1979) - Dick Hebdige [Amazon US]
NO CULTURAL STUDIES BOOK has been more widely read than Dick Hebdige`s 1979 Subculture: The Meaning of Style, from which this essay is taken. It brought a unique and supple blend of Althusser, Gramsci and semiotics (as propounded by Barthes and the ``Prague School``) to bear on the world of, or at any rate near to, the young British academics and students who first became immersed in cultural studies. That was the world of ``subcultures`` more visible in Britain than anywhere else: teds, skinheads, punks, Bowie-ites, hippies, dreads . . .
``Complex and remarkably lucid, it`s the first book dealing with punk to offer intellectual content. Hebdige is concerned with the UK`s postwar, music-centred, white working-class subcultures, from teddy boys to mods and rockers to skinheads and punks.` --Rolling Stone Magazine [...]
Introducing Cultural Studies - Ziauddin Sardar [Amazon US]
Ziauddin Sardar`s ``Introduction to Cultural Studies`` is nothing more than the title indicates. This lenghty essay merely presents basic concepts that are prevalent in a postmodern discourse between societal values, power relations, and the value placed on cultural ``norms`` given in various communities. Sardar presents the history of Cultural Studies as a discipline, which begins in a social context, but the analysis of which, takes place by various sociologists, philosophers (primarily Freud, Nietzche, and Hegel), and literary minds. Overall, the essay is enlightening as an introduction, a good preface to the discourse(s) one finds in most disciplines today. --amazon.com
Cultural Theory and Popular Culture: An Introduction - John Storey [Amazon US] [FR] [DE] [UK]
In this third edition of his successful introduction to cultural theory and popular culture, John Storey has extensively revised the text throughout. As before, the book presents a clear and critical survey of competing theoriesof and various approaches to popular culture. In addition to the theories and approaches discussed in the the first two editions, there is a new section issues involved in the on Queer Theory. Four earlier sections have been extended, with new material on Reading Romance, Reading Women¹s Magazines, Feminism as Social Practice, Men¹s Studies and Masculinities. Illustrations have been added. Retaining the accessible approach of the the first two editions, and using relevant and appropriate examples from the texts and practices of popular culture, this new edition is bound to remain a favourite with students and lecturers alike. --amazon.com
Resistance Through Rituals: Youth Subcultures in Postwar Britain (1976) - Stuart Hall [Amazon US] [FR] [DE] [UK]
This book is a must read for students of fashion, subculture, identity, and pop culture. Although the style of writing and some of the conclusions read as somewhat ``old-fashioned``, it was ground-breaking work at the time, one of the first serious scholarly treatments of youth and pop culture. More importantly, many of its arguments are still very relevant and need to be reconsidered in contemporary literature. The collection also discusses many styles which are all but forgotten to a younger audience and the variety British styles in the 60s is an education in itself for people who often think of past decades as having a particular ``look``. Excellent sociological analysis blended with ethnographic description. --A reader from Newfield, amazon.com
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Cultural Studies
Definition
Cultural studies combines sociology, literary theory, film/video studies, and cultural anthropology to study cultural phenomena in industrial societies. Cultural studies researchers often concentrate on how a particular phenomenon relates to matters of ideology, race, social class, and/or gender.
Cultural studies concerns itself with the meaning and practices of everyday life. Cultural practices comprise the ways people do particular things (such as watching television, or eating out) in a given culture. -- http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cultural_studies [Jul 2004]
Cultural studies developed in the late 20th century, in part through the reintroduction of Marxist thought in sociology, and in part through the articulation of sociology and other academic disciplines such as literary criticism, in order to focus on the analysis of subcultures in capitalist societies. Following the non-anthropological tradition, cultural studies generally focus on the study of consumption goods (such as fashion, art, and literature). Because the 18th and 19th century distinction between ``high`` and ``low`` culture is not appropriate to the mass-produced and mass-marketed consumption goods with which cultural studies is concerned, these scholars refer instead to popular culture. -- http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cultural_studies
Culture theory [...]
Centre for Contemporary Cultural Studies (CCCS) [...]
In 1964, Richard Hoggart established the Centre for Contemporary Cultural Studies at Birmingham. Hoggart was followed by Stuart Hall, Richard Johnson and Jorge Larrain. The CCCS launched the study of subcultures. In 2002 the CCCS was closed. --jahsonic, 2004
Frankfurt - Paris - Birmingham
Perhaps the most influential British approach, dominated by the work of the CCCS, is more properly referred to as cultural studies, since the tendency is to see the mass media, as well as audiences as part of broader social and cultural practices. Unlike the Frankfurt School, whose `critical theorists` tended to celebrate the emancipatory potential of high modernist art and dismiss the products of the culture industries as debased and inauthentic, the British students of culture paid a great deal of attention to the products of `popular culture`, though it should be said that they too were, certainly in the early years, also suspicious of the mass produced products of popular culture, though they were prepared to engage with them, rather than simply dismiss them. Since the British owed much to the French research in semiotics, psychoanalytic theory and social theory, it became common to speak of the Birmingham - Paris axis in cultural studies. --http://www.cultsock.ndirect.co.uk/MUHome/cshtml/media/marxuk.html [Jul 2004]
Why Does Contemporary Cultural Studies Now Ignore Youth Culture? [...]
Contemporary cultural studies virtually ignores contemporary dance culture and contemporary dance music. For evidence that this is the case one need only glance at cultural studies’ most comprehensive publication concerning youth culture. Containing 55 essays, Ken Gelder and Sarah Thornton’s The Subcultures Reader contains only one essay that deals explicitly with contemporary dance culture (see Gelder and Thornton, 1997). This is at a time when dance culture and dance music appear to have an almost hegemonic grip upon contemporary British youth, with dance culture’s opposition to state regulation and control, and the massive commercial success of dance music, the most significant developments since the rise of youth culture in the 1950s.
One need only look at the statistical evidence to see that this is the case. Social Trends suggest that dance club attendance over a three month period in 1995 was approximately 14 million. In 1996 Mintel Marketing Intelligence stated that 18% of all adults attended a nightclub at least once every three months, with 4% of all adults visiting a nightclub one or more times a week (see Mintel Leisure Intelligence, 1996)1. That makes an average weekend’s attendance (the majority of nightclubs are shut during the week) of over one million, with the Henley Centre, market analysts, estimating that the dance scene is worth £1.8 billion a year (cited in Collin and Godfrey, 1997, p.264), and therefore of a similar size to the newspaper industry. If one compares the amount of time spent by contemporary cultural studies analysing the production, distribution and consumption of newspapers with that spent analysing dance music, then there is practically a void at the heart of the discipline.
Whichever way you look at these statistics, and no matter how flawed the method used to obtain them, we are still left with a massively popular cultural activity that is severely under-represented in academia. To understand why this is the case we need to examine how and why contemporary cultural studies’ interest in youth culture collapsed in the late 1970s. --http://www.staff.livjm.ac.uk/mccsbort/thesis/ch2.html [Jul 2004]
Text [...]
In the context of cultural studies, the idea of a text not only includes written language, but also films, photographs, fashion or hairstyles: the texts of cultural studies comprise all the meaningful artifacts of culture. Similarly, the discipline widens the concept of ``culture``. ``Culture`` for a cultural studies researcher not only includes the traditional high arts and popular arts, but also everyday meanings and practices. The last two, in fact, have become the main focus of cultural studies. --http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cultural_studies [Jul 2004]
United Kingdom vs United States
Scholars in the United Kingdom and the United States developed somewhat different versions of cultural studies after the field`s inception in the late 1970s. The British version of cultural studies often promulgated overtly politically leftist views and criticisms of capitalist mass culture; it absorbed some of the ideas of the Frankfurt School critique of the ``culture industry`` (i.e. mass culture). This emerges in the writings of early British cultural-studies scholars and their influences: see the work of (for example) Raymond Williams and Paul Gilroy. -- http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cultural_studies [Jul 2004]
Culture [...]
What is culture?
Cultural Criticism [...]
Cultural critics and commentators contribute powerfully to the vitality of market art. Critics put artistic consumers in touch with artistic producers, and help us separate the wheat from the chaff. They support the process of taste refinement. Listeners who take a sudden interest in classical music do not have to sort through the entire eighteenth century repertoire, but can listen to Mozart and Haydn. Clement Rosenberg and Harold Greenberg helped the American Abstract Expressionist painters find a public audience and win their way into museums. Pauline Kael directs our attention to the best of recent film. I hope my own commentary - in the form of this book - boosts the interest in contemporary art and music. These forms of professional cultural criticism, all relatively new professions, owe their thanks to capitalist wealth. The modern world can support many thousands of intellectuals who specialize in arguing the merits of artistic products. -- Tyler Cowen [...]
Raymond Williams [...]
Raymond Williams was an early pioneer in the field of ``cultural studies`` -- in fact, he was doing cultural studies before the term was even coined. This excerpt is from an essay Williams wrote in 1958, entitled ``Culture is Ordinary.`` According to one of his editors, Williams here ``forced the first important shift into a new way of thinking about the symbolic dimensions of our lives. Thus, `culture` is wrested from that privileged space of artistic production and specialist knowledge [eg. ``high culture``] , into the lived experience of the everyday`` (Gray and McGuigan 1).
United Kingdom vs United States
Scholars in the United Kingdom and the United States developed somewhat different versions of cultural studies after the field`s inception in the late 1970s. The British version of cultural studies often promulgated overtly politically leftist views and criticisms of capitalist mass culture; it absorbed some of the ideas of the Frankfurt School critique of the ``culture industry`` (i.e. mass culture). This emerges in the writings of early British cultural-studies scholars and their influences: see the work of (for example) Raymond Williams and Paul Gilroy. -- http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cultural_studies [Jul 2004]
Cultural Critics and Schools
Frankfurt School, Birmingham School, French Schools
Mark Dery, Camille Paglia, Walter Benjamin, Kodwo Eshun, Steven Shaviro, James Gleick, Dick Hebdige, Simon During
Subculture [...]
Culturele Studies
www.culturelestudies.be
Cultural Studies in Belgium, I found their site while looking for info on Guy Rombouts
Dick Hebdige [...]
Dick Hebdige is a cultural critic and scholar who has written extensively on popular culture and design issues, the anthropology of consumption, and media and critical theory. He has published three books - Subculture: The Meaning of Style (Routledge 1979 [translated into 9 languages]), Cut `n Mix: Culture, Identity and Caribbean Music (Routledge, 1987) and Hiding In the Light. On Images and Things (Routledge, 1988). He has also published extensively in a wide range of journals including Art & Text, Art Forum, Block, Blueprint, Borderlines, Cultural Studies, London Time Out, New Formations, New Statesman and Society and Ten.8. His current research interests include the place of autobiographical and fiction writing in cultural studies; and issues in contemporary visual art. In addition, he has given a number of mixed-media presentations which set out to integrate an explicitly performative element into the lecture format. Hebdige has taught at universities and arts colleges throughout Western Europe, the United States and Canada. From 1984 till 1992 he was Reader in Communications at the Department of Media and Communications, Goldsmithsí College, University of London. He is currently Dean of the School of Critical Studies and Director of the Writing Program at California Institute of the Arts, Valencia, California. --School of the Art Institute of Chicago
Popular Culture Studies: A Background
``Popular culture studies`` is the scholarly investigation of expressive forms widely disseminated in society. These materials include but are not restricted to products of mass media such as television, film, print, and recording. Thus, popular culture studies may focus on media genres such as situation comedies, film noir, best-selling novels, or rap music. Other, non-mediated aspects of popular culture would include such things as clothing styles, fads, holidays and celebrations, amusement parks, both amateur and professional sports, and so forth. Ideally, the study of these or any other popular materials should be done holistically, viewing them both aesthetically and also within the social and cultural contexts in which the materials are created, disseminated, interpreted, and used. In this way the study of popular culture involves the use of methodologies from both the humanities and the social sciences in the effort to interpret expressive cultural forms, specifically those that are widely disseminated in a group (that is, that are popular) as part of dynamic social intercourse.
Popular culture scholars study these created, expressive and artistic materials as their primary data, much as literary scholars take the novel or the sonnet as their primary data. In this way, popular culture studies is within the tradition of the humanities. However, popular culture studies differs from traditional humanities studies in that it recognizes the existence of alternative systems of aesthetics which guide the creation of popular materials and the evaluation of those materials by an audience. Albert Lord, in his important work The Singer of Tales (1960), identified the ways singers of epics in Eastern Europe learn their art orally and how they compose as they perform. He suggests that these performances and the poems themselves be judged according to the specific goals of the artists and the audiences, and be judged according to an understanding of the problems unique to an oral poet. In other words, oral poetry is a different genre than written poetry. Each has its own aesthetic standards, and it is misguided to judge one by the standards of the other. Popular culture scholars recognize this principle and extend it to the popular arts such as television programs, popular films, popular music, best-selling novels, genre fiction such as mysteries or romances, and so on.
Each medium or genre has an audience that can and does make evaluations according to aesthetic criteria. These criteria are usually unarticulated, but they are no less real because of it. People regularly make choices as to which book to read or movie to see, and just as regularly evaluate the experience: this was a good thriller, this is a great party song. Because these aesthetic criteria are generally unarticulated, it is the task of the researcher to identify them through ethnographic methods such as interviews and participant observation, as well as humanities techniques such as textual analysis. The term ethnography refers to the cultural description of any event or artifact, usually as expressed and perceived by those people who are participants in the event, producers, consumers or users of the artifact, or members of the cultural group in question. After these insider (or native) perceptions and categories are documented, the researcher may undertake the scholarly analysis of the materials as components of a dynamic social and cultural field of behavior. These methods enable the popular culture scholar to situate the discussion of any aspect of popular culture within the larger context of the meanings and values of the society within which it exists; to determine, as Clifford Geertz has suggested, what we need to know in order to make sense of something (1984). In this way, the scholarly discipline of popular culture studies employs methodologies from both the humanities and the social sciences. Social science methodologies enable the popular culture scholar to root an expressive form in its social context and to uncover the aesthetic system upon which it is judged. Humanities approaches provide models for the appreciation of aesthetic forms and enable the scholar to apply theories of genre and make comparative analytical statements. As social science and humanities methodologies are combined in the study of artistic forms of expression that are broadly based in society, scholars can begin to provide an understanding of the social and cultural significance of these artistic forms, and begin to determine the aesthetic, social, commercial, and technological considerations that underlie their creation, distribution, and reception.
The Discipline of Popular Culture
Although the study of popular culture -- expressive forms widely disseminated in society -- has a long history, scholars disagree about the origins of the study of popular culture. This disagreement reflects a more fundamental debate over the essential nature of popular materials themselves. Some scholars, such as Russell Nye (1970) and Herbert Gans (1974), equate the materials of popular culture to the mass media, and therefore maintain that popular culture did not exist prior to the Industrial Revolution, the rise of a large middle-class segment of society, and the concomitant rise of rapid printing. Gans accepts the tripartite model of culture as folk, popular, and elite, describing pre-industrial Europe as largely a folk culture ruled by a small elite group. Other scholars, most notably social historians such as Emmanuel Leroy Ladurie (1979), Natalie Z. Davis (1983), and Peter Burke (1978) use the term ``popular culture`` to refer to the expressive materials of any group, large or small, pre-industrial or post-industrial. By this definition, popular culture scholarship includes work that focuses on pre-industrial expressive forms. Indeed, one might argue that the study of popular culture as a scholarly discipline can be traced back at least as far as the writings of Giambattista Vico, who anticipated today`s cultural studies programs as he attempted to discover the ``principles of humanity`` in his New Science of 1775 (Feldman and Richardson, 1972: 50-61). Whatever their position on these issues, however, scholars agree that the last fifteen to twenty years has seen a significant movement among scholars of all backgrounds toward an awareness of a large body of cultural expression that has fallen outside of most research prior to that time.
In recent years the study of popular culture has become an area of interest in many disciplines. Social and cultural historians, for instance, attempt to recover aspects of everyday life of the past that have frequently been left out of the historical record. In doing so, many historians have focused on popular festivals, carnivals, rituals, and celebrations, such as Emmanuel Leroy Ladurie`s Carnival in Romans (1979); Natalie Zemon Davis`s Culture and Society in Early Modern France; and Robert Darnton`s The Great Cat Massacre (1984).
American studies scholars also are increasingly investigating popular culture. For instance, recent issues of American Quarterly, the journal of the American Studies Association, have featured articles such as George Lipsitz`s, ``Listening to Learn and Learning to Listen: Popular Culture, Cultural Theory, and American Studies`` (42:4, 615-636). Broadly speaking, within the discipline of American studies, research has tended to view popular culture as being coterminous with the mass media.
Popular culture has become increasingly visible in the fields of anthropology, ethnomusicology and folklore as well. Anthropologists have been turning to the ethnographic study of contemporary culture for some time; this is especially apparent in the study of popular music (see for instance, Christopher A. Waterman, Juju: A Social History and Ethnography of an African Popular Music (1990), or Naomi Ware, ``Popular Music and African Identity in Freetown, Sierra Leone`` in Bruno Nettl, ed., Eight Urban Musical Cultures, 1978). It should be noted that both of these examples are African, which demonstrates that popular culture is not restricted to American materials.
Folklorists often study the popular use of mass culture, as in for instance Angus Gillespie`s book Looking for America on the New Jersey Turnpike(1990), or in ethnographic studies of movie fans who view a particular film repeatedly (Bacon-Smith 1991). Also, many folklorists research traditional aspects of popular music (Ferris 1977, Titon 1978, Santino 1982).
Even more recently, the rise of cultural studies and contemporary culture theory perspectives is very much centered on popular cultural materials. The emerging field of cultural studies often places popular culture within the perspective of the economic production of culture as set forth in Raymond Williams`s The Sociology of Culture (1982). Todd Gitlin`s study of the television industry, Inside Prime Time (1983), is an example. (See also ``Cultural Studies: Eclectic and Controversial Mix of Research Sparks Growing Movement,`` The Chronicle of Higher Education, Jan. 31, 1990, p. A5) Much of this work is being done in Britain on popular music; an important early effort is sociologist Simon Frith`s Sound Effects: Youth, Leisure, and the Politics of Rock `n` Roll, (New York: Pantheon, 1981).
The Department of Popular Culture at Bowling Green State University recognizes the historical and methodological importance of all of the above paradigms for the study of popular culture. The proposed Ph.D. program will provide students with the in-depth study of each of these, as well as provide the critical skills necessary for their scholarly critique, primarily in the two-sequence introductory courses, PCS 597: Methods and Materials and PCS 598: Contemporary Culture Theory. However, the proposed program espouses no single methodological or theoretical point of view. Indeed, the faculty as presently constituted, and as envisioned for the future, is representative of several different but complementary scholarly disciplines. These include literature, history, music, theology, American studies, folklore and folklife, and interpersonal communication. In addition, we intend to add a cultural anthropologist to the faculty to increase our strengths in the popular culture of other nations.
Nevertheless, despite the diversity of disciplinary backgrounds, members of the faculty approach the study of popular culture with certain shared points of view. These include the conviction that materials which are genuinely popular, whether we ourselves approve of or enjoy any particular item or genre, are socially and possibly aesthetically significant. Indeed, the ongoing controversies over censorship, rock music lyrics, and the content of music videos suggest the extent to which people in our society themselves recognize the impact and significance of these and other popular forms. --http://www.bgsu.edu/departments/popc/bkgrnd.html
Books
Cultural Studies - Lawrence Grossberg (Editor), Cary Nelson (Editor), Paula A. Treichler (Editor) [Amazon US] [FR] [DE] [UK]
``Cultural Studies`` is a broadly international collection aiming to help shape research and teaching through the 1990s and beyond. The book investigates contemporary commitments of the field: its historical and intellectual positions, political and scholarly preoccupations, and the kinds of interventions it aims for now and in the future. ``Cultural Studies`` offers a number of specific cultural analyses while simultaneously defining and debating the common body of assumptions, questions and concerns that have helped create the field. Topics addressed include race and minority discourses; ethnicity and post-colonialism; post-modernism; feminism; cultural policy; the place of history in cultural studies; the politics of representation; popular culture; aesthetics; ethics; and technology. At the same time, ``Cultural Studies`` explores such diverse forms of cultural phenomena as rock music, Chicano art, detective novels, African-American writing, architecture, reproductive freedom, ``sati``, Star Trek fandom, and New Age technology. Contributors interrogate their own theoretical and methodological commitments. This book should be of interest to undergraduates, postgraduates and academics in the field of cultural studies. --amazon.co.uk
``...the publication of Cultural Studies is an event no serious (or curious) reader can afford to ignore. Make no mistake: in American intellectual life, the ``undisciplines`` of cultural studies will very likely be the single most controversial and contested terrain of the 1990s, and Cultural Studies the most capacious text in the fray.`` -via amazon.com
About the Author
Lawrence Grossberg, Cary Nelson, and Paula Treichler are all well known for their extensive publications on modern culture.
Featuring new essays by such prominent cultural theorists as Tony Bennett, Homi Bhaba, Donna Haraway, bell hooks, Constance Penley, Janice Radway, Andrew Ross, and Cornel West, Cultural Studies offers numerous specific cultural analyses while simultaneously defining and debating the common body of assumptions, questions, and concerns that have helped create the field. --Book Description via amazon.com
Sexual Personae: Art and Decadence from Nefertiti to Emily Dickinson - Camille Paglia [1 book, Amazon US]
From ancient Egypt through the nineteenth century, Sexual Personae explores the provocative connections between art and pagan ritual; between Emily Dickinson and the Marquis de Sade; between Lord Byron and Elvis Presley. It ultimately challenges the cultural assumptions of both conservatives and traditional liberals. 47 photographs.
Greil Marcus - Lipstick Traces, a Secret History of 20th Century [1 book, Amazon US]
... In the 1989 ‘Lipstick Traces - A Secret History of the Twentieth Century’ Greil Marcus traces a subliminal trajectory where nearly-invisible connections arc across punk, the Situationists of 1968, Dada in 1916, the Enrages of the French Revolution and heretical millenarianism in medieval times. He isn’t describing the direct causal link of past and present but suggesting a more opaque entanglement. “Is history simply a matter of events that leave behind those things that can be weighed and measured - new institutions, new maps, new rulers - or is it also the result of moments that seem to leave nothing behind, nothing but the mystery of spectral connections between people long separated by place and time, but somehow speaking the same language?....If the language they are speaking, the impulse they are voicing, has it’s own history, might it not tell a very different story from the one we’ve been hearing all our lives?” [...]
The Cultural Studies Reader - Simon During [Amazon US]
The first edition of The Cultural Studies Reader [Simon During] established itself as the leader in the field, providing the ideal introduction to this exciting and influential discipline. This expanded second edition offers a wider selection of essays covering every major cultural studies method and theory, and takes account of recent changes in the field. There are added articles on new areas such as technology and science, globalization, postcolonialism and cultural policy, making The Cultural Studies Reader essential reading for anyone wanting to know how cultural studies developed, where it is now, and its future directions.
Contributors: Ackbar Abbas, Theodor Adorno, Arjun Appadurai, Roland Barthes, Tony Bennett, Lauren Berlant, Homi K. Bhabha, Pierre Bourdieu, Judith Butler, Rey Chow, James Clifford, Michel de Certeau, Teresa de Lauretis, Richard Dyer, David Forgacs, Michel Foucault, Nancy Fraser, Nicholas Garnham, Stuart Hall, Donna Haraway, Dick Hebdige, bell hooks, Max Horkheimer, Eric Lott, Jean Francois Lyotard, Angela McRobbie, Meaghan Morris, Hamid Naficy, Janice Radway, Andrew Ross, Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick, Edward Soja, Gayatri Spivak, Peter Stallybrass, Carolyn Steedman, Will Straw, Michael Warner, Cornel West, Allon White, Raymond Williams.
Cultural Studies and the Study of Popular Culture: Theories and Methods - John Storey [Amazon US] [FR] [DE] [UK]
I am using ``Cultural Studies and the Study of Popular Culture`` as the primary textbook in an ``Introduction to Popular Culture`` class. Now, on the one hand it is clear John Storey`s book is not written at an introductory level, which would have been a reason for me not to select it for my class. But this volume has two strengths that overcome that particular liability. The first is that Storey looks at six types of cultural texts: Television, Fiction, Films, Magazines & Newspapers, Popular Music, and Consumption (a.k.a. shopping). That pretty much covers everything you would want to look at in an introduction pop culture class so that students can get excited (relatively speaking) about analyzing their favorite television show or CD. The second strength is that each chapter focuses on two or three key concepts/theories. For example, with television Storey looks at Hall`s notions of encoding/decoding television discourse, how television represents the ideology of mass culture, and how there are competing economies of television. So even if the writing level is for the advances student (quality), students being introduced to cultural studies are being presented with only a few concepts to absorb (quantity). Even if he is writing chapters rather than providing essays, each chapter does offer a specific case study (e.g., James Bond novels) that will facilitate student comprehension of the concepts, which they, in turn, should be able to apply in their own papers. Storey does have another volume that is specifically ``An Introduction to Cultural Theory and Popular Culture,`` but it is structured by theories (culturalism, structuralism, Marxism, etc.). Ideally I would like to be working with a book from Storey that had the structure of the book I am using with the writing style of the other, but clearly you have a choice here as to which way you can go given both your preferences and the level of your course. Storey does a nice job of explicating these concepts without rendering personal judgments, which I think is important when you are trying to get students to actually use such analytical tools. Final note: Storey`s ``Cultural Theory & Popular Culture: A Reader`` is intended as a companion volume for his ``Introduction`` text and not this one. -- Lawrance M. Bernabo for amazon.com
Fashionable Nonsense: Postmodern Intellectuals` Abuse of Science - Alan D. Sokal, Jean Bricmont [Amazon US]
In 1996, an article entitled ``Transgressing the Boundaries: Toward a Transformative Hermeneutics of Quantum Gravity`` was published in the cultural studies journal Social Text. Packed with recherché quotations from ``postmodern`` literary theorists and sociologists of science, and bristling with imposing theorems of mathematical physics, the article addressed the cultural and political implications of the theory of quantum gravity. Later, to the embarrassment of the editors, the author revealed that the essay was a hoax, interweaving absurd pronouncements from eminent intellectuals about mathematics and physics with laudatory--but fatuous--prose. [...]
Subculture: The Meaning of Style (1979) - Dick Hebdige [Amazon US]
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``Complex and remarkably lucid, it`s the first book dealing with punk to offer intellectual content. Hebdige is concerned with the UK`s postwar, music-centred, white working-class subcultures, from teddy boys to mods and rockers to skinheads and punks.` --Rolling Stone Magazine [...]
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Cultural Theory and Popular Culture: An Introduction - John Storey [Amazon US] [FR] [DE] [UK]
In this third edition of his successful introduction to cultural theory and popular culture, John Storey has extensively revised the text throughout. As before, the book presents a clear and critical survey of competing theoriesof and various approaches to popular culture. In addition to the theories and approaches discussed in the the first two editions, there is a new section issues involved in the on Queer Theory. Four earlier sections have been extended, with new material on Reading Romance, Reading Women¹s Magazines, Feminism as Social Practice, Men¹s Studies and Masculinities. Illustrations have been added. Retaining the accessible approach of the the first two editions, and using relevant and appropriate examples from the texts and practices of popular culture, this new edition is bound to remain a favourite with students and lecturers alike. --amazon.com
Resistance Through Rituals: Youth Subcultures in Postwar Britain (1976) - Stuart Hall [Amazon US] [FR] [DE] [UK]
This book is a must read for students of fashion, subculture, identity, and pop culture. Although the style of writing and some of the conclusions read as somewhat ``old-fashioned``, it was ground-breaking work at the time, one of the first serious scholarly treatments of youth and pop culture. More importantly, many of its arguments are still very relevant and need to be reconsidered in contemporary literature. The collection also discusses many styles which are all but forgotten to a younger audience and the variety British styles in the 60s is an education in itself for people who often think of past decades as having a particular ``look``. Excellent sociological analysis blended with ethnographic description. --A reader from Newfield, amazon.com
#218 Posted by Bina_Shah on August 28, 2005 7:52:41 pm
Re: # 177
Dear TMRTR:
If you marry me I promise I won`t act like that.
Sincerely,
Bina
Dear TMRTR:
If you marry me I promise I won`t act like that.
Sincerely,
Bina
#217 Posted by teshah on August 28, 2005 7:06:55 pm
What a subjct; Woman versus Man! As the story goes, Adam got bored in heaven and cried for a companion. Got gifted him with the woman. Alas! Adam did not call her `Baaji` or `Aapaan` and so both of them were turned out of heaven as a punishment for that sin. They are suffering but never repented. They are equal in suffering because the woman chose to be a wife, a creative being. Today she is not only clamouring for equality but for `empowerment` as well despite the fact that all power flows out of her `gun`. Once men called her `Sunfe Naazak` but today she is empowering herself and the man is suffering from `Mardana Kamzori` as quack advertisements and the family courts degrees indicate abundantly, as `Naan-nufqah` is still the responsibility of the man. Men are being sent to jail for not providing Naan Nufqah even to a rebellious woman. As a result the young are showing increasing tendency of avoiding wedlock which actually is the institution catering mainly to the need of the woman. One wonders what this compaign of equality and empowerment of the woman will lead to. It will most likely destroy the family institution and the looser will ultimatey be the woman as a result of gender confrontation which this compaign is likely to lead to.
#216 Posted by hamidm2 on August 28, 2005 6:52:34 pm
Re: # 213
aphrabehen,
``god knows we`ve reached the age where women go out and fight while these men sit at home and play with their bangles`` ........... what would you have us do ? ........
...... but look, if we menfolk hadn`t done our part and defended our women from neanderthals who wanted to drag them to their caves by their hair, womankind would have been extinct ...... no? ..... but then we would have been extinct too ?........
.......anyway, ya`ll should not look at men to do anything for you, specially muslim men who, battered and abused and beaten at everything that matters by other men, have only their women to pick on .......... beating up on our women and keeping them in their place is the only way we can prove our manhood - heck, most of us can`t even take a leak standing up like real men.............. so please cut your brothers some slack
aphrabehen,
``god knows we`ve reached the age where women go out and fight while these men sit at home and play with their bangles`` ........... what would you have us do ? ........
...... but look, if we menfolk hadn`t done our part and defended our women from neanderthals who wanted to drag them to their caves by their hair, womankind would have been extinct ...... no? ..... but then we would have been extinct too ?........
.......anyway, ya`ll should not look at men to do anything for you, specially muslim men who, battered and abused and beaten at everything that matters by other men, have only their women to pick on .......... beating up on our women and keeping them in their place is the only way we can prove our manhood - heck, most of us can`t even take a leak standing up like real men.............. so please cut your brothers some slack
#215 Posted by AphraBehen on August 28, 2005 6:09:58 pm
Re: # 214
Saminasha,
Case in point...and...nutcase without a point....
Saminasha,
Case in point...and...nutcase without a point....
#214 Posted by NYPD on August 28, 2005 6:03:08 pm
213, //So I was walking along on the Upper East Side looking for love and getting the gas face from every Tom, Dick and Harry//
And we`ve been lookin for you ever since.
And we`ve been lookin for you ever since.
#213 Posted by AphraBehen on August 28, 2005 5:56:25 pm
Saminasha
re: ``Apparently humiliation has you frothing and yelping like the proverbial Pavlovian dog to the electrified bone....one can only wonder which hallmarks of your pathological delusions are more troubling: your refusal to admit when you are deconstructed, your creepy reflexiveness towards sexualized body parts, your latent racism that would do an English lord with gout glory, or your ineffectual, yes, unbelievably, ineffectual threats? Such a considerable list of competing disturbances-its a wonder you know your metaphor from your *....if your post is any proof, you havent seen either in ages....``
Gorgeous parallelism...but afraid your references will sail above the heads of the average trog here...the gout metaphor, one that Calvin Trillin once famously essayed as the disease of the shamefully harumphing and conservative feudal lord is too subtle...these ``beeyatches`` as you so aptly put it, understand only the crudest terminology....also, mention the subtext of racism inherent in the ``zebra`` metaphor and these ``beeyatches`` will have less idea of what you mean than an anger management workshop for those arab klansmen responsible for Darfur....In addition Saminasha of my heart, this is not a typically discerning audience apart from Shankar and on a good day, hamidm....they are just happy enough fools show up to slap that nyet sahib on the rump....god knows we`ve reached the age where women go out and fight while these men sit at home and play with their bangles.
love,
a
re: ``Apparently humiliation has you frothing and yelping like the proverbial Pavlovian dog to the electrified bone....one can only wonder which hallmarks of your pathological delusions are more troubling: your refusal to admit when you are deconstructed, your creepy reflexiveness towards sexualized body parts, your latent racism that would do an English lord with gout glory, or your ineffectual, yes, unbelievably, ineffectual threats? Such a considerable list of competing disturbances-its a wonder you know your metaphor from your *....if your post is any proof, you havent seen either in ages....``
Gorgeous parallelism...but afraid your references will sail above the heads of the average trog here...the gout metaphor, one that Calvin Trillin once famously essayed as the disease of the shamefully harumphing and conservative feudal lord is too subtle...these ``beeyatches`` as you so aptly put it, understand only the crudest terminology....also, mention the subtext of racism inherent in the ``zebra`` metaphor and these ``beeyatches`` will have less idea of what you mean than an anger management workshop for those arab klansmen responsible for Darfur....In addition Saminasha of my heart, this is not a typically discerning audience apart from Shankar and on a good day, hamidm....they are just happy enough fools show up to slap that nyet sahib on the rump....god knows we`ve reached the age where women go out and fight while these men sit at home and play with their bangles.
love,
a
#212 Posted by NYPD on August 28, 2005 5:45:47 pm
nt 206, //Apparently it worked like a spanish-fly on you and you came running in with your tail high up in the air.
Like I said, I`m a very busy man these days and don`t have time to undo your zebra stripes in order to reveal the ass. Before you start groping yourself, the ``ass`` referred to herein is the animal synonymous to stupidity and not your backside.//
These two lines are the funniest insults ever posted on Chowk. :)
Man, you are funny, you had me rolling and laughing loudly.
Like I said, I`m a very busy man these days and don`t have time to undo your zebra stripes in order to reveal the ass. Before you start groping yourself, the ``ass`` referred to herein is the animal synonymous to stupidity and not your backside.//
These two lines are the funniest insults ever posted on Chowk. :)
Man, you are funny, you had me rolling and laughing loudly.
#211 Posted by hamidm2 on August 28, 2005 5:22:59 pm
shankar,
...... you will be glad to know that my fish are doing fine - six african cichlids ....... by the way do you know how to tell a male from a female ?.......... also, why is it that all of them are ganging up on one poor thing that is clinging to the filter thingy in a vertical position ? (reminds me of mr ntsyed) ............ and why does one of them keep on digging up the rocks ? (reminds me of the diligent ms saminasha) ............ is it a male making a nest to entice a female, or is a female doing her own thing to lay eggs ?...........
........ to be honest, i find what is happening in the aquarium a more interesting than the happenings on chowk ......... mrs hamidm also watches them more than she watches the tv - the kids think that we are going nuts in our middle age and think we should ``get a life`` ?.......... what is your opinion as a professional shrink and fishkeeper ?
