Amber Bokhari June 28, 1998
#2 Posted by Altaf Bhimji on June 28, 1998 2:36:31 pm
my apologies, i was responding to another article,
nice poem though.
altaf
nice poem though.
altaf
#1 Posted by Altaf Bhimji on June 28, 1998 2:31:33 pm
Syed: divorce = failure
Why is divorce similar to being fired?
I think it is more similar to leaving a job that one
does not particularly care for, and finding something better.
Infact it takes few tries to get the job that one wants.
Which is why the westren model of serial monogomy makes more
sense, in some ways, as it allows for a change in partners, if
it turns out that it did not work.
Being ``fired`` implies that there is a boss (the spouse?) who
kicked out the employee (the spouse) because of something wrong done.
Infact divorce, in my view, is more of people coming to their
senses and realizing it does not work, in this case.
The problem is society`s non-acceptance of people who are divorced.
There may have been a time when leaving a job would`ve meant perpetual
unemployment. No more. Especially not these days, one can job hop, gain
experience, and then find something that one has a real passion for.
And stay with it for a long time.
Marriage is about compromise, but not about compromising one`s core
dreams.
Basically if there is something that one doesnt like in the spouse (within reason)
one has to just live with it, and learn to appreciate it...
Why is divorce similar to being fired?
I think it is more similar to leaving a job that one
does not particularly care for, and finding something better.
Infact it takes few tries to get the job that one wants.
Which is why the westren model of serial monogomy makes more
sense, in some ways, as it allows for a change in partners, if
it turns out that it did not work.
Being ``fired`` implies that there is a boss (the spouse?) who
kicked out the employee (the spouse) because of something wrong done.
Infact divorce, in my view, is more of people coming to their
senses and realizing it does not work, in this case.
The problem is society`s non-acceptance of people who are divorced.
There may have been a time when leaving a job would`ve meant perpetual
unemployment. No more. Especially not these days, one can job hop, gain
experience, and then find something that one has a real passion for.
And stay with it for a long time.
Marriage is about compromise, but not about compromising one`s core
dreams.
Basically if there is something that one doesnt like in the spouse (within reason)
one has to just live with it, and learn to appreciate it...
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