Naila Rakapo$h,

Nothing can be said. Or done. Hope you found your closure with this writing.

Loudspeaker Victory I remember the pitiful loudspeaker sights in Karachi during religious festivities. And then again during election time......not too much of a difference.

Oh, and lets not forget the endless barrage of `naat`s` all night long. For these people decibel levels decide impact.

That Whore The 5 legged donkeys also seem to shift into 4 legged mode at some point.....

Stream of existentialism?

A Suitable Boy
I had a girl like this in my class, all she ever did was talk about her problems with getting married. Part of the reason/motivation was the attention she so craved, the other of course being netting potential husbands, if they were the type who listenend to her. This article reeks of the same stench. I`m sorry if I make it seem as if thats all women really do, i.e. ensnare men to marry them, very narrow generalisation I know, but that is the intent sometimes, to snap the man with that winning combination of money and looks first, and only money second. Sometimes, men do the same, sometimes.......

Personally, I think parents go a long way in determining a persons phobia about marriage. If they are harshly critical and judgemental incessantly, then come the ripe age, the quest of finding a suitor makes the seeker predominantly self aware. It starts with first identifying the boundaries of acceptance (referred to by some as standards), which are constantly modified and mutated over the course of time. All those who find themselves at a crossroad in this search, ask yourself, how much variation has occured from the original standards that you had set for yourself?

A Suitable Boy The entire discussion here reminds me of those rich, well to do British families in Jane Austen`s wonderful period satire, `Sense and Sensibility`, and indeed, most of her other works.

Marriage used to be an obsession for women in those times because a) it meant starting off on a widely tangential relationship with someone new (apart from their immediate family) and b) women were viewed as baby producing assembly line equipment to restore or continue family heritage.

Nyda, as a female, this Eastern curse is not just yours do endure; we men must be at the receiving end of terrible suggestions from relatives (what a scary word!.....shudder) and loved ones (another misnomer) alike.

Remember, everything happens for a reason! You rejected him, that has happened. Don`t try to find a reason, move on........there are other fish in the pond!