...... you will be glad to know that my fish are doing fine - six african cichlids ....... by the way do you know how to tell a male from a female ?.......... also, why is it that all of them are ganging up on one poor thing that is clinging to the filter thingy in a vertical position ? (reminds me of mr ntsyed) ............ and why does one of them keep on digging up the rocks ? (reminds me of the diligent ms saminasha) ............ is it a male making a nest to entice a female, or is a female doing her own thing to lay eggs ?...........
........ to be honest, i find what is happening in the aquarium a more interesting than the happenings on chowk ......... mrs hamidm also watches them more than she watches the tv - the kids think that we are going nuts in our middle age and think we should ``get a life`` ?.......... what is your opinion as a professional shrink and fishkeeper ?
#210 Posted by hamidm2 on August 28, 2005 4:06:38 pm
ntsyed sahib,
.... welcome back !........... i feel a lot better now that you are here to defend our collective muslim manhood which is so threatened by these horrible women who want to be treated like people .......... no siree ! we will never allow pigs, ahmedis and women to beat us like the hindoos, jews and decadent westerners have done and continue to do - we can only take so much ass-whopping ......... you are a true momin and may al-lah grant you victory against the source of all fitna on earth .......... ameen, sum ameen ........
.... welcome back !........... i feel a lot better now that you are here to defend our collective muslim manhood which is so threatened by these horrible women who want to be treated like people .......... no siree ! we will never allow pigs, ahmedis and women to beat us like the hindoos, jews and decadent westerners have done and continue to do - we can only take so much ass-whopping ......... you are a true momin and may al-lah grant you victory against the source of all fitna on earth .......... ameen, sum ameen ........
#209 Posted by Saminasha on August 28, 2005 3:16:51 pm
And NyetSahib,
Notice how I dont need a bunch of mediocre netwits cheering me on. So telling that you do....
Notice how I dont need a bunch of mediocre netwits cheering me on. So telling that you do....
#208 Posted by Saminasha on August 28, 2005 3:05:51 pm
Nyetsyed Beeyatch,
(and this should be some indication that this post is not going to go well for you)
Apparently humiliation has you frothing and yelping like the proverbial Pavlovian dog to the electrified bone....one can only wonder which hallmarks of your pathological delusions are more troubling: your refusal to admit when you are deconstructed, your creepy reflexiveness towards sexualized body parts, your latent racism that would do an English lord with gout glory, or your ineffectual, yes, unbelievably, ineffectual threats? Such a considerable list of competing disturbances-its a wonder you know your metaphor from your *....if your post is any proof, you havent seen either in ages....
To paraphrase Dan Ackroyd, NyetSahib, you ignorant beeyatch. You can`t hide from the very examples you bring up in your attempt to dismiss someone else`s argument. You cant fart up smokescreens when this is pointed out, regardless of how smelly you might make the room. Eventually, the smoke clears.
And so, as you brought up labor and how Islam systematically addresses labor and gender inequity, it is up to you, dear ignorant beeyatch, to explain how.
What is patently clear to everyone is that you have no answer. Your backside (and this is to borrow the metaphor that seems to be the defining trope for you) had a alot to say, and now it is up to your brain to either admit defeat or more excruciatingly for you, come up with some support.
Btw, NyetSahib, your loathsome and disgusting online personality only reflects on you and your inabilities to maintain any equilibrium in a discussion. Do you think any woman worth her mettle takes a beeyatch like you seriously?
Go home and cry.
(and this should be some indication that this post is not going to go well for you)
Apparently humiliation has you frothing and yelping like the proverbial Pavlovian dog to the electrified bone....one can only wonder which hallmarks of your pathological delusions are more troubling: your refusal to admit when you are deconstructed, your creepy reflexiveness towards sexualized body parts, your latent racism that would do an English lord with gout glory, or your ineffectual, yes, unbelievably, ineffectual threats? Such a considerable list of competing disturbances-its a wonder you know your metaphor from your *....if your post is any proof, you havent seen either in ages....
To paraphrase Dan Ackroyd, NyetSahib, you ignorant beeyatch. You can`t hide from the very examples you bring up in your attempt to dismiss someone else`s argument. You cant fart up smokescreens when this is pointed out, regardless of how smelly you might make the room. Eventually, the smoke clears.
And so, as you brought up labor and how Islam systematically addresses labor and gender inequity, it is up to you, dear ignorant beeyatch, to explain how.
What is patently clear to everyone is that you have no answer. Your backside (and this is to borrow the metaphor that seems to be the defining trope for you) had a alot to say, and now it is up to your brain to either admit defeat or more excruciatingly for you, come up with some support.
Btw, NyetSahib, your loathsome and disgusting online personality only reflects on you and your inabilities to maintain any equilibrium in a discussion. Do you think any woman worth her mettle takes a beeyatch like you seriously?
Go home and cry.
#207 Posted by BeeJay on August 28, 2005 2:57:41 pm
Dear NTSyed sahib,
Since I am trying to cut back on interactions (especially of the political variety) and also since I’m already finished saying everything I intended to say on this board (with the exception of this shrunk shrink Shankar (SSS, or S3), with whom I intend to deal in my own sweet time), I am not going to say anything. But I would like to make ONE exception and say:
WELCOME BACK!
Sincerely,
BeeJay.
Dear SSS (or S3),
I intend to deal with your foolish comments in my own sweet time.
Sincerely,
BeeJay.
#206 Posted by ntsyed on August 28, 2005 2:49:42 pm
Re: # 182
Semi-nasha
aray mujhay maaf ker meray gadhon ki ma!
If simple metaphors and analogies can be above your proud post-graduate self, then I couldn`t be more sorry for anyone in the whole mankind than your husband. I can understand why your parents may love you...but the husband...No one could have that much patience with your diatribes.
Your post was amply answered if only you could put your selective-reading aside and take some magic pills for apparent dyslexia. Bina Shah`s point was also well-taken, and the reason that particular part was used for sarcasm was that the rest of the rant had nothing else worth my time to tease her with. Apparently it worked like a spanish-fly on you and you came running in with your tail high up in the air.
Like I said, I`m a very busy man these days and don`t have time to undo your zebra stripes in order to reveal the ass. Before you start groping yourself, the ``ass`` referred to herein is the animal synonymous to stupidity and not your backside. Only your parents and/or husband may be able to tell the actual difference, though. You do perfectly fine yourself in revealing the ass - the four legged animal - within you.
For future references, watch your language when you start name calling without provocation. It is not difficult for me to shower you with titles and honors that`ll make it impossible for you to see your face or any of your other body parts ever again. The only reason I`ve refrained so far is because Allah may not like me afterwards. But testing my patience should be like walking on thin ice for you...very thin ice. If you surpass my threshold, then Allah will forgive me for the language I unleash on you. Your haughty attitude clearly indicates you ain`t seen nothing yet.
You have only learned to spell the words `gender` and `equality`. You have no idea how to use the two or what they mean. Nor do you have any idea how to treat different people equally.
See ya when I see ya!
:-)~~
P.S.:
#188 by Saminasha on August 28, 2005 11:58am PT
#192 by trmntr_x on August 28, 2005 12:07pm PT
Something very insidiously fishy-assed (again not a reference to anyone`s behind) going on here....ahem....hahahaha
Semi-nasha
aray mujhay maaf ker meray gadhon ki ma!
If simple metaphors and analogies can be above your proud post-graduate self, then I couldn`t be more sorry for anyone in the whole mankind than your husband. I can understand why your parents may love you...but the husband...No one could have that much patience with your diatribes.
Your post was amply answered if only you could put your selective-reading aside and take some magic pills for apparent dyslexia. Bina Shah`s point was also well-taken, and the reason that particular part was used for sarcasm was that the rest of the rant had nothing else worth my time to tease her with. Apparently it worked like a spanish-fly on you and you came running in with your tail high up in the air.
Like I said, I`m a very busy man these days and don`t have time to undo your zebra stripes in order to reveal the ass. Before you start groping yourself, the ``ass`` referred to herein is the animal synonymous to stupidity and not your backside. Only your parents and/or husband may be able to tell the actual difference, though. You do perfectly fine yourself in revealing the ass - the four legged animal - within you.
For future references, watch your language when you start name calling without provocation. It is not difficult for me to shower you with titles and honors that`ll make it impossible for you to see your face or any of your other body parts ever again. The only reason I`ve refrained so far is because Allah may not like me afterwards. But testing my patience should be like walking on thin ice for you...very thin ice. If you surpass my threshold, then Allah will forgive me for the language I unleash on you. Your haughty attitude clearly indicates you ain`t seen nothing yet.
You have only learned to spell the words `gender` and `equality`. You have no idea how to use the two or what they mean. Nor do you have any idea how to treat different people equally.
See ya when I see ya!
:-)~~
P.S.:
#188 by Saminasha on August 28, 2005 11:58am PT
#192 by trmntr_x on August 28, 2005 12:07pm PT
Something very insidiously fishy-assed (again not a reference to anyone`s behind) going on here....ahem....hahahaha
#205 Posted by trmntr_x on August 28, 2005 2:34:41 pm
Oye, Shankar Mian,
Listen, if Allah wanted us to see head doctors, he would have invented them! I am a perfectly functioning bipolar with borderline features of narcissism! What would you be if your wife wouldnt let you wear her bangles, even if you are really good?
Listen, if Allah wanted us to see head doctors, he would have invented them! I am a perfectly functioning bipolar with borderline features of narcissism! What would you be if your wife wouldnt let you wear her bangles, even if you are really good?
#204 Posted by trmntr_x on August 28, 2005 2:29:50 pm
``Men are bad but good daughters also change in company of bad men. They become mean and hateful, greedy and worse...``
Madani Mian,
After getting this sochalism textbook off my kumur, so to speak, I thought I would look at it to see what kind of magik eight ball answers it has to your queschuns. Magik eight balls are bohut masruff inventions, hain? No bakwas shakespere answers, just ``maybe``, ``no``, ``yes``. ``it looks that way``.....no soul searching, or critical citical methodologies....abey fatso bibi has hidden my eight ball-she wont let me make any more decisions with it....i had a system, see, when we could only pay electric OR phone bill, I ask teh eight ball, kuch ho jatha hain...but fatso bibi and her gentlemen nakras makes me now call each company and promise to pay them by such and such date....I dont know why she is so roti shakal about not having light before the day of her big inthihan...you are soooo smart, fatso bibi!, i tell her, you already know everything! Just write ``black power`` and the goras dont understand anything, but the kaaley have too many problems and we as muslim people should be respected and that your husband already calls you his queen and diwaan, and you will get A Number 1 grade!
bUT anyway....this society book has a whole section on women in society...baba, these women are out of control....abey, giving a light tapar now is ``domestic violence``...this is on foundation our society is based on, the right to give tapars to jahil auratay, hain! Also, this comment you made about beykaar son in laws, I know exactly what you mean. My sister`s son married a girl. He took her too the UK where she lived like a rani in a one room apartment, plenty of cold fresh water in flat! She worked at Blimpies to pass the time, no real need....Then when our mother went to visit them, the girl said she was too busy to cook! Too busy to listen to my mother`s complaining about not enough presents and clothes for the family in Pakistan! Too busy to listen about her being a spoiled daughter of a princess! This makes my heart hurt so, madani mian, that now this working has made our women too busy to listen to our insults! Hain?! OK, must go, fatso bibi is looking for her book
Madani Mian,
After getting this sochalism textbook off my kumur, so to speak, I thought I would look at it to see what kind of magik eight ball answers it has to your queschuns. Magik eight balls are bohut masruff inventions, hain? No bakwas shakespere answers, just ``maybe``, ``no``, ``yes``. ``it looks that way``.....no soul searching, or critical citical methodologies....abey fatso bibi has hidden my eight ball-she wont let me make any more decisions with it....i had a system, see, when we could only pay electric OR phone bill, I ask teh eight ball, kuch ho jatha hain...but fatso bibi and her gentlemen nakras makes me now call each company and promise to pay them by such and such date....I dont know why she is so roti shakal about not having light before the day of her big inthihan...you are soooo smart, fatso bibi!, i tell her, you already know everything! Just write ``black power`` and the goras dont understand anything, but the kaaley have too many problems and we as muslim people should be respected and that your husband already calls you his queen and diwaan, and you will get A Number 1 grade!
bUT anyway....this society book has a whole section on women in society...baba, these women are out of control....abey, giving a light tapar now is ``domestic violence``...this is on foundation our society is based on, the right to give tapars to jahil auratay, hain! Also, this comment you made about beykaar son in laws, I know exactly what you mean. My sister`s son married a girl. He took her too the UK where she lived like a rani in a one room apartment, plenty of cold fresh water in flat! She worked at Blimpies to pass the time, no real need....Then when our mother went to visit them, the girl said she was too busy to cook! Too busy to listen to my mother`s complaining about not enough presents and clothes for the family in Pakistan! Too busy to listen about her being a spoiled daughter of a princess! This makes my heart hurt so, madani mian, that now this working has made our women too busy to listen to our insults! Hain?! OK, must go, fatso bibi is looking for her book
#203 Posted by shankar on August 28, 2005 2:26:11 pm
Re: # 177
Wow!...man...you need to see a shrink in your neighborhood...
Wow!...man...you need to see a shrink in your neighborhood...
#202 Posted by shankar on August 28, 2005 2:25:37 pm
Re: # 177
Wow!...man...you need to see a shrink in your neighborhood...
Wow!...man...you need to see a shrink in your neighborhood...
#201 Posted by shankar on August 28, 2005 2:23:38 pm
Re: # 183
Madani-saheb,
{{But most comments are not in good taste , they are in bad taste.}}
Janaab...I dont know how it is in Pakistan...but if you walk on a Chowk in Bombay; you better put some slippers on....otherwise you will step on a pile of dung...& you wont even know what the divine source of that dung was...
Khuda Hafiz
Madani-saheb,
{{But most comments are not in good taste , they are in bad taste.}}
Janaab...I dont know how it is in Pakistan...but if you walk on a Chowk in Bombay; you better put some slippers on....otherwise you will step on a pile of dung...& you wont even know what the divine source of that dung was...
Khuda Hafiz
#200 Posted by mannu404 on August 28, 2005 2:12:08 pm
OK, I am ready to accede to all the rational demands of Pakistani women for equality and opportunity. In return, I request just one simple concession. Please allow me to sacrifice one (at the most two!) Pakistani (or of Paki origin) women to the Goddess Indus around Bakr Eid time. In the spirit of enlightened modernity and equal opportunity, I assure you that virginity, or lack of it, will NOT be a consideration in the selection criiteria. :)
#199 Posted by mannu404 on August 28, 2005 1:56:44 pm
#183, {``Some times I feel writers do not care they just want write bad and get famous hoping to get interviewed by Nytimes or BBC. Its pathetic to become famous such at cost of pakistan good name and reputation. As general said first think of pakistan, subse pahela pakistan, now even opposed to militart take over should know pakistan is president is pakistan. Its ok to criticise president in company of Ummah but when most kaffirs are here one should moderate writing to tone down negative aspects and have no destructive criticism. ``}
Mr. Madani,
That is a lot of food for thought. Thank you for giving us this important perspective on the nagging habit of some liberals to parrot the party line without engaging thinking cap.
Salim
Mr. Madani,
That is a lot of food for thought. Thank you for giving us this important perspective on the nagging habit of some liberals to parrot the party line without engaging thinking cap.
Salim
#198 Posted by shankar on August 28, 2005 1:53:07 pm
Re: # 109
{{The aim of the scholars, the genuine ones, is for moral and spiritual guidance to individuals.}}
Yup!...
and there are about a zillion Ibn Ibn.Ibn buttheads (& THOU) `` is-scholars`` who are drowning out ``secular`` muslims...who are getting genuinely EMBARRASED about how ``culture police`` like your brothers & sisters...give ``spiritual guidance`` to every tom, dick,abdul & bina.....whether they like it or not!
How da heck art THOU any different from the vast assortment of brainless Islam ke mashoor pehelwan dukkar men...who have hijacked Islam to a tower.... & kept her er..``izzat``... ``safe``...from secular marauders ...like she`s Allah-damned Rapunzel...may I ask?
Speaking of which ...
...I do hope you have hi-tailed it from Inglistan to Pakistan...by now...its terrible what those wretched pommies are doing to ``you guys``...after 7/7...
I do hope...you outa be on atleast your 2nd wife, 3rd son & ``X``th daughter(s).. (whose numbers you wont count)...perhaps, you oughta make HER a hafiz, hahn?!...oh!? but I guess a 3rd grade education is more than enough for her...
I do hope...during your yatra from Inglistan to Pakistan...you took a stop-over to Fez...& got a kick in the skull from a Saintly Syed...to clear up some of the fog in your mind...maybe the view of Jannat & your 72 ever-virginial loving..er.. sisters... becomes clearer...
I DO hope you have read the ...er...fine print of.... ``Jannat``;... before you peddle your version of Islaaaam on Chowk...my mashoor pehelwan...methinks its a cruel trick Allah has played on the male disciples of the Holy Prophet (pbuh)...methinks HE`s DISGUSTED with how incredibly stupid they are!!!
I DO DO hope you are not walking around the evil West with my bhatija Urstruly; hoping for a ..er..close encounter with a certain German Shepard thingy...man..he`s very much into that kind of stuff..these days...
I DO think only one moose limb OUTA be allowed ...er...how shall I put it???...er..INCEST...(GASP)!!! with his divine 72 houris....HAMID_M!!
...& I`ll betcha...them houris aint gonna serve him ``virgin`` zamzama drinks ..either!...so he wont care what he`s doing....
Khuda Hafiz
{{The aim of the scholars, the genuine ones, is for moral and spiritual guidance to individuals.}}
Yup!...
and there are about a zillion Ibn Ibn.Ibn buttheads (& THOU) `` is-scholars`` who are drowning out ``secular`` muslims...who are getting genuinely EMBARRASED about how ``culture police`` like your brothers & sisters...give ``spiritual guidance`` to every tom, dick,abdul & bina.....whether they like it or not!
How da heck art THOU any different from the vast assortment of brainless Islam ke mashoor pehelwan dukkar men...who have hijacked Islam to a tower.... & kept her er..``izzat``... ``safe``...from secular marauders ...like she`s Allah-damned Rapunzel...may I ask?
Speaking of which ...
...I do hope you have hi-tailed it from Inglistan to Pakistan...by now...its terrible what those wretched pommies are doing to ``you guys``...after 7/7...
I do hope...you outa be on atleast your 2nd wife, 3rd son & ``X``th daughter(s).. (whose numbers you wont count)...perhaps, you oughta make HER a hafiz, hahn?!...oh!? but I guess a 3rd grade education is more than enough for her...
I do hope...during your yatra from Inglistan to Pakistan...you took a stop-over to Fez...& got a kick in the skull from a Saintly Syed...to clear up some of the fog in your mind...maybe the view of Jannat & your 72 ever-virginial loving..er.. sisters... becomes clearer...
I DO hope you have read the ...er...fine print of.... ``Jannat``;... before you peddle your version of Islaaaam on Chowk...my mashoor pehelwan...methinks its a cruel trick Allah has played on the male disciples of the Holy Prophet (pbuh)...methinks HE`s DISGUSTED with how incredibly stupid they are!!!
I DO DO hope you are not walking around the evil West with my bhatija Urstruly; hoping for a ..er..close encounter with a certain German Shepard thingy...man..he`s very much into that kind of stuff..these days...
I DO think only one moose limb OUTA be allowed ...er...how shall I put it???...er..INCEST...(GASP)!!! with his divine 72 houris....HAMID_M!!
...& I`ll betcha...them houris aint gonna serve him ``virgin`` zamzama drinks ..either!...so he wont care what he`s doing....
Khuda Hafiz
#197 Posted by mannu404 on August 28, 2005 1:13:07 pm
#195, {``there would be at least ONE khalsa warrior in Ohio singing a suprano!!`` lol``}
Shankar bhayya,
Is there a soprano section in most Gurdwara choirs?
Salim
Shankar bhayya,
Is there a soprano section in most Gurdwara choirs?
Salim
#196 Posted by Soulat on August 28, 2005 12:28:47 pm
#190 by Saminasha on August 28, 2005 12:02pm PT
and then, ``copying``.
I am not a language teacher….
Covering up… first claiming “copy & paste” a pun and now, a typo….
TPMcafe... someone please....
#195 Posted by shankar on August 28, 2005 12:15:56 pm
Re: # 121
mohar
...groping a girl in the back seat of a car, hahn?...shareef ladki didnt tell her parents where she`s going, hahn?...
heheh!!!
my classmate... a certain sardar birather..who is a big surgeon now in a Midwestern city...made sure his beautiful daughter ONLY socialised with the kids of the local Sikh sangatan....
...yup! thats all fine & dandy...
One night...after a hard day at the OR, at 2AM..he drove up to his 3 car garage....yearning to crawl into bed with his beautiful wife...he heard a crash of garbage cans in the far side of the bushes...
$#$% racoons!!..he said!!
What proceeded NEXT was...to say the least...very very emotionally..er..eventful....
out comes his 15 yr beautiful old shareef daughter..trying to zip up her fly!... & put on a bra at the same time!...& then comes out a very sheepish looking 14 yr old khalsa warrior...who was feebly trying to cover his ..er..erect member with a turban!
Allah-kasam I could hear his roaaar all the way to Mid-Michigan!!! My bibi said ``its a good thing he wasnt carrying his kirpan...there would be at least ONE khalsa warrior in Ohio singing a suprano!!`` lol
mohar
...groping a girl in the back seat of a car, hahn?...shareef ladki didnt tell her parents where she`s going, hahn?...
heheh!!!
my classmate... a certain sardar birather..who is a big surgeon now in a Midwestern city...made sure his beautiful daughter ONLY socialised with the kids of the local Sikh sangatan....
...yup! thats all fine & dandy...
One night...after a hard day at the OR, at 2AM..he drove up to his 3 car garage....yearning to crawl into bed with his beautiful wife...he heard a crash of garbage cans in the far side of the bushes...
$#$% racoons!!..he said!!
What proceeded NEXT was...to say the least...very very emotionally..er..eventful....
out comes his 15 yr beautiful old shareef daughter..trying to zip up her fly!... & put on a bra at the same time!...& then comes out a very sheepish looking 14 yr old khalsa warrior...who was feebly trying to cover his ..er..erect member with a turban!
Allah-kasam I could hear his roaaar all the way to Mid-Michigan!!! My bibi said ``its a good thing he wasnt carrying his kirpan...there would be at least ONE khalsa warrior in Ohio singing a suprano!!`` lol
#194 Posted by ahmedmadani on August 28, 2005 12:11:10 pm
Re: # 177
You are wrong. I have married three daughters. 2 husbands are of inferoir qualitiies and and raskals but we have to accept wrong choices as there is no otherway. Men are bad but good daughters also change in company of bad men. They become mean and hateful, greedy and worse. But I can not accept all women are bad. So I do not agree with comments. Two times I had to give money to these by son in laws I felt bad as I spend all my life raising them and upsurpers come and take away and we have to spend money its not just . bye
You are wrong. I have married three daughters. 2 husbands are of inferoir qualitiies and and raskals but we have to accept wrong choices as there is no otherway. Men are bad but good daughters also change in company of bad men. They become mean and hateful, greedy and worse. But I can not accept all women are bad. So I do not agree with comments. Two times I had to give money to these by son in laws I felt bad as I spend all my life raising them and upsurpers come and take away and we have to spend money its not just . bye
#193 Posted by mannu404 on August 28, 2005 12:08:55 pm
Now some comments regarding the Hijab controversy. Being Salim ``Look at it from all sides`` Chauhan, I wish to offer a few remarks about Hijab and some of the women who wear them. I always avoided Hijabi girls in the States. I thought they were religious robots and was frankly uncomfortable with their dogmatic rhetoric. Here in Turkey, I have been quite impressed by many of my wife`s girlfriends who wear hijabs. They seem so self-confident, so polite, and so logical in their thinking that I feel an element of regret for my previous prejudices. While no advocate of Hijab proliferation, I must confess at my admiration for these women. They put on the Hijab, usually at the chagrin and consternation of their parents, their friends, their relatives, and school officials. Their confidence, demeanor, determination, and ability to conduct decent conversations with males is what drives many men here to seek them out as permanent partners. And to think that I gave up drinking in exchange for my wife not wearing the Hijab.
Salim
Salim
#192 Posted by trmntr_x on August 28, 2005 12:07:44 pm
Sameeenahsahiba,
Stop stealing my story! Its funny to you, but not to me! I support womens rights as long as it doesnt interfere with my getting my shorba cooked freshly everyday!
Stop stealing my story! Its funny to you, but not to me! I support womens rights as long as it doesnt interfere with my getting my shorba cooked freshly everyday!
#191 Posted by AphraBehen on August 28, 2005 12:05:46 pm
Bravura Saminasha!
It seems as if the IQ on the board has risen since you`ve shown up! I`d say more, but my popularity with others is really important to me!
love,
a
It seems as if the IQ on the board has risen since you`ve shown up! I`d say more, but my popularity with others is really important to me!
love,
a
#190 Posted by Saminasha on August 28, 2005 12:02:36 pm
and then, ``copying``.
good for the goose....
good for the goose....
#189 Posted by Saminasha on August 28, 2005 12:00:44 pm
Soulat,
look up ``pun`` please.
and then, ``psychopath``.
look up ``pun`` please.
and then, ``psychopath``.
#188 Posted by Saminasha on August 28, 2005 11:58:38 am
Bina....now the baass has me as her nauker....she has her western-smestern schooling...now she act like gentlemen sahib or sophisticated laty around the house....she read this idea of ``equal rights`` from some stupid gora textbook she wasted her paycheck on...i said, jacuzzi, mehboob, another trip to makkah, but she says, no, sociology is important for her ba! BA! AA wasnt good enough for her! And now her socialism book is saying things like, ``explore your values``...abey! explore our values? now she is asking questions like, why shouldnt she have a separate bank account? As if she has enough money after our bills are paid! Then she is learning about values from other countries, like ``machismo``....this is when the male is number one in the house...see! I her, all cultures are man number 1 in the da house! but her gora wannabe kaali-kaaley kaloot ``professor`` is asking her what she thinks! as if she has an opnon of her own! Hain? You think what I tell you think, my little fatso! I tell her, and once she is feeling bad about her appearance, then she is reminded of her place!
#187 Posted by mannu404 on August 28, 2005 11:57:18 am
#180, Shukriya, Janaab ntsyed sahib,
Jahaliyyat ke muqaable meN hum-dimaagh hona ek zarorri baat he. :) Khush Aamdeed.
Salim
Jahaliyyat ke muqaable meN hum-dimaagh hona ek zarorri baat he. :) Khush Aamdeed.
Salim
#186 Posted by temporal on August 28, 2005 11:54:38 am
shanker da # 181:
me flatter? taubah taubah!
as for golden rules..there is only one...he who has the gold....
later in life danda replaces gold as is evident in most third world countries
and yes, parents are for ever at the short end of the stick when the children are between the ages of 15-30+
once they get their own kids...well they need reliable baby sitters
sorry for the dirgression folks...
me flatter? taubah taubah!
as for golden rules..there is only one...he who has the gold....
later in life danda replaces gold as is evident in most third world countries
and yes, parents are for ever at the short end of the stick when the children are between the ages of 15-30+
once they get their own kids...well they need reliable baby sitters
sorry for the dirgression folks...
#185 Posted by mannu404 on August 28, 2005 11:53:22 am
#184, {``It is ``bated breath`` and not BAITED breath... ``}
Soulat, thank you for your much-needed corrective action. :)
In this particular case, maybe ``bad breath`` is both short and apropos. :)
Soulat, thank you for your much-needed corrective action. :)
In this particular case, maybe ``bad breath`` is both short and apropos. :)
#184 Posted by Soulat on August 28, 2005 11:49:04 am
#164 by Saminasha
“WAITING with baited breath...”
Please refrain from coping phrases from several liberal discussion boards and then you don’t copy them correctly too.
It is “bated breath” and not BAITED breath…
Thanks.
#183 Posted by ahmedmadani on August 28, 2005 11:47:56 am
Ref: many comments.
Article is fine and has good points. But writing of hypothetical situation is not good and is extreme. I can understand to make points.
But most comments are not in good taste , they are in bad taste. YLH is great but some times gets crazy when these kafirs floating all around press some j and g and s ( secular) buttons. Similarly lots of Indians are having field day to have written by ms. Shah and critical of sociopolitical situation in country and related comments and specially the miserable animal like conditions met by 60% women. Its not religious thing but Hindians have made it. Its backward inward looking idealogical country trying to grasp some new guidelines under capable leadeship of President - moderation and enlightenment. . In such times Ms. Shah should have been sympathetic to pakistani nation as nation is getting out of slumber and getting in moderation which can lead to demise Jihad and killing slowly. But such criticism demoralise people and people try to flee as they feel condition are worst when they are worse or badder. Then Dubai cracks on good people and good people are punished for no fault of theirs and writer can not help the plight when they do not allow even leader of opposition is not allowed. Some times I feel writers do not care they just want write bad and get famous hoping to get interviewed by Nytimes or BBC. Its pathetic to become famous such at cost of pakistan good name and reputation. As general said first think of pakistan, subse pahela pakistan, now even opposed to militart take over should know pakistan is president is pakistan. Its ok to criticise president in company of Ummah but when most kaffirs are here one should moderate writing to tone down negative aspects and have no destructive criticism. Dawn , Jang are failures as they are full of bad news top to bottom no good news. It is specially bad when general has courageously accepted to address jew people in newyork as he is moving in enemies caves. He may have great danger from people opposed to his dialogue with mother religion of islam and christy people jew people. There may be great danger and all nation should help him but more croticism specially jihadi extremists are going crazy. Lots of advantages with establishment of relationship with isarael. Arabs will not take us for granted and will respect us. It is possible then he can be peace maker for palestaian and isarael and president Bush has support to get moderate muslim laeder get involved just like hasan Mubarak of egypt.
The comments by women are really negative and teasing to men and criticising them this can great distress and he may take on his wife by beating her etc. But these commentators provoke men by provokative comments.
Best way is to limit provokative comment writer men and women to only 2 comments and then put censor cut. This women and men commenter has made gutter palce here.
I wish everybdy good luck , Bye i am tired by -ve coments by people.
Article is fine and has good points. But writing of hypothetical situation is not good and is extreme. I can understand to make points.
But most comments are not in good taste , they are in bad taste. YLH is great but some times gets crazy when these kafirs floating all around press some j and g and s ( secular) buttons. Similarly lots of Indians are having field day to have written by ms. Shah and critical of sociopolitical situation in country and related comments and specially the miserable animal like conditions met by 60% women. Its not religious thing but Hindians have made it. Its backward inward looking idealogical country trying to grasp some new guidelines under capable leadeship of President - moderation and enlightenment. . In such times Ms. Shah should have been sympathetic to pakistani nation as nation is getting out of slumber and getting in moderation which can lead to demise Jihad and killing slowly. But such criticism demoralise people and people try to flee as they feel condition are worst when they are worse or badder. Then Dubai cracks on good people and good people are punished for no fault of theirs and writer can not help the plight when they do not allow even leader of opposition is not allowed. Some times I feel writers do not care they just want write bad and get famous hoping to get interviewed by Nytimes or BBC. Its pathetic to become famous such at cost of pakistan good name and reputation. As general said first think of pakistan, subse pahela pakistan, now even opposed to militart take over should know pakistan is president is pakistan. Its ok to criticise president in company of Ummah but when most kaffirs are here one should moderate writing to tone down negative aspects and have no destructive criticism. Dawn , Jang are failures as they are full of bad news top to bottom no good news. It is specially bad when general has courageously accepted to address jew people in newyork as he is moving in enemies caves. He may have great danger from people opposed to his dialogue with mother religion of islam and christy people jew people. There may be great danger and all nation should help him but more croticism specially jihadi extremists are going crazy. Lots of advantages with establishment of relationship with isarael. Arabs will not take us for granted and will respect us. It is possible then he can be peace maker for palestaian and isarael and president Bush has support to get moderate muslim laeder get involved just like hasan Mubarak of egypt.
The comments by women are really negative and teasing to men and criticising them this can great distress and he may take on his wife by beating her etc. But these commentators provoke men by provokative comments.
Best way is to limit provokative comment writer men and women to only 2 comments and then put censor cut. This women and men commenter has made gutter palce here.
I wish everybdy good luck , Bye i am tired by -ve coments by people.
#182 Posted by Saminasha on August 28, 2005 11:41:45 am
NyetSyed,
You`ve been checkmated....now lets see if your fan club has the backbone to tell you so.
Now, lets proceed with the inadequacies of this post. Having missed Ms. Shah`s point and having that pointed out to you further, you are so beset with anxiety, you must save face by sexualizing the whole exchange. In other words, because I called you on your lack of knowledge of what labor unions are and how they operate, you felt the need to drag us down to your level of male pathology...which is to try to embarrass us thru a kind of sexual harrassment. Nyetsyed SAHIB...can you begin to admit how ridiculous this notion is?
Is Steven Hawkings your ``dominatrix``?
Is Albert Einstein your ``dominatrix``?
Then why should a woman with a brain bigger than yours be considered your ``dominatrix``?
Your intellectual better, maybe, but lets leave this repressed mcp vision of the world out of this discussion on labor.
Before you actually play your ``WELL WHAT ABOUT THE US????`` tit for prat game, just answer the questions. Nothing before then.
You`ve been checkmated....now lets see if your fan club has the backbone to tell you so.
Now, lets proceed with the inadequacies of this post. Having missed Ms. Shah`s point and having that pointed out to you further, you are so beset with anxiety, you must save face by sexualizing the whole exchange. In other words, because I called you on your lack of knowledge of what labor unions are and how they operate, you felt the need to drag us down to your level of male pathology...which is to try to embarrass us thru a kind of sexual harrassment. Nyetsyed SAHIB...can you begin to admit how ridiculous this notion is?
Is Steven Hawkings your ``dominatrix``?
Is Albert Einstein your ``dominatrix``?
Then why should a woman with a brain bigger than yours be considered your ``dominatrix``?
Your intellectual better, maybe, but lets leave this repressed mcp vision of the world out of this discussion on labor.
Before you actually play your ``WELL WHAT ABOUT THE US????`` tit for prat game, just answer the questions. Nothing before then.
#181 Posted by shankar on August 28, 2005 11:34:37 am
Re: # 106
temporal,
{{...where is that unmitigated rascal shanker?}}
i`m here!...i`m here!!...
....& flattery wont get you anywhere...
{{all cultural transference in kids takes place between the incubation and age three...}}
Aw...it isnt as simple as that...yes.... our human mind (brain ) LEARNS the most in our first 3 years ....& a lot of our CORE emotions are formed in those formative years....
BUTT...its the ``nature vs nurture `` fight...
our immediate society has a great pull on you...ESP when you are a teenager...the American society has a very very powerful, though insiduous, way of ``mixing you``
so if you want your daughter to be a a good muslim girl...or a good sati savitri...take her back to des.. before she becomes a teenager...
why do you think ``teenage years`` are so challenging...for parents..?...my 19 (going on 50) teenage daughter has given me a few grey hairs...when she challenges my core ``desi`` beliefs...I have the scars to prove it...
