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Articles with tag: Marriage

The End Of An Affair

Taji M   Oct 8, 2009   interacts: 46

It seemed like the most beautiful day of Nazia’s life. The man who had stolen her heart had finally asked her to marry him. She felt euphoric; it was a miracle she did not burst into a bollywood song routine at her office.

That Peculiar Feeling Of Falling Out Of Love

Taji M   Sep 12, 2009   interacts: 47

Many will try to find imaginary faults in the partner; saner individuals will introspect into their own minds. It is scary and confusing, but the at the back of the mind they know it is happening.

The Gods of Her Life

Ayesha Umar   May 13, 2009   interacts: 9

“What if�, she thought “She had run away with him? How life would have been with the man who loved her most?� She would have liked to grow old with Rustam.

The Stranger

Nida Maqsud   Apr 3, 2009   interacts: 73

Once she made sure her bedroom door was shut and securely locked, she went about her recently cultivated routine of applying lotion to, and spraying foundation onto, her legs...

Let Me Count the Ways I Love You

Feroz Qutabshahi   Mar 24, 2009   interacts: 126

Some societies practiced both polygamy and its reverse polyandry where one woman will have multiple husbands. Nairs of South India being an example of a polyandrous society.

A Marriage Market, Full Of Lemons

Hina SajidKhan   Mar 20, 2009   interacts: 22

As I sat there, listening to stories of failed love, broken marriages, cheating partners and those insisting that they did not have time to mingle, I could not help but think about George Akerlof.

White Bride

Prashant Bhatt   Mar 8, 2009   interacts: 5

They called it the ‘White Bride of the Mediterranean’ and it is still one of the most charming and peaceful places Marino knows.

Sexless and Loveless Marriages

Khalid Sohail   Nov 25, 2008   interacts: 43

Many people are surprised how the same routine life that provides stability and security starts to kill creativity, spontaneity and love. When monogamy turns in monotony.

Live In

Prashant Bhatt   Nov 3, 2008

“The world outside the campus is very cruel. There are people who pass sarcastic remarks or start giving patronizing advice regarding my job, career, potential marriage� she told as they sat together

Hitched Hikers Guide

Ibrahim M Khalil   May 18, 2008   interacts: 4

I never aspired for such superficial goals. Being mature beyond my age, I always dreamt of being a Groom (Dulha).

Life Long Commitment vs. Singledom

Kiran Farooque   May 19, 2008   interacts: 36

Marriage, I think, is highly overrated. Marriage being the perfect happily ever after and the solution to life’s problems is ‘just a myth we’ve been fed since childhood’

A Little After Three

Lajwanti Khemlani   May 9, 2008   interacts: 7

I lay face down, pretending to have fallen asleep. Soon I heard random words like boy, Muslim, Sindhi, dowry, next week, dinner, and blood pressure.

Still Looking!

Tahera Sajid   May 3, 2008   interacts: 24

“No, no, no!� I had stormed out yesterday leaving my Mum baffled and Shabbi Auntie angry, when she brought in yet another rishta-seeking brigade.

It's ME on Both Sides!

Asra Nadeem   Jan 24, 2008   interacts: 51

I was told that my dad had been by my mother's side when I was born but left only after he found out that his child was a girl.

Indian Supreme Court says- ‘Live in is marriage’

sharad chandra   Jan 20, 2008   interacts: 19

A momentous turn that will create upheavals in Indian society from bottom to top.

Clarity

Raj Mor   Nov 8, 2007   interacts: 7

“Arunivas! Arunivas! Make sure you get me a gold set! Last Diwali you forgot completely that I am allergic to non-gold. How can you forget such important things?�

Short

Raj Mor   Nov 6, 2007   interacts: 1

The day had gone well. Dow was up. NASDAQ was up. Sensex was up. But he was thinking about his Indian IT stocks

The Price of Loving Karl Marx

Khalid Sohail   Nov 1, 2007   interacts: 70

Spouses have to offer financial, economic and social sacrifices to maintain a marital relationship with creative personalities. Karl Marx was no exception.

