A Suitable Boy Imo think that one should get to know the other person & at least speak to them to see who they are & what sort of compatibility there is. Everyone does have that perfect mate that they picture but lifes not fair therefore u cant get everything u want. All u can do is strive for it.

So far as pressure goes, its both ways, guys & girls both have it. Guys have it in the sense that they need to be bread winners above all, provide this that & the other. House car, financial stability. Yes there are 2 schools of thought that both can work, but then being desi means nitpicking ( imho on that statement) about every minute item.

So far as your escapade went, wouldnt it be simpler for you to let your mother/father whomever is going to put the word out that you are in the market so to say as to your preferences & what you are looking for in a guy. So that you dont end up with nothing but bela lugosi type rishtas at your doorstop. And obviously u will have to take it with a grain of salt as to the rishtaas that come from within ones fam since those usually are the 1st ones to land at ones door.