When a human being becomes a ``teenager`` his/her role models change...their parents arent the ``gods`` they thought they were....& their teenage friends (who are in constant contact with them ...over landlines...over cell phones...over aol/msn messengers)...complain that THEIR parents have pretty antiquated ``universal values`` too...
until...you get to put your foot down & say ...``hey KID!...whether this is INDIA or AMRIKA...there is ONE SIMPLE UNIVERSAL RULE....no matter where you go in this world``....
MY HOUSE>>>MY RULES!!!!!!
Like that incredible guru of parenthood, Bill Cosby, tells his son Theo...``I bought you into this world ....& I can take you OUT!!!``:))
...and...and... did you know what that feminazi kid said; when I first threw that COMMANDMENT at her?!
``wait till mommy comes home...I`ll tell her how much of a patronising ...male ...chauvinistic oink..you are!!!``
Its real pathetic to see a grown brahmin shrink cry real tears of frustration!:))))
My child psychiatry teacher once told me ``parenthood is the ONLY amateur profession left in this world!...``
temporal,
{{...where is that unmitigated rascal shanker?}}
i`m here!...i`m here!!...
....& flattery wont get you anywhere...
{{all cultural transference in kids takes place between the incubation and age three...}}
Aw...it isnt as simple as that...yes.... our human mind (brain ) LEARNS the most in our first 3 years ....& a lot of our CORE emotions are formed in those formative years....
BUTT...its the ``nature vs nurture `` fight...
our immediate society has a great pull on you...ESP when you are a teenager...the American society has a very very powerful, though insiduous, way of ``mixing you``
so if you want your daughter to be a a good muslim girl...or a good sati savitri...take her back to des.. before she becomes a teenager...
why do you think ``teenage years`` are so challenging...for parents..?...my 19 (going on 50) teenage daughter has given me a few grey hairs...when she challenges my core ``desi`` beliefs...I have the scars to prove it...
When a human being becomes a ``teenager`` his/her role models change...their parents arent the ``gods`` they thought they were....& their teenage friends (who are in constant contact with them ...over landlines...over cell phones...over aol/msn messengers)...complain that THEIR parents have pretty antiquated ``universal values`` too...
until...you get to put your foot down & say ...``hey KID!...whether this is INDIA or AMRIKA...there is ONE SIMPLE UNIVERSAL RULE....no matter where you go in this world``....
MY HOUSE>>>MY RULES!!!!!!
Like that incredible guru of parenthood, Bill Cosby, tells his son Theo...``I bought you into this world ....& I can take you OUT!!!``:))
...and...and... did you know what that feminazi kid said; when I first threw that COMMANDMENT at her?!
``wait till mommy comes home...I`ll tell her how much of a patronising ...male ...chauvinistic oink..you are!!!``
Its real pathetic to see a grown brahmin shrink cry real tears of frustration!:))))
My child psychiatry teacher once told me ``parenthood is the ONLY amateur profession left in this world!...``
#180 Posted by ntsyed on August 28, 2005 11:11:59 am
Re: # 165
Tasleemat Salim Saheb! I try to utilize whatever blessings Allah has bestowed on me to its maximum potential.
Judging from Saminasha`s 166, I`m sure I`ll be a fan of yours ;-)~~
M`asSalaam
:-)~~
Tasleemat Salim Saheb! I try to utilize whatever blessings Allah has bestowed on me to its maximum potential.
Judging from Saminasha`s 166, I`m sure I`ll be a fan of yours ;-)~~
M`asSalaam
:-)~~
#179 Posted by ntsyed on August 28, 2005 11:11:53 am
Re: # 164
ufffffff Allah... itna to koi blonde bhi nahi tapti agar uskay samnay koi blonde-joke suna de...tauba tauba tauba....hehehe
Reading your last line suddenly gave me the thought this is as close to a dominatrix as I`m getting in this world. I wonder though, when did this kind learn to use the ``P`` word as in `please`? Anyway, if Allah allows me into heavens, I may ask for a 6` dominatrix just to see what the whole fuss was about.
Anyhow...you`ve asked way too many irrelevant questions for a busy man to answer in a short time. I`ll tell you what, why don`t you do a practical hands-on investigative research and become a ``worker`` you describe in your questions and undergo the predicaments you mention and you`ll see the leadership, operations, strikes, negotiations and everything else. I`m sure your anti-Islamic rants will not be factored in. I`ll lie and put in a good word for you. That way you`ll have a solid undisputable data to bring down the entire Islam single-handedly. One couldn`t make you a better offer to achieve your objective than that. The only question is, are you up for it?
Earn your kudos baby girl...whining will only get you a lousy sugar-lollipop to rot your teeth and appetite ;-)~~
The big barn....
Speaking of ``Phillipina/Bangladeshi/Pakistani/Sri Lankan/African woman domestic worker(s)``, how come we find the same nationalities/races in these professions in the US of A in addition to the poor Latinas from south of the border? Why are there so few whites (if any) in this profession in the US? A lot of them tell similar stories as their sisters in ``so called Islamic countries``. Is US one of these countries too?
Ah the data, you must ask...sorry I couldn`t help predict your silliness...but then I`ll let you predict my response to let you get even on this one.
I`m sure you`re able to see the other side of the barn just as easily. Hint: Google, Clusty, plus it`s just as big as this side, unless of course choose to remain logically and rationally impaired.
ciao :-)~~
ufffffff Allah... itna to koi blonde bhi nahi tapti agar uskay samnay koi blonde-joke suna de...tauba tauba tauba....hehehe
Reading your last line suddenly gave me the thought this is as close to a dominatrix as I`m getting in this world. I wonder though, when did this kind learn to use the ``P`` word as in `please`? Anyway, if Allah allows me into heavens, I may ask for a 6` dominatrix just to see what the whole fuss was about.
Anyhow...you`ve asked way too many irrelevant questions for a busy man to answer in a short time. I`ll tell you what, why don`t you do a practical hands-on investigative research and become a ``worker`` you describe in your questions and undergo the predicaments you mention and you`ll see the leadership, operations, strikes, negotiations and everything else. I`m sure your anti-Islamic rants will not be factored in. I`ll lie and put in a good word for you. That way you`ll have a solid undisputable data to bring down the entire Islam single-handedly. One couldn`t make you a better offer to achieve your objective than that. The only question is, are you up for it?
Earn your kudos baby girl...whining will only get you a lousy sugar-lollipop to rot your teeth and appetite ;-)~~
The big barn....
Speaking of ``Phillipina/Bangladeshi/Pakistani/Sri Lankan/African woman domestic worker(s)``, how come we find the same nationalities/races in these professions in the US of A in addition to the poor Latinas from south of the border? Why are there so few whites (if any) in this profession in the US? A lot of them tell similar stories as their sisters in ``so called Islamic countries``. Is US one of these countries too?
Ah the data, you must ask...sorry I couldn`t help predict your silliness...but then I`ll let you predict my response to let you get even on this one.
I`m sure you`re able to see the other side of the barn just as easily. Hint: Google, Clusty, plus it`s just as big as this side, unless of course choose to remain logically and rationally impaired.
ciao :-)~~
#178 Posted by ntsyed on August 28, 2005 11:11:45 am
Re: # 163
Thank you for the warm welcome dear sister...may Allah keep you and your loved ones happy and prosperous in this world and hereafter! Although I`m here only briefly. In two days time I go back out on the road to earn a halal rizq Allah has allocated for me.
Some wise people have said one recognizes another`s traits [and forms ;-)~~] by virtue of his/her own. After reading the few responses to my post, I couldn`t agree more.
M`asSalaam,
:-)~~
Thank you for the warm welcome dear sister...may Allah keep you and your loved ones happy and prosperous in this world and hereafter! Although I`m here only briefly. In two days time I go back out on the road to earn a halal rizq Allah has allocated for me.
Some wise people have said one recognizes another`s traits [and forms ;-)~~] by virtue of his/her own. After reading the few responses to my post, I couldn`t agree more.
M`asSalaam,
:-)~~
#177 Posted by trmntr_x on August 28, 2005 10:57:29 am
Bina....women scare me...first they want to decide whether or not I`m going to marry them...then they want to insist that the dowry that should be mine is their propty...it was mine the day their parents starting giving that land, jewelry, apartment, money, clothing, car to them! Those gold bangles are MINE!!!....Anyway, then they want the right to divorce me? When does it end? You mean to say I can spend hours on the internet bothering other women, and that gives my wife the right to critcise me? What are they going to want next? The right to conjual bliss? I`M happy, isnt thats whats really important? They want to decide if THEY want to have children? WHAT?? Because now THEY want an education? Then THEY want a job? Then THEY say, its okay to have girlchildren and they throw out all the condolence cards we get after she has a girl baby? Then THEY say for the boys to help in the house? ME as well? Then THEY say they will let our daughter choose who she will marry?ISNT the baass happy with her own life with me as her nauker?
When does it end?
When does it end?
#176 Posted by shankar on August 28, 2005 10:57:06 am
Re: # 102
trust me guys...i`ve encountered more prejudice in my 24 yrs in india...than my 24 yrs in amrika!...my kid is a true blue amerikan...er..with universal values...i havent caught her taking a leak on my lawn...yet...
trust me guys...i`ve encountered more prejudice in my 24 yrs in india...than my 24 yrs in amrika!...my kid is a true blue amerikan...er..with universal values...i havent caught her taking a leak on my lawn...yet...
#175 Posted by mannu404 on August 28, 2005 10:54:52 am
#173, {``Right...it would be poetic justice when 20 yrs from now...there will be 3 eligible bachelors for 1 ``eligible jawan lady...I cant wait for the day when WOMEN start demanding dowry.. ``}
That or have a war with Pakistan over its abundant ``natural`` resources. :) But, before that I think that economics will play an important role in the ``export`` of such resources - Meera is just the beginning. :)
Salim
That or have a war with Pakistan over its abundant ``natural`` resources. :) But, before that I think that economics will play an important role in the ``export`` of such resources - Meera is just the beginning. :)
Salim
#174 Posted by shankar on August 28, 2005 10:53:39 am
Re: # 100
temporal-ji,
{{however there is no harm in transferring some universal values...like not pissing on the neighbour`s lawn...}}
...and not adding some Canadian malt to the virgin margaritas...surreptitiously...shhh...when abba an` ammi are not in sight...!
temporal-ji,
{{however there is no harm in transferring some universal values...like not pissing on the neighbour`s lawn...}}
...and not adding some Canadian malt to the virgin margaritas...surreptitiously...shhh...when abba an` ammi are not in sight...!
#173 Posted by shankar on August 28, 2005 10:49:19 am
Re: # 67
salim,
{{I have to be fair in my criticism. What you are suggesting to Pakis is already happening in high-tech India - thanks to the female infanticide as a result of sonograms and selective abortions. I hope that silly practice is stopped quickly.}}
Right...it would be poetic justice when 20 yrs from now...there will be 3 eligible bachelors for 1 ``eligible jawan lady...I cant wait for the day when WOMEN start demanding dowry..
salim,
{{I have to be fair in my criticism. What you are suggesting to Pakis is already happening in high-tech India - thanks to the female infanticide as a result of sonograms and selective abortions. I hope that silly practice is stopped quickly.}}
Right...it would be poetic justice when 20 yrs from now...there will be 3 eligible bachelors for 1 ``eligible jawan lady...I cant wait for the day when WOMEN start demanding dowry..
#172 Posted by mannu404 on August 28, 2005 10:47:17 am
Bina,
I, like most men, support women`s right to education, healthcare, employment, driving, voting, running for office and serving. What many of us men, and I believe most women, have a problem with is the feminazis overshadowing the women`s rights movements and hijacking the agenda. Then, sadly, we are left with shrieking, bra burnin, tampon wielding, obscenity spewing, misandry advocating, anarchist, lesbianism promoting, atheistic, castration threatening, amazons bent on having men reduced to effeminate rubber stamps. Thank God, most women do not share this vision of these mutants of femininity. As we strive to help the cause of genuine women, let us not be deterred by the noise created by these squeaky wheels. Sometimes the squeaky wheel get the oil, but at other times it gets replaced. :)
Salim
I, like most men, support women`s right to education, healthcare, employment, driving, voting, running for office and serving. What many of us men, and I believe most women, have a problem with is the feminazis overshadowing the women`s rights movements and hijacking the agenda. Then, sadly, we are left with shrieking, bra burnin, tampon wielding, obscenity spewing, misandry advocating, anarchist, lesbianism promoting, atheistic, castration threatening, amazons bent on having men reduced to effeminate rubber stamps. Thank God, most women do not share this vision of these mutants of femininity. As we strive to help the cause of genuine women, let us not be deterred by the noise created by these squeaky wheels. Sometimes the squeaky wheel get the oil, but at other times it gets replaced. :)
Salim
#171 Posted by trmntr_x on August 28, 2005 10:35:32 am
and speaking of George Carlin....where is my twig and munjun?...I`d like to agree with you Sha Sahiba...but this new generation scares me.....they like kaaley comics like ``chis rock`` and ``dave chappelle``...why do they want to listen to someone who`s name means ``hat`` in french?....they keep talking about ``keeping it real``...``keeping it real``?...how about ``keeping it fresh?`` I asked my donut boy when I got my last cup of chai cappucino....how about ``keeping it in the family?``....how about keeping it john updike...who I`d read....but he`s been canonized-the kiss of literary death-and he`s still alive!....
#170 Posted by trmntr_x on August 28, 2005 10:27:06 am
Saminasha, I second and third AphraBehen`s opinion....but as a man, I find that the last thought I had coincide with the release of George Carlin`s list of no-no words...and then it went downhill from there....the pc police has made my life miserable....those goody two shoes-or is this a perjorative term?...those well meaning ambidexterous abled anthropods have made my kicking the eighteen year old taco jockey an offense in Miss Manner`s books!...Miss Manners! George, can you hear me?....Why do I have to worry about things like why my mother`s dhoban doesnt have any teeth?....I know why she doesnt have teeth, but what can I do about it?....Its all Hugh Chavez`s fault, I say! ....Does he even know who George Carlin is?
#169 Posted by shankar on August 28, 2005 10:26:38 am
Re: # 25
{{Women are actually becoming fighter pilots.}}
Ok...that does it...India is TOTALLY screwed..
{{Women are actually becoming fighter pilots.}}
Ok...that does it...India is TOTALLY screwed..
#168 Posted by shankar on August 28, 2005 10:23:04 am
Re: # 9
My dear Bihari-bhayya...tere dhoti mein do vade-vade papaya!!,
Whats this!!!?...you are dissin` my drinkin` an` doping buddy hamid for taking advice from mois?...somewhere in this maze of messages???
Lemme tell you...if there is ANYTHING worse than being a prepuceless/dickless descendant of Lord Ram of Lahore....is you hydrocoel-head descendants of Lord Krishna of Bihar!!!!
Here is a land blessed with RICH minerals...& what are you DUFFER Bihari showing for yourselves?!.... so backward-assed...that even Pathans look at you an` say...``Allah-damnit! these Biharis are one backward-assed buggers!....``
saala,.... sara hindustan ka naam satyanash kar dete hain!...
Do India a HUGE favor, hahn!?
Why dont YOU... & Lallooo...& his corpulent wife, Rabri (gee...she looks like she imbibed one too many rabris).... & all the motely billion crew of Biharis......BREAK AWAY...from India....&...&... JOIN the Land of the Pure!?...
TRUST me....it just might be a win-win situation for everybody...!!!
Oooops...they dont want you:(
Join Bangladesh!...oops..they dont want you either!
Join Nepal!....are you kidding...those Gorkhas arent as dumb as they look!...
I got it!!...maybe you guys ought to merge with frikkin Burma...& step out of the train altogether....
My dear Bihari-bhayya...tere dhoti mein do vade-vade papaya!!,
Whats this!!!?...you are dissin` my drinkin` an` doping buddy hamid for taking advice from mois?...somewhere in this maze of messages???
Lemme tell you...if there is ANYTHING worse than being a prepuceless/dickless descendant of Lord Ram of Lahore....is you hydrocoel-head descendants of Lord Krishna of Bihar!!!!
Here is a land blessed with RICH minerals...& what are you DUFFER Bihari showing for yourselves?!.... so backward-assed...that even Pathans look at you an` say...``Allah-damnit! these Biharis are one backward-assed buggers!....``
saala,.... sara hindustan ka naam satyanash kar dete hain!...
Do India a HUGE favor, hahn!?
Why dont YOU... & Lallooo...& his corpulent wife, Rabri (gee...she looks like she imbibed one too many rabris).... & all the motely billion crew of Biharis......BREAK AWAY...from India....&...&... JOIN the Land of the Pure!?...
TRUST me....it just might be a win-win situation for everybody...!!!
Oooops...they dont want you:(
Join Bangladesh!...oops..they dont want you either!
Join Nepal!....are you kidding...those Gorkhas arent as dumb as they look!...
I got it!!...maybe you guys ought to merge with frikkin Burma...& step out of the train altogether....
#167 Posted by AphraBehen on August 28, 2005 10:18:39 am
Saminasha,
How utterly brilliant you are! We missed you for all those weeks when there was no one to make any of the kinds of points you were making! Who actually writes about labor unions among interactors? Why nobody but you, Saminasha!
I wish you`d just collect a whole bunch of nics and make it look like there was a community of intelligent and progessive interactors! Because it seems that whenever the lowest common denominator posts, there are five other trogs congratulating him for actually using a keyboard! And if he is able to make a joke without referring to his own inadequacies? Its like the heaven the Ummah has envisioned!
I love you Saminasha, and all your comments on chowk and I am not afraid to say it! You are just so wickedly sharp tongued and have a laser like focus that I cant possibly support because I want everyone to be my friend!
But keep up the good work! I love you!
-a
How utterly brilliant you are! We missed you for all those weeks when there was no one to make any of the kinds of points you were making! Who actually writes about labor unions among interactors? Why nobody but you, Saminasha!
I wish you`d just collect a whole bunch of nics and make it look like there was a community of intelligent and progessive interactors! Because it seems that whenever the lowest common denominator posts, there are five other trogs congratulating him for actually using a keyboard! And if he is able to make a joke without referring to his own inadequacies? Its like the heaven the Ummah has envisioned!
I love you Saminasha, and all your comments on chowk and I am not afraid to say it! You are just so wickedly sharp tongued and have a laser like focus that I cant possibly support because I want everyone to be my friend!
But keep up the good work! I love you!
-a
#166 Posted by Saminasha on August 28, 2005 10:04:28 am
what would a namard be without his jackasses a congratulating?
we`ll never know, as mediocrity reigns at chowk!
we`ll never know, as mediocrity reigns at chowk!
#165 Posted by mannu404 on August 28, 2005 10:01:59 am
#162, Welcome back, Mr. Ntsyed. From your brilliant and fitting response, I can see that I am already a fan of yours - regardless of your politics. I admire your wit and humor. Please continue.
Salim
Salim
#164 Posted by Saminasha on August 28, 2005 9:59:52 am
Goood Goddess, this is TOO rich....
NyetSyed writes:
``I support the ``Kacchi maassi with seventeen children and no teeth`` and ``Illiterate dhobans`` who keep my home and clothes clean and cook delicious meals for me and my family. The Union is called ``Islam``, which (unlike the author`s and your distate for them) allows me to respect them for who they are and what they can do...not where they`ve been educated and what they look like.``
So..now...let me get this straight...you were taking Ms. Shah to task for supposedly looking down on impoverished domestic working women-specious and belabored attempt at comedy-because they were not as toothy and contraception practicing as she would have liked. Her point, which you missed, even though it was as big as the side of a barn, was of course, not elitist twaddle about the prestige of having a toothed and reproductive right vested service workers-BUT- and nysyed, listen carefully, because I will ENUNCIATE-
having women workers who are not EQUALLY if NOT MORE marginalized by the systemic institution of gender discrimination as practiced in too many so called Islamic countries.
Get it?
In addition, I am extremely amused, nay, FASCINATED, by your claim of the Islamic UNION as you know it. Pray tell, or, pray AND tell, how does this union actually operate?
Who are the organizers, members? Who is the leadership? Which members of this union strike or negotiate FAIRER, SAFER and EQUITABLE labor practices for themselves and their coworkers? WITH WHOM are these negotiations made? WHAT is the pay rate for a Phillipina/Bangladeshi/Pakistani/Sri Lankan/African woman domestic worker in Saudi Arabia? Or is she disqualified from this ``union`` for being nonmuslim/south asian/black? What compensation is given for rape/passport theft/lack of due process?
Please reply ASAP-all my friends and coworkers in our unions are WAITING with baited breath...
NyetSyed writes:
``I support the ``Kacchi maassi with seventeen children and no teeth`` and ``Illiterate dhobans`` who keep my home and clothes clean and cook delicious meals for me and my family. The Union is called ``Islam``, which (unlike the author`s and your distate for them) allows me to respect them for who they are and what they can do...not where they`ve been educated and what they look like.``
So..now...let me get this straight...you were taking Ms. Shah to task for supposedly looking down on impoverished domestic working women-specious and belabored attempt at comedy-because they were not as toothy and contraception practicing as she would have liked. Her point, which you missed, even though it was as big as the side of a barn, was of course, not elitist twaddle about the prestige of having a toothed and reproductive right vested service workers-BUT- and nysyed, listen carefully, because I will ENUNCIATE-
having women workers who are not EQUALLY if NOT MORE marginalized by the systemic institution of gender discrimination as practiced in too many so called Islamic countries.
Get it?
In addition, I am extremely amused, nay, FASCINATED, by your claim of the Islamic UNION as you know it. Pray tell, or, pray AND tell, how does this union actually operate?
Who are the organizers, members? Who is the leadership? Which members of this union strike or negotiate FAIRER, SAFER and EQUITABLE labor practices for themselves and their coworkers? WITH WHOM are these negotiations made? WHAT is the pay rate for a Phillipina/Bangladeshi/Pakistani/Sri Lankan/African woman domestic worker in Saudi Arabia? Or is she disqualified from this ``union`` for being nonmuslim/south asian/black? What compensation is given for rape/passport theft/lack of due process?
Please reply ASAP-all my friends and coworkers in our unions are WAITING with baited breath...
#163 Posted by miriamk on August 28, 2005 9:57:22 am
ntsyed saheb:
welcome back! i see your time away has only improved your top form ;).
m
welcome back! i see your time away has only improved your top form ;).
m
#162 Posted by ntsyed on August 28, 2005 9:42:09 am
Re: # 159
No ma`m...I`m back to watch you continue making a fool of yourself with name-calling when you don`t have anything intelligent to say :-)~~
I support the ``Kacchi maassi with seventeen children and no teeth`` and ``Illiterate dhobans`` who keep my home and clothes clean and cook delicious meals for me and my family. The Union is called ``Islam``, which (unlike the author`s and your distate for them) allows me to respect them for who they are and what they can do...not where they`ve been educated and what they look like.
As for data, if your prophet Bush hasn`t banned the Google and Clusty under the PATRIOT ACT for the Moslems - liberal or practicing, pull up those engines on your browser and search away. I`m sure you`re liberal and educated enough to do that by yourself without bothering your husband or other men like me.
May Allah Guide us all!
:-)~~
No ma`m...I`m back to watch you continue making a fool of yourself with name-calling when you don`t have anything intelligent to say :-)~~
I support the ``Kacchi maassi with seventeen children and no teeth`` and ``Illiterate dhobans`` who keep my home and clothes clean and cook delicious meals for me and my family. The Union is called ``Islam``, which (unlike the author`s and your distate for them) allows me to respect them for who they are and what they can do...not where they`ve been educated and what they look like.
As for data, if your prophet Bush hasn`t banned the Google and Clusty under the PATRIOT ACT for the Moslems - liberal or practicing, pull up those engines on your browser and search away. I`m sure you`re liberal and educated enough to do that by yourself without bothering your husband or other men like me.
May Allah Guide us all!
:-)~~
#161 Posted by ntsyed on August 28, 2005 9:40:52 am
Re: # 157
Kal,
I`m not worked up over India seeking access to Afghanistan, if that`s what you think. She can have all the access she wants. Unfortunately for you, in your nationalistic zeal you missed the context of my post viz the irony. Please read again if you wish to.
ciao,
:-)~~
Kal,
I`m not worked up over India seeking access to Afghanistan, if that`s what you think. She can have all the access she wants. Unfortunately for you, in your nationalistic zeal you missed the context of my post viz the irony. Please read again if you wish to.
ciao,
:-)~~
#160 Posted by arjun_m on August 28, 2005 7:30:16 am
#157 by kaalchakra on August 28, 2005 6:36am PT
Why do some people get so worked up over India wanting access to Afghanistan?
Ask the afghans how they feel about the pakis....that`ll make it clear...
Why do some people get so worked up over India wanting access to Afghanistan?
Ask the afghans how they feel about the pakis....that`ll make it clear...
#159 Posted by Saminasha on August 28, 2005 7:30:13 am
Nyetsyed,
Back to remind us of your consummate stupidity....which union for Pakistani domestic workers do you support politically and economically?
Also, please provide legitimate data to prove your notions re: violence against women during and after the Taliban regime.
Back to remind us of your consummate stupidity....which union for Pakistani domestic workers do you support politically and economically?
Also, please provide legitimate data to prove your notions re: violence against women during and after the Taliban regime.
#158 Posted by Saminasha on August 28, 2005 7:26:20 am
Hamid Sahib,
No thank you to the one year course. As the author pointed out, there are too many women who will gladly sell the female gender out for their tiny bit of private terrorism...as for men, we have our very own examples on chowk to illustrate how misogyny is entrenched in too many of the male gender. My husband and I were watching The Whale Rider with a close relative last night-have you seen it?
No thank you to the one year course. As the author pointed out, there are too many women who will gladly sell the female gender out for their tiny bit of private terrorism...as for men, we have our very own examples on chowk to illustrate how misogyny is entrenched in too many of the male gender. My husband and I were watching The Whale Rider with a close relative last night-have you seen it?
#157 Posted by KaalChakra on August 28, 2005 6:36:19 am
ntsyed
Why do some people get so worked up over India wanting access to Afghanistan?
Why do some people get so worked up over India wanting access to Afghanistan?
#156 Posted by ntsyed on August 28, 2005 6:18:38 am
``...but the meals at the Aurat Hostel will be prepared by a Kacchi maassi with seventeen children and no teeth...``
``Your laundry at the Ambassador will be cleaned in the hotel dry-cleaners, and at the Aurat Hostel, it will be taken to the Lyari River to be beaten on rocks by illiterate women.``
Hmmm... I couldn`t imagine a self-proclaimed liberal woman to discriminate against her own kind, just because they`re poor and uneducated...tch tch tch. What a let down for our oppressed mothers, sisters, wives, and daughters in ``liberal`` Pakistan, if there`s ever to be one.
I don`t know if she has come across the reports by Western journalists on the issue of women and purdah in Afghanistan. Almost all concur that during the Taliban years women were flogged for showing skin. Other than that they were safe and no one could even dare to harm them in any way. Today, with almost four years of democratic forces in power, if they do manage to get out with or without the burqa they`re kidnapped, raped, and murdered with impunity. Kabul may be a li`l better in terms of security...only li`l. And now India wants access to Afghanistan to bolster Afghan security while their own rebels are making and selling porn for funds...it`s like a cat volunteering to guard the milk....hehehe
The author needs to take a cold shower and get off of diet pills to eat some healthy food. Lord knows she`s rumbling a runaway train off the tracks.
:-)~~
``Your laundry at the Ambassador will be cleaned in the hotel dry-cleaners, and at the Aurat Hostel, it will be taken to the Lyari River to be beaten on rocks by illiterate women.``
Hmmm... I couldn`t imagine a self-proclaimed liberal woman to discriminate against her own kind, just because they`re poor and uneducated...tch tch tch. What a let down for our oppressed mothers, sisters, wives, and daughters in ``liberal`` Pakistan, if there`s ever to be one.
I don`t know if she has come across the reports by Western journalists on the issue of women and purdah in Afghanistan. Almost all concur that during the Taliban years women were flogged for showing skin. Other than that they were safe and no one could even dare to harm them in any way. Today, with almost four years of democratic forces in power, if they do manage to get out with or without the burqa they`re kidnapped, raped, and murdered with impunity. Kabul may be a li`l better in terms of security...only li`l. And now India wants access to Afghanistan to bolster Afghan security while their own rebels are making and selling porn for funds...it`s like a cat volunteering to guard the milk....hehehe
The author needs to take a cold shower and get off of diet pills to eat some healthy food. Lord knows she`s rumbling a runaway train off the tracks.
:-)~~
#154 Posted by aslam644 on August 28, 2005 4:24:09 am
Re: # 131
Turkey is way ahead of many Muslim countries; if Pakistan in the next 10-15 years can progress to where turkey is now that should be a big achievement.
What I wrote about brits and germans moving there big time, it’s mostly retired folks, you know the dream of many north European is to have a house or a villa on the Mediterranean coast. Turkey may go down the road of Spain with over development.
I think there is a very slim chance of turkey becoming a full EU member, there seems to be a lot of opposition in EU against turkey, well the European will have to make their mind up soon, either to let the turks in or start having more bambinos.
Turkey is way ahead of many Muslim countries; if Pakistan in the next 10-15 years can progress to where turkey is now that should be a big achievement.
What I wrote about brits and germans moving there big time, it’s mostly retired folks, you know the dream of many north European is to have a house or a villa on the Mediterranean coast. Turkey may go down the road of Spain with over development.
I think there is a very slim chance of turkey becoming a full EU member, there seems to be a lot of opposition in EU against turkey, well the European will have to make their mind up soon, either to let the turks in or start having more bambinos.
#153 Posted by samirfs on August 28, 2005 3:16:45 am
Re: # 152
For men like these I propose a new law: If a woman complains about harassment of any kind ..... mental, psychological or physical from any man ...... no matter even if it`s a lie ....
do the following things to the man:
1. 3 cops .... should bring him in the middle of a busy chowk (not this one) and hit him till the passerbys ask the cops to stop.
2. Secondly have him wear a burqa for the rest of his living life. (strictly imposed)
3. If it was a physical abuse, have him castrated, and publicize it.
4. Lastly, every woman should carry a small knife and a baton will have the right to kill any abuser on the spot. This will be not be tried in the court of law.
Please vote YES on proposition 153.
For men like these I propose a new law: If a woman complains about harassment of any kind ..... mental, psychological or physical from any man ...... no matter even if it`s a lie ....
do the following things to the man:
1. 3 cops .... should bring him in the middle of a busy chowk (not this one) and hit him till the passerbys ask the cops to stop.
2. Secondly have him wear a burqa for the rest of his living life. (strictly imposed)
3. If it was a physical abuse, have him castrated, and publicize it.
4. Lastly, every woman should carry a small knife and a baton will have the right to kill any abuser on the spot. This will be not be tried in the court of law.
Please vote YES on proposition 153.
#151 Posted by samirfs on August 27, 2005 10:49:42 pm
Re: # 148
Not the towel, sir, the toilet paper.
Not the towel, sir, the toilet paper.
#149 Posted by samirfs on August 27, 2005 10:05:15 pm
Re: # 147
``And the dancing is very provocative. She is dancing, hands over head, elbows bent, head turning from left to right, and back, and back, her chest flung violently out on the 2 and the 4, the 2 and the 4. And parts attached to her chest are vibrating in slight delay, creating a sensuously syncopated boom chucka chucka, boom chucka chucka. But before you ladies get me arrested for what I’m thinking, let me ask for some help from the guys. We have 50,000 heterosexual guys, all different nationalities, all different religions, all different backgrounds, watching this girl. What are 49,936 of them thinking about? Baseball? I think not.
In the year 1 million BC, there was no game playing. Everyone knew what the dance meant. No mixed messages in Fred Flintstone’s day. Here’s a scenario. There’s 25 women from the village down by the river, pounding loin cloths with rocks, while the men wait in the village, scratching their stomachs, resting up for their next encounter with the wooly mammoth, trying to look good for something. All of a sudden, a young cave girl jumps up from her washing duties. Hands over head, elbows bent, head turning from left to right, and back, and back, she is thrusting her chest violently on the 2 and the 4, the 2 and the 4. Suddenly, a man in the village jumps up, nose in the air.
It’s coming from the river! It’s the miracle of procreation about to work it’s magic. Now we know what the men are good for. He rushes to the stream, nose in the air. She is thrusting more violently now (boom chucka chucka, boom chucka chucka). He better get in there quick or she will finish without him. So he clubs her on the head, drags her back to the cave, finishes the ritual, and now here we are, going to singles dances and reading this crap (boom chucka chucka, boom chucka chucka)!!!!``
- SS
``And the dancing is very provocative. She is dancing, hands over head, elbows bent, head turning from left to right, and back, and back, her chest flung violently out on the 2 and the 4, the 2 and the 4. And parts attached to her chest are vibrating in slight delay, creating a sensuously syncopated boom chucka chucka, boom chucka chucka. But before you ladies get me arrested for what I’m thinking, let me ask for some help from the guys. We have 50,000 heterosexual guys, all different nationalities, all different religions, all different backgrounds, watching this girl. What are 49,936 of them thinking about? Baseball? I think not.
In the year 1 million BC, there was no game playing. Everyone knew what the dance meant. No mixed messages in Fred Flintstone’s day. Here’s a scenario. There’s 25 women from the village down by the river, pounding loin cloths with rocks, while the men wait in the village, scratching their stomachs, resting up for their next encounter with the wooly mammoth, trying to look good for something. All of a sudden, a young cave girl jumps up from her washing duties. Hands over head, elbows bent, head turning from left to right, and back, and back, she is thrusting her chest violently on the 2 and the 4, the 2 and the 4. Suddenly, a man in the village jumps up, nose in the air.
It’s coming from the river! It’s the miracle of procreation about to work it’s magic. Now we know what the men are good for. He rushes to the stream, nose in the air. She is thrusting more violently now (boom chucka chucka, boom chucka chucka). He better get in there quick or she will finish without him. So he clubs her on the head, drags her back to the cave, finishes the ritual, and now here we are, going to singles dances and reading this crap (boom chucka chucka, boom chucka chucka)!!!!``
- SS
#148 Posted by temporal on August 27, 2005 9:57:42 pm
samir sahib # 143:
Keep debating that issue ....
it takes two to tango
and since you have thrown in the towel.........again......
;)
rgds
t
Keep debating that issue ....
it takes two to tango
and since you have thrown in the towel.........again......
;)
rgds
t
#147 Posted by KaalChakra on August 27, 2005 9:46:20 pm
sheikh sahib
Some ``fundamentalist`` language that we children and ignorant people are not supposed to understand? :)
Some ``fundamentalist`` language that we children and ignorant people are not supposed to understand? :)
#146 Posted by samirfs on August 27, 2005 8:49:59 pm
Re: # 145
chucka boom boom chucka boom boom chucka boom boom
boom ...... boom ..... boom
chucka boom boom chucka boom boom chucka boom boom
boom ...... boom ..... boom
#145 Posted by KaalChakra on August 27, 2005 8:45:02 pm
Samir Sheikh bhai # 143
``Pragmatism,`` ``practicality,``
brother, I couldn`t stop laughing, and it would be unfair to not let you know. :)
``Pragmatism,`` ``practicality,``
brother, I couldn`t stop laughing, and it would be unfair to not let you know. :)
#144 Posted by rsridhar on August 27, 2005 8:30:58 pm
re:#130 by Romair
There is no way to prove that Indian students did what u claim except that u are either bluffing or u are smoking pot again.