Curse of Arranged or Forced Marriages

Moiz Ansari   Oct 14, 2007   interacts: 89

He is from a “good� family or biradri! The girl might be given a chance to look at her future groom once if the parents are “Progressive�

My Life Story

fariha ansari   Aug 1, 2007   interacts: 10

When I close my eyes in solitude and think about the goings-on in my life during the past 17 years, I realize that a big part of my life is gone, withered away, wasted...

The Choice of Leading a Gay Life

Ali Kamran   Jul 18, 2007   interacts: 34

‘forcing them to marry hoping he or she will change’ – such a approach invites anger, irritation, tensions and worse absolute breakdown of relations.

Window Shopping

Maria Amir   Jun 18, 2007   interacts: 3

Since the female/object in question is not really required to speak or profess her opinions during the proceedings it allows her free reign to watch at will.

Worlds Apart

Tahera Sajid   Jun 10, 2007   interacts: 49

‘Home? Where was home, anyway? Don’t they say home is where the heart is?’

Stopping the Clock

Ibrahim M Khalil   May 15, 2007   interacts: 10

The young Julius Caesar talks about Alexander the Great who at his age had conquered half the world and what has he (Caesar) achieved. This made me wonder what I have to show for my thirty years of life?

Marriage in Hiding

M A Shah   Oct 18, 2006   interacts: 38

A muslim female cannot marry a non- muslim man and a Muslim man can marry any muslim, christian or jewish woman. Who decides who wants to marry who? The ones getting married and no one else.

Out of the Woods Yet

Rajesh Shankaran   Sep 28, 2006   interacts: 13

One evening, as I was packing for the day, my eyes set on an intriguing post in the electronic bulletin board, “Wet weekends at Hermann’s Palace”. The post carried the address and a map as well...

Jasmines in Colorado (final part)

Umair Raja   Aug 10, 2006   interacts: 32

Nothing in life had prepared me for the past four months. The highs and the lows; the excitement and the pains; and most of all, the truths and the lies. I feel like an amateur caught in a world made for professionals...

Thin as a Pin

Shujaat Wasty   Jun 14, 2006   interacts: 9

Most bachelors will regurgitate the socially-acceptable rhetoric of finding the “traditional good girl”. What they fail to mention is that below the tip of the iceberg lies an enormous list of demands that are to be met before these young sta

Deranged Arranged Marriages

Asad Haider   Jun 3, 2006   interacts: 44

I’ve got some advice for all you brown kids out there, take your chances, fall in love, get a date to prom, need an excuse? lie about sleeping over at Abdul or Sana’s house its as easy as that, chances are that the girl won’t feel like p

Hidden Desires

Ozer Khalid   Apr 8, 2006   interacts: 39

Oh, chaste wither away! And set her lust free--
held incarcerated, long ago a romance ceased to be
to whisper a hymn of infidelity

Laddo Ki Shadi

Ammara Ahmad   Dec 7, 2005   interacts: 11

She would bluntly reply to the question, “ Will you keep me instead of my sister?” This was obscene when said to males, but not that she cared

Superstitious Me: Pappu decides to marry for Allah

Atif    Nov 23, 2005   interacts: 12

Pappu, my close friend, decided to get married for the sake of Allah Subhanahu watallah and to fulfill his deen.

Savita’s Choice

Kalpana Sharma   Sep 18, 2005   interacts: 6

Hundreds of child marriages are held across Rajasthan with no one stopping them. The reality sinks in when the children attain puberty by which time they are told they have no choice. But they do.

Do Corn Pops Really Determine the Future?

nazish nomani   Sep 7, 2005   interacts: 14

I am normal. My other half is not. To answer your next question, yes I do prefer a venti white chocolate mocha with no shot of raspberry over a tall white chocolate mocha with a shot of raspberry

Muslims Not Married in America

Fazeel Chauhan   Jun 28, 2005   interacts: 116

How hard is it to find a good man? Or a good woman for marriage?

Fauzia’s Rejection

A Bismil   May 18, 2005   interacts: 321

Fauzia stood in front a full length mirror, staring at her naked body. Her skin was a smooth mocha colored canvas of beauty on which were painted the dark chocolate areolas and a black triangle of hidden mystery.

Adultery Anonymous

Farzana Versey   May 5, 2005   interacts: 70

The Other Woman is a floozy? The Other Man is a slimeball? No. In fact, it could be you.

