Such Anais Journey! FarzanaVersey
``DrDr:

[Not a particularly great writer but she got mileage from shocking the readers.]

That says a lot about the readers then, not about her. ``

Fair enuff. Id say it says something abt both the society & her. If shocking the readers was the main effect as opposed to a side effect, then writing only has a prurient value IMO.

Such Anais Journey! Nice title!
Anais Nin was like a female Larry Flynt. Not a particularly great writer but she got mileage from shocking the readers.

Catfood and Little Women sajal - I think we are starting 2 see some things same way.
Friendship, mutual respect & trust r the most imp. What I see in many marriages is codependency - physical, emotional, what have u.
Thats y they end up in severe discord or where 1 partner owns the other.

Catfood and Little Women sajal - I see pics of homeless sleeping in pavements with kids & all. How do they procreate - do they go 2 love hotels or something? Copulation takes all of 5 minutes.

Im not prying but in a relationship where u share a bed w/ ur partner coz u want 2 does the partner have the freedom 2 say he/she doesnt want 2?
My parents have different schedules, have their own private rooms & they r 2 friends living together who raised a family.

Catfood and Little Women Ill ask them again but from what I remember it used 2 b rare 4 couples to share a bed what w/ mom dad aunts & uncles all living together.

Catfood and Little Women amrita - Im neither married nor a desi so I wudnt know. But desi friends say that this man woman sleeping together thing is a fairly new phenomenon in India. So your desi husband might be ok w/ it.

Catfood and Little Women Dear sajal - Thanx 4 ur ``feminine views`` but I did not refer 2 ``a woman`` in any of my posts. A stinkin dog is a stinkin dog & a stinkin person is a stinkin person unless u believe that ur or ur consort`s shit doesnt stink.
U see our bodies r factories 4 bacteria in & out. U cud wash up twice a day but the critters always win by doing their nasties on u when uve been laying in bed for 8 - 10 hrs.
We had a discussion under another topic abt marriages. Related 2 that I think sharing the same bed w/ some1 is a sign of codependency. I assume u r married. Cud u sleep on another bed if u wanted 2 w/o raising ur partner`s suspicion? Think abt it.

Catfood and Little Women r_c - what the hell was that abt?

sajal - Im turned off by dragon breath & body odor. When theres sex ur too busy to notice. When theres no action why the hell would u put up w/ it? The whole idea of sharing a bed is weird - its like saying we can have sex whenever we want but the truth is - guessing from the married ppl around me - it doesnt happen as much. Its hopeless optimism like I said. Besides its also like 2 ppl demanding something of each other. They sleep together coz thats what they r suppsed 2 do. Id like the take of other married ppl on this.

Catfood and Little Women Think abt these b4 getting hitched-
Excitement wears off in a few months - u need something new - aha time 2 have a baby - babys ur full time occupation.
As the wise man said - getting married is a good way 2 stop having sex.
U trade freedom 4 security just like w/ a job u dont particularly like.
Imagine having 2 sleep next 2 another person even when ur not having sex. Yuck! Its nothing more than habit & wasted optimism that therell b some action..

Why Am I An Agnostic Muslim? Reminds me of the old joke abt a dyslexic agnostic staying up all night wondering

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if theres a dog!

The “D” Word What Ive heard & what seems 2 b true empirically is in successful relationships theres less codependency. Each person has a ``fulfilled`` life outside of marriage & marriage is the icing on the cake as it were. The partners trust each other & r self-confident. They r together coz they want 2 b. I also see other couples who r together but r miserable in each other`s company but stay together coz theyr afraid of not. Sounds cliched but its true.

The “D” Word Saminasha, I have many relatives - male & female - in their 30s who as far as we can tell have no intention of marrying much to the chagrin of their old-fashioned parents. Some have live-in friends. But acc. 2 law, they r common-law couple. If they separate in some cases it would be as severe as divorce & in other cases it would be no big deal. The variable I think is the length of time they have been together.

The “D” Word Romair,
Point taken. Divorce in many states in the US entails qually dividing property and savings, and deciding on the custody of children. Where no children are involved and the couple has not been married for long, divorce can be relatively painless. For older couple, especially older women who may not be independently wealthy, divorce may mean a life of poverty. Therefore, stress induced by divorce is largely dependent on age, financial status, length of marriage and whether children are involved. The answer to whether divorce is the most traumatic event is - it depends.

The “D” Word Im not Soysauce & I dont know Zahraj. 95 aint mine but 96 is.

The “D” Word ZahraJ
Try expanding your vocabulary. BTW since you got personal, I feel obliged to give you a bit of advice. What`s with all the anger? Pipe down a bit.

When the Sea Swallowed a City Whole Soysauce if ur still following this - the Shrub got his nose rubbed into the ground - the parallel group that Inja was a part of has been dissolved! Yoohoo!