Or may be u just attract the worst crowd. Remember, like attracts like?
I have met many ``indian looking`` people in US who, when confronted with their nationality, told me they were Indians. Soon, i discovered they were Pakis. This happened once in YMCA where i used to go some years ago. Happened again in my work place where we get students (many Pakis) due to some affiliation with AGK University. One of them told me she studied in Punjab, India. Her name was a giveaway. She knew next to nothing about Indian Punjab.
So, my question is: why are Pakis so ashamed of their true identity?
Sridhar
There is no way to prove that Indian students did what u claim except that u are either bluffing or u are smoking pot again.
Or may be u just attract the worst crowd. Remember, like attracts like?
I have met many ``indian looking`` people in US who, when confronted with their nationality, told me they were Indians. Soon, i discovered they were Pakis. This happened once in YMCA where i used to go some years ago. Happened again in my work place where we get students (many Pakis) due to some affiliation with AGK University. One of them told me she studied in Punjab, India. Her name was a giveaway. She knew next to nothing about Indian Punjab.
So, my question is: why are Pakis so ashamed of their true identity?
Sridhar
#143 Posted by samirfs on August 27, 2005 7:53:19 pm
Re: # 134
Miriam,
Keep debating that issue ....
And when you reach a conclusion please let me know too ..... my e-mail address is pragmatism@practicality.com
-Samir Shaikh
Miriam,
Keep debating that issue ....
And when you reach a conclusion please let me know too ..... my e-mail address is pragmatism@practicality.com
-Samir Shaikh
#142 Posted by ZahraJ on August 27, 2005 6:49:32 pm
Bina:
All your concerns are very valid.
[On the one hand, we are mothers, daughters, and sisters, the most respected beings according to our religion; on the other hand, with honor killings, forced marriages, and domestic violence, you’d think we were animals that need to be kept in cages, bred according to the whims of our owners, and culled when we have outlived our usefulness. On the one hand Pakistani women are becoming Air Force pilots; on the other, sold as sex slaves.]
The above extremes and contradictions are indeed extremely disturbing. You cannot even apply a generic formula(of religion or culture) here expecting similar results in all cases. Even in one neighborhood, each household may nurture completely different views on basic women`s rights. There is no true freedom and independent identity for women in the Pakistani Social System. There are exceptions but those exceptions are very few and far between.
On second thoughts: Each culture has its own priorities. Giving women an identity and equal rights has never been the priority of the Pakistani Society. When we do not find the cultural world being fair and just, we jump towards the religion for some solace. After all, Islam gives a lot of rights to women and all the good stuff that we have been reading and hearing since our childhood. Who are the practitioners of that Islam? Who likes to practice the fair values of the religion?
All your concerns are very valid.
[On the one hand, we are mothers, daughters, and sisters, the most respected beings according to our religion; on the other hand, with honor killings, forced marriages, and domestic violence, you’d think we were animals that need to be kept in cages, bred according to the whims of our owners, and culled when we have outlived our usefulness. On the one hand Pakistani women are becoming Air Force pilots; on the other, sold as sex slaves.]
The above extremes and contradictions are indeed extremely disturbing. You cannot even apply a generic formula(of religion or culture) here expecting similar results in all cases. Even in one neighborhood, each household may nurture completely different views on basic women`s rights. There is no true freedom and independent identity for women in the Pakistani Social System. There are exceptions but those exceptions are very few and far between.
On second thoughts: Each culture has its own priorities. Giving women an identity and equal rights has never been the priority of the Pakistani Society. When we do not find the cultural world being fair and just, we jump towards the religion for some solace. After all, Islam gives a lot of rights to women and all the good stuff that we have been reading and hearing since our childhood. Who are the practitioners of that Islam? Who likes to practice the fair values of the religion?
#141 Posted by tahmed32 on August 27, 2005 4:45:28 pm
Eureka!! I have invented the solution to the pardah that will make BOTH women and mullahs happy. Provided below is the new fashion device for mullahs and jamaatiyaas: by putting this on, they will not be forced to stare at women on the street. (Any man caught staring at women on the street - as happens in Pakistan - will be required to put this on for the next 30 days first time, 60 days if caught again, and so on). Women will be happy because they will not need to wear the pardah. One drawback: Hijabi women will be unhappy because they will no longer be able to make their fashion statement and flaunt their holiness.
Blinders
+
Mullah
= Peace on earth``
Blinders
+
Mullah
= Peace on earth
#140 Posted by hamidm2 on August 27, 2005 2:28:56 pm
Re: # 133
samina,
........ i really think you should sign up for a one year diploma from Dr. Farhat Hashmi`s al-huda international (http://www.alhudapk.com/) .......... she recently moved to canada and if you believe the press is a lot more popular with pakistani-canadian women than irshad manji ............. as gaddafi said , ``muslim women are idiots`` who keep on shooting themselves in the foot (he also called arabs and palestinians idiots) ......... the man might be a bit of a gadfly but has done more for women`s rights than any muslim since muhammad ..........
samina,
........ i really think you should sign up for a one year diploma from Dr. Farhat Hashmi`s al-huda international (http://www.alhudapk.com/) .......... she recently moved to canada and if you believe the press is a lot more popular with pakistani-canadian women than irshad manji ............. as gaddafi said , ``muslim women are idiots`` who keep on shooting themselves in the foot (he also called arabs and palestinians idiots) ......... the man might be a bit of a gadfly but has done more for women`s rights than any muslim since muhammad ..........
#138 Posted by rahul_capri on August 27, 2005 2:06:15 pm
Re: # 122
hamidm, I think the desi cheating tendency has a lot to do with our values where a lot of emphasis is on respect, obedience etc. Our socities are basically normative.I tell my younger brother- ``I have no problems with you smoking but if you get caught by Mom or Dad, you are on your own, In fact even I may land a blow or two.``
hamidm, I think the desi cheating tendency has a lot to do with our values where a lot of emphasis is on respect, obedience etc. Our socities are basically normative.I tell my younger brother- ``I have no problems with you smoking but if you get caught by Mom or Dad, you are on your own, In fact even I may land a blow or two.``
#137 Posted by aslam644 on August 27, 2005 1:59:08 pm
In the UK Pakistani females are lagging behind in careers and professions, but there are exceptions and one of them is ms sayeeda warsi vice chairman of the conservative party in some tv debates she really excels against political opponents. Who knows she might become the first brit-paki minister.
Age - 34
Town of birth - Dewsbury
Education - Birkdale High School, Dewsbury College, University of Leeds - Law; York College of Law
Profession - solicitor
Parliamentary background - Tory candidate for Dewsbury in 2005
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk_politics/4121724.stm
Age - 34
Town of birth - Dewsbury
Education - Birkdale High School, Dewsbury College, University of Leeds - Law; York College of Law
Profession - solicitor
Parliamentary background - Tory candidate for Dewsbury in 2005
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk_politics/4121724.stm
#136 Posted by Saminasha on August 27, 2005 1:06:35 pm
Re: # 133
but also wanted to add, that one reader I showed this article to, remembered an incident that took place in the eighties. She and her husband were visiting a friend`s lab. The woman, a Pakistani American scientist, was wearing slacks and a sweater as it was the dead of winter. Apparently this bothered a much younger woman at the lab, who, according to this reader, was wearing a very dressy shalwar suit and full makeup. The younger woman asked the reader how she could identify herself as Pakistani if she was wearing ``Amrikan clothing``...the reader was going to ask the young woman why she was dressed as if she were accepting marriage proposals at her workplace, but decided it was worth it.
But the reader`s point was that too many women police each other in terms of these issues. As Marjane Satrapi pointed out in Persepolis II, totalitarian Iran was so successful in defeating everyday Iranian citizens because the concerns of women were no longer about education, civil rights, labor and political participation-they were forced to direct that energy to worrying if they werent addressed ``appropriately`` enough for the regime.
but also wanted to add, that one reader I showed this article to, remembered an incident that took place in the eighties. She and her husband were visiting a friend`s lab. The woman, a Pakistani American scientist, was wearing slacks and a sweater as it was the dead of winter. Apparently this bothered a much younger woman at the lab, who, according to this reader, was wearing a very dressy shalwar suit and full makeup. The younger woman asked the reader how she could identify herself as Pakistani if she was wearing ``Amrikan clothing``...the reader was going to ask the young woman why she was dressed as if she were accepting marriage proposals at her workplace, but decided it was worth it.
But the reader`s point was that too many women police each other in terms of these issues. As Marjane Satrapi pointed out in Persepolis II, totalitarian Iran was so successful in defeating everyday Iranian citizens because the concerns of women were no longer about education, civil rights, labor and political participation-they were forced to direct that energy to worrying if they werent addressed ``appropriately`` enough for the regime.
#135 Posted by mannu404 on August 27, 2005 12:53:38 pm
Aslam #123 {``BTW brits and germans are moving there big time, I even met a brit paki who`s opened a restaurant there.``}
Aslam,
They are smart. Now is the time to get into real estate in Turkey, especially near the coast. Once Turkey becomes part of EU, in Neverember :), prices will skyrocket. Tourism is incredibly a big big business here. Relatively cheap prices, beautiful scenery, tolerance for almost everything (except drugs and fanaticism), and a very safe, low-crime environment. This place reminds me of Spain many years back.
I am quite interested in your accounts.
Salim
Aslam,
They are smart. Now is the time to get into real estate in Turkey, especially near the coast. Once Turkey becomes part of EU, in Neverember :), prices will skyrocket. Tourism is incredibly a big big business here. Relatively cheap prices, beautiful scenery, tolerance for almost everything (except drugs and fanaticism), and a very safe, low-crime environment. This place reminds me of Spain many years back.
I am quite interested in your accounts.
Salim
#134 Posted by miriamk on August 27, 2005 12:52:32 pm
samir:
#128
how do you expect to discuss women’s issues or rights in patriarchal muslim countries like pakistan without bringing into the discussion who did what? that’s important to know and understand, so it can be prevented from happening repeatedly.
but if you choose to place the burden of this on women then it’s your prerogative. and i reserve my right to not agree with your premise and resulting conclusion.
miriam
#128
how do you expect to discuss women’s issues or rights in patriarchal muslim countries like pakistan without bringing into the discussion who did what? that’s important to know and understand, so it can be prevented from happening repeatedly.
but if you choose to place the burden of this on women then it’s your prerogative. and i reserve my right to not agree with your premise and resulting conclusion.
miriam
#133 Posted by Saminasha on August 27, 2005 12:52:03 pm
Bina,
Who else but the usual suspects are here to discuss womens` lives? Why are you even remotely surprised?
Outside of chowk-which becomes more enabling of the cyber mcp psychopath, I showed your piece to a few female fam members. They very much agreed with the extremes you pointed out in terms of the achievements of some womem and staggering lack of oppportunities available for most.
Who else but the usual suspects are here to discuss womens` lives? Why are you even remotely surprised?
Outside of chowk-which becomes more enabling of the cyber mcp psychopath, I showed your piece to a few female fam members. They very much agreed with the extremes you pointed out in terms of the achievements of some womem and staggering lack of oppportunities available for most.
#132 Posted by mannu404 on August 27, 2005 12:44:41 pm
On the clothing controversy, suffice it to say that:
Hijabs should not be worn on the beach and thongs should not be seen in the mosque. :)
I think Jesus said something similar. :)
Salim
Hijabs should not be worn on the beach and thongs should not be seen in the mosque. :)
I think Jesus said something similar. :)
Salim
#131 Posted by mannu404 on August 27, 2005 12:33:58 pm
Aslam #123, {`` was there 2years ago in Bodrum holiday resort, I heard many brit girls complaining about Turkish men pestering for date and they wouldn`t take no for an answer. ...BTW brits and germans are moving there big time``}
Aslam,
That seems to be a dichotomy. They get pestered for dates and then they move there big time.... maybe they like to be asked out. :)
I apologize if I painted a very rosy picture of Turkey. There are exceptions everywhere and Turkey is not perfect. But, ever since the urge to merge with the EU, Turks have made great strides in the area of social development. Of course there is poverty and I don`t doubt there might be honor killings, but nothing at the scale of Pakistan. I saw no evidence of hunger, malnutrition, people sleeping in the streets, or signs of drug addicts in the big cities. There is poverty in even in UK, US, and Western Europe. My experiences were based on large cities (Istanbul, Ankara, Izmir, Edirne), the countryside, in both Asia and Europe, including the Anatolian plateau area around Konya, Aksaray, Nevshehir, Bulandshehir, Urgup, and other smaller towns.
Once it becomes part of EU, Turkey will be fully on its way to a much better society.
One thing is very remarkable - Turks do respect their fellow citizens and it is rare to see them talk condescendingly to workers. Anyway, I am having a very positive experience about Turkey after having traveled extensively in North America, South America, Western and Central Europe, South Asia, Southeast Asia, Far East, and Australia/NZ.
Thanks for sharing your own experiences in Turkey.
Salim
Aslam,
That seems to be a dichotomy. They get pestered for dates and then they move there big time.... maybe they like to be asked out. :)
I apologize if I painted a very rosy picture of Turkey. There are exceptions everywhere and Turkey is not perfect. But, ever since the urge to merge with the EU, Turks have made great strides in the area of social development. Of course there is poverty and I don`t doubt there might be honor killings, but nothing at the scale of Pakistan. I saw no evidence of hunger, malnutrition, people sleeping in the streets, or signs of drug addicts in the big cities. There is poverty in even in UK, US, and Western Europe. My experiences were based on large cities (Istanbul, Ankara, Izmir, Edirne), the countryside, in both Asia and Europe, including the Anatolian plateau area around Konya, Aksaray, Nevshehir, Bulandshehir, Urgup, and other smaller towns.
Once it becomes part of EU, Turkey will be fully on its way to a much better society.
One thing is very remarkable - Turks do respect their fellow citizens and it is rare to see them talk condescendingly to workers. Anyway, I am having a very positive experience about Turkey after having traveled extensively in North America, South America, Western and Central Europe, South Asia, Southeast Asia, Far East, and Australia/NZ.
Thanks for sharing your own experiences in Turkey.
Salim
#130 Posted by Romair on August 27, 2005 12:31:50 pm
hamidm mian#122: ``the word ``fair`` was not in our vocabulary ........... come to think of it, i cannot think of the urdu equivalent - can you ?``
fair: adj. munsifana......
``twelve year old will not let me help her with her homework because ``it is cheating````
I have to hand this one to the gora sahib. He definitely does not cheat on exams. I taught at university, part time, for around two years. None of my gora students would cheat. They would flunk the exam, but would not cheat..........I could walk out of the room and they still would not cheat........
On the other hand, the desi (and chaptas also) biradari is masters at it. One interesting thing I discovered was that our friends from India were even two steps ahead of us. Thereby, tearing down my theory, that there is no match to Pakistanis in cheating. As a stundent, I felt like an amateur in comparison to them. They were the true masters. They were in a league by themself. Pakistani students use to copy each others software programs, and make changes manually, to make it look different. That is a very laborious process. Our Indian friends actually wrote a detailed script. They would run one person`s program through it, and it would spit out ten different versions for his colleagues to submit as their assignment.......
Similarly, when I was teaching, I had to make sure, without being politically incorrect, the desi student biradari sat in one area, so I could stand there and make sure they didn`t cheat. There was a Pakistani student who had an A in the class. He was, like most desi students, quite bright. Yet he would try to cheat. I even told him that, look you already have a A, you are so bright, why the hell are you cheating!! I guess he couldn`t control himself......
The kicker was, however, one Indian student, who would walk out to go to the bathroom, right before I gave a quiz. I found that odd. One day I followed him. It turned out, he would go into the office, where the photocopy machine was. I would copy the quizzes before the class started, and would throw away one or two copies. He would quickly grab a copy from the machine or the wastebasket, and review it, before the quiz. I didn`t know whether to turn him in, or to be in awe of his courage and skills......
I would say, ``cheat`` is too strong a word though. Desi students, are in a foreign land, with no money, against tough odds. Your daughter has you to support her, and has money and a citizeship and access to govt. grants. If she flunks a class, no big deal. If a desi flunks a class, it may be back to India or Pakistan.
I would call it being, ``resourceful........`` The few desi students that I did catch cheating, I just couldn`t bring it about myself to turn them in for expulsion. They would get kicked out of the university and then the country........I would at worst, flunk them in the class, or lower their grad by a letter or two.......
fair: adj. munsifana......
``twelve year old will not let me help her with her homework because ``it is cheating````
I have to hand this one to the gora sahib. He definitely does not cheat on exams. I taught at university, part time, for around two years. None of my gora students would cheat. They would flunk the exam, but would not cheat..........I could walk out of the room and they still would not cheat........
On the other hand, the desi (and chaptas also) biradari is masters at it. One interesting thing I discovered was that our friends from India were even two steps ahead of us. Thereby, tearing down my theory, that there is no match to Pakistanis in cheating. As a stundent, I felt like an amateur in comparison to them. They were the true masters. They were in a league by themself. Pakistani students use to copy each others software programs, and make changes manually, to make it look different. That is a very laborious process. Our Indian friends actually wrote a detailed script. They would run one person`s program through it, and it would spit out ten different versions for his colleagues to submit as their assignment.......
Similarly, when I was teaching, I had to make sure, without being politically incorrect, the desi student biradari sat in one area, so I could stand there and make sure they didn`t cheat. There was a Pakistani student who had an A in the class. He was, like most desi students, quite bright. Yet he would try to cheat. I even told him that, look you already have a A, you are so bright, why the hell are you cheating!! I guess he couldn`t control himself......
The kicker was, however, one Indian student, who would walk out to go to the bathroom, right before I gave a quiz. I found that odd. One day I followed him. It turned out, he would go into the office, where the photocopy machine was. I would copy the quizzes before the class started, and would throw away one or two copies. He would quickly grab a copy from the machine or the wastebasket, and review it, before the quiz. I didn`t know whether to turn him in, or to be in awe of his courage and skills......
I would say, ``cheat`` is too strong a word though. Desi students, are in a foreign land, with no money, against tough odds. Your daughter has you to support her, and has money and a citizeship and access to govt. grants. If she flunks a class, no big deal. If a desi flunks a class, it may be back to India or Pakistan.
I would call it being, ``resourceful........`` The few desi students that I did catch cheating, I just couldn`t bring it about myself to turn them in for expulsion. They would get kicked out of the university and then the country........I would at worst, flunk them in the class, or lower their grad by a letter or two.......
#129 Posted by mohar11 on August 27, 2005 12:28:48 pm
Re: # 122 hamidm
``Fair `` - don`t know the urdu for that..... In hindi, the equivalent is ``nyay`` and the opposite is ``anyay``.....But your point is noted. Desi mentality for cutting corners is legendary. To play fair is not considered a virtue - which is why everything is so f***ed up back ``home``.
But in real world - it doesn`t pay to be a saint either. Remember, nice guys finish last. Cunning is a necessary tool - but it`s a thin line....
``Fair `` - don`t know the urdu for that..... In hindi, the equivalent is ``nyay`` and the opposite is ``anyay``.....But your point is noted. Desi mentality for cutting corners is legendary. To play fair is not considered a virtue - which is why everything is so f***ed up back ``home``.
But in real world - it doesn`t pay to be a saint either. Remember, nice guys finish last. Cunning is a necessary tool - but it`s a thin line....
#128 Posted by samirfs on August 27, 2005 12:26:17 pm
Re: # 127
Last night I was thinking about cultures untouched by organized religion ..... like the aborigals and tribals living in Amazon forests, Native Americans and tribals in India, Africa. They are naked all the time, except for a piece of covering here and there. Yet they have respect for each other and men don`t grope ................ I hope. I guess their Adam and Eve did not eat the apple ...
But what about our Adam and Eve? They ate the apple! And hence became ashamed of their nudity! (It`s all metaphorical ... if you care to understand) .... so do we want to go back in time and blame Adam and Eve or we want to work around it? If we are arguing if it was Adam`s fault or Eve`s then we are just wasting our time. And I am not at all interested in such arguments.
- Samir Shaikh
Last night I was thinking about cultures untouched by organized religion ..... like the aborigals and tribals living in Amazon forests, Native Americans and tribals in India, Africa. They are naked all the time, except for a piece of covering here and there. Yet they have respect for each other and men don`t grope ................ I hope. I guess their Adam and Eve did not eat the apple ...
But what about our Adam and Eve? They ate the apple! And hence became ashamed of their nudity! (It`s all metaphorical ... if you care to understand) .... so do we want to go back in time and blame Adam and Eve or we want to work around it? If we are arguing if it was Adam`s fault or Eve`s then we are just wasting our time. And I am not at all interested in such arguments.
- Samir Shaikh
#127 Posted by miriamk on August 27, 2005 11:56:37 am
samir:
#126
The basic concept remains the same, no matter what you wear .... a woman who displays her assets is equated to a prostitute (or a disrespectful woman). So it is upto the respectable women of today to decide what to wear and how to behave in order to disassociate themselves from the unrespectable women.
i think you and i had better agree to disagree. i find remarks like this rather amusing. it’s men who turn a woman into a prostitute, pimp her, sleep with her for money. then they categorically decide that she’s a disrespectful woman, and so any woman who emulates her in dress must be disrespectful also.
it must be comforting to live in such a black and white world.
best,
miriam
#126
The basic concept remains the same, no matter what you wear .... a woman who displays her assets is equated to a prostitute (or a disrespectful woman). So it is upto the respectable women of today to decide what to wear and how to behave in order to disassociate themselves from the unrespectable women.
i think you and i had better agree to disagree. i find remarks like this rather amusing. it’s men who turn a woman into a prostitute, pimp her, sleep with her for money. then they categorically decide that she’s a disrespectful woman, and so any woman who emulates her in dress must be disrespectful also.
it must be comforting to live in such a black and white world.
best,
miriam
#126 Posted by samirfs on August 27, 2005 11:46:48 am
Re: # 111
Miriam,
I am not trying to pick on you, on the contrary I agree with your position;
Wearing a hijab has nothing to do with spirituality. It is a very practical thing, actually.
If you consider the historical context, during those times, in Arabia illegal activites and particularly Prostitution was rampant and an accepted part of society. Hijab was recommended to women to distinguish themselves from the prostitutes who deliberately exposed themselves for obvious reasons. Taking that context in mind, Hijab became a symbol of a respectable woman, and men avoided making passes at them. Similar to the idea that men avoided making a pass at a woman who was wearing a mangal sutra or a sindoor.
Of course the standards of modesty have changed in today`s world. And I am sure respectable women today avoid as much as possible not to dress even close to what prostitutes wear or the way they behave in public, namely, dress up to expose their ``wares``. The basic concept remains the same, no matter what you wear .... a woman who displays her assets is equated to a prostitute (or a disrespectful woman). So it is upto the respectable women of today to decide what to wear and how to behave in order to disassociate themselves from the unrespectable women.
There will always be men who will act disrepectfully towards you no matter how respectfully you are dressed or how well you conduct yourself ..... but that`s a separate matter and refer to Amrita`s post about re-educating them. (which I agree with).
- Samir Shaikh
Miriam,
I am not trying to pick on you, on the contrary I agree with your position;
Wearing a hijab has nothing to do with spirituality. It is a very practical thing, actually.
If you consider the historical context, during those times, in Arabia illegal activites and particularly Prostitution was rampant and an accepted part of society. Hijab was recommended to women to distinguish themselves from the prostitutes who deliberately exposed themselves for obvious reasons. Taking that context in mind, Hijab became a symbol of a respectable woman, and men avoided making passes at them. Similar to the idea that men avoided making a pass at a woman who was wearing a mangal sutra or a sindoor.
Of course the standards of modesty have changed in today`s world. And I am sure respectable women today avoid as much as possible not to dress even close to what prostitutes wear or the way they behave in public, namely, dress up to expose their ``wares``. The basic concept remains the same, no matter what you wear .... a woman who displays her assets is equated to a prostitute (or a disrespectful woman). So it is upto the respectable women of today to decide what to wear and how to behave in order to disassociate themselves from the unrespectable women.
There will always be men who will act disrepectfully towards you no matter how respectfully you are dressed or how well you conduct yourself ..... but that`s a separate matter and refer to Amrita`s post about re-educating them. (which I agree with).
- Samir Shaikh
#125 Posted by Bina_Shah on August 27, 2005 11:29:06 am
There seem to be more men interacting here than women. Telling. Anyway, I was wondering why you men don`t start some kind of movement where you educate your lesser-enlightened brethren about the proper ways to treat women, instead of leaving it to the onus of Pakistani mothers to teach their sons? Where are you as fathers, as elder brothers, as uncles, as grandfathers and even as friends when it comes to making men behave themselves? Maybe you should be creating and running awareness campaigns and speaking out on this issue. Men are more likely to listen to men that they look up to, rather than women. I suggest that some of you with some influence talk to Pakistani role models - Imran Khan, Musharraf, Inzamam, businessmen, other admired people in Pakistani society - and get them to do some sort of PSAs on the issue. It would at least be a start.
#124 Posted by temporal on August 27, 2005 11:23:37 am
mirium # 113:
… rabia seems like a bright and assertive woman. i just hope for her sake she understands clearly the reason(s) she wore a hijab. at first, i thought this was a gesture of modesty but i just picked up on the “s” word :)
upon reflection:
salvo was the wrong word…will withdraw that…hope you and rabia would understand the persiflage… at this time cannot think of a suitable substitution
lve
t
… rabia seems like a bright and assertive woman. i just hope for her sake she understands clearly the reason(s) she wore a hijab. at first, i thought this was a gesture of modesty but i just picked up on the “s” word :)
upon reflection:
salvo was the wrong word…will withdraw that…hope you and rabia would understand the persiflage… at this time cannot think of a suitable substitution
lve
t
#123 Posted by aslam644 on August 27, 2005 10:47:40 am
Re: # 104
Salim
I think you’re painting a very rosy picture of turkey, I was there 2years ago in Bodrum holiday resort, I heard many brit girls complaining about Turkish men pestering for date and they wouldn’t take no for an answer. I believe there is still a lot of poverty inland and even honour killings.
BTW brits and germans are moving there big time, I even met a brit paki who’s opened a restaurant there.
Salim
I think you’re painting a very rosy picture of turkey, I was there 2years ago in Bodrum holiday resort, I heard many brit girls complaining about Turkish men pestering for date and they wouldn’t take no for an answer. I believe there is still a lot of poverty inland and even honour killings.
BTW brits and germans are moving there big time, I even met a brit paki who’s opened a restaurant there.
#122 Posted by hamidm2 on August 27, 2005 10:37:06 am
mohar,
``And lying and cheating is NOT as bad as you think - it`s a necessary survival tool in the real world``
......... you prove my point - that typifies the desi mindset .......we were brought up to think that since everyone is doing it we have to in order to survive ........ of course kids do lie, but here when they do it they are very well aware that they are doing something wrong and are usually very bad at it ......... my twelve year old will not let me help her with her homework because ``it is cheating`` and she refuses to share her work with her friends because ``it is not fair``............ the word ``fair`` was not in our vocabulary ........... come to think of it, i cannot think of the urdu equivalent - can you ?
``And lying and cheating is NOT as bad as you think - it`s a necessary survival tool in the real world``
......... you prove my point - that typifies the desi mindset .......we were brought up to think that since everyone is doing it we have to in order to survive ........ of course kids do lie, but here when they do it they are very well aware that they are doing something wrong and are usually very bad at it ......... my twelve year old will not let me help her with her homework because ``it is cheating`` and she refuses to share her work with her friends because ``it is not fair``............ the word ``fair`` was not in our vocabulary ........... come to think of it, i cannot think of the urdu equivalent - can you ?
#121 Posted by mohar11 on August 27, 2005 9:33:13 am
Re: # 107 hamidm
//...our kids have a much better value system than we ever had ....... for example, they don`t lie and cheat ..//
Yeah - that`s what you think :) Every kid lies and cheats - that`s the benefit of being a kid. ..... .... And lying and cheating is NOT as bad as you think - it`s a necessary survival tool in the real world.
//...our kids have a much better value system than we ever had ....... for example, they don`t lie and cheat ..//
Yeah - that`s what you think :) Every kid lies and cheats - that`s the benefit of being a kid. ..... .... And lying and cheating is NOT as bad as you think - it`s a necessary survival tool in the real world.
#120 Posted by rahul_capri on August 27, 2005 9:26:20 am
Re: # 85
Raw_Dust, I agree with hamzaad #6.The whole concept of subjugation of women hinges on religious role playing. And wrt miriams comment. that the concept of mans world comes from organized religion, I would think it is easy to see that it is the other way round.
Having said that,debunking those roles will lead us to reconsider the sanctity of our anthropological and social contracts like marriage and family. giving rise to unwed mothers etc(Of course there would be unwed fathers too, which aint the same thing. An interesting paper on an interesting book- Roxana by Daniel Defoe- ``Roxana`s Amazonian threat to the ideology of marriage`` discusses this in detail.
OTOH, the roles are designed in such a way that man controls the interaction of the family unit with the world, by providing for it. So it is logical that in religious societies one will hear significantly more hue and cry when a woman steps out of her role than when a man steps out of his.Modesty of women and hijab will be an infinitely greater issue than butt crack gazing or bottom pinching men.
Raw_Dust, I agree with hamzaad #6.The whole concept of subjugation of women hinges on religious role playing. And wrt miriams comment. that the concept of mans world comes from organized religion, I would think it is easy to see that it is the other way round.
Having said that,debunking those roles will lead us to reconsider the sanctity of our anthropological and social contracts like marriage and family. giving rise to unwed mothers etc(Of course there would be unwed fathers too, which aint the same thing. An interesting paper on an interesting book- Roxana by Daniel Defoe- ``Roxana`s Amazonian threat to the ideology of marriage`` discusses this in detail.
OTOH, the roles are designed in such a way that man controls the interaction of the family unit with the world, by providing for it. So it is logical that in religious societies one will hear significantly more hue and cry when a woman steps out of her role than when a man steps out of his.Modesty of women and hijab will be an infinitely greater issue than butt crack gazing or bottom pinching men.
#119 Posted by temporal on August 27, 2005 9:17:20 am
hamid:
missed that post...yes...
a friend is a gp...she says the hijabi traffic for pills and abortion (yes, astaghfirollah!) through her clinic has grown exponentially since zina ul haq went up in smoke
missed that post...yes...
a friend is a gp...she says the hijabi traffic for pills and abortion (yes, astaghfirollah!) through her clinic has grown exponentially since zina ul haq went up in smoke
#118 Posted by hamidm2 on August 27, 2005 8:57:12 am
Re: # 116
t,
.... i agree - see my post below on the dating habits of hijabis ........ as one close friend`s daughter, frustrated by her parent`s constant badgering about getting married, said, `` what do you want me to do ? ... put on a hijab (again) and join the msa so that i can find a husband like all those other girls ?`` ......... astagfirullah !
t,
.... i agree - see my post below on the dating habits of hijabis ........ as one close friend`s daughter, frustrated by her parent`s constant badgering about getting married, said, `` what do you want me to do ? ... put on a hijab (again) and join the msa so that i can find a husband like all those other girls ?`` ......... astagfirullah !
#117 Posted by miriamk on August 27, 2005 8:56:22 am
samir:
#80
how to re-educate and re-socialize the pak. man?
it begins in the home. a fundamental change in how pakistani men are raised. mothers have a greater influence on a young child. so, change the way we educate our women who will be future mothers. teach pakistani women to respect and value themselves as human beings, not just as a man’s wife/mother/daughter/sister or property. and in turn, their children will be educated and socialized according to those values.
i realize the practical aspects of this are largely nightmarish but one has to begin somewhere.
m
#80
how to re-educate and re-socialize the pak. man?
it begins in the home. a fundamental change in how pakistani men are raised. mothers have a greater influence on a young child. so, change the way we educate our women who will be future mothers. teach pakistani women to respect and value themselves as human beings, not just as a man’s wife/mother/daughter/sister or property. and in turn, their children will be educated and socialized according to those values.
i realize the practical aspects of this are largely nightmarish but one has to begin somewhere.
m
#116 Posted by temporal on August 27, 2005 8:49:36 am
hamidm mian:
throw those old fashioned ideas outta window
being mindsful i will only quote my son`s experiences...hijabis do have more fun...(insert choice icons here)...am amused and perturbed to inquire any further...maybe it is the TO air...rgds
miriam:
i understand:)...just that someone else also fired salvos at her for that
lve
t
throw those old fashioned ideas outta window
being mindsful i will only quote my son`s experiences...hijabis do have more fun...(insert choice icons here)...am amused and perturbed to inquire any further...maybe it is the TO air...rgds
miriam:
i understand:)...just that someone else also fired salvos at her for that
lve
t
#115 Posted by KaalChakra on August 27, 2005 8:41:56 am
There is at least one hijabi woman who is as normal, as (mention all the wonderful human qualities here), and much much more than any other woman.
But we are speaking of a social phenomenon, not of individual people caught up in it.
And there ARE undeniable tangible rewards to going along with men`s rules.
But we are speaking of a social phenomenon, not of individual people caught up in it.
And there ARE undeniable tangible rewards to going along with men`s rules.
#114 Posted by hamidm2 on August 27, 2005 8:24:52 am
miriam,
......... not that i want to defend rabia - god forbid ! - but there is a positive side to wearing the hijab ........ it does give these women a chance to meet like minded men and hijabi women do have an easier time landing husbands (as in fish) even though they might turn out not to be ``keepers``............. regardless of the islamic injunctions against the inter mingling of sexes and pre-marital dating, hijabi women have no problem with it - the hijab sanctifies ``immoral`` behaviour .......... go figure !
......... not that i want to defend rabia - god forbid ! - but there is a positive side to wearing the hijab ........ it does give these women a chance to meet like minded men and hijabi women do have an easier time landing husbands (as in fish) even though they might turn out not to be ``keepers``............. regardless of the islamic injunctions against the inter mingling of sexes and pre-marital dating, hijabi women have no problem with it - the hijab sanctifies ``immoral`` behaviour .......... go figure !
#113 Posted by miriamk on August 27, 2005 8:18:01 am
t,
#112
i’m all for cutting her slack and being supportive of any decision she makes, as long as it’s truly her own. rabia seems like a bright and assertive woman. i just hope for her sake she understands clearly the reason(s) she wore a hijab. at first, i thought this was a gesture of modesty but i just picked up on the “s” word :).
m
#112
i’m all for cutting her slack and being supportive of any decision she makes, as long as it’s truly her own. rabia seems like a bright and assertive woman. i just hope for her sake she understands clearly the reason(s) she wore a hijab. at first, i thought this was a gesture of modesty but i just picked up on the “s” word :).
m
#112 Posted by temporal on August 27, 2005 8:07:07 am
106 was directed at hamidm
miriam :)
cut her some slack or someting like that
miriam :)
cut her some slack or someting like that
#111 Posted by miriamk on August 27, 2005 8:03:39 am
rabia:
#87
i missed this somehow in my earlier reading of your post. but how exactly is wearing a hijab making you progress in your spirituality? isn’t the spiritual journey an internal one? i’m sure there are enough people here who will jump in to correct me if i’m mistaken.
m
#87
i missed this somehow in my earlier reading of your post. but how exactly is wearing a hijab making you progress in your spirituality? isn’t the spiritual journey an internal one? i’m sure there are enough people here who will jump in to correct me if i’m mistaken.
m
#110 Posted by hamidm2 on August 27, 2005 7:56:54 am
Re: # 105
...exactly ........ many american muslim kids are exposed to this virus at a very early age and their parents continue to manipulate them through their formative years .......... they end up either with body piercings and high on drugs, or put on that hijab and go about preaching the virtues of islam ......... in both cases they are schizophrenic and lost.......