Punch Drunk Love

saman abbasi   Apr 22, 2005   interacts: 38

He lay on the drawing room carpet; face down, totally drunk and vomiting. My eyes welled up and I could not stop my sobs.

Visitor

Zia Ghory   Apr 15, 2005   interacts: 7

He didn’t know what he’d say, but he couldn’t wait to see her. Now all he wanted to do was fall into bed and close his eyes, wake up in his bedroom back home. He got up.

Catfood and Little Women

Amrita Rajan   Feb 16, 2005   interacts: 52

Life, then, comes down to a debate as to which is worse: death by dreariness or death as catfood.

More on the Price of Love

Beena Sarwar   Feb 10, 2005   interacts: 13

They hailed from different ethnic communities, lived in different cities, and their family backgrounds were entirely different. But they met, became friends, and wanted to marry.

Ruzbihan and the Eunuch

Muhammad Farhan   Jan 24, 2005   interacts: 8

Being the smallest in his family, little Ruzbihan had a hard time trying to figure out ways to end his post-marriage misery. Sometimes he thought about divorce, but he knew his mother would kill herself if he did that. Sometimes he thought of committing s

Strangers in California

Amrita Rajan   Jan 16, 2005   interacts: 38

It’s one thing to come out to your wife and another to come out to your entire family

Premala ka Pyar

Madeha Chaudry   Jan 12, 2005   interacts: 13

She waited with patient resoluteness for the rising sun as he slept with his fingers entwined deeply in her hair…

The Baby...

Madeha Chaudry   Jan 2, 2005   interacts: 8

Sometimes he was unable to hide his impatience with her when he came home from his job at the pharmacy and saw her sitting in the same hunched over position as he had left her that morning.

’NO’ to Ostentatious Displays and Wasteful Expenses

Salil Kader   Dec 17, 2004   interacts: 43

Supreme Court had banned serving of meals at hotels, clubs and marriage halls for marriage ceremonies. The Court, in its order, specified that ‘no meals or edibles other than hot and cold drinks could be served to guests.’

The Gun

Jawahara Saidullah   Dec 9, 2004   interacts: 21

A life which, after his retirement kept him on edge, surprised in a world that had changed so drastically since he had entered the service so many years ago. His wife was the biggest surprise.

The Incurable Bedding Flu!

B Righter   Sep 1, 2004   interacts: 12

The novice would like to believe that this surely accounts for all the items in the bedding. However, don’t make the cardinal sin of forgetting the bedskirt

An Open Letter to Jemima Khan

Farzana Versey   Jul 20, 2004   interacts: 111

Many celebrated alliances in the West have fallen apart due to straying and jealousy. But you, Jemima, were one neat shoulder from which to fire the gun at the ‘jihadis’.

What Is the Point of Marriage?

A Shiraz   Mar 17, 2004   interacts: 52

All went well until people began to fall in love with anyone and everyone.

Hold Karain! Movie Bun Rahee Hai!

Rozaiba    Feb 27, 2004   interacts: 27

Flashes go off from around the room as friends and relatives try to greedily capture the moment through their lens while those looking on blink their eyes from the glare. Soft music is being played in the background ...

Conversion Confusion

sameena khan   Feb 26, 2004   interacts: 13

Naila’s wedding is as old as Uzma’s younger son…running into six…and she is still issueless. Initially, the delay was intentional…the family is not sure if it is so anymore.

A Case for Banning Polygamy

Ayesha I Khan   Dec 3, 2003   interacts: 239

The practice of polygamy preceded Islam, and Quranic injunctions sought to first limit and eventually dispense entirely with the regressive custom.

What time is it? Marriage time

Teju Prasad   Oct 20, 2003   interacts: 17

In comparing these two systems (East & West), many people point to India’s low divorce rate and therefore claim innate superiority. However, the analysis is inconclusive when taking into account the cultural stigma associated with marital termin

Do Foes of Gay Marriages Simply Fear Joy?

Tarek Fatah   Sep 21, 2003   interacts: 274

As these couples embraced their future together, we couldn’t help but feel sad for Canada’s gay and lesbian couples who are being pilloried for seeking the same happiness.

