Life in the Western World for a Woman

some very good ideas and experience presented giving us a very nice perspective about living in the sub continent and abroad.

i plan to move back partly because i feel, old ppl back home have a much better life than ppl out here. old ppl`s home is not how i plan to spend my dying days. its with my grandchildren in my lap that i vision it to happen. and hence i disagree that u are all alone at the end. not how my family has been and i hope for the trend to continue

Live your life :

1. face your fears
2. test your limits
3. know who your friends are
4. trust your judgement
5. take a leap of faith
6. shed your inhibitions
7. face your demons
8. embrace yourself
9. love yourself

Good article

You have to live your life the way it seems fit to you. I have learned from experience that you can never please everybody, someone will come along and criticize whatever you do. I applause the women and men who do what it takes to live their life according to their wishes. In the end atleast they have lived not just wishing what they could have done. Here is a wonderful poem celebrating life.

NOW BEGIN

by Julie Jordan Scott


Take away the degrees, titles, accomplishments -
What is discovered at your core?
What is it that unique, special spark?
Buried deep, neglected, chosen to ignore

Seeking to please whomever
Drowning out pure longings of your heart
Struggling, freezing, suffocating
Until finally, you choose to start

Whispers from the spirit
Soul`s songs from deep within
After dancing, stranger among strangers,
Claim it! Your life! Now begin!

Remember, Say Yes

Remember, Say Yes
Heartful, empowered love embrace
Opens universal

Remember, Say Yes
Right means expanding here now
Celebration Times

Remember, Say Yes
Invitation to wonder
Keep moving forward

Remember, Say Yes
I hear angels calling you
Rejoice, all is well

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Reach Your Goals - Now. With Boldness, with courage, with a strong knowing which fills your vision with passion, with possibilities. Allow your Greatness to be seen by the world.

sajal............

``She met James there, a 50 year old security guard and soon they were seeing more of each other. She was a tiny, petite 34 year old who looked younger than her years with vivacious eyes and a lively smile. ``
And he looked younger than his 50 years I presume. Older men and their younger Asian companions. One wants youth and the other companionship but what if the roles are reversed?

Life is indeed about choices one makes. The best part is that each decision has an outcome. Those who take steps and make decisions have less regrets than those who take the opposite direction. Each person should be accountable for his or her own life. That inculcates a sense of responsibility.

The `` tu nahin aur sahee aur nahin aur sahee`` option was the prerogative of the males only in the South Asian society; the women could not even think of it. Some of them have started testing the waters. May be others who are being used unfairly by the chauvinist males consider it as an option. The image of sati savitree is okay if it is not taken to the extreme entirely to the disadvantage of women. It is a good piece.

Any hemisphere which offers South Asian women, and ALL women the options and supports to their intellectual, spiritual, physical, professional, personal and artistic self determination that are available to men is desirable to those that don`t.

She did the right thing. One has to go on living his/her life even after such incidences.

Yeah many Indo/Pak men might be male chauvinists but nobody sees the number of men who are living oversees just because their `ladies` wouldn`t like it back home anymore.

``Her widowed mother back home in Punjab cursed her for leaving her husband worried at the haranguing from the relatives that would inevitably follow.``

It is sad, sad, sad that most South Asian women would rather hunch their shoulders and hide from society than open arms to their daughters and give them a shoulder to cry on in such matters. Whatever happens to their `mamta`? Isn`t Simar`s mother a widow herself? Doesn`t she realize the emotional trauma (if not physical) which follows when a woman is separated from her husband?

``Simar avoided the Indian community in Australia to some extent. Some of them knew her ex-inlaws and others would question her living with an Australian man, or at the least, would raise eyebrows.``

As long as it`s an Indian or Pakistani community, Chinese food would never get away without achaar.

``There was no guilt or hesitancy over her actions, no explanations, she was a free woman, Australia had been good to her- it had liberated her.``

You wouldn`t know would you? What if her ex-husband never abused her in the first place? Her daughters will never have a father figure to look up to. Of course she`s better off but `liberated`, I wouldn`t know. The point is, any person, man or woman, hailing from anywhere, prefers settling with someone who shares his/her roots. Not all Indo/Pak men are chauvinists, but as they say, one rotten apple spoils the whole....grocery store. You end up buying fruits from another farm.