...exactly ........ many american muslim kids are exposed to this virus at a very early age and their parents continue to manipulate them through their formative years .......... they end up either with body piercings and high on drugs, or put on that hijab and go about preaching the virtues of islam ......... in both cases they are schizophrenic and lost.......
#109 Posted by Naqshbandi on August 27, 2005 7:56:03 am
After getting to know mullahs and their ways I can say that I pray they never get into power in Pakistan, either now or in the future. The aim of the scholars, the genuine ones, is for moral and spiritual guidance to individuals.
#108 Posted by miriamk on August 27, 2005 7:54:52 am
kaal ji:
#105
i agree with you. by the very fact that the key player here is organized religion, there are bound to be residues of groupthink. but these are things one has to realize themselves. it cannot come from the outside.
m
#105
i agree with you. by the very fact that the key player here is organized religion, there are bound to be residues of groupthink. but these are things one has to realize themselves. it cannot come from the outside.
m
#107 Posted by mannu404 on August 27, 2005 7:51:00 am
#102 by hamidm2 on August 27, 2005 7:26am PT
temp,
...... morning,
....... actually i am convinced that our kids have a much better value system than we ever had ....... for example, they don`t lie and cheat - which i believe are the biggest sins and the root of all evil ........... however lying and cheating are an integral part of the desi culture and we do it all the time without even realizing that we do it ....... ``}
Good evening, Mr. Hamidm2,
I totally agree with your evaluation.
For a good example, please see my Turkish perspective below.
BTW in the 2nd para, ``Turkish continent`` should read ``Turkish contingent.`` :)
Thanks,
Salim
temp,
...... morning,
....... actually i am convinced that our kids have a much better value system than we ever had ....... for example, they don`t lie and cheat - which i believe are the biggest sins and the root of all evil ........... however lying and cheating are an integral part of the desi culture and we do it all the time without even realizing that we do it ....... ``}
Good evening, Mr. Hamidm2,
I totally agree with your evaluation.
For a good example, please see my Turkish perspective below.
BTW in the 2nd para, ``Turkish continent`` should read ``Turkish contingent.`` :)
Thanks,
Salim
#106 Posted by temporal on August 27, 2005 7:42:48 am
yaar asal baat yeh hay
kay
all cultural transference in kids takes place between the incubation and age three...where is that unmitigated rascal shanker?
the rest of our fights with kids are territorial
kay
all cultural transference in kids takes place between the incubation and age three...where is that unmitigated rascal shanker?
the rest of our fights with kids are territorial
#105 Posted by KaalChakra on August 27, 2005 7:40:22 am
if you are truly convinced that ...
mk, people are always `truly convinced` that such decisions are their own....the mind responds to external pressures in very subtle ways.
mk, people are always `truly convinced` that such decisions are their own....the mind responds to external pressures in very subtle ways.
#104 Posted by mannu404 on August 27, 2005 7:37:10 am
Friends,
Let me give you a Turkish perspective. In Turkey, they wrestled with all these issues - women`s rights, western values, Islamic law, literacy, hijab, harems, polygamy, and beards. A patriotic, determined, utterly incorruptible, and wise man cam along approximately eighty years ago and changed everything - from how Turks write, how they think, how they behave, and how they live.
Today, in Turkey most people can read. There is democracy in the streets, secularism is enforced, polygamy is banned, prostitution is legal, adequate medical treatment is free for all, crime is low, capital punishment is not allowed, and beards are rare (even Turkish mullas are clean-shaven). The armed forces are strong (Turkey hasn`t lost a war in almost ninety years!), people are against war anywhere, no one starves, rape is uncommon, Turkish women are safe on the streets, alcohol flows freely, Turkish beer is excellent and inexpensive, most men and many women drink, alcoholism is almost nonexistent, and Islam flourishes in the mosques and people`s personal lives. Turkey has always had the largest continent during many past Haj pilgrimages. There is freedom of expression, freedom of movement, and freedom from state-controlled religion.
This success is the result of wholesale commitment to freedoms - not just pick and choose the ones suiting the Turks` peculiar prejudices. Relations with Israel are cordial. The only nagging problems are Kurdish separatism and rare display of Al-Kayda presence among a very very miniscule minority.
Also, I have noticed that women have all the rights found in western societies. They can be born without their parents resorting to selective infanticide, they MUST go to school, they can marry as they wish (most have boyfriends), they can drive, work, own property, vote, govern, run for office, and travel without any hindrance. The one significant difference is that in Turkish society, it is considered extremely rude for women to argue with men in public. Turkish women are very patient, hardly ever curse or swear, and never upstage their males in public. At home everyone knows who is the boss. :)
Before all you Pakis pack up all at once and decide to move to Turkey, please remember to leave behind your extremist views, your intolerance, your provincialism, your sectarian wars, your love of violence, and your corruption.
Thanks,
Salim
Let me give you a Turkish perspective. In Turkey, they wrestled with all these issues - women`s rights, western values, Islamic law, literacy, hijab, harems, polygamy, and beards. A patriotic, determined, utterly incorruptible, and wise man cam along approximately eighty years ago and changed everything - from how Turks write, how they think, how they behave, and how they live.
Today, in Turkey most people can read. There is democracy in the streets, secularism is enforced, polygamy is banned, prostitution is legal, adequate medical treatment is free for all, crime is low, capital punishment is not allowed, and beards are rare (even Turkish mullas are clean-shaven). The armed forces are strong (Turkey hasn`t lost a war in almost ninety years!), people are against war anywhere, no one starves, rape is uncommon, Turkish women are safe on the streets, alcohol flows freely, Turkish beer is excellent and inexpensive, most men and many women drink, alcoholism is almost nonexistent, and Islam flourishes in the mosques and people`s personal lives. Turkey has always had the largest continent during many past Haj pilgrimages. There is freedom of expression, freedom of movement, and freedom from state-controlled religion.
This success is the result of wholesale commitment to freedoms - not just pick and choose the ones suiting the Turks` peculiar prejudices. Relations with Israel are cordial. The only nagging problems are Kurdish separatism and rare display of Al-Kayda presence among a very very miniscule minority.
Also, I have noticed that women have all the rights found in western societies. They can be born without their parents resorting to selective infanticide, they MUST go to school, they can marry as they wish (most have boyfriends), they can drive, work, own property, vote, govern, run for office, and travel without any hindrance. The one significant difference is that in Turkish society, it is considered extremely rude for women to argue with men in public. Turkish women are very patient, hardly ever curse or swear, and never upstage their males in public. At home everyone knows who is the boss. :)
Before all you Pakis pack up all at once and decide to move to Turkey, please remember to leave behind your extremist views, your intolerance, your provincialism, your sectarian wars, your love of violence, and your corruption.
Thanks,
Salim
#103 Posted by miriamk on August 27, 2005 7:32:45 am
rabia:
#87
if you are truly convinced that your decision to wear a hijab is your own, then more power to you. but as someone said earlier, thank allah for living in the U.S. where your right to wear a hijab is protected under the constitution just as your right to take it off is, if you ever chose to do so. had you been living in afghanistan in the time of taliban rule, you wouldn’t have been blessed with that right. you also wouldn`t have been able to get an education, a career, a place of your own, and a myriad of other things.
our rights can be taken away in an insidious manner. there have been too many fanatic rumblings in pakistan to just ignore this issue. that’s what bina is trying to convey.
you keep harking back to the ills of american women. all of us here are educated and sufficiently informed to know that other women in the world experience injustice. however, bina has chosen to written about pakistan. when she or someone else writes about the U.S. the discussion will center around american women. for the moment let`s do right by pakistani women.
m
#87
if you are truly convinced that your decision to wear a hijab is your own, then more power to you. but as someone said earlier, thank allah for living in the U.S. where your right to wear a hijab is protected under the constitution just as your right to take it off is, if you ever chose to do so. had you been living in afghanistan in the time of taliban rule, you wouldn’t have been blessed with that right. you also wouldn`t have been able to get an education, a career, a place of your own, and a myriad of other things.
our rights can be taken away in an insidious manner. there have been too many fanatic rumblings in pakistan to just ignore this issue. that’s what bina is trying to convey.
you keep harking back to the ills of american women. all of us here are educated and sufficiently informed to know that other women in the world experience injustice. however, bina has chosen to written about pakistan. when she or someone else writes about the U.S. the discussion will center around american women. for the moment let`s do right by pakistani women.
m
#102 Posted by hamidm2 on August 27, 2005 7:26:56 am
temp,
...... morning,
....... actually i am convinced that our kids have a much better value system than we ever had ....... for example, they don`t lie and cheat - which i believe are the biggest sins and the root of all evil ........... however lying and cheating are an integral part of the desi culture and we do it all the time without even realizing that we do it .......
...... it is very difficult to take anything that a desi tells you at face value, and they are so good at deception that it is hard to tell when they are not telling the truth ......... and they lie for all kinds of trivial reasons: `` i can`t come to your party because chotu has a fever`` instead of, `` sorry, i am going to another party``, or ``janab-i-ali, bari umer hai appki, abhi abhi aap ka zikr ho raha tha`` when actually they were cussing you and your grandpa before you walked in ............ and so on ..........on the other hand, i wouldn`t dare tell my kids to tell somone who calls that i am not home, because i would get ``that look`` .........
......... to be honest, we have little to give to our kids except biryani and chicken karahi ....... even there we are on shaky ground because i suspect they would rather have macaroni and cheese ..........
...... morning,
....... actually i am convinced that our kids have a much better value system than we ever had ....... for example, they don`t lie and cheat - which i believe are the biggest sins and the root of all evil ........... however lying and cheating are an integral part of the desi culture and we do it all the time without even realizing that we do it .......
...... it is very difficult to take anything that a desi tells you at face value, and they are so good at deception that it is hard to tell when they are not telling the truth ......... and they lie for all kinds of trivial reasons: `` i can`t come to your party because chotu has a fever`` instead of, `` sorry, i am going to another party``, or ``janab-i-ali, bari umer hai appki, abhi abhi aap ka zikr ho raha tha`` when actually they were cussing you and your grandpa before you walked in ............ and so on ..........on the other hand, i wouldn`t dare tell my kids to tell somone who calls that i am not home, because i would get ``that look`` .........
......... to be honest, we have little to give to our kids except biryani and chicken karahi ....... even there we are on shaky ground because i suspect they would rather have macaroni and cheese ..........
#101 Posted by KaalChakra on August 27, 2005 7:15:15 am
hamidm2
Right on.
We might want to be careful about a few more things - not confuse our village values for universal values, not drill into our youth a fictitious siege mentality, and keep our youngsters away from other people or literature that would quickly nullify all our effort at maintaining sanity.
There is nothing more attractive to an immature human mind than a sense of being born to rule over others, and a sense of being discriminated against by a corrupt world.
Right on.
We might want to be careful about a few more things - not confuse our village values for universal values, not drill into our youth a fictitious siege mentality, and keep our youngsters away from other people or literature that would quickly nullify all our effort at maintaining sanity.
There is nothing more attractive to an immature human mind than a sense of being born to rule over others, and a sense of being discriminated against by a corrupt world.
#100 Posted by temporal on August 27, 2005 7:00:53 am
yaar hamidm
am sure u have realised this by now
there is nothing short of opening a halal food franchise with virgin daiquiris and margaritas at the base camp of K2 that would satisfy our kids...nothing
however there is no harm in transferring some universal values...like not pissing on the neighbour`s lawn...
yes, the kids would do fine...down the ages kids have been doing fine;)
we were kids once too
good saturday morning!
am sure u have realised this by now
there is nothing short of opening a halal food franchise with virgin daiquiris and margaritas at the base camp of K2 that would satisfy our kids...nothing
however there is no harm in transferring some universal values...like not pissing on the neighbour`s lawn...
yes, the kids would do fine...down the ages kids have been doing fine;)
we were kids once too
good saturday morning!
#99 Posted by hamidm2 on August 27, 2005 6:50:04 am
kaal, temp,
....... our kids will do just fine if we leave them alone and stop pushing our ``values`` on them - our village values are highly over rated and sometimes the imaginary product of nostalgia and ennui ......... it would also help if we stopped embarrassing them in public by wearing sneakers with dress pants and make an honest attempt to correct our V`s and W`s ............
....... our kids will do just fine if we leave them alone and stop pushing our ``values`` on them - our village values are highly over rated and sometimes the imaginary product of nostalgia and ennui ......... it would also help if we stopped embarrassing them in public by wearing sneakers with dress pants and make an honest attempt to correct our V`s and W`s ............
#98 Posted by temporal on August 27, 2005 6:47:47 am
kaalchakra sahib
i did mention `all` immigrants not singling out any one
and these teething troubles resolve themselves over time
wishing you peace
i did mention `all` immigrants not singling out any one
and these teething troubles resolve themselves over time
wishing you peace
#97 Posted by KaalChakra on August 27, 2005 6:32:21 am
Not as smoothly as I would like to it, Temporal ji. I have missed many visits to the gurudwara of late :(
The inter-generation chasm here is of the strange sort. Instead of Americanizing itself and learning something good, the younger generation is running toward the caves (or Canada), as it were.
The inter-generation chasm here is of the strange sort. Instead of Americanizing itself and learning something good, the younger generation is running toward the caves (or Canada), as it were.
#96 Posted by hamidm2 on August 27, 2005 6:28:33 am
rabia bibi,
...... hijab is a silly political statement that people like you keep on pushing regardless of the fact that it undermines you as a woman and a human being ..........
`` Irrespective of one`s perspective, the fact remains that the hijab is an instrument of segregation and containment. It marks the Muslim woman for separation and for `different` treatment. Muslims who claim that hijab forces society to treat women in a special way (in terms of security and respect) do not work to ensure that the society has affirmative laws in place to guarantee equal outcomes for women. So, hijab ultimately undermines equal opportunity.
``But the sartorial hijab—with its attendant social practices of segregation, disenfranchisement and marginalisation of women—is only a symptom of a more profound and civilisationally debilitating form of hijab practised by the contemporary Muslim society. What is more significant and needs vigorous confrontation is the epistemological hijab that `good` Muslims insist on imposing on `good` Muslim women. ``
you can read the rest at : http://www.brookings.edu/views/op-ed/fellows/khan20050420.htm
...... hijab is a silly political statement that people like you keep on pushing regardless of the fact that it undermines you as a woman and a human being ..........
`` Irrespective of one`s perspective, the fact remains that the hijab is an instrument of segregation and containment. It marks the Muslim woman for separation and for `different` treatment. Muslims who claim that hijab forces society to treat women in a special way (in terms of security and respect) do not work to ensure that the society has affirmative laws in place to guarantee equal outcomes for women. So, hijab ultimately undermines equal opportunity.
``But the sartorial hijab—with its attendant social practices of segregation, disenfranchisement and marginalisation of women—is only a symptom of a more profound and civilisationally debilitating form of hijab practised by the contemporary Muslim society. What is more significant and needs vigorous confrontation is the epistemological hijab that `good` Muslims insist on imposing on `good` Muslim women. ``
you can read the rest at : http://www.brookings.edu/views/op-ed/fellows/khan20050420.htm
#95 Posted by temporal on August 27, 2005 6:18:55 am
kaalchakra #93:
don`t waste your pity here
the intra-generation chasm exists worldwide
and more so in immigrants...( read all immigrants)
how is your self-discovery of sikhhism coming along? are you more peaceful and contended?
don`t waste your pity here
the intra-generation chasm exists worldwide
and more so in immigrants...( read all immigrants)
how is your self-discovery of sikhhism coming along? are you more peaceful and contended?
#94 Posted by temporal on August 27, 2005 6:13:13 am
Samir # 84:
first, thanks for responding :) (and that too in good spirits)
i will keep this simple…
without going into myriad of other factors we see that implementing simple traffic laws is a gargantuan task of brobdingnagian proportion…and compared to the thrust of bina’s article…adhering and complying with traffic laws is relatively straightforward
poultry farming at the summit of K-2 appears far easier than inculcating respect for women in my fellow desis
rgds
t
ps: rabia: never said we did not understand what you said!
first, thanks for responding :) (and that too in good spirits)
i will keep this simple…
without going into myriad of other factors we see that implementing simple traffic laws is a gargantuan task of brobdingnagian proportion…and compared to the thrust of bina’s article…adhering and complying with traffic laws is relatively straightforward
poultry farming at the summit of K-2 appears far easier than inculcating respect for women in my fellow desis
rgds
t
ps: rabia: never said we did not understand what you said!
#93 Posted by KaalChakra on August 27, 2005 6:05:34 am
I pity those American kids who are being brought up as Pakistanis (or Indians) and wonder what the parents of these kids are doing in this country.
What a totally totally misguided frame of mind...I hope it changes before the costs become too high or unbearably painful.
What a totally totally misguided frame of mind...I hope it changes before the costs become too high or unbearably painful.
#92 Posted by hamidm2 on August 27, 2005 5:55:01 am
rabia,
..... it is silly to compare the institutionalized discrimination and abuse of women in pakistan which is supported by the law of the land, with the individual cases of violence against women in america ......... karo-kari, where ayesha`s father and brothers kill her in the middle of the night and then bury her in the fields, is not the same as bubba beating his woman to death in the trailer park .......... bubba goes to jail while ayesha`s brother gets re-elected to parliament ........... see the difference ?????
now your question : ``Why is it that other Muslims have more issues and objections to a woman wearing hijab than non-Muslims? ``.............. because they make us all look silly and set a bad example for our daughters who we are trying to raise as independent women who are not ashamed of their hair ...... besides, it is really not modest when you are also wearing a skin tight pants and pants - someone needs to tell these girls that breasts and buttocks are more arousing than hair ! .......... just as most ``normal`` reform jews are ashamed of their hasidic brethren who run around in funny clothes doing idiotic things like sucking on little boys` penises, we are ashamed of our lunatic fringe ........... unfortunately, our lunatic fringe is too large to ignore .......... hope that answers your question
..... it is silly to compare the institutionalized discrimination and abuse of women in pakistan which is supported by the law of the land, with the individual cases of violence against women in america ......... karo-kari, where ayesha`s father and brothers kill her in the middle of the night and then bury her in the fields, is not the same as bubba beating his woman to death in the trailer park .......... bubba goes to jail while ayesha`s brother gets re-elected to parliament ........... see the difference ?????
now your question : ``Why is it that other Muslims have more issues and objections to a woman wearing hijab than non-Muslims? ``.............. because they make us all look silly and set a bad example for our daughters who we are trying to raise as independent women who are not ashamed of their hair ...... besides, it is really not modest when you are also wearing a skin tight pants and pants - someone needs to tell these girls that breasts and buttocks are more arousing than hair ! .......... just as most ``normal`` reform jews are ashamed of their hasidic brethren who run around in funny clothes doing idiotic things like sucking on little boys` penises, we are ashamed of our lunatic fringe ........... unfortunately, our lunatic fringe is too large to ignore .......... hope that answers your question
#91 Posted by shankar on August 27, 2005 5:40:38 am
Rabia-bibi,
{{I`m a Pakistani-American Muslim women who does the unthinkable and wears hijab because she wants to.}}
Wow! what a ``rebellious`` statement!
....DIMWIT!!!!!!
Just acknowlege the fact that you are Pakistani-AMERICAN...& thank Allah for it...
Y`see in Amrika..you can do all those idiotic ``I have a chip on my shoulder`` things......& get away with it...at the most you would get some dirty looks, if you went to a bar... GASP!!
(hmmm...remind me to go in a frikkin burkha at the next Haloween party at McCormick`s)...
OTOH....if you were a Pakistani-PAKISTANI women....I`d looooove to see you walking into the ...er...SIDE door of a bloomin` mosque...wearing a miniskirt...OK Ok...even blue jeans..
Oooooh! I`d looove to see a goddamned mullah having kittens, when/if he sees you...
{{I feel sorry for my non-Muslim American female counterparts because they have to worry about growing old without companionship and wondering if they will ever have children. I feel secure knowing my rights and knowing there are good Muslim men out there who also know my rights.}}
Yo! bibi-ji...save your sanctimonious pity for your muslim sisters who are ``sold`` into marriage to a dickhead...whether they like him or not...& even let the bum share her with 3 other lucky...er...``sisters``.. in the harem..
y`see...honey...a good muslima woman is not given the opportunity to even have a say in the matter...they are told they are the LUCKY ones...& idiotic women like you actually BUY that crap!...
and please dont go telling us that our Indian women are no better. Compared to Pakistan, Indian women have come a looooong way...thank YOU ..evil Bollywood!:))
while our Paki sisters like Bina Shah have the GUTS to speak out & tell these circumcised Emperors...these Islaam ke mashoor pehelwans...that they aint wearing no clothes...to take a long walk on the short pier of Lake Taliban...DUMBELLS like you have the gall to pity Sarah Jessica Parker & her NYC friends!
Now put your money where your silly mouth is & migrate to the Land of the Pure...you`ll feel quite at home there....
BUTT
one of these days...some other Islaaaam ka mashoor pehelwan mullah...is definitely going to say...hijab is not Islamic ENOUGH...a REAL muslima woman ought to wear a FULL lenght burkha...
...maybe then you could think about being a super-model in Pakistan...walking down a RUN-WAY IN kARACHI...dressed in a raw silk shuttlecock..embriodered in gold...with a Cashmere overall in 100 degree weather...
ONLY THEN...will I be REAL impressed by your BS!
Khuda Hafiz
{{I`m a Pakistani-American Muslim women who does the unthinkable and wears hijab because she wants to.}}
Wow! what a ``rebellious`` statement!
....DIMWIT!!!!!!
Just acknowlege the fact that you are Pakistani-AMERICAN...& thank Allah for it...
Y`see in Amrika..you can do all those idiotic ``I have a chip on my shoulder`` things......& get away with it...at the most you would get some dirty looks, if you went to a bar... GASP!!
(hmmm...remind me to go in a frikkin burkha at the next Haloween party at McCormick`s)...
OTOH....if you were a Pakistani-PAKISTANI women....I`d looooove to see you walking into the ...er...SIDE door of a bloomin` mosque...wearing a miniskirt...OK Ok...even blue jeans..
Oooooh! I`d looove to see a goddamned mullah having kittens, when/if he sees you...
{{I feel sorry for my non-Muslim American female counterparts because they have to worry about growing old without companionship and wondering if they will ever have children. I feel secure knowing my rights and knowing there are good Muslim men out there who also know my rights.}}
Yo! bibi-ji...save your sanctimonious pity for your muslim sisters who are ``sold`` into marriage to a dickhead...whether they like him or not...& even let the bum share her with 3 other lucky...er...``sisters``.. in the harem..
y`see...honey...a good muslima woman is not given the opportunity to even have a say in the matter...they are told they are the LUCKY ones...& idiotic women like you actually BUY that crap!...
and please dont go telling us that our Indian women are no better. Compared to Pakistan, Indian women have come a looooong way...thank YOU ..evil Bollywood!:))
while our Paki sisters like Bina Shah have the GUTS to speak out & tell these circumcised Emperors...these Islaam ke mashoor pehelwans...that they aint wearing no clothes...to take a long walk on the short pier of Lake Taliban...DUMBELLS like you have the gall to pity Sarah Jessica Parker & her NYC friends!
Now put your money where your silly mouth is & migrate to the Land of the Pure...you`ll feel quite at home there....
BUTT
one of these days...some other Islaaaam ka mashoor pehelwan mullah...is definitely going to say...hijab is not Islamic ENOUGH...a REAL muslima woman ought to wear a FULL lenght burkha...
...maybe then you could think about being a super-model in Pakistan...walking down a RUN-WAY IN kARACHI...dressed in a raw silk shuttlecock..embriodered in gold...with a Cashmere overall in 100 degree weather...
ONLY THEN...will I be REAL impressed by your BS!
Khuda Hafiz
#90 Posted by KaalChakra on August 27, 2005 4:32:06 am
Nothing typifies the problem with religion more than their pious preachings about modesty.
Undoubtedly, the `fundamental principles` or `values` or `treasures` supposedly hidden behind religious words are often their fundamental absurdities and fundamental inadequacies.
No wonder fundamentalists are in love with them.
Undoubtedly, the `fundamental principles` or `values` or `treasures` supposedly hidden behind religious words are often their fundamental absurdities and fundamental inadequacies.
No wonder fundamentalists are in love with them.
#89 Posted by r.a.janjua on August 26, 2005 10:22:01 pm
re: 87
surely spirituality cannot come by wearing some silly headgear!
surely spirituality cannot come by wearing some silly headgear!
#88 Posted by amrita on August 26, 2005 10:15:55 pm
Re: # 82 Samir -
interesting thought, but here`s the kicker - in my hometown, modesty means one thing, in my city of residence, modesty means another, and it meant yet another thing in the city where i grew up. as a girl and now a woman, i was expected to and indeed did change with the geography, and still do. this idea of conforming to the society in which you live is not something that is new to women, we`ve been doing it for ages. my mother did it, my grandmother did it and in spite of all my hopes to the contrary, my daughter will also probly do it.
however, with each shift in what was considered ``proper`` behavior and dress code for women, there was a corresponding shift in what men thought permissable to ``eve tease`` like we call it in India. so the nice aunty in a salwar kameez who was my neighbor in delhi would have fielded comments in my little hometown had she cared to follow me south for the summer.
and thats the point i`m trying to make. which i guess you kind of get, but probly will never fully understand because in all probability you`ve never been a girl walking down a street by herself - and i dont mean to sound condescending or patronizing here - and that is that you never know what can happen to you.
its a fairly paranoid existence to be a woman if you actually sat down and thought about it. so most of us dont. we think about it at the back of our minds, but we dont sit and plan our lives around the reactions of the men we might run into in the street, not because it doent matter when someone gets in our face or tries to touch or gets too close, but because in the long run it really doesnt matter.
you learn to take care of yourself, and hope that will be enuff if something really does go wrong.
interesting thought, but here`s the kicker - in my hometown, modesty means one thing, in my city of residence, modesty means another, and it meant yet another thing in the city where i grew up. as a girl and now a woman, i was expected to and indeed did change with the geography, and still do. this idea of conforming to the society in which you live is not something that is new to women, we`ve been doing it for ages. my mother did it, my grandmother did it and in spite of all my hopes to the contrary, my daughter will also probly do it.
however, with each shift in what was considered ``proper`` behavior and dress code for women, there was a corresponding shift in what men thought permissable to ``eve tease`` like we call it in India. so the nice aunty in a salwar kameez who was my neighbor in delhi would have fielded comments in my little hometown had she cared to follow me south for the summer.
and thats the point i`m trying to make. which i guess you kind of get, but probly will never fully understand because in all probability you`ve never been a girl walking down a street by herself - and i dont mean to sound condescending or patronizing here - and that is that you never know what can happen to you.
its a fairly paranoid existence to be a woman if you actually sat down and thought about it. so most of us dont. we think about it at the back of our minds, but we dont sit and plan our lives around the reactions of the men we might run into in the street, not because it doent matter when someone gets in our face or tries to touch or gets too close, but because in the long run it really doesnt matter.
you learn to take care of yourself, and hope that will be enuff if something really does go wrong.
#87 Posted by rabiaanwar on August 26, 2005 8:55:52 pm
Ok I tried to read all the replies posted after my last post but gave up...its late and a crappy way to spend a Friday night na.
I think the point that I was trying to make is that women are treated badly in Pakistan, but Pakistan is no different that any other country for its social ills. Each society faces their own demons. Rural india...female infanticide and bride burning for starters, hello? Anyhow, I could be looking through rose colored glasses because I wasn`t raised in Pakistan but love it as my native country. But I can comment on the the plights of women in this country because I`ve dealt with battered women in my work and personal life many times. Yes its true a woman here can go to the police when she`s been attacked...but after that she often has to go to a shelter. At this point I know so many women who are always looking for a roof to hide under that it makes me shudder. I`ve gotten too many calls from women who have no where to go after their man has beaten them and thrown them out. I can`t speak for women in Pakistan but it seems that there is always family somewhere out there that will, if nothing else, allow you to crawl into a corner, even if just to waste away.
I think it just pained me to see such a focused attack on one country, my country, without acknowledging that those of the female persuasion have it tough everywhere. Even if you want to argue women in the US have it great, for the sake of argument, consider how long it took American social politics to get that far...and how old is Pakistan?
Ok, one more thing, and this is something I`ve noticed in my personal life and now here as well. Why is it that other Muslims have more issues and objections to a woman wearing hijab than non-Muslims? Its just the strangest thing to me, all of my non-Muslim friends thought it was great when I started wearing it and encouraged me to grow spiritually. But my Pakistani Muslim friends, none of whom wear hijab, were completely against it and have been visibly uncomfortable around me ever since. I`m an independant woman, have a doctorate tucked under my belt, make good moolah, live on my own in a nice little pad, and there is no gun to my head. So why dost thou protest? Be not so narrow minded my friends...
Rabia
I think the point that I was trying to make is that women are treated badly in Pakistan, but Pakistan is no different that any other country for its social ills. Each society faces their own demons. Rural india...female infanticide and bride burning for starters, hello? Anyhow, I could be looking through rose colored glasses because I wasn`t raised in Pakistan but love it as my native country. But I can comment on the the plights of women in this country because I`ve dealt with battered women in my work and personal life many times. Yes its true a woman here can go to the police when she`s been attacked...but after that she often has to go to a shelter. At this point I know so many women who are always looking for a roof to hide under that it makes me shudder. I`ve gotten too many calls from women who have no where to go after their man has beaten them and thrown them out. I can`t speak for women in Pakistan but it seems that there is always family somewhere out there that will, if nothing else, allow you to crawl into a corner, even if just to waste away.
I think it just pained me to see such a focused attack on one country, my country, without acknowledging that those of the female persuasion have it tough everywhere. Even if you want to argue women in the US have it great, for the sake of argument, consider how long it took American social politics to get that far...and how old is Pakistan?
Ok, one more thing, and this is something I`ve noticed in my personal life and now here as well. Why is it that other Muslims have more issues and objections to a woman wearing hijab than non-Muslims? Its just the strangest thing to me, all of my non-Muslim friends thought it was great when I started wearing it and encouraged me to grow spiritually. But my Pakistani Muslim friends, none of whom wear hijab, were completely against it and have been visibly uncomfortable around me ever since. I`m an independant woman, have a doctorate tucked under my belt, make good moolah, live on my own in a nice little pad, and there is no gun to my head. So why dost thou protest? Be not so narrow minded my friends...
Rabia
#86 Posted by samirfs on August 26, 2005 4:44:05 pm
Re: # 79
{Hairaan Hoon kay Ro`oon ya Peetoon Jigar Ko main
Maqdoor ho to saath aik NohaaGar ko Rukhoon Main..}
I am not sure if this a compliment or a reprimand?
- SS
{Hairaan Hoon kay Ro`oon ya Peetoon Jigar Ko main
Maqdoor ho to saath aik NohaaGar ko Rukhoon Main..}
I am not sure if this a compliment or a reprimand?
- SS
#85 Posted by Raw_Dust on August 26, 2005 3:12:35 pm
re#83:
look at this from the article itself ``On the one hand, we are mothers, daughters, and sisters, the most respected beings according to our religion;
this can also be taken into account as a subtle attempt at confining women into religously (synonymous to MEN) defined ``ROLES``. The writer is buying this line with a straight face. Hamzaad pointed this out in his #6 and got filtered by chowkstaff.
samirfs: thanks for replying.
look at this from the article itself ``On the one hand, we are mothers, daughters, and sisters, the most respected beings according to our religion;
this can also be taken into account as a subtle attempt at confining women into religously (synonymous to MEN) defined ``ROLES``. The writer is buying this line with a straight face. Hamzaad pointed this out in his #6 and got filtered by chowkstaff.
samirfs: thanks for replying.
#84 Posted by samirfs on August 26, 2005 3:06:16 pm
Re: # 81
hahahaha, I am the right person to ask that question, because that is a part of my profession!!! We are still finding solutions for problems like these in urban areas throughout the world, but till now we have come up with a few solutions. traffic management in cities is a very vast topic and cannot be summed up in a few lines ..... since it is connected to so many other factors .... that everything needs to be looked at in a broader perspective first ........ hmmmm..... sounds familiar?
Allright here are some basic things we can do to solve the problem you state ......(but I am afraid, this will lead us onto a tangent all together and start a new topic for discussion):
1. Impose fines (connected to the assumption that traffic police won`t take bribes)
2. Look at the traffic system of the city as a whole and try to see if we can reduce grid-lock and jams to ease the traffic. More easier traffic, make people follow the rules better.
3. Have clear signs and make driving and licensing a very serious issue. Like repeal licence after three warnings .......... sending them back to traffic schools, etc.
4. Fir and fore-most spruce up the trafic management sysstem and training of cops before it can be implemented. Like proper striping of roads, well coordinated traffic lights,etc.
5. One radical idea proposed by someone was to do away with traffic lights altogether, because it was found that street intersections where there were no traffic lights had lesser accidents than intersections that had traffic lights.
6. Design roadways and streets that are more firendly to drivers and provide nice wide sidewalks for pedestrians. Because the cities in ancient South Asia grew organically without any central planners and were not designed for motor vehicles, but for bullock carts and walking. American cities on the other hand were specifically designed with the motor vehicle in mind. But you have many traffic violations there too.
7 .there are variousother techniques of traffic calming and I will be glad to discuss those with you.
It`s a very deep subject and encompasses the whole field of city planning and urban planning.
I could have gone into the psychology of the mindset of the drivers and stuff like that ......... but you specifically told me to stay away from all that .....
- Samir Shaikh
hahahaha, I am the right person to ask that question, because that is a part of my profession!!! We are still finding solutions for problems like these in urban areas throughout the world, but till now we have come up with a few solutions. traffic management in cities is a very vast topic and cannot be summed up in a few lines ..... since it is connected to so many other factors .... that everything needs to be looked at in a broader perspective first ........ hmmmm..... sounds familiar?
Allright here are some basic things we can do to solve the problem you state ......(but I am afraid, this will lead us onto a tangent all together and start a new topic for discussion):
1. Impose fines (connected to the assumption that traffic police won`t take bribes)
2. Look at the traffic system of the city as a whole and try to see if we can reduce grid-lock and jams to ease the traffic. More easier traffic, make people follow the rules better.
3. Have clear signs and make driving and licensing a very serious issue. Like repeal licence after three warnings .......... sending them back to traffic schools, etc.
4. Fir and fore-most spruce up the trafic management sysstem and training of cops before it can be implemented. Like proper striping of roads, well coordinated traffic lights,etc.
5. One radical idea proposed by someone was to do away with traffic lights altogether, because it was found that street intersections where there were no traffic lights had lesser accidents than intersections that had traffic lights.