Of Weddings and Disney

Batool Ali   Sep 18, 2003   interacts: 36

When I saw the movie, Father of the Bride, I thought wow! these Americans spend so much money on their weddings. Hell, they have a wedding planner. Lo and behold, Pakistanis are no lesser mortals. We not only have our very own wedding planners, our weddin

Foreign Qualified

Mohammad Qayyum   Aug 28, 2003   interacts: 22

ilm hassil karo chahay is kai liyae tumhain cheen bhi kyoon na jana parai

Sufi, Practice Love Because Mathematics is Difficult

Mohammad Gill   Jul 14, 2003   interacts: 30

Sufi’s real name was Muhammad Afzal. I met him for the first time when I went to Islamia College, Railway Road, Lahore, for my Faculty of Science (F.Sc.) education in 1951.

Of Early Marriages

Madiha Waris   Jun 27, 2003   interacts: 28

My just-turned-twenty friend tries to maintain a balance between the robust baby in her right arm, and her large, stuffed hold all in the other. She tells me he’s being naughty today; he isn’t this bad tempered usually.

Trembling Camera Flare on a Column Within a Column

Zeeshan Mahmud   May 28, 2003   interacts: 71

women who end up in this exclusive club-like section

The Wheels of Time

Jagmohan Chadha   May 13, 2003   interacts: 143

We join the pathway of time, with our joys and tragedies and then leave, while the time moves on uncaring.

My Beautiful Rizwan

Samina Rizwan   Apr 5, 2003   interacts: 79

Such was the overpowering presence in my life, of Rizwan - my husband, my friend, my soulmate, my shaheed.

The Infidel

Godot    Feb 13, 2003   interacts: 24

Translated from Urdu, Ismat Chughtai’s short story ‘Kafir’

A Day In The Bazaar

Sobia Aslam   Feb 3, 2003   interacts: 29

The young boy bumping into her made her mad, madder than she had ever been, but he escaped on his bicycle, grinning, that little bastard.

The Case For and Against The Satanic Verses

Subroto Roy   Dec 28, 2002   interacts: 33

Evaluating Diatribe and Dialectic as Art

Shammo’s Curse

Aamir Ibrahim   Dec 9, 2002   interacts: 15

falling out of love is easy if the foundations are weak

Larka, Larki Aur Smartee

Shehlah Zahiruddin   Nov 10, 2002   interacts: 42

I failed to comprehend why a perfectly sane English description was being replaced by a ghastly Urdu word – one that evoked images of barbers’ shops, naked men and an equally rude Urdu idiom.

Teasing or Torture?

Bina Shah   Nov 6, 2002   interacts: 82

both men and women are equal losers when it comes to sexual harassment in our country

The Sad Reality of Arranged Marriages in South Asia

Aqdas Afzal   Nov 2, 2002   interacts: 165

Arranged Marriages are Racist and prevent Social Mobility

Perfect Women. Imperfect Men

Nafees Ghaznavi   Oct 24, 2002   interacts: 68

women should also be able to fulfill their responsibilities towards their homes

The Politics of Rape

Beena Sarwar   Sep 28, 2002   interacts: 36

Why the Meerwala Jatoi panchayat thought they would get away with it

Don Shultz

Mohammad A Shaikh   Sep 5, 2002   interacts: 23

He was a thin dangling creature nearing eighty

The Red Dress

Zafar Anjum   Mar 29, 2002   interacts: 70

With the mountainous weight of forty-three years

Forced Marriages in the UK

Tariq Ali   Dec 30, 2001   interacts: 41

Parents don’t listen to what their children want

The Brahmin Warrior

Rehan Ansari   Dec 8, 2001   interacts: 42

He found Hey Ram disturbing, but not in a good way.

The Virgin Bride

Nafisa Haji   Aug 4, 2001   interacts: 234

The idea of doing that with some sophisticated American bombshell...was paralyzing

White Charade

Urstruly    Jun 22, 2001   interacts: 234

Based on true events, circa early ‘90s, Karachi, when The White Charade became a symbol of terror

Ismat Chughtai’s Autobiography -- A Transalation

Muniba Kamal   Nov 8, 2000   interacts: 47

Let her, said my father

I Am Wierd

anNy    Nov 3, 2000   interacts: 30

I seem to overflow from them all

The Relationship That Heals

Ali Hashmi   Nov 1, 2000   interacts: 28

no one comes to see me because they are happy or content with their life.