6. Design roadways and streets that are more firendly to drivers and provide nice wide sidewalks for pedestrians. Because the cities in ancient South Asia grew organically without any central planners and were not designed for motor vehicles, but for bullock carts and walking. American cities on the other hand were specifically designed with the motor vehicle in mind. But you have many traffic violations there too.
7 .there are variousother techniques of traffic calming and I will be glad to discuss those with you.
It`s a very deep subject and encompasses the whole field of city planning and urban planning.
I could have gone into the psychology of the mindset of the drivers and stuff like that ......... but you specifically told me to stay away from all that .....
- Samir Shaikh
#83 Posted by kaurasach on August 26, 2005 2:58:45 pm
Symbols like purdah, mangal sutar, rakhi, ghund kadna, etc. are meaningless rituals to confine or subjugate....practising or not of these symbols does not necessarily brings about respect or protection.
as i said earlier charcter of a society shouuld be modest
as i said earlier charcter of a society shouuld be modest
#82 Posted by samirfs on August 26, 2005 2:41:47 pm
Re: # 79
Modesty is definitely a personal issue and varies from person to person. Then what is universal in that? ;
#1. The basic intrinsic nature of man.
It`s personal in the way that how much you let your sensibility allow the intrusion upon your self-image. If you want zero intrusion whatsoever ..... hide yourself away. Next is wearing an attire from head to toe, and the intrusion level increases from there. And if you don`t care about any intrusion whatsoever, you may roam about naked on the streets. There is nothing wrong in the different levels of modesty, if it balances out with the other factors of the society, because everything is inter-related. But if the society demands (the ``society`` and ``culture``, mind you .... not the clerics) demand a more modest or less modest attire, then you should respect that.
In varying the levels of modesty, the only person to be affected will be the person himself/herself ............. that`s how modesty is a personal issue and global at the same time.
- Samir Shaikh
Modesty is definitely a personal issue and varies from person to person. Then what is universal in that? ;
#1. The basic intrinsic nature of man.
It`s personal in the way that how much you let your sensibility allow the intrusion upon your self-image. If you want zero intrusion whatsoever ..... hide yourself away. Next is wearing an attire from head to toe, and the intrusion level increases from there. And if you don`t care about any intrusion whatsoever, you may roam about naked on the streets. There is nothing wrong in the different levels of modesty, if it balances out with the other factors of the society, because everything is inter-related. But if the society demands (the ``society`` and ``culture``, mind you .... not the clerics) demand a more modest or less modest attire, then you should respect that.
In varying the levels of modesty, the only person to be affected will be the person himself/herself ............. that`s how modesty is a personal issue and global at the same time.
- Samir Shaikh
#81 Posted by temporal on August 26, 2005 1:48:49 pm
samir sahib various posts:
you are far far out of us ordinary mortal’s temporal reach
please take some time to ponder and answer this query
how’d you propose to educate an average desi man to obey the traffic signs and out of sheer consideration for me please do not mention religion and god in your proposed solution…a k-i-s formula appraoch would be fine
once we achieve this miracle, we can move on till we inculcate a respect for all women ...
rgds
t
you are far far out of us ordinary mortal’s temporal reach
please take some time to ponder and answer this query
how’d you propose to educate an average desi man to obey the traffic signs and out of sheer consideration for me please do not mention religion and god in your proposed solution…a k-i-s formula appraoch would be fine
once we achieve this miracle, we can move on till we inculcate a respect for all women ...
rgds
t
#80 Posted by samirfs on August 26, 2005 1:01:44 pm
Re: # 76
Miriam,
I am sorry, I mis-read your post a bit.
{i think what will prevent women from being mistreated and abused is much larger than attire. it is a re-education and/or re-socialization of men}
Agreed. In the case of Pakistan, especially.
You presented a solution ... I was presenting the validity and relevance of modest attire.
I do not disagree with your idea of re-education and/or re-socialization of men. But unless we are sure we know what to teach them, how can we proceed? To re-educate them, we need to understand their intrinsic nature that God Himself has bestowed upon them. We can definitely teach them to be more civil and respctful. ........... But Wait a minute!!! Doesn`t the Quran already prescribe ways for this? About how a man should behave in front of other women?
This is what the Quran does:
1. Understand the intrinsic nature of man correctly.
2.Prescribe ways for women to protect their self-image from intrusions of evil thoughts and actions.
3. Prescribe ways for men how to treat women and conduct themselves in front of them.
Worth a thought, ain`t it?
- SS
Miriam,
I am sorry, I mis-read your post a bit.
{i think what will prevent women from being mistreated and abused is much larger than attire. it is a re-education and/or re-socialization of men}
Agreed. In the case of Pakistan, especially.
You presented a solution ... I was presenting the validity and relevance of modest attire.
I do not disagree with your idea of re-education and/or re-socialization of men. But unless we are sure we know what to teach them, how can we proceed? To re-educate them, we need to understand their intrinsic nature that God Himself has bestowed upon them. We can definitely teach them to be more civil and respctful. ........... But Wait a minute!!! Doesn`t the Quran already prescribe ways for this? About how a man should behave in front of other women?
This is what the Quran does:
1. Understand the intrinsic nature of man correctly.
2.Prescribe ways for women to protect their self-image from intrusions of evil thoughts and actions.
3. Prescribe ways for men how to treat women and conduct themselves in front of them.
Worth a thought, ain`t it?
- SS
#79 Posted by Raw_Dust on August 26, 2005 12:59:47 pm
samirfs:
and how modesty is not a personal notion? and if not then WHO globally defines it?
i read your posts and then looked at the list of authors you have had on your page.. and you know what Ghalib chacha came to my mind
Hairaan Hoon kay Ro`oon ya Peetoon Jigar Ko main
Maqdoor ho to saath aik NohaaGar ko Rukhoon Main..
and how modesty is not a personal notion? and if not then WHO globally defines it?
i read your posts and then looked at the list of authors you have had on your page.. and you know what Ghalib chacha came to my mind
Hairaan Hoon kay Ro`oon ya Peetoon Jigar Ko main
Maqdoor ho to saath aik NohaaGar ko Rukhoon Main..
#78 Posted by samirfs on August 26, 2005 12:34:44 pm
Re: # 76
You are deviating from the argument a bit, here ..... Education and Modesty ...hmmm.
According to me they are not separate issues but inter-related. If you have high education, but not understood the concept of modesty (in attire and demeanour)...... you have failed your education. On the other hand, mere modest attire without the right education is useless. So according to me, botht he isues are impotant and none supercedes the other, they should go hand in hand.
- SS
You are deviating from the argument a bit, here ..... Education and Modesty ...hmmm.
According to me they are not separate issues but inter-related. If you have high education, but not understood the concept of modesty (in attire and demeanour)...... you have failed your education. On the other hand, mere modest attire without the right education is useless. So according to me, botht he isues are impotant and none supercedes the other, they should go hand in hand.
- SS
#77 Posted by temporal on August 26, 2005 12:31:34 pm
#75 and & 76
modesty of dress is rampant there
that seems to have zilch effect in bazzars and mohallas
re education and de-programming is needed on a scale that is impractical to deliver for now
yours ( miriam) is a cry in the wilderness
modesty of dress is rampant there
that seems to have zilch effect in bazzars and mohallas
re education and de-programming is needed on a scale that is impractical to deliver for now
yours ( miriam) is a cry in the wilderness
#76 Posted by miriamk on August 26, 2005 12:26:05 pm
samir:
re #75
But making sure that you are modestly dressed will reduce the chances of majority of the women being mistreated/ abused
not to belabor the point but do you think that dressing modestly for pakistani and other muslim women has achieved what you suggest in the above sentence?
i think what will prevent women from being mistreated and abused is much larger than attire. it is a re-education and/or re-socialization of men.
m
re #75
But making sure that you are modestly dressed will reduce the chances of majority of the women being mistreated/ abused
not to belabor the point but do you think that dressing modestly for pakistani and other muslim women has achieved what you suggest in the above sentence?
i think what will prevent women from being mistreated and abused is much larger than attire. it is a re-education and/or re-socialization of men.
m
#75 Posted by samirfs on August 26, 2005 12:15:09 pm
Re: # 71
#70 Amrita, #71 Miriam,
Those are very valid points that you brought up, and I agree with my heart and soul. But I was just wondering, aren`t we talking of two separate things here?
My argument:
True. No matter how modestly you dress or act, you can never be safe from a few men who are intrinsically evil by nature. But those are exceptions.
But making sure that you are modestly dressed will reduce the chances of majority of the women being mistreated/ abused. There is no deep philosophy to it, no fundaes, just plain simple logic and common sense. A brief study of statistics and probability in mathematics will make things clearer.
And believe me, any man, no matter how pure in thought and action, when he sees an exposed part of a female`s body, has sexual feelings directed towards her in varying proportions and degrees. That is a hard and brutal fact. If a man denies those feelings, he is definitely lying. He may not take any action or pass a lewd comment ........ but the thought is there ........ definitely there. Now, it`s a matter of sensibilities and intrinsic values about how much of a trangession you want on your self-image? Whether thoughts directed at you is OK or not .... or you are aggravated only when someone physically attacks your personality. It`s a matter of sensibilities.
- SS
#70 Amrita, #71 Miriam,
Those are very valid points that you brought up, and I agree with my heart and soul. But I was just wondering, aren`t we talking of two separate things here?
My argument:
True. No matter how modestly you dress or act, you can never be safe from a few men who are intrinsically evil by nature. But those are exceptions.
But making sure that you are modestly dressed will reduce the chances of majority of the women being mistreated/ abused. There is no deep philosophy to it, no fundaes, just plain simple logic and common sense. A brief study of statistics and probability in mathematics will make things clearer.
And believe me, any man, no matter how pure in thought and action, when he sees an exposed part of a female`s body, has sexual feelings directed towards her in varying proportions and degrees. That is a hard and brutal fact. If a man denies those feelings, he is definitely lying. He may not take any action or pass a lewd comment ........ but the thought is there ........ definitely there. Now, it`s a matter of sensibilities and intrinsic values about how much of a trangession you want on your self-image? Whether thoughts directed at you is OK or not .... or you are aggravated only when someone physically attacks your personality. It`s a matter of sensibilities.
- SS
#74 Posted by mannu404 on August 26, 2005 12:00:09 pm
{``Apparently a man came up to her as she was visiting a loved one’s grave and began to harangue her for being in the cemetery.
“But what was wrong with it? What was he upset about?”
“He told me that women shouldn’t be in graveyards.” ``}
Bina,
Is it possible that because women are a symbol of ``life,`` that there is some ancient, pagan, feritlity-related taboo against their going to graveyards - symbols of ``death?``
Salim
“But what was wrong with it? What was he upset about?”
“He told me that women shouldn’t be in graveyards.” ``}
Bina,
Is it possible that because women are a symbol of ``life,`` that there is some ancient, pagan, feritlity-related taboo against their going to graveyards - symbols of ``death?``
Salim
#73 Posted by mannu404 on August 26, 2005 11:57:25 am
#71, miriamk {``my point (#50) was that a woman’s modest attire or demeanor does little to deter the base nature/intentions of some men.``}
That`s right! When at the beach, I usually concentrate on building my sandcastles. It makes no difference whether they are wearing burqas, skirts, jeans, shorts, bikinis, thongs, or flosses. As most men will testify, the short skirts or the thongy thingies are not alluring at all. If you place a huge square box and write ``Caution: Female Inside`` we will go crazy circling that cube for an opening. :)
Salim
That`s right! When at the beach, I usually concentrate on building my sandcastles. It makes no difference whether they are wearing burqas, skirts, jeans, shorts, bikinis, thongs, or flosses. As most men will testify, the short skirts or the thongy thingies are not alluring at all. If you place a huge square box and write ``Caution: Female Inside`` we will go crazy circling that cube for an opening. :)
Salim
#72 Posted by mannu404 on August 26, 2005 11:56:18 am
#71, miriamk {``my point (#50) was that a woman’s modest attire or demeanor does little to deter the base nature/intentions of some men.``}
That`s right! When at the beach, I usually concentrate on building my sandcastles. It makes no difference whether they are wearing burqas, skirts, jeans, shorts, bikinis, thongs, or flosses. As most men will testify, the short skirts or the thongy thingies are not alluring at all. If you place a huge square box and write ``Caution: Female Inside`` we will go crazy circling that cube for an opening. :)
Salim
That`s right! When at the beach, I usually concentrate on building my sandcastles. It makes no difference whether they are wearing burqas, skirts, jeans, shorts, bikinis, thongs, or flosses. As most men will testify, the short skirts or the thongy thingies are not alluring at all. If you place a huge square box and write ``Caution: Female Inside`` we will go crazy circling that cube for an opening. :)
Salim
#71 Posted by miriamk on August 26, 2005 11:42:33 am
samirfs:
#63
my point (#50) was that a woman’s modest attire or demeanor does little to deter the base nature/intentions of some men. women clad in shalwaar-kameez and dupatta (a modest attire by any standards) in pakistan have to dodge being groped in the streets.
men who don’t respect women will not do so even if women adopt modesty (both literal and figurative).
#66
i live in the U.S also, and i’m all for modesty as long as it’s exercised as a personal choice. the lewd comments you refer to are made by men who don’t respect women period. a woman could wear an oversized sweat shirt and she still wouldn’t gain their respect.
a woman being viewed as a sex-object is not a factor of modesty. it is a mindset of certain men, which a change of clothes or demeanor by the woman cannot alter. the lewd comments are just an avenue through which this mindset manifests itself.
m
#63
my point (#50) was that a woman’s modest attire or demeanor does little to deter the base nature/intentions of some men. women clad in shalwaar-kameez and dupatta (a modest attire by any standards) in pakistan have to dodge being groped in the streets.
men who don’t respect women will not do so even if women adopt modesty (both literal and figurative).
#66
i live in the U.S also, and i’m all for modesty as long as it’s exercised as a personal choice. the lewd comments you refer to are made by men who don’t respect women period. a woman could wear an oversized sweat shirt and she still wouldn’t gain their respect.
a woman being viewed as a sex-object is not a factor of modesty. it is a mindset of certain men, which a change of clothes or demeanor by the woman cannot alter. the lewd comments are just an avenue through which this mindset manifests itself.
m
#70 Posted by amrita on August 26, 2005 11:42:20 am
samir - i`m prolly catching the wrong end of the stick or maybe even the wrong stick entirely coz i havent read your earlier posts but... as a woman who has lived in multiple cities [and towns] around the world, i have to say that the amount of clothes is not the issue nor is modesty the issue when it comes to the kind of behavior you`re talking about.
men harrass women on the streets, pass personal comments, issue invites/ siuggestions/ innuendos, because 1) they feel like it 2) they feel it is acceptable 3) their immdiate society condones it. on the whole, harassment of women is not justified in any society [this is a generalization but fairly valid] whether you are on the subcontinent or in the states. but in several communities it is expected that the man will behave ``like a man``.
i remember being 12 and folowed down the street by a bunch of men in their 30s in my hometown and i was wearing a frock and no curves at all. another lady, perhaps on this site i dont remember, described being harassed while dressed in a burqa. justthe other day a desi uncle followed me out of the subway asking me ``for coffee`` - i was wearing a pair of jeans and a sleeveless top, not even a camisole but a proper top - maybe he had an arm fetish.
point is, clothes have less to do with what men feel about women than a whole lot of other things. maybe its time we started thinking about how we`re bringing up our litltle boys rather than telling the little girls to watch out for em.
men harrass women on the streets, pass personal comments, issue invites/ siuggestions/ innuendos, because 1) they feel like it 2) they feel it is acceptable 3) their immdiate society condones it. on the whole, harassment of women is not justified in any society [this is a generalization but fairly valid] whether you are on the subcontinent or in the states. but in several communities it is expected that the man will behave ``like a man``.
i remember being 12 and folowed down the street by a bunch of men in their 30s in my hometown and i was wearing a frock and no curves at all. another lady, perhaps on this site i dont remember, described being harassed while dressed in a burqa. justthe other day a desi uncle followed me out of the subway asking me ``for coffee`` - i was wearing a pair of jeans and a sleeveless top, not even a camisole but a proper top - maybe he had an arm fetish.
point is, clothes have less to do with what men feel about women than a whole lot of other things. maybe its time we started thinking about how we`re bringing up our litltle boys rather than telling the little girls to watch out for em.
#69 Posted by mannu404 on August 26, 2005 11:41:01 am
But there must be a distinction between women`s rights and the ghastly nightmare of feminazism. Uniforms can be tolerated, but SS Gestapo units cannot be allowed. My point is that once women (all women) have attained their basic rights, they cannot swing back and forth between the world of empowerment and the cushion of feminine license. No more ``I am the poor, weaker sex, I can dish it out, but God help you if you dish it back to me.``
In the US, thank God, we have come much closer to equality without feminazism. It took a long time, but we are getting there. I have heard a lot about the bra-burnin, Gloria Steinham types, and the abnoxious females of the late 60s and 70s. Paki men, you don`t know what you are up against if the Mullahs fail. :)
Thanks,
Salim
In the US, thank God, we have come much closer to equality without feminazism. It took a long time, but we are getting there. I have heard a lot about the bra-burnin, Gloria Steinham types, and the abnoxious females of the late 60s and 70s. Paki men, you don`t know what you are up against if the Mullahs fail. :)
Thanks,
Salim
#68 Posted by mannu404 on August 26, 2005 11:33:03 am
Bina,
Excellent article and a good sattire on segregation - it is not too far-fetched. Let`s hope it never comes to this in Pakistan or anywhere else. That is exactly why I support the US effort in removing the Tally Bans from Afghanistan.
As for the lot of women in Pakistan, I tend to find some rationale in Romair`s last paragraph of his post #24:
{``There is one group of women that does have it relatively well. And that is the upper class and perhaps even upper-middle class women. In some ways they are worse off than men but in some ways they are better off than men, also. This is the group, which should take the leadership positions to make things better for all women. However, this has been lacking. This group has the resources and in many cases the support to make a difference. But very few out of them seem to have the motivation. In this regard, I have found Indian girls to be far more active and motivated...........``}
We all agree, at least I hope we do, that education, health, employment, freedom of movement and expression, freedom to choose one`s lifestyle, partner, and yes even sexual preference are basic, inalienable rights for ALL human beings. This includes male, female, Muslim, non-Muslim, and yes Hindus, Sikhs, Ahmedis, Shias and Ismailis. So, the restrictions on females, or any other type of human being, cannot be tolerated in this day and age. There are some items that don`t even merit any discussion anymore - slavery, genocide, suppression of women`s rights, human sacrifice, and suppression of free speech.
Now what to do about it? That`s exactly where Romair`s point comes in. Those fortunate enough to have these rights are the ones who need to exert themselves, so that those who are denied these rights obtain them quickly, fairly, and permanently.
Peace,
Salim
Excellent article and a good sattire on segregation - it is not too far-fetched. Let`s hope it never comes to this in Pakistan or anywhere else. That is exactly why I support the US effort in removing the Tally Bans from Afghanistan.
As for the lot of women in Pakistan, I tend to find some rationale in Romair`s last paragraph of his post #24:
{``There is one group of women that does have it relatively well. And that is the upper class and perhaps even upper-middle class women. In some ways they are worse off than men but in some ways they are better off than men, also. This is the group, which should take the leadership positions to make things better for all women. However, this has been lacking. This group has the resources and in many cases the support to make a difference. But very few out of them seem to have the motivation. In this regard, I have found Indian girls to be far more active and motivated...........``}
We all agree, at least I hope we do, that education, health, employment, freedom of movement and expression, freedom to choose one`s lifestyle, partner, and yes even sexual preference are basic, inalienable rights for ALL human beings. This includes male, female, Muslim, non-Muslim, and yes Hindus, Sikhs, Ahmedis, Shias and Ismailis. So, the restrictions on females, or any other type of human being, cannot be tolerated in this day and age. There are some items that don`t even merit any discussion anymore - slavery, genocide, suppression of women`s rights, human sacrifice, and suppression of free speech.
Now what to do about it? That`s exactly where Romair`s point comes in. Those fortunate enough to have these rights are the ones who need to exert themselves, so that those who are denied these rights obtain them quickly, fairly, and permanently.
Peace,
Salim
#67 Posted by mannu404 on August 26, 2005 11:15:34 am
ranjit #26, {``I have a suggestion for the wahabi, sunni fundos of Pakistan. Please go for the ultimate purfication of your country and just kill all your women.``}
Ranjit Bhai,
I have to be fair in my criticism. What you are suggesting to Pakis is already happening in high-tech India - thanks to the female infanticide as a result of sonograms and selective abortions. I hope that silly practice is stopped quickly.
Thanks,
Salim
Ranjit Bhai,
I have to be fair in my criticism. What you are suggesting to Pakis is already happening in high-tech India - thanks to the female infanticide as a result of sonograms and selective abortions. I hope that silly practice is stopped quickly.
Thanks,
Salim
#66 Posted by samirfs on August 26, 2005 11:13:32 am
Re: # 50
Forget about Islam, forget about Pakistan, forget the mullahs ..... and then let me know your opinion about modesty. Not from any religious point of view, not from any gender point of view. Forget even what I said or wrote. Across cultures and nations ........ I live in the USA, considered the most advanced in terms of personal freedom. And is wel known for women dressing up scantily. They have been doing this for years now. It`s a part of their accepted culture now. Everybody should have got used to the female body by now. But I still hear, innumerable times, in innumerable places, lewd comments, or at least passing remarks, and ``glances`` at the ``freely`` dressed female, from teenagers to senile men nearing their death beds. A very matter-of-fact and practical observation I made. I guess people who are out-right against hijab, women or men, see nothing wrong in this kind of relationship between a man and a woman. It troubles me a lot.
-SS
Forget about Islam, forget about Pakistan, forget the mullahs ..... and then let me know your opinion about modesty. Not from any religious point of view, not from any gender point of view. Forget even what I said or wrote. Across cultures and nations ........ I live in the USA, considered the most advanced in terms of personal freedom. And is wel known for women dressing up scantily. They have been doing this for years now. It`s a part of their accepted culture now. Everybody should have got used to the female body by now. But I still hear, innumerable times, in innumerable places, lewd comments, or at least passing remarks, and ``glances`` at the ``freely`` dressed female, from teenagers to senile men nearing their death beds. A very matter-of-fact and practical observation I made. I guess people who are out-right against hijab, women or men, see nothing wrong in this kind of relationship between a man and a woman. It troubles me a lot.
-SS
#65 Posted by stuka on August 26, 2005 10:49:45 am
`` gentleman acquaintance once told me that if I wore a hijab my sex appeal would shoot up...what these men won`t do to market their shackles... ``
Hmm, Hijab and bikinis...sounds pretty cool ;)
Hmm, Hijab and bikinis...sounds pretty cool ;)
#64 Posted by amrita on August 26, 2005 10:19:24 am
hey Bina, this was a really great read. I was reading the reviews of this art house flick a few weeks ago - Matribhoomi [Motherland], A Nation Without Women. it sounded a little too violent for me to just walk in and watch so I`m saving it for a day when i can face up to it, but it addresses a number of things you mention in your article.
one of the things that`s always struck me about situations like these, whether matribhoomi or margaret atwood, is the sheer violent nature of the societies thus affected. there seems to be something harder, less civilized in a way about societies that have ceased to listen to their feminie side.
anyhow, keep them coming...
one of the things that`s always struck me about situations like these, whether matribhoomi or margaret atwood, is the sheer violent nature of the societies thus affected. there seems to be something harder, less civilized in a way about societies that have ceased to listen to their feminie side.
anyhow, keep them coming...
#63 Posted by samirfs on August 26, 2005 9:56:47 am
Re: # 50
Miriam bi,
You read my post and picked all that was insignificant to discuss ........
In real space and time, I treat all women with high respect and regard, no matter how they dress or how they speak. But I was projecting, not my situation, but of millions of men across the globe. The men you know must definitely be the best of men, but what about the men you don`t know?
{so, let me get this straight. you as a man are unable to control your base instincts. therefore, it becomes incumbent on every woman out there to do it for you by covering herself. isn’t that the same argument employed to keep women from occupying public spaces?}
I never talked about a burqa, a hijab, or a veil anytime in my posts. You will never understand my concept of a hijab without a hijab. So I will not even attempt to explain to you. The other girl in my story wasn`t wearing one ... I write about not even recalling what she was wearing. And specifically mention that she was not wearing a burqa or a hijab. In my idea, if you don`t have a hijab over your modesty, no amount of ``pardas`` can conceal a woman`s shamelessness.
Finally all I can say in an attempt to explain my point is that I make it a point, when in public to have a veil of modesty over my demeanour (which manifests itself in the way I dress, talk, and act), and I think I command respect from most I meet. Now I am not against women dressing inappropriately in public or uncovering their modesty............. I never said that. All I am saying is ........ This is what happens out there.......... If women are OK with it ......... what do I care? I am not a Mullah. Who am I to say what to wear to whom. I just related plain practical, age-old facts .......... as bare, and natural as they can get. Like you mentioned about knowing men who are have no ill-meaning thoughts when they see a woman inappropriately dressed ..... I know men like that too (self included), and I know men who are like ``me in the anecdote``. I know women who don`t have a problem being perceived as sex symbols......... and I know women who have a problem of being perceived as sex symbols and take practical measures to see that they are perceived in the right light.
- SS
Miriam bi,
You read my post and picked all that was insignificant to discuss ........
In real space and time, I treat all women with high respect and regard, no matter how they dress or how they speak. But I was projecting, not my situation, but of millions of men across the globe. The men you know must definitely be the best of men, but what about the men you don`t know?
{so, let me get this straight. you as a man are unable to control your base instincts. therefore, it becomes incumbent on every woman out there to do it for you by covering herself. isn’t that the same argument employed to keep women from occupying public spaces?}
I never talked about a burqa, a hijab, or a veil anytime in my posts. You will never understand my concept of a hijab without a hijab. So I will not even attempt to explain to you. The other girl in my story wasn`t wearing one ... I write about not even recalling what she was wearing. And specifically mention that she was not wearing a burqa or a hijab. In my idea, if you don`t have a hijab over your modesty, no amount of ``pardas`` can conceal a woman`s shamelessness.
Finally all I can say in an attempt to explain my point is that I make it a point, when in public to have a veil of modesty over my demeanour (which manifests itself in the way I dress, talk, and act), and I think I command respect from most I meet. Now I am not against women dressing inappropriately in public or uncovering their modesty............. I never said that. All I am saying is ........ This is what happens out there.......... If women are OK with it ......... what do I care? I am not a Mullah. Who am I to say what to wear to whom. I just related plain practical, age-old facts .......... as bare, and natural as they can get. Like you mentioned about knowing men who are have no ill-meaning thoughts when they see a woman inappropriately dressed ..... I know men like that too (self included), and I know men who are like ``me in the anecdote``. I know women who don`t have a problem being perceived as sex symbols......... and I know women who have a problem of being perceived as sex symbols and take practical measures to see that they are perceived in the right light.
- SS
#62 Posted by Romair on August 26, 2005 9:47:31 am
Just like rape isn`t a crime of sex, but a crime of power, similarly suppression of women isn`t a crime of religion (or anything else). It is a crime of power, also. It is a social desire of strong groups trying to dominate others, thereby, getting a bigger piece of the pie for themselves. They will, thus, use anything to suppress anyone in a weaker position. Those who have access to land will use that. Those with access to religion will use that. And those with access to money will use that.
The solution, thus, isn`t in the disbanding of the arenas people use to suppress women. Just like the solution to rape doesn`t lie in banning sex or castrating all the males in the society. Nor does the solution to honor killings lie in shooting all the feudal Assembly members and land owners who, as a combined feudal group, never allow any legislation agianst it. Similarly, the solution to women`s suppression isn`t banning religion or shaving the maulvis.
The solution lies in empowering individuals who are victims of such crimes, to a point where they can hold their own against anyone suppressing them, in any sphere. The best way to do that is to get women to a point where they are the ones who make the decisions about what is specifically related to women.
In such a system, within the context of Pakistan, religiously conservative women can debate with liberal women on how women should dress, behave etc. There is nothing wrong with such a debate. If they decided they should wear burqas. Fine. If they decide they should wear bikinis. Fine. Similarly, within the US context, pro-life and pro-choice women can debate amongst themselves on abortion. At the moment, these decisions are made by an overwhelmingly set of male representatives.
The solution, thus, isn`t in the disbanding of the arenas people use to suppress women. Just like the solution to rape doesn`t lie in banning sex or castrating all the males in the society. Nor does the solution to honor killings lie in shooting all the feudal Assembly members and land owners who, as a combined feudal group, never allow any legislation agianst it. Similarly, the solution to women`s suppression isn`t banning religion or shaving the maulvis.
The solution lies in empowering individuals who are victims of such crimes, to a point where they can hold their own against anyone suppressing them, in any sphere. The best way to do that is to get women to a point where they are the ones who make the decisions about what is specifically related to women.
In such a system, within the context of Pakistan, religiously conservative women can debate with liberal women on how women should dress, behave etc. There is nothing wrong with such a debate. If they decided they should wear burqas. Fine. If they decide they should wear bikinis. Fine. Similarly, within the US context, pro-life and pro-choice women can debate amongst themselves on abortion. At the moment, these decisions are made by an overwhelmingly set of male representatives.
#61 Posted by temporal on August 26, 2005 9:06:46 am
miriam:
kyun tung karti hO?
****
digressons
there is no law
there is no order
there is no god
there is no ... well you get the drift
there is only army
and occupying army
la ilaha il lal army.. wal mushy jurnail al army
anyone who subscribes to this kalima can work miracles in pakistan
others can post diatribes like this on chowk
lve
t
kyun tung karti hO?
****
digressons
there is no law
there is no order
there is no god
there is no ... well you get the drift
there is only army
and occupying army
la ilaha il lal army.. wal mushy jurnail al army
anyone who subscribes to this kalima can work miracles in pakistan
others can post diatribes like this on chowk
lve
t
#60 Posted by Romair on August 26, 2005 8:47:06 am
Keeping in mind the feudal and conservatively religious environment in Pakistan, and what can and cannot be done, the following simple laws would go a long way in liberating and empowering women.......
1. A complete ban on labor of females of school-going age in feudal areas, i.e. no girl under the age of 22 (or so) will allowed to work in the fields
2. Free schooling for all such girls in feudal areas. Any landowner who disallows this on his land, will be prosecuted
3. All family law court cases will be decided by female judges
4. Any purchase of a house/loan will, by law, require the wife to be a co-signer, i.e. she gets half the house as in Canada
5. If religious interpretation of laws, related to women is (or has or must - chose your favorite preposition) to be done, it will be done by a group consisting solely of women
These are the things which will liberate women. Wearing or not wearing hijabs, fashion shows, sleeveless shirts etc. are all well and good. But dress is really not related to liberalism..........
1. A complete ban on labor of females of school-going age in feudal areas, i.e. no girl under the age of 22 (or so) will allowed to work in the fields
2. Free schooling for all such girls in feudal areas. Any landowner who disallows this on his land, will be prosecuted
3. All family law court cases will be decided by female judges
4. Any purchase of a house/loan will, by law, require the wife to be a co-signer, i.e. she gets half the house as in Canada
5. If religious interpretation of laws, related to women is (or has or must - chose your favorite preposition) to be done, it will be done by a group consisting solely of women
These are the things which will liberate women. Wearing or not wearing hijabs, fashion shows, sleeveless shirts etc. are all well and good. But dress is really not related to liberalism..........
#59 Posted by miriamk on August 26, 2005 8:39:32 am
kaal ji:
#51
you are indeed correct. islam doesn’t have to be present for women to be complicit in their own demise. it can happen in any religion. in fact i’d go one step further and say that religion doesn’t have to be a factor at all. women competing against women is ever present in corporate america. unless of course we say that the idea of a “man’s world” even in its ostensibly secular guises originally stems from organized religion.
miriam
#51
you are indeed correct. islam doesn’t have to be present for women to be complicit in their own demise. it can happen in any religion. in fact i’d go one step further and say that religion doesn’t have to be a factor at all. women competing against women is ever present in corporate america. unless of course we say that the idea of a “man’s world” even in its ostensibly secular guises originally stems from organized religion.
miriam
#58 Posted by rsridhar on August 26, 2005 8:29:50 am
re: men and hijab
In the west, men and women can be friends. They could even be lovers if they want to. The choice is their`s and personal choices are respected in the west, however queer those choices are. Such choices are not available to most women in the Subcontinent, certainly not to most women in the Islamic world. Therein lies the difference.
The point i was making in my last post was: too much of anything is bad. Too much of freedom in the West is proving to be bad in the social sphere. One good American Cultural value system is Dating. It is a way boys and girls meet and get to know each other and develop respect for each other. But when this becomes a way of having sex (as i am afraid it has), then it has lost its value.
I have advocated that Indians in India should imbibe this American value system of dating and so should the Pakis. This does away in one stroke all the inequalities that exist in a society. Imagine if a boy and girl get married (after dating)just because they like each other and not because they belong to a certain class/caste and were forced to mary by their parents. Dating can do to the Indian society what social reformers of the past could not. I am glad that middle class Indians are slowly imbibing this concept.
Sridhar
In the west, men and women can be friends. They could even be lovers if they want to. The choice is their`s and personal choices are respected in the west, however queer those choices are. Such choices are not available to most women in the Subcontinent, certainly not to most women in the Islamic world. Therein lies the difference.
The point i was making in my last post was: too much of anything is bad. Too much of freedom in the West is proving to be bad in the social sphere. One good American Cultural value system is Dating. It is a way boys and girls meet and get to know each other and develop respect for each other. But when this becomes a way of having sex (as i am afraid it has), then it has lost its value.
I have advocated that Indians in India should imbibe this American value system of dating and so should the Pakis. This does away in one stroke all the inequalities that exist in a society. Imagine if a boy and girl get married (after dating)just because they like each other and not because they belong to a certain class/caste and were forced to mary by their parents. Dating can do to the Indian society what social reformers of the past could not. I am glad that middle class Indians are slowly imbibing this concept.
Sridhar
#57 Posted by Romair on August 26, 2005 8:24:22 am
FarzanaVarsey #28: “In what way are they better-off than men? They just possess better camouflage.”
Good question…..
There are some ways in which the elite women, in Pakistan, are better off than men. Though, on the whole, they are still worse off. They are better off in the following areas: they do not have the pressures of earning a living or even getting a education. They can pick and chose what they want to do. They can work if they want and not work if they don’t want. They are provided with a lot of labor at home. There is a cook, a driver, a sweepress, an ayah to look after the kids etc. They just have to order around their staff. They live in a very protected environment till they are married. Assuming they get a decent husband, I would say they have the most comfortable lifestyle of anyone in Pakistan (males included). Far more comfortable than the extremely busy lifestyles of professional women in the West…
My wife has to do nothing when we are in Pakistan…….Everything of hers is looked after…….She has to work 24x7 when we are in the West……. Though she enjoys the added benefit of the West, where she has no cultural pressures on her going out, staying in, dressing in a certain way, etc.….My schedule doesn’t change much, whether I am in Pakistan or here……..