The Dream

Zeejah    Jul 20, 2000   interacts: 50

The door opened stealthily

Run Ayesha Run

Shandana Minhas   Jun 9, 2000   interacts: 12

Women are not built for speed

Oi, Kinniyaan Memaan Keetiyan Ne.

Omar Phoenix   Jun 1, 2000   interacts: 19

It’s a clean slate,
The Paki’s had his fun,

American Born, British Born, Canadian Born but still Desi

Hassan I Ahmed   Feb 28, 2000   interacts: 60

I thought that the desi’s living abroad would have the best of both worlds.

Her Other Self

Jawahara Saidullah   Nov 1, 1999   interacts: 12

Why did she wake up in nightmarish sweats chased by dark fears?

Of Boylove and Boylovers

Sabia Ahmed   Aug 31, 1999   interacts: 223

We (even in the oh-so-liberal West) live in a more conformist society that we are led to believe

Marriage from a Man’s Point of View

Arif Abrar   Jun 27, 1999   interacts: 34

I have three words for other men about to take the plunge, when in doubt, smile and nod

An Inward Journey to Pakistan - Part 1

Kamran Akhtar   May 27, 1999   interacts: 42

An introspective travlelogue of a journey to Pakistan after 16 years of absence.

Talaaq 3 Times She Said

AA    Mar 29, 1999   interacts: 23

Marriage is a strange habit

Full Moon on the Ganges

Rebecca R Kose   Feb 17, 1999   interacts: 21

Night time on a cremation ground, among the bones and the spirits.

The Marriage Trap

Bina Shah   Jan 22, 1999   interacts: 58

Why aren’t we getting M-A-R-R-I-E-D?

Just Another Woman

Anne Shamim   Dec 11, 1998   interacts: 67

They used you as a guinea pig, an experimental drug.

The Bride Burning

Begum F Shahnaz   Nov 23, 1998   interacts: 5

Mankind will not stand by and witness our burning:  Mankind will not immolate truth.

Conversation with Mukul Kesavan

Rehan Ansari   Nov 10, 1998   interacts: 13

What was your Akbar S. Ahmed thinking casting Christopher Lee as Jinnah

Evil Spirits Travel in Straight Lines

Sheldon Pacotti   Oct 19, 1998   interacts: 3

Two French scientists go to Senegal to fight a resistant strain of malaria.

The Judge

Saima Shah   Jun 22, 1998   interacts: 27

It was an ordinary summer in a very hot country. Life was full of possibilities and poetry.

The Quranic Concept of Love

Kashif A Shehzada   May 28, 1998   interacts: 2

A Quranic perspective on love, choosing one’s life partner, and intimate relations amongst the sexes.

For My Love

Mustafa A Menai   Apr 14, 1998   interacts: 1

...mullah wife gadding about in a dodge ’em car, quaking with full blooded mirth.

Azadi

Sheldon Pacotti   Mar 24, 1998   interacts: 5

A woman in Tehran intervenes when her husband becomes a smuggler of alcohol

Phuppi ki Beti, Mamoon ka Beta

Anita Zaidi   Mar 6, 1998   interacts: 47

The dilemma of cousin marriages and inbreeding.

Aitchison: Scenes From Within

Asim Hayat   Mar 3, 1998   interacts: 25

...the old architecture, the grand cricket pitch in the main grounds, the smell of the rose bushes, the water heater radiators which never functioned well...

Selective Islam in Pakistan

Imran Khan   Jan 21, 1998   interacts: 50

I feel there are certain western countries with far more Islamic traits than us, especially in the way they protect the rights of their citizens.

Love Means Never Having to Say You Are An Infidel!

Moe Chaudry   Nov 26, 1997   interacts: 21

Can you be a Muslim and marry a Jew? A closer look at inter-religious marriages.

Tania

Umair A Khan   Nov 20, 1997   interacts: 15

Tania. He has looks, he has a BMW, he has all the girls he can handle, said Saadia beginning to wrap the phone cord around her fingers.

As Long As It Does Not Affect You

Umair A Khan   Oct 23, 1997   interacts: 5

So a woman needs to get married but a man doesn’t?

My Fallible Lord

Ashim Banerjee   Sep 1, 1997   interacts: 3

And do you think the big man upstairs is satisfied with his creation?

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