“And why should leadership be a prerogative of the elite, anyway?...It has been my experience that the best change takes place when `key` workers (that is those from one`s own environment) are trained to teach the others from their social/economic class. I have noticed this in rural as well as urban projects I have been involved in.”
You are correct. However, you are thinking of India. The situation of women in Pakistan is quite different. I am basing this on the various interviews I do with Indian candidates and working with them. So I could be off. But I don’t think I am.
The initial leadership for any movement has to be taken by the empowered amongst the group. Martin Luther King was after all a Dr. And Gloria Steinam wasn’t working as a sweepress. They are the only ones who have the room and resources to start something. It is only after they have broken the glass ceilings that, “key” workers can do something.
This is missing in Pakistan. I have seen very very few Pakistani women who are willing to take leadership positions (medicine and teaching being the only exception). Take a cross-section of Indian and Pakistani, “bhabhis” in the West (or in Pakistan). You will see so many of the Indian wives with professional careers. While hardly any Pakistani women will have such a career. Even though, they are from similar economic backgrounds as the Indian girls and have supporting husbands and similar opportunities. At best, most will just write articles, etc. I think it is laziness and a lack of desire to be activist……..
There is, in fact, an interesting and dangerous contradiction developing in Pakistan. The most, “activist” women seem to be appearing from the two groups which at their core are the most harmful to women in Pakistan. Elite conservatively religious women are very active. And elite feudal women are very active.
So the women pushing, “women’s activism” in Pakistan are products and advocates of systems that suppress the most women in Pakistan………This is the biggest long term tragedy for women in Pakistan…....These women will blame each other, but never the and that feeds them.......This, in itself, shows the lack of professional urban women leadership in Pakistan. A leadership that needs to replace both these groups.......A leadership, which probably does exist in India……..So while I generally disagree with most of our Indian colleagues who keep painting India as being way ahead of Pakistan, the one area where India is factually and actually way ahead, is progressive urban women…….
Liberation of women in Pakistan requires three things:
- An end to feudalistic land holdings and mindset. Women are the biggest victims of this. This will liberate the 66% of the Pakistani women who live in rural areas. It will end things like honor killings etc. also
- An end to anti-women Islamic conservatism and mindset. This will liberate the 33% of the women who live in urban areas
- The empowered (hopefully not from feudal or religious class) urban women taking leadership positions in various sectors of the society
P.S. by mindsets, I don’t mean things like burqas and hijabs etc. Clothes do not equate to liberalization. I mean professional, social and economic progress……..
Good question…..
There are some ways in which the elite women, in Pakistan, are better off than men. Though, on the whole, they are still worse off. They are better off in the following areas: they do not have the pressures of earning a living or even getting a education. They can pick and chose what they want to do. They can work if they want and not work if they don’t want. They are provided with a lot of labor at home. There is a cook, a driver, a sweepress, an ayah to look after the kids etc. They just have to order around their staff. They live in a very protected environment till they are married. Assuming they get a decent husband, I would say they have the most comfortable lifestyle of anyone in Pakistan (males included). Far more comfortable than the extremely busy lifestyles of professional women in the West…
My wife has to do nothing when we are in Pakistan…….Everything of hers is looked after…….She has to work 24x7 when we are in the West……. Though she enjoys the added benefit of the West, where she has no cultural pressures on her going out, staying in, dressing in a certain way, etc.….My schedule doesn’t change much, whether I am in Pakistan or here……..
“And why should leadership be a prerogative of the elite, anyway?...It has been my experience that the best change takes place when `key` workers (that is those from one`s own environment) are trained to teach the others from their social/economic class. I have noticed this in rural as well as urban projects I have been involved in.”
You are correct. However, you are thinking of India. The situation of women in Pakistan is quite different. I am basing this on the various interviews I do with Indian candidates and working with them. So I could be off. But I don’t think I am.
The initial leadership for any movement has to be taken by the empowered amongst the group. Martin Luther King was after all a Dr. And Gloria Steinam wasn’t working as a sweepress. They are the only ones who have the room and resources to start something. It is only after they have broken the glass ceilings that, “key” workers can do something.
This is missing in Pakistan. I have seen very very few Pakistani women who are willing to take leadership positions (medicine and teaching being the only exception). Take a cross-section of Indian and Pakistani, “bhabhis” in the West (or in Pakistan). You will see so many of the Indian wives with professional careers. While hardly any Pakistani women will have such a career. Even though, they are from similar economic backgrounds as the Indian girls and have supporting husbands and similar opportunities. At best, most will just write articles, etc. I think it is laziness and a lack of desire to be activist……..
There is, in fact, an interesting and dangerous contradiction developing in Pakistan. The most, “activist” women seem to be appearing from the two groups which at their core are the most harmful to women in Pakistan. Elite conservatively religious women are very active. And elite feudal women are very active.
So the women pushing, “women’s activism” in Pakistan are products and advocates of systems that suppress the most women in Pakistan………This is the biggest long term tragedy for women in Pakistan…....These women will blame each other, but never the and that feeds them.......This, in itself, shows the lack of professional urban women leadership in Pakistan. A leadership that needs to replace both these groups.......A leadership, which probably does exist in India……..So while I generally disagree with most of our Indian colleagues who keep painting India as being way ahead of Pakistan, the one area where India is factually and actually way ahead, is progressive urban women…….
Liberation of women in Pakistan requires three things:
- An end to feudalistic land holdings and mindset. Women are the biggest victims of this. This will liberate the 66% of the Pakistani women who live in rural areas. It will end things like honor killings etc. also
- An end to anti-women Islamic conservatism and mindset. This will liberate the 33% of the women who live in urban areas
- The empowered (hopefully not from feudal or religious class) urban women taking leadership positions in various sectors of the society
P.S. by mindsets, I don’t mean things like burqas and hijabs etc. Clothes do not equate to liberalization. I mean professional, social and economic progress……..
#56 Posted by temporal on August 26, 2005 8:24:05 am
(maaf kiji’aye post thoRi lambi ho ga’ee hay)
rabia # 12:
well said:
The muhala-mullahs in Pakistan are a product of the culture and don`t reflect Islamic values, they just use the religion as a means of control.
and
Anyhow, my basic point was women are and always have been on the short end of the stick. Pakistan is no different than the rest of the world.
…the insidious trend is nothing new…it is human nature to grab power…power tolerates not vacuum…
the dynamics that need to be reexamined are the separation and domination of the religious forces by the state power…(they were joint only till shortly after the prophet’s –(saw) death)…but in a span of over 1500 years since then the political forces have skillfully maneuvered the religion (forces) to serve at their beck…the best the religious forces have to show for in history is as a junior partner…a recent example of this would be the strong alliance between the wahabbis and the saudis … or the tenuous link between the MMA the machiavellian mullahs association and the occupying army...
never in the past 1500 years has the time been right…nor opportunities as available as now for the rigid and reactionary forces to grab (more) power
the near isolation of muslims worldwide…this emerging ghettoisaton of muslims…their (read: yours and mine) inability to stand up and fight regression amidst themselves has only emboldened these reactionary forces to grab more power…
if
if only muslims read
read into their religion and remove the blind spots, remove the blinds from their eyes…they would not be so docilely hoodwinked by these regressive forces that want to push the baby back into the womb
lve
t
rabia # 12:
well said:
The muhala-mullahs in Pakistan are a product of the culture and don`t reflect Islamic values, they just use the religion as a means of control.
and
Anyhow, my basic point was women are and always have been on the short end of the stick. Pakistan is no different than the rest of the world.
…the insidious trend is nothing new…it is human nature to grab power…power tolerates not vacuum…
the dynamics that need to be reexamined are the separation and domination of the religious forces by the state power…(they were joint only till shortly after the prophet’s –(saw) death)…but in a span of over 1500 years since then the political forces have skillfully maneuvered the religion (forces) to serve at their beck…the best the religious forces have to show for in history is as a junior partner…a recent example of this would be the strong alliance between the wahabbis and the saudis … or the tenuous link between the MMA the machiavellian mullahs association and the occupying army...
never in the past 1500 years has the time been right…nor opportunities as available as now for the rigid and reactionary forces to grab (more) power
the near isolation of muslims worldwide…this emerging ghettoisaton of muslims…their (read: yours and mine) inability to stand up and fight regression amidst themselves has only emboldened these reactionary forces to grab more power…
if
if only muslims read
read into their religion and remove the blind spots, remove the blinds from their eyes…they would not be so docilely hoodwinked by these regressive forces that want to push the baby back into the womb
lve
t
#55 Posted by rsridhar on August 26, 2005 8:15:35 am
re:#26 by ranjit
Most of Pakistan is tribal. From what i have read, tribal men in Pak would not miss women if all women were to be exterminated (as u suggest). I am told that pathans of NWFP are comfortable with homosexuality and bestiality. A common joke that is told in that part of the world is that a bird flies over that area with its rear end covered with one wing for fear of the Pathan!
On a more serious note, i do not know what is right. Is it good to be conservative or is it good to be a liberal?
Islamic fundoos are wrong when they force women to wear hijab just because they can`t see them as their equals. At the same time, the much touted women`s freedom in the West has some bad side to it. I see women happily married for many years suddenly getting divorced because husband has probably grown tired of the marriage and goes fishing in greener patures! Then there is the teenage pregnancy, single motherhood etc etc. One wonders where the women`s lib has taken the women in the West. Visitng India recently, i see Indian women falling prey to the same maladies as the western women did in the 60s. The middle class Indian women are breaking loose and they are forging new identities but in the process they are giving up their age old customs which they view as binding them to some steroetypes.
Buddha was right when he advocated the middle path.
Sridhar
Most of Pakistan is tribal. From what i have read, tribal men in Pak would not miss women if all women were to be exterminated (as u suggest). I am told that pathans of NWFP are comfortable with homosexuality and bestiality. A common joke that is told in that part of the world is that a bird flies over that area with its rear end covered with one wing for fear of the Pathan!
On a more serious note, i do not know what is right. Is it good to be conservative or is it good to be a liberal?
Islamic fundoos are wrong when they force women to wear hijab just because they can`t see them as their equals. At the same time, the much touted women`s freedom in the West has some bad side to it. I see women happily married for many years suddenly getting divorced because husband has probably grown tired of the marriage and goes fishing in greener patures! Then there is the teenage pregnancy, single motherhood etc etc. One wonders where the women`s lib has taken the women in the West. Visitng India recently, i see Indian women falling prey to the same maladies as the western women did in the 60s. The middle class Indian women are breaking loose and they are forging new identities but in the process they are giving up their age old customs which they view as binding them to some steroetypes.
Buddha was right when he advocated the middle path.
Sridhar
#54 Posted by patwari on August 26, 2005 7:58:30 am
Imtiaz84 is right and well said ... very nicely put article bina sucg issues need to be debated more and more
#53 Posted by imtiaz84 on August 26, 2005 7:06:44 am
I think as the time progress, the participation of the women has evolved in all sphere of life in Pakistan.You take any university, top scorers are girls, any office whether government or private , you will find women and their number is growing day by day.When It comes to hijab, I do agree with you it is really a discreation not an obligation both in Islam and in society.
#52 Posted by temporal on August 26, 2005 6:55:44 am
binoo:
:)
i smiled….even after articulating this article you had to come back and spell it carefully…I just want to clarify here that I am neither opposed nor in favor of those who want to wear hijab. That is a personal choice and I am all for it. What I was trying to talk about here was the insidious trend towards removing women (or women removing themselves) from the public sphere..
hijab is a fashion statement not a religious one…
lve
t
:)
i smiled….even after articulating this article you had to come back and spell it carefully…I just want to clarify here that I am neither opposed nor in favor of those who want to wear hijab. That is a personal choice and I am all for it. What I was trying to talk about here was the insidious trend towards removing women (or women removing themselves) from the public sphere..
hijab is a fashion statement not a religious one…
lve
t
#51 Posted by KaalChakra on August 26, 2005 6:47:42 am
miriamk
Women become complicit (in all religious travesties, not just in Islam) because in a world organized to serve the interests of men, women who play along with/align themselves with men win big. In such societies women don`t compete with men, they compete with women.
Women become complicit (in all religious travesties, not just in Islam) because in a world organized to serve the interests of men, women who play along with/align themselves with men win big. In such societies women don`t compete with men, they compete with women.
#50 Posted by miriamk on August 26, 2005 6:47:15 am
samirfs:
#30
so, let me get this straight. you as a man are unable to control your base instincts. therefore, it becomes incumbent on every woman out there to do it for you by covering herself. isn’t that the same argument employed to keep women from occupying public spaces?
incidentally, some of the most unevolved of the male species reside in pakland, where women dress in shalwar-kameez and dupatta to boot. no short-skirts or low rise jeans in the equation but the men still manage to showcase their base nature.
i have some news for you. men who do not view women as sex objects and instead respect them as human beings and equals are not perturbed by what they wear. they also don’t use expressions like I could bang them right there and then .... upon seeing a bra strap or thongs. i know some of these lovely men so i can vouch for their existence.
m
#30
so, let me get this straight. you as a man are unable to control your base instincts. therefore, it becomes incumbent on every woman out there to do it for you by covering herself. isn’t that the same argument employed to keep women from occupying public spaces?
incidentally, some of the most unevolved of the male species reside in pakland, where women dress in shalwar-kameez and dupatta to boot. no short-skirts or low rise jeans in the equation but the men still manage to showcase their base nature.
i have some news for you. men who do not view women as sex objects and instead respect them as human beings and equals are not perturbed by what they wear. they also don’t use expressions like I could bang them right there and then .... upon seeing a bra strap or thongs. i know some of these lovely men so i can vouch for their existence.
m
#49 Posted by imtiaz84 on August 26, 2005 6:42:40 am
Dear Bina Shah,
You article above is really a fun to read .Unfortunately, this does not present the true picture of Pakistani society.Exceptions are the part of every society and you can not genralizethese to the whole society.A country where a woman had run the office of Prime Minister not once but twice can not be viewed and judged properly in the light of your article.So please be honest next time when you pick up your pen.
You article above is really a fun to read .Unfortunately, this does not present the true picture of Pakistani society.Exceptions are the part of every society and you can not genralizethese to the whole society.A country where a woman had run the office of Prime Minister not once but twice can not be viewed and judged properly in the light of your article.So please be honest next time when you pick up your pen.
#48 Posted by miriamk on August 26, 2005 6:36:30 am
hamidm:
#17
what’s insidious in this ideology is that it’s an organized behemoth which needs constant feeding to survive. it’s groupthink gone haywire. dismantle the organized component (is that even possible?) and maybe this unholy mess will start to sort itself out.
incidentally, the link you posted on zafar’s board (punishing disobedient wives) is enough to make one heave, and a perfect example of the complicity of some women in perpetuating this travesty.
m
#17
what’s insidious in this ideology is that it’s an organized behemoth which needs constant feeding to survive. it’s groupthink gone haywire. dismantle the organized component (is that even possible?) and maybe this unholy mess will start to sort itself out.
incidentally, the link you posted on zafar’s board (punishing disobedient wives) is enough to make one heave, and a perfect example of the complicity of some women in perpetuating this travesty.
m
#47 Posted by Ally on August 26, 2005 6:23:13 am
Bina Ji,
A very good article raising very valid points. Although i do see rays of hope, with more women joining and fighting to join public life. Thou our society must encourage and facilitate womens` involvement more. Its nice to hear of women Jumbo Jet pilots and fightor plane pilots etc. these are the trailblazers and must be given their due respect.
However, a lot of onus is also on the women in power and positions and welath to help their downtrodden sisters. What many ppl fail to realise is that a woman who has been abused and downtrodden passes that pysche on to her children, male and female thus more generations of affected ppl grow up.
A healthy woman makes for healthy children, a healthy future for every country.
Allah aap ko hamesha bahimmat, bakuvvet, aur khush rakhey, ameen. Issi tarah laRtii rehna, inshAllah ik din porey vatan o millet ko aap ke jadojahid ka phall mille ga.
Rabia
This article if you read it once again is focussing on Pakistan and NOT any other country, it is not the concern of the author or the article to highlight womens issues in the USA, Europe or wherever else, she is concentrating on Pakistani women. Yes, women throughout this world have problems, but the focus here is Pakistani women, and if women throughout the world have it bad does that make it alright for Pakistani women to also have it bad? Why can`t we strive to improve our lot? Why should we resign ourselves to the `if americans have it bad, its ok for us to also` syndrome?
Its never ok, and no nation or people should ever be discouraged by using comparison or any other means, from improving their situation.
A very good article raising very valid points. Although i do see rays of hope, with more women joining and fighting to join public life. Thou our society must encourage and facilitate womens` involvement more. Its nice to hear of women Jumbo Jet pilots and fightor plane pilots etc. these are the trailblazers and must be given their due respect.
However, a lot of onus is also on the women in power and positions and welath to help their downtrodden sisters. What many ppl fail to realise is that a woman who has been abused and downtrodden passes that pysche on to her children, male and female thus more generations of affected ppl grow up.
A healthy woman makes for healthy children, a healthy future for every country.
Allah aap ko hamesha bahimmat, bakuvvet, aur khush rakhey, ameen. Issi tarah laRtii rehna, inshAllah ik din porey vatan o millet ko aap ke jadojahid ka phall mille ga.
Rabia
This article if you read it once again is focussing on Pakistan and NOT any other country, it is not the concern of the author or the article to highlight womens issues in the USA, Europe or wherever else, she is concentrating on Pakistani women. Yes, women throughout this world have problems, but the focus here is Pakistani women, and if women throughout the world have it bad does that make it alright for Pakistani women to also have it bad? Why can`t we strive to improve our lot? Why should we resign ourselves to the `if americans have it bad, its ok for us to also` syndrome?
Its never ok, and no nation or people should ever be discouraged by using comparison or any other means, from improving their situation.
#46 Posted by Ally on August 26, 2005 6:22:40 am
Bina Ji,
A very good article raising very valid points. Although i do see rays of hope, with more women joining and fighting to join public life. Thou our society must encourage and facilitate womens` involvement more. Its nice to hear of women Jumbo Jet pilots and fightor plane pilots etc. these are the trailblazers and must be given their due respect.
However, a lot of onus is also on the women in power and positions and welath to help their downtrodden sisters. What many ppl fail to realise is that a woman who has been abused and downtrodden passes that pysche on to her children, male and female thus more generations of affected ppl grow up.
A healthy woman makes for healthy children, a healthy future for every country.
Allah aap ko hamesha bahimmat, bakuvvet, aur khush rakhey, ameen. Issi tarah laRtii rehna, inshAllah ik din porey vatan o millet ko aap ke jadojahid ka phall mille ga.
Rabia
This article if you read it once again is focussing on Pakistan and NOT any other country, it is not the concern of the author or the article to highlight womens issues in the USA, Europe or wherever else, she is concentrating on Pakistani women. Yes, women throughout this world have problems, but the focus here is Pakistani women, and if women throughout the world have it bad does that make it alright for Pakistani women to also have it bad? Why can`t we strive to improve our lot? Why should we resign ourselves to the `if americans have it bad, its ok for us to also` syndrome?
Its never ok, and no nation or people should ever be discouraged by using comparison or any other means, from improving their situation.
A very good article raising very valid points. Although i do see rays of hope, with more women joining and fighting to join public life. Thou our society must encourage and facilitate womens` involvement more. Its nice to hear of women Jumbo Jet pilots and fightor plane pilots etc. these are the trailblazers and must be given their due respect.
However, a lot of onus is also on the women in power and positions and welath to help their downtrodden sisters. What many ppl fail to realise is that a woman who has been abused and downtrodden passes that pysche on to her children, male and female thus more generations of affected ppl grow up.
A healthy woman makes for healthy children, a healthy future for every country.
Allah aap ko hamesha bahimmat, bakuvvet, aur khush rakhey, ameen. Issi tarah laRtii rehna, inshAllah ik din porey vatan o millet ko aap ke jadojahid ka phall mille ga.
Rabia
This article if you read it once again is focussing on Pakistan and NOT any other country, it is not the concern of the author or the article to highlight womens issues in the USA, Europe or wherever else, she is concentrating on Pakistani women. Yes, women throughout this world have problems, but the focus here is Pakistani women, and if women throughout the world have it bad does that make it alright for Pakistani women to also have it bad? Why can`t we strive to improve our lot? Why should we resign ourselves to the `if americans have it bad, its ok for us to also` syndrome?
Its never ok, and no nation or people should ever be discouraged by using comparison or any other means, from improving their situation.
#45 Posted by jawahara on August 26, 2005 5:10:50 am
Great article, Bina.
The graveyard point really resonated with me. My brother-in-law passed away suddenly, in Bombay, leaving behind my sister and her three young daughters (12, 10 and 8. They were not able to go to the funeral even though now the girls wish they had. It would have given them closure.
Now, after they became teenagers, on birthdays and other occasions or just because...my nieces would go to the graveyard, just to say a fatiha or feel close to their dad whom they adored. Invariably some maulana type would appear and keep harrassing them to leave. Imagine, these were like 16 year old kids trying to be at their father`s grave, emotional and trying to be alone and some idiot is telling them to leave. One man got really irate and threatened to come back with other people and drive them out. A couple of years ago they wanted to do a quran khani for their dad and went to buy some of the separate paaras. The guy was like, ``apney bhai ko bhejo.`` They said they didn`t have a brother. ``To phir apne abba ko.`` He`s dead...that`s the reason we`re here. ``Phir kisee bhi mard ko bhejo.`` All the while the entire shop and people from other shops in the area were clustered around ogling the girls, passing rude comments, etc. Makes me so mad.
Of course, the good thing is that there is no constitutional or legal basis in India for this stuff. Thank God!
The scenario you describe is really vivid and frightening. Thanks for this article, Bina.
The graveyard point really resonated with me. My brother-in-law passed away suddenly, in Bombay, leaving behind my sister and her three young daughters (12, 10 and 8. They were not able to go to the funeral even though now the girls wish they had. It would have given them closure.
Now, after they became teenagers, on birthdays and other occasions or just because...my nieces would go to the graveyard, just to say a fatiha or feel close to their dad whom they adored. Invariably some maulana type would appear and keep harrassing them to leave. Imagine, these were like 16 year old kids trying to be at their father`s grave, emotional and trying to be alone and some idiot is telling them to leave. One man got really irate and threatened to come back with other people and drive them out. A couple of years ago they wanted to do a quran khani for their dad and went to buy some of the separate paaras. The guy was like, ``apney bhai ko bhejo.`` They said they didn`t have a brother. ``To phir apne abba ko.`` He`s dead...that`s the reason we`re here. ``Phir kisee bhi mard ko bhejo.`` All the while the entire shop and people from other shops in the area were clustered around ogling the girls, passing rude comments, etc. Makes me so mad.
Of course, the good thing is that there is no constitutional or legal basis in India for this stuff. Thank God!
The scenario you describe is really vivid and frightening. Thanks for this article, Bina.
#44 Posted by malik99 on August 26, 2005 2:37:20 am
Bina writes ``Ridiculous as the Iron Purdah seems, it just might become a reality if we continue to sleep while our rights as women are slowly taken away from us, one by one.``
Put aside the sensational journalism of ``what it could be if Talibans were to take over``, the reality is that the overall trend in world, and the Muslim world, is towards more awareness for women`s rights.
And besides, why just compare to Taliban? Why not to Iran? If author is indeed a fairminded person, she should also have brought up this fact that ever since Iranian women started observing hijab in public (since 1979), their literacy rate has doubled, their participation in workforce has doubled, a few of them have even made to becoming vice presidents as well. So clearly, ``purdah`` does not seem to have much correlation with iranian women`s progress.
While women of landlord background, like Miss Beena herself, are scaring the heck out of us, the common women in Pakistan have made some real and impressive advances. I have personally seen young scarf clad girls confidently serving as conductors in the night bus between Lahore and Islamabad. I still sometimes think about that mascara wearing scarf wearing waitress who welcomed me in the Pizza Hut of Jinnah Super, Islamabad.
These articles with ``purdah`` ``burkah`` ``hijab`` in titles are a disservice to the REAL women`s REAL issues. These titles tend to blur the real issues by linking every concievable ill to the Islamic concept of hijab. It also subtly castes hijab wearing women in a bad light - as if they were oppressed.
This kind of sensationalism that revolves around a piece of cloth tends to put the major issues behind an iron purdah.
Put aside the sensational journalism of ``what it could be if Talibans were to take over``, the reality is that the overall trend in world, and the Muslim world, is towards more awareness for women`s rights.
And besides, why just compare to Taliban? Why not to Iran? If author is indeed a fairminded person, she should also have brought up this fact that ever since Iranian women started observing hijab in public (since 1979), their literacy rate has doubled, their participation in workforce has doubled, a few of them have even made to becoming vice presidents as well. So clearly, ``purdah`` does not seem to have much correlation with iranian women`s progress.
While women of landlord background, like Miss Beena herself, are scaring the heck out of us, the common women in Pakistan have made some real and impressive advances. I have personally seen young scarf clad girls confidently serving as conductors in the night bus between Lahore and Islamabad. I still sometimes think about that mascara wearing scarf wearing waitress who welcomed me in the Pizza Hut of Jinnah Super, Islamabad.
These articles with ``purdah`` ``burkah`` ``hijab`` in titles are a disservice to the REAL women`s REAL issues. These titles tend to blur the real issues by linking every concievable ill to the Islamic concept of hijab. It also subtly castes hijab wearing women in a bad light - as if they were oppressed.
This kind of sensationalism that revolves around a piece of cloth tends to put the major issues behind an iron purdah.
#43 Posted by KaalChakra on August 26, 2005 2:33:17 am
Too much digression. Sorry, that debate doesn`t belong here on this board, Sheikh Sahib. My mistake.
#42 Posted by KaalChakra on August 26, 2005 2:29:29 am
Samirfs
If you find fundamental differences between Hinduism and Islam, along with fundamental similarities between the two, are you willing to acknowledge them?
If you find fundamental differences between Hinduism and Islam, along with fundamental similarities between the two, are you willing to acknowledge them?
#41 Posted by samirfs on August 26, 2005 2:24:05 am
Re: # 40
Kaalchakra,
{It is time Hinduism and Islam were evaluated on their own merits.}
That will always be the difference between you and me. You will always be on the look out for the differences (un-fundamental), conciously or unconciously.
And I will forever be on the lookout for fundamental similarities, and stay away from non-fundamental stuff.
{My curiosity about sufism springs from the fact that Sufis apprpriate some Hindu ideas that they don`t understand one bit, and try to combine them with Islam, creating an illogical and incoherent belief system. I don`t know about Islam, but that is a huge disservice to Hinduism.}
I am not a sufi (some might say) ........... but I don`t care, it`s non-fundamental. And I am not at all attempting to do what you stated above. If your comment is aimed at certain so-called sufis .............. then it`s none of my concern. But if it was aimed particularly at me, I would disagree with your analysis.
Kaalchakra,
{It is time Hinduism and Islam were evaluated on their own merits.}
That will always be the difference between you and me. You will always be on the look out for the differences (un-fundamental), conciously or unconciously.
And I will forever be on the lookout for fundamental similarities, and stay away from non-fundamental stuff.
{My curiosity about sufism springs from the fact that Sufis apprpriate some Hindu ideas that they don`t understand one bit, and try to combine them with Islam, creating an illogical and incoherent belief system. I don`t know about Islam, but that is a huge disservice to Hinduism.}
I am not a sufi (some might say) ........... but I don`t care, it`s non-fundamental. And I am not at all attempting to do what you stated above. If your comment is aimed at certain so-called sufis .............. then it`s none of my concern. But if it was aimed particularly at me, I would disagree with your analysis.
#40 Posted by KaalChakra on August 26, 2005 2:05:16 am
Sorry! :)
Whenever I run into a Sufi, I can`t figure out what they really believe in.
I was trying to understand if there is any substance in your ideas or are you another Temporal bhai.
But I will leave you at peace.
My curiosity about sufism springs from the fact that Sufis apprpriate some Hindu ideas that they don`t understand one bit, and try to combine them with Islam, creating an illogical and incoherent belief system. I don`t know about Islam, but that is a huge disservice to Hinduism.
It is time Hinduism and Islam were evaluated on their own merits.
Whenever I run into a Sufi, I can`t figure out what they really believe in.
I was trying to understand if there is any substance in your ideas or are you another Temporal bhai.
But I will leave you at peace.
My curiosity about sufism springs from the fact that Sufis apprpriate some Hindu ideas that they don`t understand one bit, and try to combine them with Islam, creating an illogical and incoherent belief system. I don`t know about Islam, but that is a huge disservice to Hinduism.
It is time Hinduism and Islam were evaluated on their own merits.
#39 Posted by samirfs on August 26, 2005 1:40:13 am
Re: # 38
Stop asking wrong questions, Kaalchakra!!!
{Do you believe that Islam is the ``natural religion?``}
No religion is natural. The fundamentals of a religion are natural. Religion is a man-made vehicle to transport those fundamentals to the mortal man.
Stop asking wrong questions, Kaalchakra!!!
{Do you believe that Islam is the ``natural religion?``}
No religion is natural. The fundamentals of a religion are natural. Religion is a man-made vehicle to transport those fundamentals to the mortal man.
#38 Posted by KaalChakra on August 26, 2005 1:13:41 am
samirfs
``some fundamental characteristics of man and woman haven`t changed since Adam and Eve and will never change. The point is to accept these in a practical manner and conduct our lives accordingly.``
Do you believe that Islam is the ``natural religion?``
``some fundamental characteristics of man and woman haven`t changed since Adam and Eve and will never change. The point is to accept these in a practical manner and conduct our lives accordingly.``
Do you believe that Islam is the ``natural religion?``
#37 Posted by samirfs on August 26, 2005 1:06:31 am
Re: # 36
{why only women species should hide themselves and become a public denouncement everywhere}
I never mentioned that, did I?! Men should dress up modestly as well. More modestly than women I should say ..........
{It is only a lure of men who just want to weave an imagination upon seeing a woman in relaxed mood and stare with her as she is wrongly situated anywhere in society.}
You just reiterated my point, thank you.
{How come you know that the two girls doing assignments were not graceful its dubiously NOT DIRECTLY PROPORTIONAL to the sitting positions and YOUR OUTFITS.}
I am sorry, I have no formula for that. I just sense it. Maybe, because at one point in my life a detailed study of body language was my passion ....
{ And how you think that GRACEFUL lady was upright in her ENDEAVORS.... }
Not endeavour, my friend ..... the word was Demeanour; the way a person carries herself or himself.
{This is where your mentality cease to go further with a demolished practicality and making you a fool who still thinks in pre ISLAMIC BEDOUIN way}
Believe it or not ............. some things ...... like some fundamental characteristics of man and woman haven`t changed since Adam and Eve and will never change. The point is to accept these in a practical manner and conduct our lives accordingly.
{why only women species should hide themselves and become a public denouncement everywhere}
I never mentioned that, did I?! Men should dress up modestly as well. More modestly than women I should say ..........
{It is only a lure of men who just want to weave an imagination upon seeing a woman in relaxed mood and stare with her as she is wrongly situated anywhere in society.}
You just reiterated my point, thank you.
{How come you know that the two girls doing assignments were not graceful its dubiously NOT DIRECTLY PROPORTIONAL to the sitting positions and YOUR OUTFITS.}
I am sorry, I have no formula for that. I just sense it. Maybe, because at one point in my life a detailed study of body language was my passion ....
{ And how you think that GRACEFUL lady was upright in her ENDEAVORS.... }
Not endeavour, my friend ..... the word was Demeanour; the way a person carries herself or himself.
{This is where your mentality cease to go further with a demolished practicality and making you a fool who still thinks in pre ISLAMIC BEDOUIN way}
Believe it or not ............. some things ...... like some fundamental characteristics of man and woman haven`t changed since Adam and Eve and will never change. The point is to accept these in a practical manner and conduct our lives accordingly.
#35 Posted by KaalChakra on August 26, 2005 12:48:27 am
Well, the issue is - are we willing to tolerate certain limited amount of nudity and shamelessness or not?
#34 Posted by samirfs on August 26, 2005 12:37:44 am
Re: # 31
{If you encourage certain beliefs about gender, burqas - forced and voluntary - will naturally follow.}
If you encourage certain beliefs about gender, nudity and shamelessness - forced and voluntary - will naturally follow.
Fine line ..... tight-rope walk ....... Balance!
{If you encourage certain beliefs about gender, burqas - forced and voluntary - will naturally follow.}
If you encourage certain beliefs about gender, nudity and shamelessness - forced and voluntary - will naturally follow.
Fine line ..... tight-rope walk ....... Balance!
#33 Posted by samirfs on August 26, 2005 12:19:03 am
Re: # 32
Nadia,
That`s my exact point, dear friend. {God knows me in and out and I have nothing to hide from god} Men are not God. Men have all the short-comings. I am not God.
{If girls even start thinking how they look like or most importantly How people look at them then I say a thousand veils can`t protect them from murky eyes}
Did you read my post carefully? THE OTHER GIRL WAS NOT .... NOT WEARING VEILS, BURQA, HIJAB!!!!!
And please don`t tell me .............. Pleeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaase don`t tell me that when you go out half-naked, that you don`t care how you look, or if others are looking at you or not ................ I am toooooooooo practically minded a person to accept that.
Nadia,
That`s my exact point, dear friend. {God knows me in and out and I have nothing to hide from god} Men are not God. Men have all the short-comings. I am not God.
{If girls even start thinking how they look like or most importantly How people look at them then I say a thousand veils can`t protect them from murky eyes}
Did you read my post carefully? THE OTHER GIRL WAS NOT .... NOT WEARING VEILS, BURQA, HIJAB!!!!!
And please don`t tell me .............. Pleeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaase don`t tell me that when you go out half-naked, that you don`t care how you look, or if others are looking at you or not ................ I am toooooooooo practically minded a person to accept that.
#31 Posted by KaalChakra on August 25, 2005 11:38:34 pm
If you encourage certain beliefs about gender, burqas - forced and voluntary - will naturally follow.
#30 Posted by samirfs on August 25, 2005 11:06:55 pm
I am like a particle revelling in moving so fast between two extremeties, that to the naked eye I am stationary.
A couple of days ago I was sitting in a coffee shop trying to finish a presentation on my computer. I bought a latte and had just started on the presentation when two gorgeous girls came and sat across my table. They seemed to be grad. students and working on their college assignments ..... overhearing them, it seemed they were studying economics or something like that. One of the girls was wearing a light short (very short) summer cotton skirt and had awesome legs!! The other was wearing a low-waist jeans and had her back to me. Her string bikini thongs were stretched upto the waist and her jeans had slipped just so much that I could see her butt crack a bit. Both were blondes. The angel sitting facing me now crossed her legs and I couldn`t help noticing that she was wearing red silk thongs underneath. She glanced at me, tossed her wild hair and took a sip of her coffee................. I was typing ``God knows what`` on my laptop!!!! Then the girl in skirt moved her chair and sat in a semi-4 position, that is, not the cross-legged position of girls nor the open legged position of the guys, but somewhere in between. .......... The red silk thongs were in clear sight now. The girl in jeans then reached for her thong strings, played with it a bit and re-adjusted them so they were more clearly visible. Entranced for a good time, I shook myself up and looked around the coffee shop to see if anyone was watching me looking. I could see many eyes slyly peering from behind newspapers, novels and coffee cups. I felt relieved!!! I tell you, the girls were hot!!! I could bang them right there and then .....
But all good times come to an end and this one did too. My angels left the cofee shop. I got back to my presentation, still hungover from the ``nazaraa``. A moment later another girl, probably, the same age as my angels, took the same seat. She was wearing ......... well I did not notice what she she was wearing, something covering herself well, I am guessing. But her demeanour was quite graceful. I don`t even recollect her face now. She sat very ``prim-n-propah``. I never glanced at her more than twice, but I could just feel that her presence was making me concentrate on my presentation. Needless to say, the presentation was taking shape fast.
After a while she left too. She wasn`t wearing a head-scarf, or a burqa ..................... but I could have sweared I noticed a ``hijab``. It was not visible to the naked eye ..... No, No, not the translucent veil ....... but a hijab it was ......
A couple of days ago I was sitting in a coffee shop trying to finish a presentation on my computer. I bought a latte and had just started on the presentation when two gorgeous girls came and sat across my table. They seemed to be grad. students and working on their college assignments ..... overhearing them, it seemed they were studying economics or something like that. One of the girls was wearing a light short (very short) summer cotton skirt and had awesome legs!! The other was wearing a low-waist jeans and had her back to me. Her string bikini thongs were stretched upto the waist and her jeans had slipped just so much that I could see her butt crack a bit. Both were blondes. The angel sitting facing me now crossed her legs and I couldn`t help noticing that she was wearing red silk thongs underneath. She glanced at me, tossed her wild hair and took a sip of her coffee................. I was typing ``God knows what`` on my laptop!!!! Then the girl in skirt moved her chair and sat in a semi-4 position, that is, not the cross-legged position of girls nor the open legged position of the guys, but somewhere in between. .......... The red silk thongs were in clear sight now. The girl in jeans then reached for her thong strings, played with it a bit and re-adjusted them so they were more clearly visible. Entranced for a good time, I shook myself up and looked around the coffee shop to see if anyone was watching me looking. I could see many eyes slyly peering from behind newspapers, novels and coffee cups. I felt relieved!!! I tell you, the girls were hot!!! I could bang them right there and then .....
But all good times come to an end and this one did too. My angels left the cofee shop. I got back to my presentation, still hungover from the ``nazaraa``. A moment later another girl, probably, the same age as my angels, took the same seat. She was wearing ......... well I did not notice what she she was wearing, something covering herself well, I am guessing. But her demeanour was quite graceful. I don`t even recollect her face now. She sat very ``prim-n-propah``. I never glanced at her more than twice, but I could just feel that her presence was making me concentrate on my presentation. Needless to say, the presentation was taking shape fast.
After a while she left too. She wasn`t wearing a head-scarf, or a burqa ..................... but I could have sweared I noticed a ``hijab``. It was not visible to the naked eye ..... No, No, not the translucent veil ....... but a hijab it was ......
#29 Posted by Bina_Shah on August 25, 2005 11:00:02 pm
Thank you all for your comments. I just want to clarify here that I am neither opposed nor in favor of those who want to wear hijab. That is a personal choice and I am all for it. What I was trying to talk about here was the insidious trend towards removing women (or women removing themselves) from the public sphere. There are already huge controversies up in the NWFP over the disenfranchisement of women and some LB polls where women were banned from voting have been declared invalid and the polls will be held again. If you want to wear a veil, fine. But remember that Muslim women in the time of the Prophet even went to war and fought side by side with their menfolk. You should not feel that your only rightful place is in your home. God made the world for both men and women and you should enjoy it, whether or not you feel you need to wear hijab, dupatta, burqa, or niqab to do so.
#28 Posted by FarzanaVersey on August 25, 2005 10:29:09 pm
Bina:
This article was a sort of deja vu...at one of the stalls in Dubai, I was accosted by a woman in burqa to check out their wares. Their wares happened to be literature on Islam. One of them who took charge of me finally said, ``You know, I used to be like you...`` I, in tourist arrogance, imagined she was feeling sorry for herself; it turned out she was feeling sorry for me. She said she was a former model and used to dress ``like that``. Now, she felt `dignified`. I asked her that if this was ordained by the Quran, then so was the fact that men should avert their eyes when they saw strange women.
I was currently engaged in just such a battle on the letters pages of an Indian paper. In a controversial fatwa, the Darul Uloom has ruled that Muslim women should not contest elections and if they have to do they must do it under a veil. I have been shocked to see a few Muslim women take up for this disgusting edict...anyhow, won`t take up your space and discussion for that (Hope you don`t mind a plug, though:) Indians interested in reading further, please look at my Parsi board...the other relevant IM board has been taken over by UP, alas.)
PS: A gentleman acquaintance once told me that if I wore a hijab my sex appeal would shoot up...what these men won`t do to market their shackles...
- - -
romair (#24):
[And that is the upper class and perhaps even upper-middle class women. In some ways they are worse off than men but in some ways they are better off than men, also. This is the group, which should take the leadership positions to make things better for all women.]
In what way are they better-off than men? They just possess better camouflage. And why should leadership be a prerogative of the elite, anyway? It has been my experience that the best change takes place when `key` workers (that is those from one`s own environment) are trained to teach the others from their social/economic class. I have noticed this in rural as well as urban projects I have been involved in.
Incidentally, many of the women who are now talking `pro-choice` about veils happen to be from the elite class. Women who are intitated into it as a matter of patriarchal stereotyping have no voice, forget a choice.
This article was a sort of deja vu...at one of the stalls in Dubai, I was accosted by a woman in burqa to check out their wares. Their wares happened to be literature on Islam. One of them who took charge of me finally said, ``You know, I used to be like you...`` I, in tourist arrogance, imagined she was feeling sorry for herself; it turned out she was feeling sorry for me. She said she was a former model and used to dress ``like that``. Now, she felt `dignified`. I asked her that if this was ordained by the Quran, then so was the fact that men should avert their eyes when they saw strange women.
I was currently engaged in just such a battle on the letters pages of an Indian paper. In a controversial fatwa, the Darul Uloom has ruled that Muslim women should not contest elections and if they have to do they must do it under a veil. I have been shocked to see a few Muslim women take up for this disgusting edict...anyhow, won`t take up your space and discussion for that (Hope you don`t mind a plug, though:) Indians interested in reading further, please look at my Parsi board...the other relevant IM board has been taken over by UP, alas.)
PS: A gentleman acquaintance once told me that if I wore a hijab my sex appeal would shoot up...what these men won`t do to market their shackles...
- - -
romair (#24):
[And that is the upper class and perhaps even upper-middle class women. In some ways they are worse off than men but in some ways they are better off than men, also. This is the group, which should take the leadership positions to make things better for all women.]
In what way are they better-off than men? They just possess better camouflage. And why should leadership be a prerogative of the elite, anyway? It has been my experience that the best change takes place when `key` workers (that is those from one`s own environment) are trained to teach the others from their social/economic class. I have noticed this in rural as well as urban projects I have been involved in.
Incidentally, many of the women who are now talking `pro-choice` about veils happen to be from the elite class. Women who are intitated into it as a matter of patriarchal stereotyping have no voice, forget a choice.
#27 Posted by nazarhayatkhan on August 25, 2005 10:11:37 pm
Bina
To be honest, I am allergic to the Nikab Wallis. The other day, a Nikab Walli asked me in the aircraft to change the seat. I coldly said `No`. I would have politly done that for a NORMAL woman.
I find something unfair in this whole business. While she has all the freedom to look at my face, I do not have the same freedom.
On the other hand, the Burqa clad could have a genuine reason - the social, traditional and customs pressures & not the religious logic.
Millions of rural women still work Burqaless & Hijabless in the countryside with men.
I remember in my childhood - I only saw the Jamaat Islami women wear Burqa/Nikab. Then it slowly crept into the low middle Class.
Now the middle & upperclass also seems to be gradually getting infected. But the 40 or so TV channels are doing a good job in demolishing these taboos.
nhk
To be honest, I am allergic to the Nikab Wallis. The other day, a Nikab Walli asked me in the aircraft to change the seat. I coldly said `No`. I would have politly done that for a NORMAL woman.
I find something unfair in this whole business. While she has all the freedom to look at my face, I do not have the same freedom.
On the other hand, the Burqa clad could have a genuine reason - the social, traditional and customs pressures & not the religious logic.
Millions of rural women still work Burqaless & Hijabless in the countryside with men.
I remember in my childhood - I only saw the Jamaat Islami women wear Burqa/Nikab. Then it slowly crept into the low middle Class.
Now the middle & upperclass also seems to be gradually getting infected. But the 40 or so TV channels are doing a good job in demolishing these taboos.
nhk
#26 Posted by Ranjit on August 25, 2005 10:06:06 pm
I have a suggestion for the wahabi, sunni fundos of Pakistan. Please go for the ultimate purfication of your country and just kill all your women. Think about it. Without the women, there is no chance of moral corruption or unislamic values. Your country will be a 100% pure Islamic nation with impeccable values which you can be proud of. The rest of the world will be really happy for you as well as they eagerly wait for the next 30-40 years to go by :-).
#25 Posted by Romair on August 25, 2005 9:50:49 pm
There are certain interesting developments going on, with respect to women, which do indicate a change:
- The way Mukhtar Mai took on her feudal elites, is something that could not have happened even ten years ago. Who knows, maybe women will be the ones who break the feudalistic culture and mindset in Pakistan......
- There are more women in Pakistan`s assemblies and councils now, than there are even in the US or most European Assemblies
- Women are actually becoming fighter pilots. Having seen that up close and knowing how brutal and male-dominated that field is, one has to say if a Pakistani girl can become a miltiary pilot, she can become anything
- Girls top all the academic exams in Pakistan, now. I heard somewhere that there are more girls in Pakistan`s medical colleges than boys. In some medical college (KE?) it was 70:30 in favor of girls
- The way Mukhtar Mai took on her feudal elites, is something that could not have happened even ten years ago. Who knows, maybe women will be the ones who break the feudalistic culture and mindset in Pakistan......
- There are more women in Pakistan`s assemblies and councils now, than there are even in the US or most European Assemblies
- Women are actually becoming fighter pilots. Having seen that up close and knowing how brutal and male-dominated that field is, one has to say if a Pakistani girl can become a miltiary pilot, she can become anything
- Girls top all the academic exams in Pakistan, now. I heard somewhere that there are more girls in Pakistan`s medical colleges than boys. In some medical college (KE?) it was 70:30 in favor of girls
#24 Posted by Romair on August 25, 2005 9:44:15 pm
The worse position of women in Pakistan is in feudal and tribal areas. It is in feudal areas that all the honor killings occur. It is also in such areas where the women`s literacy rates are amongst the lowest in the world. The literacy rate for Baluchi women is around 4%. Feudal crimes against women are terrible. Women in such areas can be raped, pillaged and burnt, and no one bothers. An end to feudalism will be the biggest benefit for Pakistani women (not counting the women who are themselves feudals or their next generations)....
The second worse condition of women in Pakistan is in the uneducated religiously dominated areas. Which this article covers to some extent (I don`t know why such articles never talk about the feudal areas).
Urban educated middle class women in Pakistan are suppressed, as well. But in a more subtle manner. Much like they are in other third world countries, with certain cultural factors added in......
There is one group of women that does have it relatively well. And that is the upper class and perhaps even upper-middle class women. In some ways they are worse off than men but in some ways they are better off than men, also. This is the group, which should take the leadership positions to make things better for all women. However, this has been lacking. This group has the resources and in many cases the support to make a difference. But very few out of them seem to have the motivation. In this regard, I have found Indian girls to be far more active and motivated...........
The second worse condition of women in Pakistan is in the uneducated religiously dominated areas. Which this article covers to some extent (I don`t know why such articles never talk about the feudal areas).
Urban educated middle class women in Pakistan are suppressed, as well. But in a more subtle manner. Much like they are in other third world countries, with certain cultural factors added in......
There is one group of women that does have it relatively well. And that is the upper class and perhaps even upper-middle class women. In some ways they are worse off than men but in some ways they are better off than men, also. This is the group, which should take the leadership positions to make things better for all women. However, this has been lacking. This group has the resources and in many cases the support to make a difference. But very few out of them seem to have the motivation. In this regard, I have found Indian girls to be far more active and motivated...........
#23 Posted by samirfs on August 25, 2005 9:43:44 pm
Re: # 22
{unlike our 5 times population holding giant envious neighbour who could not ascend women leadership to top}
UNCONTEXTUAL.
Nazia Zehra,
You are very positive and optimistic about the whole situation. That`s a very good sign. And your hint at the fact that women should themselves be responsible for the state of their affairs, is appreciated. I would like to take some liberty and read between the lines:-
It`s not what the men think about women in Pakistan, but about what women think about themselves that matters.
- the foolish shaikh
{unlike our 5 times population holding giant envious neighbour who could not ascend women leadership to top}
UNCONTEXTUAL.
Nazia Zehra,
You are very positive and optimistic about the whole situation. That`s a very good sign. And your hint at the fact that women should themselves be responsible for the state of their affairs, is appreciated. I would like to take some liberty and read between the lines:-
It`s not what the men think about women in Pakistan, but about what women think about themselves that matters.
- the foolish shaikh
#21 Posted by samirfs on August 25, 2005 9:06:17 pm
Re: # 12
And Queen Mary ``Rabiaanwar`` Antoinette said, ``If they don`t have bread, why don`t they eat cakes?``
- the foolish shaikh
And Queen Mary ``Rabiaanwar`` Antoinette said, ``If they don`t have bread, why don`t they eat cakes?``
- the foolish shaikh
#20 Posted by miriamk on August 25, 2005 8:39:03 pm
rabia:
#12
indeed, women everywhere are up against heavy odds. it’s an uphill battle for us. but let’s keep in mind that pakistan is a country where honor killings are practiced and condoned (not so tacitly). and please don’t play the culture vs. religion card when it comes to this issue. the bottom line is that it’s a reality women endure and have little or no recourse against.
miriam
#12
indeed, women everywhere are up against heavy odds. it’s an uphill battle for us. but let’s keep in mind that pakistan is a country where honor killings are practiced and condoned (not so tacitly). and please don’t play the culture vs. religion card when it comes to this issue. the bottom line is that it’s a reality women endure and have little or no recourse against.
miriam
#19 Posted by BeeJay on August 25, 2005 8:32:00 pm
#11, #14 Dear Hamidm bhai
[... i put gaddafi in the same category as michael jackson (with those silly uniforms and all) but he is the best the muslim world has to offer ..........]
Yeh kya mamla hai? Do I detect despondence? You got to stop sulking over those fishes of yours not doing so well (personally, however, I am very distrustful of the shrink – so make sure you double check any advice he gives to you on that score) and stop buying this “blame the Muslims” bit that is popular now-a-days – Muslims have their fair share of bad apples like anyone else – and the good ones too! In fact, I am hoping that all this forced introspection from the recent past will empower a lot more pigeons and enable them to overcome the cat! I really feel so.
[..... don`t waste your time - you are talking past a muslima who has bought the party line hook, line and sinker .........]
Let’s be fair, now! You have to admit that the fact the lady is interacting here is a good sign. If she can communicate – there is always the hope that she may not be totally impervious to reason!
#16 miriamk
[… i think as long as even a handful of women give their tacit (in some cases not so tacit) approval the situation for women is unlikely to improve anywhere …]
Actually I prefer to make the opposite point – that as long as there are even a few women who do not accept this second-rate treatment, there is the hope that the other women will get emboldened to oppose it too! That`s why articles like this have tremendous value (I am not talking about odds).
#18 Posted by DoubleC on August 25, 2005 8:21:34 pm
12 rabiaanwar
Wrote:
The world may view the US as veritable heaven on earth for women but the sad truth is women here suffer in tremendous ways. Imagine a society where men, for the most part, will bed the women but refuse to marry them. Where women have struggled for years for the right to equal pay but it has led only to the right to support themselves and the children men have left behind for them to care for.
Have you been to Pakistan? It`s even worse for women there.... women have no say there....at least the law protects them here.
Wrote:
And, by the way, there are religious extremist Christian elements in the US too. Ever heard of Utah? Or the Bible-belt? There are plenty of Christian polygamists who are way beyond the Islamic limit of four wives...in fact they create entire colonies with their wives and breeding factories as they hunker down and wait for the second coming of Christ.
Mormens.....Christians???????? The day Muslims call Ahmedi`s Muslims thats the day i`ll call Mormens ...Christians.
Wrote:
Women in Pakistan have problems, but women EVERYWHERE have problems.
True..... but please do us all a favour and visit Pakistan for a few years... your views may change.
Bina,
Keep on writing and make sure you provide strength the women there in Pakistan
Wrote:
The world may view the US as veritable heaven on earth for women but the sad truth is women here suffer in tremendous ways. Imagine a society where men, for the most part, will bed the women but refuse to marry them. Where women have struggled for years for the right to equal pay but it has led only to the right to support themselves and the children men have left behind for them to care for.
Have you been to Pakistan? It`s even worse for women there.... women have no say there....at least the law protects them here.
Wrote:
And, by the way, there are religious extremist Christian elements in the US too. Ever heard of Utah? Or the Bible-belt? There are plenty of Christian polygamists who are way beyond the Islamic limit of four wives...in fact they create entire colonies with their wives and breeding factories as they hunker down and wait for the second coming of Christ.
Mormens.....Christians???????? The day Muslims call Ahmedi`s Muslims thats the day i`ll call Mormens ...Christians.
Wrote:
Women in Pakistan have problems, but women EVERYWHERE have problems.
True..... but please do us all a favour and visit Pakistan for a few years... your views may change.
Bina,
Keep on writing and make sure you provide strength the women there in Pakistan
#17 Posted by hamidm2 on August 25, 2005 8:17:13 pm
miriam,
``i think as long as even a handful of women give their tacit (in some cases not so tacit) approval the situation for women is unlikely to improve anywhere but especially so in pakistan``
...... but they are doing it everywhere in the muslim world - there is something in this insidious ideology that drives people to self destruction ............. reminds me of jones town
``i think as long as even a handful of women give their tacit (in some cases not so tacit) approval the situation for women is unlikely to improve anywhere but especially so in pakistan``
...... but they are doing it everywhere in the muslim world - there is something in this insidious ideology that drives people to self destruction ............. reminds me of jones town
#16 Posted by miriamk on August 25, 2005 8:12:03 pm
bina:
great article. keep writing.
Our nation can be aptly described as a lunatic asylum masquerading as a country….
yup, that about sums it up.
beej (post #9) brings up an important point when he alludes to women putting up with this treatment. i think as long as even a handful of women give their tacit (in some cases not so tacit) approval the situation for women is unlikely to improve anywhere but especially so in pakistan. i don’t know about other desi women at chowk but i’ve met plenty of these complicit women over the years.
rgds
miriam
great article. keep writing.
Our nation can be aptly described as a lunatic asylum masquerading as a country….
yup, that about sums it up.
beej (post #9) brings up an important point when he alludes to women putting up with this treatment. i think as long as even a handful of women give their tacit (in some cases not so tacit) approval the situation for women is unlikely to improve anywhere but especially so in pakistan. i don’t know about other desi women at chowk but i’ve met plenty of these complicit women over the years.
rgds
miriam
#15 Posted by hamidm2 on August 25, 2005 8:10:51 pm
Re: # 14
beejay,
..... don`t waste your time - you are talking past a muslima who has bought the party line hook, line and sinker ......... that`s why, when my daughter went to college last year, i told her to stay away from the msa and any creature in a headjob who calls her ``sister`` ........ alhamdollilah, she is doing fine ..........
........... anyone who compares the state of women in the us to the chattel in pakistan needs help .........
beejay,
..... don`t waste your time - you are talking past a muslima who has bought the party line hook, line and sinker ......... that`s why, when my daughter went to college last year, i told her to stay away from the msa and any creature in a headjob who calls her ``sister`` ........ alhamdollilah, she is doing fine ..........
........... anyone who compares the state of women in the us to the chattel in pakistan needs help .........
#14 Posted by BeeJay on August 25, 2005 8:01:12 pm
#12 Rabia
Please answer the following simple questions to enlighten this ignorant person.
(1) Are the author’s intentions good or not? (Yes/No)
(2) Do you even believe that women in Pakistan are worse off compared to U.S., or not? (Yes/No)
(3) If the answer to (2) is “Yes” – should something be done about it or not? (Yes/No)
(4) If the answer to (3) is “Yes” – what is YOUR solution?
Taking apart a well-intentioned article is easy – let’s see you come up with some suggestions of your own, for starters!
Notes
[Imagine a society where men, for the most part, will bed the women but refuse to marry them.]
Excuse me Ms. Rabia, the way my rudimentary understanding is – it takes TWO to bed – or does the woman not even count from your perspective?
[This is a society where women are abused sexually, mentally, physically, by relatives and scores of boyfriends in a vicious cycle they often can`t escape.]
Are you sure you are talking about U.S. and not Pakistan? The point. my sweet lady, is that in U.S., the woman can walk away from a bad relationship – unless she has been mentally conditioned to remain a “pair kee jootee”!
[Drugs, alcohol, promiscuity do not a liberating society make....]
ANYWHERE!
[Ever heard of Utah? Or the Bible-belt? There are plenty of Christian polygamists who are way beyond the Islamic limit of four wives...in fact they create entire colonies with their wives and breeding factories as they hunker down and wait for the second coming of Christ.]
This is incredible! Are you okay being a quarter wife?
Please answer the following simple questions to enlighten this ignorant person.
(1) Are the author’s intentions good or not? (Yes/No)
(2) Do you even believe that women in Pakistan are worse off compared to U.S., or not? (Yes/No)
(3) If the answer to (2) is “Yes” – should something be done about it or not? (Yes/No)
(4) If the answer to (3) is “Yes” – what is YOUR solution?
Taking apart a well-intentioned article is easy – let’s see you come up with some suggestions of your own, for starters!
Notes
[Imagine a society where men, for the most part, will bed the women but refuse to marry them.]
Excuse me Ms. Rabia, the way my rudimentary understanding is – it takes TWO to bed – or does the woman not even count from your perspective?
[This is a society where women are abused sexually, mentally, physically, by relatives and scores of boyfriends in a vicious cycle they often can`t escape.]
Are you sure you are talking about U.S. and not Pakistan? The point. my sweet lady, is that in U.S., the woman can walk away from a bad relationship – unless she has been mentally conditioned to remain a “pair kee jootee”!
[Drugs, alcohol, promiscuity do not a liberating society make....]
ANYWHERE!
[Ever heard of Utah? Or the Bible-belt? There are plenty of Christian polygamists who are way beyond the Islamic limit of four wives...in fact they create entire colonies with their wives and breeding factories as they hunker down and wait for the second coming of Christ.]
This is incredible! Are you okay being a quarter wife?
#13 Posted by hamidm2 on August 25, 2005 7:47:02 pm
rabia,
``I`m a Pakistani-American Muslim women who does the unthinkable and wears hijab because she wants to``
......... i feel sorry for you ........
``I`m a Pakistani-American Muslim women who does the unthinkable and wears hijab because she wants to``
......... i feel sorry for you ........
#12 Posted by rabiaanwar on August 25, 2005 7:40:45 pm
Sorry to say but this article is ridiculous. I understand the author is trying to make a point by illustrating extreme conditions in a society that allowed fundamentally un-Islamic ``fundamentals`` to take over; however, the point being made, is a poor one and poorly made also.
As the author herself has pointed out, we can find women in all parts of society and all over the spectrum with respect to their level of education, basic freedoms, career development, and general empowerment. Kind of like where I`ve grown up, the U.S. of A. I find it really strange that the author singles out Pakistan as an extraordinarily inhumane place for women -- the reality is that women have it hard all over the world, and all throughout history.
Women as powerful leaders, objects of desire, victims of abuse, tools of utility exist today and always have...and probably always will. The world may view the US as veritable heaven on earth for women but the sad truth is women here suffer in tremendous ways. Imagine a society where men, for the most part, will bed the women but refuse to marry them. Where women have struggled for years for the right to equal pay but it has led only to the right to support themselves and the children men have left behind for them to care for. As an attorney I work with so many other single female attorneys who are so desparate for a man to marry (so few will committ in this society) that they usually lie about their profession so men aren`t intimidated to even date them. This is a society where women are abused sexually, mentally, physically, by relatives and scores of boyfriends in a vicious cycle they often can`t escape. Drugs, alcohol, promiscuity do not a liberating society make....
And, by the way, there are religious extremist Christian elements in the US too. Ever heard of Utah? Or the Bible-belt? There are plenty of Christian polygamists who are way beyond the Islamic limit of four wives...in fact they create entire colonies with their wives and breeding factories as they hunker down and wait for the second coming of Christ. Popular news shows have done reports on these men and their penchant for pre-teen wives, even marrying a series of sisters and yes, even sometimes their own daughters. I promise you, women are considered chattel in different ways all over the world....
I`m a Pakistani-American Muslim women who does the unthinkable and wears hijab because she wants to. I feel sorry for my non-Muslim American female counterparts because they have to worry about growing old without companionship and wondering if they will ever have children. I feel secure knowing my rights and knowing there are good Muslim men out there who also know my rights. The muhala-mullahs in Pakistan are a product of the culture and don`t reflect Islamic values, they just use the religion as a means of control.
Anyhow, my basic point was women are and always have been on the short end of the stick. Pakistan is no different than the rest of the world.
Rabia
Women in Pakistan have problems, but women EVERYWHERE have problems.
As the author herself has pointed out, we can find women in all parts of society and all over the spectrum with respect to their level of education, basic freedoms, career development, and general empowerment. Kind of like where I`ve grown up, the U.S. of A. I find it really strange that the author singles out Pakistan as an extraordinarily inhumane place for women -- the reality is that women have it hard all over the world, and all throughout history.
Women as powerful leaders, objects of desire, victims of abuse, tools of utility exist today and always have...and probably always will. The world may view the US as veritable heaven on earth for women but the sad truth is women here suffer in tremendous ways. Imagine a society where men, for the most part, will bed the women but refuse to marry them. Where women have struggled for years for the right to equal pay but it has led only to the right to support themselves and the children men have left behind for them to care for. As an attorney I work with so many other single female attorneys who are so desparate for a man to marry (so few will committ in this society) that they usually lie about their profession so men aren`t intimidated to even date them. This is a society where women are abused sexually, mentally, physically, by relatives and scores of boyfriends in a vicious cycle they often can`t escape. Drugs, alcohol, promiscuity do not a liberating society make....
And, by the way, there are religious extremist Christian elements in the US too. Ever heard of Utah? Or the Bible-belt? There are plenty of Christian polygamists who are way beyond the Islamic limit of four wives...in fact they create entire colonies with their wives and breeding factories as they hunker down and wait for the second coming of Christ. Popular news shows have done reports on these men and their penchant for pre-teen wives, even marrying a series of sisters and yes, even sometimes their own daughters. I promise you, women are considered chattel in different ways all over the world....
I`m a Pakistani-American Muslim women who does the unthinkable and wears hijab because she wants to. I feel sorry for my non-Muslim American female counterparts because they have to worry about growing old without companionship and wondering if they will ever have children. I feel secure knowing my rights and knowing there are good Muslim men out there who also know my rights. The muhala-mullahs in Pakistan are a product of the culture and don`t reflect Islamic values, they just use the religion as a means of control.
Anyhow, my basic point was women are and always have been on the short end of the stick. Pakistan is no different than the rest of the world.
Rabia
Women in Pakistan have problems, but women EVERYWHERE have problems.
#11 Posted by hamidm2 on August 25, 2005 7:35:31 pm
Re: # 9
beejay,
... i put gaddafi in the same category as michael jackson (with those silly uniforms and all) but he is the best the muslim world has to offer ..........
beejay,
... i put gaddafi in the same category as michael jackson (with those silly uniforms and all) but he is the best the muslim world has to offer ..........
#10 Posted by ballukhan on August 25, 2005 7:34:11 pm
Re: # 7
As Mush says........we clean up our house you clean yours..............that implies that we do that together without waiting for the the other to do his act......
........................and surprisingly Mush doesn`t realize that we can all see his government`s double speak when they act contrary and also say-
`` NO Trade, No Indian FDI before KAshmir``.......................
As Mush says........we clean up our house you clean yours..............that implies that we do that together without waiting for the the other to do his act......
........................and surprisingly Mush doesn`t realize that we can all see his government`s double speak when they act contrary and also say-
`` NO Trade, No Indian FDI before KAshmir``.......................
#9 Posted by BeeJay on August 25, 2005 7:17:20 pm
The author makes the legitimate point that “separate but equal” never really is so in real life – the underdogs (the women in this case) always end up with the short end of the stick. However, the separation itself is wrong (irrespective of how adequate or otherwise the facilities) – and that needs to be emphasized.
It is difficult to figure out why half of the population – consisting of the women – puts up with this treatment – I doubt it has anything to do with the level of education (the author’s first example is striking) – probably more a result of familial indoctrination – which also explains why there is such diversity (in terms of the levels of accomplishment) among women – so that’s where the effort needs to be focused – and eventually will be!
#5 Dear Hamidm bhai
Please stop quoting outdated dictators who share the first part of their name with a very docile animal (gadha) – in order to not hurt the feelings of the (docile) animal! Also, women are not really looking for an “enviable” position – just to be treated as an equal – which means they would (and should) end up with the same challenges and opportunities as anybody else. (I have a feeling that all that hashish you were drooling over on the other board has already done some serious damage. (You didn’t think I was going to let you get away with that “adrak” remark, did you?))
#8 Posted by samirfs on August 25, 2005 7:16:29 pm
The Hasba Bill, Zina ordinance and Honour Killing are inhuman and Un-Islamic as well. But at the same time, I think, the drawbacks of a nation is the responsibility of every citizen of that nation and no-one can shun it or disclaim responsibility. I think, it`s not only the responsibility of the citizens but of the entire world to nip these ideas in the bud.
I think what Islam teaches fundamentally is that men and women are different, not un-equal. Different biologically, physiologically, psychologically and genetically. It teaches us to acknowledge these differences and conduct ourselves accordingly.
- The Foolish Shaikh
I think what Islam teaches fundamentally is that men and women are different, not un-equal. Different biologically, physiologically, psychologically and genetically. It teaches us to acknowledge these differences and conduct ourselves accordingly.
- The Foolish Shaikh
#7 Posted by ballukhan on August 25, 2005 6:11:32 pm
``.......precious rights and liberties we stand to lose if we become complacent about our country. Ridiculous as the Iron Purdah seems...............``
Excellent article.........I have always maintained that we would pay a heavy price if we `tolerate` the mullahism in our own houses and backyards and not expect the mullahs to enslave us...................Pakistani society has tried hard to appear `purer` than the rest of the world and in the outcome of this pretext is the fact that the mullahs are now a formidable force in their society.........................I can see the Hasba Bill coming to other provinces as well despite whatever SC may say...............
Excellent article.........I have always maintained that we would pay a heavy price if we `tolerate` the mullahism in our own houses and backyards and not expect the mullahs to enslave us...................Pakistani society has tried hard to appear `purer` than the rest of the world and in the outcome of this pretext is the fact that the mullahs are now a formidable force in their society.........................I can see the Hasba Bill coming to other provinces as well despite whatever SC may say...............
#6 Posted by hamzaad on August 25, 2005 5:28:18 pm
kaka seriously wants to know how old Bina Shah is.. Just the age bracket will suffice. Are you acting `bewildered, raised-too-pure` observer when you ask dumb question? Or are you being dumb asking bewildering questions?
`On the one hand, we are mothers, daughters, and sisters, the most respected beings according to our religion; on the other hand, with honor killings, forced marriages, and domestic violence, you’d think we were animals that need to be kept in cages, bred according to the whims of our owners, and culled when we have outlived our usefulness. On the one hand Pakistani women are becoming Air Force pilots; on the other, sold as sex slaves. We are constantly told of all the rights we have in Islam but apparently this doesn’t include the right to vote, as women are being disenfranchised in the NWFP as we speak. Pakistani women earn their PhDs in universities both at home and abroad, but every day in Pakistani villages there are girls who are taunted by their relatives and neighbors when they want to go to school.`
If you haven`t been able to resolve the `contradiction` above, then its time to stop writing further articles and submitting them to chowk.. and getting to know an atleast one intelligent person who will explain stuff to you.. After acquiring sufficient skills to parse and peruse the problem, you can come back and pontificate further.
`On the one hand, we are mothers, daughters, and sisters, the most respected beings according to our religion; on the other hand, with honor killings, forced marriages, and domestic violence, you’d think we were animals that need to be kept in cages, bred according to the whims of our owners, and culled when we have outlived our usefulness. On the one hand Pakistani women are becoming Air Force pilots; on the other, sold as sex slaves. We are constantly told of all the rights we have in Islam but apparently this doesn’t include the right to vote, as women are being disenfranchised in the NWFP as we speak. Pakistani women earn their PhDs in universities both at home and abroad, but every day in Pakistani villages there are girls who are taunted by their relatives and neighbors when they want to go to school.`
If you haven`t been able to resolve the `contradiction` above, then its time to stop writing further articles and submitting them to chowk.. and getting to know an atleast one intelligent person who will explain stuff to you.. After acquiring sufficient skills to parse and peruse the problem, you can come back and pontificate further.
#5 Posted by hamidm2 on August 25, 2005 4:06:45 pm
but there is hope .....
Gaddafi on women: ``Women should be trained for combat, so that they do not become easy prey for their enemies.`` In the West, ``the situation for women is hardly enviable: she has left home but only to confront a difficult fate, driving trucks & trains.``
........... and he has an amazonian guard ! .... sign up, ladies !
Gaddafi on women: ``Women should be trained for combat, so that they do not become easy prey for their enemies.`` In the West, ``the situation for women is hardly enviable: she has left home but only to confront a difficult fate, driving trucks & trains.``
........... and he has an amazonian guard ! .... sign up, ladies !
#4 Posted by hamidm2 on August 25, 2005 3:49:31 pm
lesser beings ........
the other day i was talking to a friend who moved back to pakistan about twelve years ago because of his old parents ........... now he is thinking of moving back to the us because of his young daughter ....... he says, ``i don`t want my daughter to be treated as a lesser being`` ......
the other day i was talking to a friend who moved back to pakistan about twelve years ago because of his old parents ........... now he is thinking of moving back to the us because of his young daughter ....... he says, ``i don`t want my daughter to be treated as a lesser being`` ......
#3 Posted by kaurasach on August 25, 2005 3:11:41 pm
...... it is not fair to kafirs....the believers can and do oggle kafir women.....and hide their behind purdah....that is not fair.....OFF with the Purdah.....
Purdah is worse than Sati....the women die everyday....wearing that black chadors in 100F + heat....
it is not the purdah itself but all the restrictions and subjugations that come with it.....it is a symbol of subjugation.....
Modesty is stupid excuse.....why don`t muslas make their hearts modest?
#2 Posted by arjun_m on August 25, 2005 3:03:13 pm
Getting back to the issue of people who want to see Pakistan emulate the Taliban
Yup..The taliban the Paki government created...the taliban that was supported by a majority of the pakis....
Strategic depth has left Pakiland in Deep shit...
#1 Posted by Saminasha on August 25, 2005 2:42:44 pm
Now THATS an EXCELLENT example of comparision and contrast!
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